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Fox12:
I accidentally eavesdropped on him on the phone(Having intimate conversation) with an anonymous girl.
Should I tell my sister about it?

It's not your fault! You were allowed to stay in his house that's why you caught wind of that!

Oh well!! OUT YOU GO!!!

Yeap!

Nice, portable girl.

We went out separate ways though

adadike:
I only pity your wife sir. The poor woman will be crying out her eyes by now. Shameless old man. Tufiakwa! Ihere eme chi

Why take panadol for another man's headache?
Is he your husband
Why can't you mind your business

nextstep:
With all due respect, nobody is your child, Pastor. They are God's children, not yours... and threatening God's children with damnation for not paying tithes is not very becoming of a real pastor, I'm sorry to say.

Times are hard for people, and your only recommendation is to condemn them? This is the time Church should be giving to its congregation. If you still feel like you can afford to tithe, then do so.

And note, dear Christians - who by definition are not under the Covenant with Abraham, nor with Moses, but instead with Christ (Rom. 6:14–15), etc:

Jesus never once required you to tithe; the only reference to such was when he was chastising those who tithe but neglect other parts of the old, Mosaic Covenant. "These you ought to have done, without neglecting the others". But he came and washed the old ways away.

He does recommend giving generously (to the needy, and to help those who preach), but He did not say tithing was a requirement for salvation, or not doing so was damnation. Do not let a pastor threaten you - like a mob boss - to fund his jet and expensive suits.

Jesus also never required you to sacrifice animals, even though it was the practice by his people before He came, yet no Christian in their right mind would condemn you to hell if you don't bring a sheep or cow. Why be tied to old Covenants that don't define Christianity?

With all due respect, YOU are one of the people he's NOT TALKING TO.
The people he's referring to are HIS SPIRITUAL CHILDREN and NOT ONE of them is complaining.
Paul the apostle call himself a spiritual father and had many spiritual sons like Timothy and Silas.

Saintmary:
If the table were turned, would he have stayed?
Would you?

Yes! Yes I would! Till the very end!

For your information there're many men who's wives are invalid and are being taking care of by their husbands. I'm not making a general statement but a statement of sad facts and bitter humility

Iamundisputed:
Please report to the police as a first step. I hope you and your wife settle and reunite, but it's important that you inform the police & write a statement, just in case.

Also, I don't think your wife packed out because you were only playing or flirting with a woman, she probably must have caught you cheating, don't tell lies please.

Women usually change their attitude towards sex after birth cos of: 1. Personal insecurity because the vagina may not be as tight as it was. 2. Postpartum depression. 3.other psychological issues. This is where your emotional intelligence as a man comes into play. You need to have an understanding of her mood and help her want sex again.

Find a way to win her heart back, if possible, have your people call her people.
I wish u a happy home.

This isn't an intelligent assessment.

You don't assume this man is cheating and then accuse him by telling him to stop lying. You don't know him. And you DON'T assume that the reasons YOU THINK the woman is reacting that way is the ACTUAL reason she's behaving that way.

Advice based on what he has told you.

Another thing: her mum shouldn't be allowed to live with them as her presence is causing disharmony and division to her daughter's marriage. She has no right to rain curses on her son in law as she's adding more fuel to the fire instead of quenching it. I don't want to assume bit I perceive her mother is behind her moving out of the house.

Chukwutobi:
The world is actually getting confused. A woman can deny her husband sex for reasons the husband may not even know. This is one of the causes of domestic violence and some men actually do forcefully have sex with their wives as a result.

Truth is any woman who undergoes such a treatment will possibly go through similar pains a rape victim will go through and it’s devastating. Violence against women should be discouraged no matter who the woman involved is to the man.

However, married women should learn to be understanding and not use sex as a tool to get what they want.

What do you call a woman who denies her husband sex only to give her secret lover unlimited access to her body?
Or One who denies her husband sex over a long period yet expects him to remain faithful?
Or one who denies him yet stabs him when he is found to be unfaithful?
Or one who uses sex as a tool to manipulate her husband to fulfill her every whim?
We are in an age where women want men to love them unconditionally while their own love involves so many conditions.

I smell hypocrisy here.

This life is made up of the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Ladies are never truthful with their love and sex lives/history because of what society, religion and peer pressure will say.

Lots of married Men are telling ladies straight up that they're married and many ladies aren't finding any qualms with that.

I know what I'm talking about.

Let's NOT pretend it has become a norm. Let's NOTalso pretend that if you're sleeping with someone you're NOT MARRIED to (fornication), you're also in the SAME boat with them as both single are married are sleeping with those they're not married to.

stubbornman:
Beautiful secondary school

It's until you leave the country to go study abroad that the public schools you consider to be universities are "relics" when it comes to structures, funding, research and development, not to talk of the crisis of frequent industrial actions by the professors union.

teemotee:
brotherhood of the cross and star

Rather You belong to the brotherhood of those who refused to read their Bible and those who are ignorant about the history of Israel

femmy2010:
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EdEdEddy:
Judas betrayed Jesus to fulfill the scripture, me question is what happens to him?

Judas laid the foundation to be used by the devil by being a thief. The love of money is the root of all evil. He sold his master for 30 silver coins

amdman:
Her claim that I did not respond to her is incorrect.

As I would always say, we prioritize those that we have collected money from and respond to all their enquiries. We responded to her earlier today before she made her initial post, and we chatted for about 2hrs. It was when we refused to make payment for a new battery that she threatened she would come here and actually did.

As a demonstration of our good faith, we have offered her a full refund for the car, but she has declined it.

Hell o sir you haven't responded to my enquiry.

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Sankabson:
Reach out to her family member down here. They could be able to talk some senses into her.

Let her know as well, that whatsoever she's doing or up to. The future of her kids are at stake too.

But maybe your own GRA GRA too much for Naija too?! Cos for her to change in just few months... E get why!!

Please go back and reread what he said again with a catch: READ INBETWEEN THE LINES

Bola146:
I don't really understand you? Is it the password or posting of your pictures on Facebook or the big dick I think both of you are not matured enough especially the op.
That posting of pictures on Facebook got me laughing seriously here When you are yet to pay are bride price Both of you are still doing corner corner relationship I just pity the lady, is she a intimacy gadget

Please let's learn to give sound, intelligent pieces of advice to those who need them.


He clearly mentioned that she passwords her phone. That's a red flag. And I won't accept the agrument that it's her privacy because it's hypocritical to to lock her phone while her privates are left unlocked.

He also mentioned her uploading the pictures of Male "friends" on her social media while she never uploads his. Ironically, she gets jealous when other females uploads his pictures. This is self explanatory on it's own.

@OP this is plain and simple.

1. You're not the only one she's dating.
2. You're at the bottom as she's obviously hiding you from those that matter in her life hence your not being introduced to her family and
3. She's not proud of you and sees you as an option

TOPCRUISE:
Beating her up poured fuel to the fire. You should have fvcked her the way you did 5 years ago to reformat her brain settings and serve as a reminder of how you married her

Man, can't you read properly?

He didn't beat her up. He ALMOST.

meetme01:
You don F-up. Raising your hands on any woman talkless your wife has degraded you. That's the bitter truth.

Back to the main issue. Your wife needs your unreserved apology. You need remorseful which is through your attitude. Let her know you are deeply sorry.

To her, is she not working? Why have you refused to set her up in a biz? One problem I have realized in today's marriage is, finance. It's really creating a lot of issues in most marriage. As a man, if you earn from three sources, declare only two. Let her know how the money is spent to the last kobo. That was the initial problem, you need to fix that part asap

Now this is arrant non sense.

@OP.

You did nothing wrong! You're only human and anyone in your shoes would react the exact same way.

Don't let anyone who hasn't walked a mile in your shoes let you think otherwise.

And nobody should think he is immune to being degraded by his wife just because he doesn't raise his hands on her.

Your wife will degrade you whether you're earning 100k or 500k depending on HOW HIGH her materialism is.

UjuJoan2:
And yet men deliberately choose pretty and high maintenance girls when they are rich. This your theory only works on paper biko.

Do you think Regina Daniels will be 'there for' that old man she is marrying if he became broke tomorrow?

Or do you think someone like Bianca would have married an Ojukwu if she thought the perks would someday sieze?

I'm not saying if a man falls ill his wife will abandon him. But every fully healthy, able bodied man should never ever depend on a woman. It will never end well.

Personally I think every poor man should make it up to his wife by taking over the house chores (without complaining), and taking care of the homefront. But your egos will not let you do that. So a woman has to play both her role and yours? Doesn't seem fair to me.

The fact remains that while you are experiencing hard tines, the children need to feed, clothe and bathe. These responsibilities don't 'understand' with you. If the woman is able to provide these things, she becomes resentful because she is probably over burdened trying to play your role and hers, and yet the society doesnt recongize her efforts. In the end she remains just the wife, the inferior gender.

If she is NOT able to provide these things, her resentment gradually turns into hate, especially when she sees her neighbors and friend's kids having the comfort her own kids are deprived of.

It can never end in praise.

You guys need to understand that.

Whatever you say Ma'am

MuttleyLaff:
Ybaby, please provide the bible verse talking about a kept husband being worse than an infidel. Thank you.

She can't.


When I showed her what God's word on how God loves man and how we are to show the same love to everyone, she couldn't show me where SHE SAID THE BIBLE PERMITS MEN TO BE TREATED LIKE INFIDELS.

Human beings easily forget that the blessings of the Lord maketh rich and adds no sorrow. Except the Lord builds a city, they LABOUR IN VAIN THAT BUILD IT! Psalm 127:1 Job9:29

She has forgotten that LABOUR without FAVOUR equals FRUSTRATION as it's the Lord who gives power to get wealth

She should ask Peter, the most experienced fisherman who LABOURED ALL NIGHT YET CAUGHT NOTHING. Luke 5:5

When people remove God from the centre and place things like self sufficiency, their physical strength and their mind power and money, when the storms of life come, their real character will beade manifest.

The storms of life come to everyone. We arent immune to it.

With all the money and riches Job had, everything was destroyed in one day. I personally know many people who are popularly called "Millionaires of yesterday". Were they lazy??
NEVER!! How do you think they became rich in the first place

What am I saying It's a huge blessing for a man to be physically healthy and be able to work and provide for his family. What happens if the storms of life come and due to illness, adverse circumstances, tragedy etc and the man is unable to work??

She carefully and meticulously didn't address this. On top of this she has been very rude to people she doesn't even know and cannot identify offline.

I actually know someone here offline who she has insulted who infact is a millionaire!!! And am not talking peanuts!!! That's very bad and it's very sad.
No matter how rich a man is, if he knows you won't be there for him when the road is rough, that's a RED FLAG!

Ybaby:
...... the bible said worse than an infidel not me.

There is biblical permission to treat men who cannot provide for thier own as worse than infidels

It is in the bible

That's a lie from the pit of hell.

There's no biblical permission to treat men who CANNOT provide for the family as infidels!

In first Corinthians 13:1 downward , it talks about divine love (or AGAPE LOVE) which Christians are to have for each other (definitely applies to husband and wife!)and this GOD KIND OF love is NOT SELFISH or SELF CENTRED; Natural ,Human Love is selfish.

Christ loved us while WE WERE YET SINNERS, while we were yet unlovabe! The bible says while we were yet sinners Christ died for us.
GUESS WHAT CHRISTIANS ARE TO LOVE THE SAME WAY! The bible teaches us to LOVE OUR ENEMIES and DO GOOD TO THOSE who do EVIL to us! Luke 6:27 Matt 5:44

The bible says if your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat and water to drink. By doing that you're harping coals of fire on his head Proverbs 25:21, Romans 12:20

Other scripture says not to be overcome with evil but to overcome evil with good Roman's 12:21

Immediately you started talking I knew there was something off with what you were saying.

placeofallure:
AprokoNigeriaLimited, You want updates? My friend is still going out with the lady. Nothing has changed. The wife , according to him, is still denying him. Infact, he said he doesn't ask anymore. He has travelled to his home town to inform the dad about the new lady. They will get an apartment and move in together soon.. that's as far as I know.

How I dont know how many months, years or centuries since this post. Please give me updates o or better still let me speak with the man in question

meetme01:
Not men. The society we live is the bane of these paternity fraud. Alot of men are sterile, they fail to accept. They put the blame on women who is handicapped but just have to find a way out. It's really sad how we stigmatize women who are yet to birth. Both parties are guilty.

Until we change our mindset and accept children are from God, paternity fraud has come to stay in our society.

Hello sir.

You're starting to cook something that some thing that isn't edible.

Too many women have children where some out of the rest aren't the husband's. For some the firstborn isn't his; for others the last born isn't his, and in other cases where there are three to five children in one family, two arent his while the rest of them are.

Now consider the percentage of women who have adulterous affairs without getting pregnant for their boyfriends at all while all their children are their husbands.

kerry57:
Women and secrets

Women and DIRTY secrets

Akanoaaa:
No matter any wrong a man can do, he will never give you someone else child to nurse and pretend that the child is yours. So think well before you defend evil women

Dont mind her.

Arrant nonsense.

bukatyne:
Is paternity fraud the only thing committed in marriages?

Stop ignoring the question by asking another question.

ekestic1976:
What if it was directed at him? It's God speaking through you, bros and your opinion is refreshingly but strangely different. The empires are coming off the seams and I can foresee the end of "their" leaseholds.

Because he's obviously more sensitive and sensible and mature.

Haven't you read in the letter written to the churches that A true man of God must not cause strife

Eulalia:
Both of you have issues and need to work on yourselves. I could deduce this from what you said about the birthday present she got you. Someone took the pain to get you a present and you rejected it on the grounds that it was three days late. That could be very hurtful ( rejection). The you left ii in the parlor and was expecting her to bring again to you in the room. Is she a magician to know you were ready ro accept it now? Then You picked offence because she didn't bring it. Who's at fault here? You. I mean...even if the gift came late, it still better than never.

One needs to hear from her to be able to advise accordingly. As for her malice keeping attitude, thats a no no.

You guys should try and act mature and learn to overlook some trivial things.

Do not divorce her. Instead, show her you're bigger than all that childish act. You're the head.take charge and begin to act like one.

Did you skip the part where it's now his birthday (May 2) and the wife didn't even remember And it has been happening for five years straight.

Something is most definitely up! How can a wife go for MONTHS without talking to her hubby??
She has only apologised three times in EIGHT YEARS?!?
What kind of marriage is that

Even her family is afraid of her!

The OP was deceived and convinced to marry a lady with so much physical, emotional and psychological baggage!

Eulalia:
Both of you have issues and need to work on yourselves. I could deduce this from what you said about the birthday present she got you. Someone took the pain to get you a present and you rejected it on the grounds that it was three days late. That could be very hurtful ( rejection). The you left ii in the parlor and was expecting her to bring again to you in the room. Is she a magician to know you were ready ro accept it now? Then You picked offence because she didn't bring it. Who's at fault here? You. I mean...even if the gift came late, it still better than never.

One needs to hear from her to be able to advise accordingly. As for her malice keeping attitude, thats a no no.

You guys should try and act mature and learn to overlook some trivial things.

Do not divorce her. Instead, show her you're bigger than all that childish act. You're the head.take charge and begin to act like one.

Did you skip the part where it's now his birthday (May 2) and the wife didn't even remember And it has been happening for five years straight.

Something is most definitely up!

noakchukibadan:
Hmmmmm, I have done most things, for 8 years , I do not think she has apologized more than 3 times on any issue. Like I said I have prayed, and fasted. I have cried, and begged.

Permit me to say there could be an item in the mix you haven't considered: Infidelity

For your wife not to care about you could mean her attention is somewhere else.