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Zupay:
My cousin's son has been a source of disturbance to me for the past 2 weeks.

The background story.

My cousin got pregnant with him when she was 19 but the father who then in his mid 20s denied the pregnancy in the presence of both families and went on to claim the reason he gave her money to procure an abortion was because he was only one of the guys sleeping with my cousin at the time (which was a blatant lie) and it was his own contribution.

My Uncle and Aunt (my cousin's parents) had to accept the guy's denial and solely took care of my cousin's pregnancy. Her son was born in 2007 and bears my Uncle's name, he was taken care of by his grandparents, uncles and aunts as his mother went back to school and graduated. My cousin got a better paying job in 2015 and moved out of their family house with her son, who is presently in S.S.2.

The biological father resurfaced sometime last year in May, starting to make claims and all. He went directly to the boy's school to introduce himself and starting meeting the boy, buying him things without my cousin's knowledge until the man showed up at my uncle's house with some of his relatives but my uncle didn't receive them.

The boy was becoming rude to his mother, talking back at her, telling her he would push for a change in his surname to that of his biological father, became cold to his grandparents etc To cut long story, he moved to his father's house in August of last year and resumed school from there. My cousin (his mother) was seriously sick in October of last year, this boy never bothered to call on his mother despite knowing of her illness and he has a phone he uses freely.

My cousin (his mother) relocated to the UK early this January, on a skilled worker visa as she works in a children' home and have made up her mind to refocus on getting married and having other kids. Her son has been calling her, which she has never picked also sending her long stories of how his father's wife have been maltreating him even in the presence of his father and the father would say nothing. Pleading with the mother to bring him over to the UK to live with her (her visa allows her to bring her son to the UK easily since he is under 18) but my cousin have not been replying him and this boy has been disturbing me to talk his mother on his behalf as I am very close to my cousin.

I have spoken to my cousin severally and she insisted she has washed off her hands where her son is concerned, that she doesn't want him around her as she needs to live singly and have a relationship that would lead to marriage, that she really wants to settle down.

I have told the boy to concentrate on finishing secondary school but he seems obsessed with wanting to relocate to the UK though my other cousin (his mother's younger brother) has confirmed that the boy is having it rough living with the father, his wife and other children.

I believe his mother has a right to have a new lease of life.

This boy is always messaging me asking for updates, I don't know what else to tell him!

A child will not be so bad we'll feed him to the lion. The mother should take the child back, he's just a child and we all make mistakes during our teenage years, it's not something abnormal or unheard of. So the mum shouldn't take a permanent solution to a temporary problem, the boy will always be hers. The boy has probably learnt his lessons too sha.

2buffagain:
Before you throw labels, think about what he has said and try to logically dispute it first.
Labels can't think for you.

The basis of his statement doesn't have any proof whatsoever, its even devoid of logic. There's something they call process in life, stages, and there are rules to this things. China in the 50s will probably see themselves as inferior to the white man despite their rich history says otherwise. Read brother, research so you don't have to see a black man as inferior anymore, not sentiments.

Goddyrichie:
that bro say d truth African especially Nigeria will never develop even 100 years to this time no light no good roads no free education crime everywhere as if they is no government upon all what God bless us with I regret being a Nigerian

No you don't regret being a Nigerian, you regret being a black man and I can't blame you for that,but you can do better than that.

Carcholce:
You are not a good marlian. You are a comrade. A comrade that is not scared of saying the truth.

You called that truth? Smh

thinkmoney:
Get better education. Macro evolution theory is a farce. It lacks adequate proofs.
Research more.
Every race of humans have their specialities

No he won't, he'll rather do nothing else than read. Why do you think he wrote that rubbish, it's coz he believed it. Just imagine the number of people that agree with him.

Goodmarlian:
NOt just Nigeria its a black thing,blacks are naturally the lowest humans in evolutionary hierachy we are next to animals we can hardly get anything right in national and international politics show me a black nation that is a world power.
Ask yourself this question,if europe and Asia and the rest of the world gets wiped out in a nuclear war and Africa survives, can Africa be able to produce iphones,androids,cars,aeroplanes,ships etc i am sorry i think we will slide back to the stone ages and wear animal skins like our forefathers.

House Negroe, not surprised by how many likes this post has. Most Nigerians are house Negroes anyways. 🙂

godofuck231:
Its a lesson for you, no go near poor man or their circle , they dont think , they destroy, both male female, young or old , the reasoning capacity is disastrously inhuman

There are poor people everywhere in the world, why don't other countries burn thieves or give them inhumane treatment in this 21st century? It's a peculiar thing to Nigeria, and these thinking needs to be changed, you see educated people supporting such on nairaland, one begin to wonder if they are also poor like you said. A system that wouldn't punish people for doing evil and allows it to flourish, the consequences is what we're seeing in our everyday lives. Nigerians need to be held accountable for their crimes, a lawless society breeds people with no empathy that sees murder as a normal thing.

HappyPagan:
I was in India as as the time this policy was enacted. The policy was a failure as it didn't achieve its main aims. I'm on mobile right now.. will try to find links when I'm a bit free.

That didn't work quite well and cash was available unlike how there's no cash now to replace the one that will be banned, but Modi actually tried alot for the taxation of the people that were not being taxed before. He achieved his aim albeit slowly, and steadily.

MITCHELL96:
I watch a lot of them and nothing happens. I know videos that I believe and those that are just out there as 'views bait'

There's conspiracy theory and conspiracy facts.

All I know is the videos I watched opened my eyes.

From the Antarctica conspiracy, Balenciaga advert conspiracy, even the clone conspiracy and music industry etc.

OK. Good for you.

MITCHELL96:
I watched the video some weeks ago.

He was stopped by some police men from going close to the mountain again and later stalked by CIA,FBI.

After months without posting on Tiktok, he finally released a video of him saying something else debunking whatever truth he has told his followers and from that particular video, you'll notice he was threatened while he was doing the video to say something the people threatening him wanted him to say.

Things are really happening.

Cos lately, I've been watching all these conspiracy theories/facts on Tiktok and I've been seeing a lot of revelations and truth in plain sight.

You are going down a rabbit hole that'll make you question things you don't need to. Conspiracy theories are nothing but that, that's why they are called that. I'll advise you to cut it at this point, it might not be okay for your mental health sef. You might be getting scared or feeling suspicious about a normal situation which can actually take a toll on you. It'll affect the way you think, don't mind them they're just looking for talk where there is nothing. If you need to be certain of things, read books, books of history, do your own research and steer clear of all these people feeding you half-baked or even false information.

karnap:
Another selfish emi lekan thing
The idea of entitlement is what is killing this APC
Osibanjo would have say something different
He would have give APC some good taste.

Rest in Jesus name, this Osinbajo cry is enough already. After 6 months, you're still not done licking your wounds.

TheSourcerer:
yeah been a while, and how did your Sunday go ?

Went well, thanks.

PassingShot:
Na here we go dey dey mop una tears on February 25th.

You're seriously downplaying PDP's votes, while raising NNPP votes. NNPP will not have more than 4m votes in total, and Atiku will not lose(if he doesn't win) by 3m votes, maybe 1.5 or 2.

Reference:
And they say 'we are doing well'. The systematic destruction of the remnants of the middle class has been unparalleled in the history of this country under this administration.

Very soon all that will be left here are hunters and prey as the hapless security agencies attest to.

Aptly said my brother, the middle class is being decimated. They want us all to be living from hand to mouth, so they can continue weaponising poverty.

TheSourcerer:
Top of the morning; don't forget to smile and make a random person smile today hope you have a lovley Sunday



1.This picture of Chicago Christians who showed up at a gay pride parade to apologize for homophobia in the Church.

What's up man, been a while.

Rolings:
Ungrateful lots
Unpatriotic folks
They just game the Nigerian government.
They got cheap medical education and will rather use it for another country.....why didnt they go to study the medidcine in europe or america....they wont because they cant afford it.
The didnt complain about ill equiped medical schools and teaching hospitals while training only to jump on the next plane to countries where they couldnt afford to study Medicine.....
Before anyone says rubbish....... doctors that want to practice in USA should go there for their studies if they can afford it not take advantage of the subsidized medical education in Nigeria and thereafter run away......Government subsidized it so many people can be trained to be useful to the country.

That line of reasoning is somehow to me, because there are some European countries that have subsidized school fee too for their medicine students. These students don't finish school then travel abroad to go and practice, because whenever they are done there is a likelihood of them getting a proper job in that same country. If you can check some countries in Europe that have subsidized education, you will understand what I'm talking about. So that line of reasoning honestly doesn't work, the fault still lies with the government there's nothing bad in having a subsidized school fee.

UnfairLife7:
My pregnant neighbour has been so restless and sick having discovered she's carry twin


This neighbour of mine is pregnant with 6 other kids. She has been finding it difficult to feed her family including her 6 children. Her husband is an electrician and plumber but he hasn't been getting job inorder to take care of his family. The children had been out of school for several years

I live with my aunt who's a widow. I saw my aunt stressed out yesterday and worried and i was wondering what could be the problem. She was the one who told me about the woman predicament. My aunt has emptied her little foodstuffs because of this woman and her children. My aunt is just a poor widow who's managing herself and kids but she can't stand the sight of this woman and her children hungry.

My aunt told me the woman's friend advice her to inject the pregnancy through abortion. She's six months gone and according to those her friends even nine months pregnancy can be aborted provided she has the money and her state of mind is willing to not forceful

According to her friends, they felt that's the best decision she could consider due to her condition. She cannot even feed the ones on ground, they are not going to school and she's still carry twin right in her womb. She hasn't gotten any baby things. It was my aunt that took her for antenatal when the pregnancy was in 4 months stage. She has been so confused on what to do. My aunt wasn't in support of it though, same time she doesn't have money to support her and her children.

Nigeria isn't saner climes where government support the less privileges. She will be having 8 children in total if she chose not to abort it. What will become the fate of these innocent children? How will she survive with these children in Nigeria? She fainted yesterday and was rushed to the hospital. It was confirmed that she has been thinking so much and she doesn't eat well. This has affected her health conditions.

Her family and that of the husband had been so helpful according to her and it has really taken a toll on them. She even lost one of her uncle who has been supportive. This woman is sad, she's broken and shattered into pieces. I'm even scared of her life because she's not getting good medical attention for her condition. She doesn't eat well for herself and the foetus. I'm even bothered about her life, I sincerely hope all what she's going through wouldn't tell on her on the day of delivery.

Please what's your advice for this woman and her family

I only pity the kids and not the two fools who chose to be bringing kids into their impoverished life. Illiteracy is not an excuse anymore for all these sort of things, it's about using one's brain. They shouldn't bother to abort since it's over six months, it's too risky considering the kind of health care she will have access to sef. They can donate the twins out to parents that don't have kids, an adoption home might also be willing to take the newborns. This kind thing no dey pain me again, from number one to number four. My parent no go school, dem still no do pass the three wey dem fit take care of.

Jogs1900:
Which senate seat will LP win in north west and south west

Labor party can win oyo south.

fuel station : 260

NNPC:170

lanre9ja:
Is that your address just call them at ibadan office it's still there

This is the last tracking update, unfortunately it's been returned.

lanre9ja:
Is that your address just call them at ibadan office it's still there

Yes, ogbomoso is my adress, where can I get their ibadan adress? Thanks for the help

SSaintkay:
Available Pristine clean

Mi 11---190k
11T------200k

Both 8/256

you meant Mi 11 or 11i?

lanre9ja:
Oga go to their office at molete and collect your package there. Very simple if they are yet to return it back to Lagos office

Ogbomoso is the final destination of the package boss, not ibadan.

Hi guys, my package has been stuck here since november. Is there anything i can do about it.

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Can you do this for me boss? I want to buy my phone screen of 30$.

He should stop bothering himself, a blackmailer will never stop. She'll continue to milk and milk him. You don't pay a blackmailer, they'll never stop. He can actually involve the police, and they'll tell her that if your nude ever get leaked she stand to fail sentencing.

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cyberjacker:
What is the battery life and what graphics card does yours comes with

4hrs, normal Intel uhd 620.

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Intel Core i5-8th Gen Quad Core cpu
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128GB SSD
M2 NVME slot available
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Sim card reader
Laptop and charger
Scratches on the bottom.
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Ex0rrcist:
HP probook 640 G4 Laptop
14-inch display
Intel Core i5-8th Gen Quad Core cpu
16GB Ram
128GB SSD
M2 NVME slot available
Backlit Keyboard
Type C charging port
Sim card reader
Laptop and charger
Scratches on the bottom.
120k Last Price. Distress sale
090 5894 4077(WhatsApp Only)

Still Selling..

Ex0rrcist:
HP probook 640 G4 Laptop
14-inch display
Intel Core i5-8th Gen Quad Core cpu
16GB Ram
128GB SSD
M2 NVME slot available
Backlit Keyboard
Type C charging port
Sim card reader
Laptop and charger
Scratches on the bottom.
120k Last Price. Distress sale
090 5894 4077(WhatsApp Only)

Still Selling..
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