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There are lot of things that can make a woman lost sexual attraction, with her partner .
They are
1. Violence: do you use to beat her? If yes this might be the reason ,she must have built hatrerd in her heart towards you.

2. Selfishnes : are you selfish? Maybe you are stingy with your money, you don't give her money , you do not take care of her needs ?


3. Respect, women also need respect, do you protect her from family and friends insuts? Do you insults her, and call her names , if yes then stop it.


4.check your cleanliness and neatness level, do you bath twice, brush twice, wash your boxers shave well?

5. Finally Sex is not done on the bed, sex starts from outside the bed, most Nigerian men feels after bride price or marriage the next thing is free access to everyday knacking, the answer is no

You must prepare your partner's heart ahead of sex, learn to call her, text her, buy little things when coming back, like shawama suya, just little little things, and give it to her, when she is eating it, be praising her, tell her sweet things ,that you are happy God gave her to you, appreciate all her efforts to make the marriage worth it, and taking care of the kids .


Finally learn to give her MouthAction, no woman rejects MouthAction, once you put your mouth down there she will open, and beg you to do it.

Too much of sex, can also cause prostrate cancer, so shouting you knack everyday and everywhere is not an achievement, it is foolishness, when you marry, you might not have sperm to satusfy your wife,

Dr approves sex Ones a week.














quote author=taylor89 post=123342986]Konji go soon kill you

God no go let me see anything wey go make me knack two times a month, i dey even Fvck my babe on hospital bed with injection port in my hand

Me wey Fvck dey hungry per second

Very soon you go dey come out for T-Junction dey shout I wan knack oo I wan knack oo

E don do me before, if I sneeze like this sperm go come out, if I run my sweat go dey drip like Ogbono, my spit na spermatozoa

Even Tinubu knacks Remi more than that

Anyways pray hard bcuz I don witness over 8 people wey konji kill[/quote]

You are old without sense, definitely if you impregnante her, the next thing is marriage, because you will be attached to your baby, is like you do not have sense of how you want your life to be, let her go and buy sperm, in the hospital.so you want to raise children everywhere and anyhow, without life direction.

Mumu, if men can keep platonic female friends nothing should stop women from doing same .





fears are valid and that's a very good reason for dumping them.. a woman who still insists on keeping male friends while in a relationship and yet doesn't see nothing wrong in visiting them even in homes is nothing more than a olosho...

see ehn, this century, getting a good girl is increasingly difficult... a real high value woman is not even settling for anything less bro... you have to become high value to have access to these women... most women have been ravaged and destroyed by feminism and liberalism..

even if you want to get a high value woman, the environment matters and how she was raised which includes her family background... else, you'll have to go the baby mama way or avoid getting married legally, but make sure your kids are properly raised..[/quote]

U go old, you still young nah, 35, you young, keep seraching phones, and looking for mistakes and excuses, so because she is dating you she should not have friends abi? Have you engage her? Engage her first and see if she will keep Platonic male friends , most ladies are afraid of heart break, so the Platonic friends can console her when you break her hearts .

quote author=Kingsley123456 post=123068397] I will go straight to the point.....
I've not dated a faithful lady since I started dating and I've dated up to 6 different ladies aside from Shop and clean mouth).

My girlfriend which I thought I will at least manage to settle down with was cooking for me 2days ago and I took her phone went straight to WhatsApp and telegram to see chats. One was wooing her and she's responding normally, no iota of restrain in the chats and another was inviting her over and she said, sure, she will come.

I dropped the phone immediately , I was still thinking of where to start with her when I received a call from work and I had to leave, I message her while I was at work and asked her while she's doing all these to me, as usual she claimed they are platonic friends and nothing more.

I blocked her immediately she mention there is nothing wrong in visiting Platonic friends in open places and even at home....

This is isn't the type of woman i want.

That wasn't her first time but she always accuse me of not wanting her to have good male friends.

I'm tired of things like these, I will be 35 by September.

Initially I thought I'm getting older and I should settle down, but, will I ever meet a Woman of my choice?? Someone I can at least trust?? someone who won't be going round visiting Platonic friends, ano wan loseguard, I need a woman in my life but I think I'm giving up......

I don't want to die young...
Lastly Nairalanders

Do I have to look for another relationship again or
Take her back and give her last chance?? Or, concentrate on money making for another 5yr? And forget about getting married,
Pls advice.[/quote]

Which one have you done, you watse your time writting a long episode


Leave people to celebrate her in peace t is her time , when your time cones Grace will find you.










uote author=HITsquad post=123179748]She was posted on CNN official Instagram account a while ago, which was really great.
But the comment section was really irritating! It got flooded by Nigerians as you would expect. But Instead of enjoying the moment as Nigerians, some were busy attacking everyone... playing the race card,accusing the international community of not giving her enough recognition because she was black and African. Seriously?

I don't understand how we think sometimes, why are we making this too much of a big deal? Hilda baci did an amazing job no doubt... She got her message out there too.. she showed the world that there are still positive things about Nigeria, She showed the world the Naija vibes and how supportive Nigerians can be. So we are proud of her... I'm personally proud of her.

But guys please stop overreacting. I don't know exactly what you guys think she did.
Bro... She cooked for 100 hours non stop. which is amazing and not an easy task to accomplish.. So she did great!
But she is not the first person to do something like that ok, alot of people have already done that in the past... but only slightly fewer hours. Remember say na another person record she dey break like this! And she probably won't hold it forever. (Infact The way you guys are going about this whole thing, person fit vex smash that record much more sooner)
So stop acting like she did something "un-doable"...... stop acting like they should hand her over King Charles crown... Or name her among Albert Einstein and Da Vinci.
Na only cook she cook it's not like she just discovered the cure for cancer!

Mek we just dey calm down a[/quote]

Where is the humility in this, do you know who is family is? He surrender himself at the force headquarters, he was not arrested,

Police can arrest anybody, even president Son
,if he should go against the law .









quote author=ROYALMAXCLEANER post=123175411]Stay out of trouble if you no get ground





Mehn see as E come humble.... [/quote]

Mumu.












quote author=Sebastine1994 post=123175405] Naira Marley
Zazzu cronner
Nnamdi kanu
Sunday igboho
Seun kuti

Nigeria has a way to humble people. This guy would just be giving revisionist history, you can never be like your father, activism cannot be inherited


Children of musicians cannot inherit the singing genes, from frank Sinatra, to dimian Marley, to osadebes children. It is a gift. Whether in the movie industry or anything. Find your own path and stop acting ßtupid[/quote]

You are still single that is why you are capping rubbish, if you misbehave in marriage, your partner will insult you, .

If you cheat ,she calls you a dog, if you can not meet up with your financial responsibilities , and your mumu pride can not make you ,talk to her calmly. and bear with you for now you will be called a useless man.


If you do not want Insult, you have to be thatnperfect man, that does not Insult his wife too, and play his role as a man well.






quote author=Heroicvic post=123175605]Sorry is it just me that has this pride and won’t think twice before sending any woman that disrespect me in a marriage or relationship off?

I’m sorry but I can’t stand you insulting me while I feed you till you die😏[/quote]

Mumu, do not marry a virgin, marry a good girl, from a well brough up home.











uote author=pandoragirigory post=123175594]Marry a virgin and have peace of mind, you mould them to suite your needs, if they go bad, you are bad[/quote]

Just marry a beliver, marry sombody that fears God, a true born again, and all your problems are solved ,

A man that fears God will be afraid of cheating because, he does not want to sin against God, and not his wife, he will be afraid of dying in the process and going to hell fire












quote author=Iamgodskid post=123058009]A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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...
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



🤥🤥🤥[/quote]

In a bid to always support men, you lost your sense of reasoning.

I know him too well, he is looking for validation to take actions against the wife, if I write the complete story here, you will cry for that woman, he knows nairaland is the only site that has so many damaged soul, that will tell him what he wants to hear.

They should tell him to add his wife to nairaland so she can talk her own side of the story .


A man that, when the wife is not at home he brings women home and sleep with them on their matrimonial bed ,
Which woman will have sexual feelings for such a man.

When he does not have money to give side chics that is when he remembers he has a wife at home, and start forcing sex without condone, he also sleeps with those prostitute without condone .






This is a man I know too well, just tell him can I come see your wife and hear her own part of the story he will run .

Mumu , nah you be, if you play your role as a man , the woman will respect you, it is when yo failedd to do what is right, that you start using power and authority. Mumu Man, many of you are already inside bottle, or they ve used pant to cook for you, same thing your wife or girl friend will do for you



ote author=shortgun post=118594416]

I see you are pained.
No be only bottle na drum.

For your info my masculinity and dignity will always remain intact cos I will never do anything to debase or weaken my honour as a Man....in universal hierarchical order after God comes the Man!
I will not proof anything to you but I will always blame the "men" who allowed you lots turn them into weaklings and your puppets in the guise of having a "peaceful"
home.
Must peace exist only when you rule over the man? Only when the man is debased and demeaned?
I blame the men always cos;

...how can you respect a "man" who leaks your private part in the name of giving you sexual satisfaction?
How can you honour a "man" who allow you make all the decisions in his house?
How can you respect a "man" who obeys you in everything simply because he wants "peace" in his house?....


Can you imagine a "man" wanting to end his life cos of a woman in his house?....[/quote]

I know this man too well, if you hear the wife side of the story you will pity the wife .and cry for her .

How do you expect, a man cheating without regard for the wife to have a fellings



Daddy Daniel come out and sepak the truth quote author=Karleb post=118533458]It's funny how single happy men become married, unhappy and suicidal.

Your wife settled for you.

Mumu nah mb he be, a damaged soul the ladies are running away from, ask him if he can keep a marraige or relationship , you think marriage is run on the ground if authority











quote author=NothingDoMe post=118580378] Na man you be.[/quote]

You people type rubbish here and stupid married men, will copy and destroy their home, men like you are the onces licking your wife feet, and washing girlfriend panties .
In marriage it is not your home ,but our home and the two of you becomes friends and partners in all things

Men like you are the type the wife end up putting inside bottles , and you become a mumu for life .

shortgun:
You are a weak man, women hate weak men.
Them never born any woman well that will enter my house and detect how I'll run my home.
Men like you are the reason we have alot of spoilt girls all over.
Any man that dates any of my exes will be thankful to me for the way I groomed them.

Until you become the man and take charge of your home you will continue to whine n suffer

I know the couple the woman has suffered lack of care in his hands

This is a man that abuse and insult his wife calling her severally names

He told his wife weeks after marriage that he does not love her, he cheat with his side chic and call them at interval, no regard for the wife,
You talking about wedding ring ? From the beggining he threw away the wedding ring, keep telling ladies he is single , how do you expect a woman to be sexually attracted to a man that throw away his wedding ring they stay at Ojulegba, the wife attend my church , christ of hope mission, if I tell you from day one of the marriage the hell that man has put the woman, you will not type the rubbishyou type here


Always try to hear from husband and wife mouth before you draw conclusions on married matters


I pray for you, your sister will marry a man like the poster , just say amen.
Since you can take side and destroy a union you know nothing about , because the man decide to come on media to seek validation for his bad actions .

You said he should give side chic 10k weekly , the question is, does he give the wife this 10k weekly , at least if he does it will reduce the wife problem


All what you advice him to do he does them and even worst ,to a woman he called his wife , reason for all the problems in the marriage.

like I said your sister will marry a man like him.

An naccist that hurt his wife and come out t play the victim card.



I know him very well, he has mistakenly toast me on this nairaland , until I check his dp and saw his picture,

I already show his wife this post and the nonsense advice here , so she can prepare for the worst.

You are lying to the public, I know your wife, you are such a deceitful man
Tell the public what you are doing to that woman.


ou said she does not have sex drive, tell th public how you insults matreat this woman, each time she complain about you cheating ,she insults her , that you can cheat with anybody, and do any thing you like with your dick.

She does not take corrections because you are authoritative , and does not consider her feelings or decision,you do not have human empathy , you give directions even if she I going to die , you want her to just obey it.you lack human feelings and empathy


I know you very well and know your wife .

I can go on and keep talking about your terrible attitude of how you treat the woman ask always with pains


I have show you wife this message
Severally your wife has attempted suicide ,because of how you maltreat her , now she decided to stop crying and stop begging you to act well, she has left you to God , because she has left you to God , you now feel she is now alpah female

My own concerned is simple, you said you did not go to school, and you have all these lands and houses, please how did you make the money? Tell me please

Life2020:
Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.

The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.

The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.

Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.

Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.

I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.

Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.

Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids

Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy
little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.

I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos
honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce.

Mumu, continue to deceive your self,

All women will leave your smelling gbola for money
Nothing taates good more than a man with money and good character,











uote author=Fahdiga post=114024011]Nothing tastes good more than glorious gbola. Women can't do without it[/quote]

Pains and sorrows















uote author=Animegirl post=114023892]I'm just curious. [/quote]

[Instead of running from home , contact a human right group to get your mum arrested so she can sign an undertaken never to beat your sister again


















quote author=Deborah200299 post=118190245]I left home last month with my 13 years old sister due to the abuse she had endured in the hands of my mother and 2 younger brothers.

I have rented out a room in a different town, I have changed my number and deleted my Facebook account so nobody could locate me.

Yesterday, I opened a new Facebook account with a different name. I have searched for my elder brother Facebook account he posted about me being missing he has pleaded with anyone who has seen me to contact him because my mum is not in a good state.

Funny enough he has posted me alone when it is me and my younger sister who are missing so they only care about me a 23 years old woman but not a single pity about a 13 years old girl.

I am her only daughter among 4 boys she loves me more than my siblings but I have lost respect for her the day she has started abusing my innocent sister. I want my absence to teach her a lesson so she can feel the pain but I am also worrying about her what if she died, will I be able to forgive myself.

I don't know if I should contact them with a private number and tell them we are fine where we are they shouldn't bother about us. I will not disclose my current addresse to them.

Should I do it or not?


Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6944608/want-report-mum-human-rights#109469994[/quote]

Mumu man, if he had invested in his wife , one mumu side chic, will not come and be talking about helping them,bill the side chic help them forever, the money you are using to making ashawo,, and side chic happy yinvest it in your wife and children.

Useless men everywhere, money he should have use to invest in his wifey and maybe take her abroad, he invested it on another woman, now the side child and her children are enjoying life, why his own children are suffering ,some men are curse , the wife should spit on his grave everyday.












































ost=118150799]Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.

He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.

I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.

I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.

I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.

She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.

I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.

Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.

Advice me please[/quote]

What kind of senseless man are you self,

You are very selfish and senseless

You even added is because you do not want to cheat, can you hold body for one month?lack of self control is dengerious.









My mother usually takes care of her but her aunty decided to come this time.

I usually have sex with my wife 2 weeks after she puts to bed. It pains her a little but I am very gentle with her. She knows I am not a cheating husband that is why.

Last night as I tried to make love to her, she was crying as usual. Before you know it, her aunty started banging the door and was shouting that I want to kill my wife.

I felt so embarrassed and went tried to explain to her that it’s not so. She said if I try it again she will carry my wife and children back to the village and will return her bride price.

She asked me to wait for at least 4 months before I touch my wife again which I promised her I will as I did not want her to report to my wife’s family.

What can I do? I don’t want to cheat on my wife and I don’t want to disrespect my Inlaw by sending her away. She is a nice woman but she is making me uncomfortable in my own home.[/quote]

Who marriage help, we still.mourning one that died now, you are talking about marriage ,

And you foolishly say you will go physical on her ,






lder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.[/quote]

AAC , Akeem Olayiwola is the best man for lagos state




SANWO Olu has no opposition, PDP that is suppose to be one just messed up their chance by picking comedian Funke Akindele as Deputy[/quote]

You are mad,you almost did what? Hit her, because somebody bought phone for her ,you concluded the person has been sleeping with her, you people can sleep with women, then when a woman cheat you almost want to kill her in retaliation.





Something is wrong with you.
























































d this girl have been dating over a year. I took her serious, I've sacrifice a lot for her and it made me so heart broken when I noticed she cheated on me reason I almost took her life.

My girlfriend and I live in the same city (Mowe) but I traveled out of the city 2 months ago for work things (ibadan), so around last month she called me that her phone screen (Samsung) is broken, that she's just managing her phone and to fix it is 35k but she already have 15k so she's in need of 20k to complete it. So I sent her 21k.

Fast forward to Friday when I came back to mowe, I went to see her, I saw her holding iphone Xmax. I was like who gave you iPhone? She was just telling me lies upon lies. At first she said she swapped it, then I was like why didn't you tell me you bought iPhone and who gave you money to swap it becus you'll need over 190k to swap. To cut the long story short..

I later found out that a guy bought the phone for her. The 21k I sent to repair her phone, she repaired it and gave it to her younger sis.

I was so heartbroken. For a guy to buy her iphone that means she have been dating and having sex with the guy secretly without me knowing. She has been begging me, calling & texting since Friday but i didn't reply.

She texted me she was coming to my house yesterday. The only word I said to her since on Friday was to meet me in a uncompleted building close to my house yesterday, I have this machanic slege hammer, it's one of my tools I use for working, so I held it while waiting for her.

My plan was the moment she enter the building, just a powerful whiplash on her head and she's dead, I felt so cold inside of

Ru bish post, even your own child can do same to you, it is not about adoption ,it is about training , if you train the adopted child ,in the fear if the lord ,that child will become great.and God fearing .






quote author=JackDaAlienz post=117154614]Adoption is like suicide.
You don't know what you are putting your hand in
Because 90% of kids in orphanage homes
Have no history or records of their father and mother
Do you know if the mother was a Mad woman?
Now you adopt a child who has genetics of a Mad woman.
When the boy grows up and start acting like his mother what are you gonna do??

Basically, you dont know anything about the history of the child you are adopting .
While there are some who turn out great.
Majority of adopted kids turn out to be a huge mistake

Edit:
A lot of emotional children will attack me
Without seeing the hard bitter truth
This reminds me of when in 2014 i advise lots of youths not to vote Buhari
But they were so emotional and attacked me
Now it's 2022 and they are crying and wailing

When you tell people hard truth they will attack and call you names.
The did it to Jesus
So if you emotional kids can't handle this bitter truth then that's your business.
If you like go and adopt unknown gunman pikin then when he start exhibiting the genes and behaviour of his bandit father.
You will start crying and wailing as usual.

A russian man love a child unconditionally
Adopted him and took great care of him
But the boy still later killed the man.
Stole his properties and flees to Turkey

So will you blame the Man that adopted him for not showing the boy love

Nuture a kid when he is small
His true nature will come out once he grows up.
[/quote]

Nothing is wrong withbthatbgirly minor do talk alone y or laugh alone,especially when they remember somthing,big she is not doing it outside y trust me she is laugh.







uote author=HumbleOptimist post=117078308]Good Day Dear Nairaland Family,

My Sister started behaving weirdly last few Weeks. She laughs alone, talks alone and is sometimes restless especially at Night.

Though she always responds well and correctly when engaged. I've asked her and she told me she doesn't know when that happens and it's unintentional.

I, on my part have tried talking to my Dad to take her to a Mental Health Expert, my Dad seems to believe it is spiritual attack instead.
Please, I need Medical practitioners in the house to help tell me what she's probably suffering from so I can Confidently convince my Dad.

Can you please help move this to front page?[/quote]

So he can not use 1.2 million to start a business right?


Then he should continue to be depressed he lacks ideas and he is an unserious idiot.







uote author=plsdisvirginme post=116978542]I have a friend that finished school last year and due to age factor.
He couldn't go for service.
He decided to go to ph in search of a better life with the hope of getting a job.
After one month in PH,
No job,
Depression came in.
He decided to start drinking and womanising.
He spent all the money with the hope of overcoming depression
This my friend is 35 years and is back to village.
He has lost his sense of reasoning and he can't think straight.
I just feel pity for him.[/quote]