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Who are this small boys trying to tie the knot now sef ,just wasted my data.
So u want to marry a maid that will wake up to cook for you....glutton. Since she's been working did she tell u they are complaining.
Walahi u will be a nag and ur level of intolerance is high.

Lies! Lies! Lies! Marriages doesnt just break that way, u two might have been doing some terrible things to each other to make ur fil interfer. Stay off the internet for solution and speak with pple who has stable homes,that is if u want her back.

EMPEROR48:
@evacroft, i understand, but such secret is unbecoming of a married woman, i hate it when someone you call your wife will hid conversations from you thats an insult to my person. I am so pained ryt now

Its pretty obvious its so painful for u, pple here will most likely advise u based on experiences and inexperiences, At the end of the day u are the one with the shoes. Just give room for wisdom, knowledge and understanding. U wiĺl be fine. NO SLAPS.

Slap ! Unto what , i guess all this ur hot slaps makes her hide secret,there is a word called conversation, have it with her first to determine what is going on and stop jumping into conclusion..
A sorcerer is a wizard ,be sure u know d man is one ,dont just accuse before she burst ur bubble .
Lastly marriage is easy and also hard, dont complicate things unless u are sure.
Mind u not all slaps correct the brain ,some shut it down forever,ur call .

balogun16:
why will I hide my earrings from my wife? I have be wearing earrings for more than 10years now. even my mother can't ask me to stop wearing it.. stupid women who always want to control their men. #fuckfeminist

Eleyi gidigan.

This are part of the things that makes a marriage last longer,it is called "Trust".
If a man or a woman cant be open about their finances how else will they work together hand in hand.

NwaAmaikpe:



A wife must never know what her husband earns or his source of income.
It is none of her business, her job is just to enjoy the wealth and make babies for the man, that's why they are called 'oriaku'.

But a woman's income must be known,
It's source well defined;
Before you unknowingly start eating food cooked from money gotten through prostitution.

U have weird thoughts, i bet this stems from ur roots

Benefits of marriage for a man outweighs a woman in this part of the world. Eg:
(1)A man can cheat and still show no remorse,but a woman cant especially if u want that marriage back.
(2) A man can storm out in anger and says he needs to clear his head,literally works out on u, but when u do it na gobe.
(3)A man can ignore ur warnings/ advise on things and it is termed as been the head, when a woman does that it is called disobedience
Committment isnt an easy thing to do,marriage is sweet when u marry the one God chooses for u,go down on ur kneels and pray for that one person who is right for u cos even when u seperate or get divorced and end up marrying another person, it still doesnt guarantee peace if mind and long lasting marriage. Most pple stay longer because of the experience ,not because the honey moon stage isnt over.
Baby mamas aint easy either ,they come with there own type of headache too .
The truth is the world is evolving ,nigerians too are changing, dont go into marriage expecting our mothers kind of respect or our fathers type of financial dependency ,adding all this economic bruhaha .

Once there is poverty , nigerians believe it is true love.

Someone said u shld get the boy an apartment if u have the means, pls dont ever do that, u will be tied to him if he misbehave. Ask him to leave ur house by involving the church and involve the police if they fail.
Pls as much as we are our brothers keeper we also need to be wise. Dont leave him alone with ur mum.

utenwuson:
by the grace of God, I have quitely park her stuffs and she has headed to her mum while we perfect the divorce issue in court..... prevention is better than cure/grief cos I can't loose my only brother.

This maybe how Mariam started before eventually killing her husband. men are becoming endangered species and one must take caution.

we will make sure the kid is fine, I can't even type all what my brother has pass through in the name of enduringthe union but pouring oil on him and locking him out of the house he built is way tooooooo much.
thanks all for ur advice

When u know what u wanted ,y come here then to ask of ppls advice. Mtcheew.

Ladi the tiger,go and fight her because she is a woman and ur inlaw, when she stabs u we will see it in the news.
U believe ur bro cos he is gentle and he his ur blood and dont even care to give a listening ear to ur sis inlaw,of which i wont advise u too at a time like this.

For ur own sake u better dont listen to any wrong advise some are telling u here,simply follow ur heart,if God created u to be a gentleman to d core then that is how he wants u to be and that is how things will move forward for you, dont wear anoda mans shoe and u start complaining of oversize. Most pple here might be weaker than u or have there own weak points.be wise ,take ur wife back,sit and commune deeply. Nairaland can bury u with mean words.

The fact is my God placed me here on earth beside a good man as his help mate, not sex mate. Not only do i have lotta things to offer am also created in his own image.
So if this post is true then speak for urself madam.

The truth is men should stop cheating on their wives, its so disrespectful and both also should learn how to control there temper when things like this arise. Guarding urself with knife wont work in anoda realm .

No, marry someone who u think has a stable background and still end up divorcing, ;Dafterall some people who end up in divorce grew grew with both parent under same roof. If u no marry others will.

Maybe u are not a friendly person or someone ur wife trust yet, i have a feeling things were not like this from the onset but just degenerated badly due to lack of communication, which is the key.
Sit her down and explain why what she is doing is unhealthy and pls dont create a big deal out of it so it wont create anoda rift,if not she will hide and do it.
Overall, stop cheating, the truth is women can forgive cheating , but they never forget.

Whats the big deal! This thing is in u especially when u like a good environment or dont actually get satisfied with how others clean, and what specifically do u do? D only reason u are concerned is because of what society as placed in ur head, but my friend u will die of what society expects u to do. Do what u can and dont make a big fuss out of it. help while u can and if u are busy tell her u are busy without batting an eyelid.

Fight for an adult who is ready to leave you for another,men do not even fight for their women alottta times, fight with prayers only and once they tie the knot leave him or her be. She is just trying to paint him a good husband cos of the situation on ground and what pple will say.
Pple just use the word 'LOVE' loosely .

If u care about ur wife and love the child as ur own tgen go ahead and tell her u want to adopt the boy ,so he can also bear ur name. Theres really no need training anoda mans child when he is alive and maybe able. Unless u dont care,but guess u do cos it realky disturbing u.

Distant cousn is a no go area, give it a bit of time ,say like 3months more that is if u are sure u are not emotionally entangled with ur dead ex fiance,(be really sure,no baggages transfer to another relatiinship). Life continues and age also is ticking. Start courting the estate guy if u like him to see if he his right for u,there is no rush in marriage! If he his , get ur former would be inlaws in the know after 6 months of courting.

Who are this little imp getting married nowadays ,and also the small adult always shouting women are useless and men are retards ,forgetting to mention the oarents as one of their members.
Back to all u have listed, nos 1, did u and ur secondary school mate get rich at the same time ? Nope i guess y do u think marriages should be this way only which is ur way, marriage requires tolerance,patience,love,companionship,forgiveness 101 percent ,if u re not ready to bring this to table get the f...k out or dont even bother going into it. Lotta pple that gives advice on social media actually dont practice what they preach,they will just end up making u hate a man or a woman coming together to form a union.

The only problem i see here is the innocent woman coming to be a wife in ur family, that is y my advise has tilted to this side.
Firstly, dont believe any mofo can do u anything , this happened to a church member and they dragged it for almost two years ,meanwhile the guy is 45 while the lady would be around 40/42, this are destiny halters in guise.
I tell pple why carry ur siblings on ur head and do prostitution or rob cos of them while tomorrow they also join and mock u. With ur write up i can say "GUY IT HAVE DO" Unless u have the extra funds to still throw around,ur family aint worth it.
Its so disrespectful for them to even place u on a call like that, do the needful,u owe nobody no shit and the only pple that can tell u ,u must take care of them are ur immediate family member ,wife and kids especially d ones from ur loins ,and dont forget ur parents. Skikena.

Very selfish act , u never have been able to sort the wary ways of ur father but u want to stop ur mum from moving forward, her life,her choice. I still dont know why women endure these bullshit all in the name of what pple will say.

Snooping makes u have that brain check, it makes u plan ahead and not have bp which many women actually have cos it caught them unaware, just dont make it an habit ,and only snoop when u have a heart of steel like mine just kidding.
Pls let him be,just start making life plan changes since he is not remorseful, do u have a good job or biz? Safe money ,plenty money incase of rainy days. Then hope and pray he repents.

See guy, u are not a firm person cos with ur write up one can deduce u are easy going,but too much of everything is bad,forgive ur sis but never give her another opportunity to repeat something similar cos she is bipolar, and as for the document u guys can try going to ur former institutions but that wont be easy especially if ur wife didnt school in the same city as most requires physical presence.
My advice is for u to guard ur wife jealously from her, blood or no blood ur wife is now ur blood too.
Pastor that cannot see where all ur documents are,telling u to build a shitty relationship.

This is a clear perspective, ur wife is hating on ur family without no reason, sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her,let her know all ur worries about d way she is reciprocating the love been shown to her by ur family and pls be firm and no offensive or defensive tactics, pls dont give into any emotional blackmail by her unless ur sis are truly not what they seem. Let her not bring negativity it will backfire on her cos she already has a mindset. But most importantly settle it and remember u are already married.

I dont know how pple feel comfortable in peeps house this much. I know how u feel,two of my bil stay with us too and i can tell u its difficult if they dont always man up and do things in ur absent . U are lucky u are a man, a woman trying to put her feet down on this will be labelled a witch,put ur feet down and ask them to leave,asides mama. U are not mandated by law or custom to house them against ur wish. Let her go to her parent house or get a place asap since she doesnt even have the sense to talk to u. Ur house ur rules

If u want to go towards the roots of my wife gave me a red boxers thing its just might not be what u think,it just might be a coincidence...So remove ur mind from that cos u too might have hurt someone in the past that is trying to use ur wwife/marriage to get back at u,so dont look at it from that point.
Sending ur wife money for her upkeep and that of ur baby does not equates to u been there when ur girl is growing up,men shld learn that and dont put all the raising up of a child on women.
If u wanna leave her then do and stop being a whiner, only if truly she is doing all these without u also reciprocating or causing the ish.
Lastly marriage is for the forgiving adult.

No,pls dont do it! If u were up to twenty years in ur marriage i would have said go ahead cos by then ue leg don tight . But on a serious note dont spend two months with ur inlaws , they are likely to step on u atleast from ur story. And if i may ask ,is ur hubby scared of the northern part or still misses his family house cos i think u guys too should be building a home for urself. And u in particular should be looking for what to do other going to the inlaws to work. And who says u cant go to ur parents house cos u aint preggy yet.

Vanemo,
I need to tell u the truth , you are not better off ur wife,it is possible ur character is worse than hers,if my husband in the heat of any argument tells me he will start hitting me and never stop , or if we seperate he wont mind because he is putting in his best, it will be so sad that i might not care for him again,and Such husband will sit and hope for something good to come out of his wife.
Mind u mr ,u dont actually love ur wife,not saying she might not be annoying but the truth is we all are annoying at one point or the other.... And for some stranger to call ur wife a bitch and u didnt defendd her sums u up too.