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cikadile: I am a professional, earn some money, at least enough for my needs
I got engaged in January, to a guy about 4 years older, a banker...
he says he loves me....that he will make me love him, etc
I agreed..from Jan till date, he never has sent me recharge card, has never bought me a present, when I traveled to visit him, he asked, "you have transport money right?" Of cos I said yes...on arrival to his town the 1st, and other times, he took me to his home in a keke. (my 1st time to visit, I swear)

He also never gave me an engagement present, not even a ring
He never tips people, and wanted to kill an old keke driver over 10 or 20 naira change
Has DSTV but never subscribes cos he says he gets back late from work, and so won't waste money...not even when I visit does he subscribe, and I love watching football
One time I did our trad wear shopping, da vida for 2 it was 7400, my alert came, it had 7400 exactly!
I wanted to change my tires, he said I should not do that without telling him, on D day I text him, he texts, "ask for Michelin bla bla bla!" I really thought he wanted to for the 1st time spend money on me

I was going for an update, had to fly, register, and book a hotel room for 2 weeks- a big venture, even though I work,it was not easy.. I was delayed cos I was looking for money, he calls and goes like, "why didn't you go yst? After everything he gives me 0 naira
He used to send me call me sms until I said it was not cool
He never called to gist or talk...only once did his call last for 16 minutes...
He knew my phone was bad, he only told me to buy a nokia

He twice drove my car till just close to reserve, I mentioned I was scared my fuel wld not be enough to take me to work, both instances he told me, "you don't know the car you have, toyotas can run on reserve for days!"
I don't know how to ask a guy for things, I expect them to give me if they want...but this guy just never did...it goes on and on

I know I am up to 30, I know he is way less than 40, I know men are scarce, I called off the engagement last week...
In time we will return bride price, etc...I am just happy now, there is very little to give back

Guys, it is good that a babe works, etc so is independent...but when you give zero present to a woman before marriage, it sucks...I remember he said he wld make me love him as much as he did me...he only made my love go from 40% to less than 5%...and I had to run
In fact, his declarations of love began to sound like a joke to me
I became more intolerant of his flaws, and before long, I said my good-bye

Maybe some women are too materialistic, but some men are too tight fisted

Trust me, during my house job days, I used to give my then boyfriend (not same guy) one third of my salary as he had no job
I even bought a small gas cooker for his (this banker that is) parents' home, as these old people were cooking with a tiny stove...I am just trying to establish that I am not a stingy babe, or a gold-digger

May none of you women experience what I did

The day of my intro should have warned me...He came to borrow my car to use and bring over his parents to my house..(his car was, and still is at the mechanic's for repair, from that Jan till date o..I never did see the car meanwhile)...my snobbish mind felt he should have gotten a cab..I refused sha, it was gonna be a bad impression

So guys, is this strange to you too?
I need answers


P.S...he was a faithful, nice enough guy, but meeeen, I could not go ahead..I was spooked off
but I now wonder, is it that he wanted to marry a professional he would not have to give money, or in my case, spend a kobo on?
Or that he did not have it...hearing now that UBA HND people are not paid much...but I mean, not even to give a little?

This one pass me o

tales by moon lite

I hate it wen u post somethin sensible in d wrong section

Her lips, always temptin to kiss.

Her selfish atitude. THE ME ME ME syndrome. She wants me to listen to her dry stories wen there is english premier league to watch.wen am hungry,she is tired of cookin. But if she is hungry, we must stop by and eat.

If na me, i go atend d wedin. Wait make pastor say, ANY BODY WHO HAS ANY REASN WHY DIS COUPLE SHUDNT B JOINED IN MARIAGE SHOULD....

Na there i go tel d whole world d truth and lies about d gal make d mariage stop

20 views no coment. Why na?

Are you the guy who prefers boxers over briefs or the other way around? Do girls like boxers or briefs? showdown on

......cat



1. Pounce on opportunity. He who hesitates, misses catching the passing lizard.


2. Patience. Infinite patience...



3. Concentration. A cat studying an opportunity just beyond his grasp is the epitome of focused attention. He doesn't

even blink as he tunes out all distractions. His body is completely still except for his wildly twitching tail releasing his nervous energy.


4. Nothing is worth disturbing your beauty sleep.


5. Catnap. Even a few moments of shut-eye is refreshing.


6. If you're happy, purr. Show your appreciation by letting people know that you like what they do.


7. Do cat stretches - and other yoga poses, and try Qigong. Especially as we age, gentle stretching is one of the best
things we can do for our bodies.


8. Wrestle with your best friend. She likes it when you're playful.


9. Eat when you're hungry and not by the clock.


10. Ask for what you want. If you are lovable and patient, you will probably get it.


11. You can't have everything you want. If you put your claws where they don't belong, you're going to get spanked.


12. Revel in life's simple pleasures. A ball of string is magic. Catnip is heavenly.

D same way my parent punishd me. KOBOKO, CANE, BROOM STIK TO FLOG ME. SlAP AT TIMES

I went to a frend place for a get 2gda bday party. There i met one boy of about eleven to twelve years consuming a bottle of star confidently.

I was shockd and felt he was too young. I chatd wit the lad and he told me he first drank wen he was nine.

I waz dumbfounded becos d first time i testd alchohol was wen i was 16.

Wen waz d first tym u tastd alchohol? Wen is d apropriate time?

I rememba to eat brekfast only wen hunga strikes. And wen it does, i eat wateva is available. BREAD, LA CASERA, MINERAL, AKARA, ETC

D world gves earthly peace. Christ speaks of enternal peace, heavenly peace

Wen militant and masob dey there. Them no fit tink am self

I visitd my uncles place on friday. The three children aged 8,10 and 13 years didnt even ask me to sit down b4 bombardin me wit this question


they had rcivd a cal frm mumy(my uncle wife) informin them of her late arival due to d present abuja -lokoja road flood. She asked them to cook jellof rice.

D children(al boys) hadnt cookd b4 but had been watchin the mum and hausehelp cook. It was lyk an adventre for them.

The ten year old slicd the onions,the tomatoe, and got every ingredient ready.he also perboiled the rice.he boild d meat.

The 13 year old used d tomatoe,oil ,meatetc to make stew.he aded the ingredients.

The 8 year old aded d perboild rice bak to d pot containin d stew. He also aded d meat and waitd for everytin to be wel done b4 bringin d pot down.

By 12 pm dat day,my uncle his wife and d hause help came bak home frm kogi.the fud was wel cookd for first timers . My uncle promisd a favor for the persn that cookd d fud.

D three are claiming their role was d most important. And hence ,each shud claim d award.

D 13year old want a dish so as to watch film, englishleague. D 10 year old want a phone. The 8 year old want a game. Either pxp or ps2.

No one is wilin to gve in for the other. WHO COOKD d fud?

Una sure sey una wel so

Nagging gal, guyz wu argue easily,

[quote author=tpia@]"if"[/quote]iz dat an indirect way of sayin dat he wunt make heaven?

Is it stil relevant or is it abolishd by christ? Was it just a preparation for christ coming and hence no longer binding.

In preparing for mariage and family. One of the things we shud plan for is number and age gap of children asumin fertility is constant.

Wat is d perfect age gap ur children?and why?. When is the age gap too much or little?

[quote author=Bélla3]In all this things una dy yarn, i only have one problem:
who put this on front page? If the person is nt devil's agent who is (s)he[/quote]is it an evil topic? Who shud b blame

d thread opener

or the mod dat brot it to front page

or the over 2hundrd persns dat comentd

ghazzal: we know science is human work and is ongoing. but pls u know a BlackHole in space, if it really explodes (BigBang), will there be smoke?

persnaly, i dont bliv in bing baang .but wen a volcano erupts, there is a smoke. So yes, there cud b smoke

Science make mistake

science contradict itself

science flaws

do u want proof? Ask and u wil recive

vivian chinaza: Lmao......so granny is not suppose to seek for people's advice abi? My son, it shall be well with u! Iseee!!!

wen i cal u a granny, i didnt mean an old 8o year old wuman wit grey hair.

But someone wu i tot was far more xperiencd in lov/relationship isues.

Any way, no one knows it all

Imagne a grand mum askin ha children for advice.

Hav seen dis b4

Goshen360: Question: Should Pastors be PAID for performing miracles?

Answer: NO!

Question-for-question: Who does the miracle? God or Man .......

God does al miracles

If a sik go to doctor, he payz. Y shudnt he pay to a pastor

tobechi20: God first comandment was BE FRUITFUL AND MULTIPLY

am only obeying him

u must b very obedient. God gave ten comandment.am sure u are obey al of it.

190: Steady income of sexxxxxxx is why I'm getting married

Its way cheaper and affordable too

crazy reasn to get marid. Financialy, it is cheaper to patronize a harlot than get marid.

Wit mariage, u pay 4 ha hair, make up, clothes, feeding etc. But wit harlots, u just pay for service renderd. Finish

Are u on d verge of getin married,congrats. However, b4 u tie d knot, take time and reflect on the reason why want to get married.


CHANGE MY NAME FROM MISS TO MRS

TO BE HAPPY EVER

TO REDUCE MY WORK LOAD

TO KEEP MY LOVER FROM LOKING ELSEWHERE

PASTOR SAY HE IS MY DESTIND PATNER

LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT

HE IS FAMOUS. Marrying him wil gve me fame

family pressure

u want to b safe and secure

when he proposd, u didnt know haw to say no

out of pity :

regular suply of seeezx

to leave my parent home

i lov babies, i need babies

i am in lov

ure alredy pregnant for him

mariage has its own blesing

i need financial suport and he is rich

i am over 30 years

i hav atended 20 wedings, have been bridsmaid 5 times

al my frends are marid with kids

if i marry an american, i wil b an american citizen.


These are stupid reasons to get married.