₦airaland Forum

TheNaijaMan:
Thanks everyone for the very mature responses. Appreciate

you deserve to know the truth. some very funny responses indicates the level of experience some people have.
it will be a tragedy if the child isn't yours because it will indicate one thing:your wife knowingly presented another man's child as yours to deceive you.

but more importantly, your concern is whether your wife has cheated on you either presently or sometimes in the past.

cruzita:
the man is cheating and so i'm i .if the man claims not to be able to control his urge,he shld knw i can't too.what is good for the goose is equally good for the gander.if he feels good sharing his raging d!ck ,i also won't think twice about satisfying my burning vj

Stop deceiving yourself.


Will you jump into fire because your husband jumped into fire I think not. Will you shoot yourself in the leg because your husband shot himself in the leg I don't think so.

You will cheat not because your husband did but because you made a decision to. Period.

all the married women that are now being exposed for having illegitimate children while being married: what excuse do they have?? none whatsoever.

No married woman who is cheating has the effrontery to come out and boldly disclose to her husband what she's doing. she will never tell him unless she's caught red handed or with irrefutable proof. she knows the shame and reproach that will follow.

Hmmmm

I'm just laughing at some of the responses of many females here. If you know you can't forgive your husband in advance if he's tempted and he falls then just forget it. Forget about marriage.

If King David who God himself described as "a man after my own heart" could fall for temptation then what're you looking for? Superman

Many of you have secrets of your own; secrets you will NEVER disclose the gushy details for fear of being looked upon as prostitutes or left overs/scraps.

The undertone of Jealousy and Murder are in your responses

Anskid:
My take is that she actually slept with the men to get back at him... She's going through a lot of emotional trauma. She's the one in pains. It hurts to know that ur husband cheated, more so with ur own sister. There's no mistake in fvcking ur wife's sister. But I like d fact that he's showing remorse.

It would take God's intervention for them to live as before. The trust has disappeared from both parties. But they should both forgive each other and try to put the issues behind them.

Read the story again. she sacked the gateman and driver a year before the incident with the sister in law. if she truly slept with them the husband wouldn't have known because she wouldn't tell him. What kind of expensive joke is that?

beautyhd:
Sharp wife

Sharp Practices

Lakeside79:
I am Against arbortion but come.on she was raped !!! By armed robbers !!!

What normal mentally healthy adult female keeps a pregnancy from a gang rape by robbers

I ask all male.nairalanders will you allow Lord forbid your partner keep such a pregnancy if your house is invaded she is raped and gets pregnant?

Even if she is your fiancee will you allow her keep it ?

My answer is hell no!!! Even.if the doctor says the arbortion will.lead to her loosing her womb my dear we go.adopt but that baby is called a NOPE

Hello sir.

If she loses her life In the process, where do you think her soul is going?(please don't tell me God will understand)

If her womb is damaged in the process, what else?

Its her decision to make, not anybody else's. It happened to HER. its HER BODY, HER DECISION

UyaiIncomparabl:
You've not stopped this. You pained loser! Every guy isn't like you. He won't take your worthless advice.

Can you marry a man with child/children no questions asked

So Nina lost her Miracle. Chai

Mires:
Odiegwu! "No fresh Doctor take (sic) home 300k".

How much is a house officer entitled to monthly in public service let alone a junior registrar?

Nigerians and their selfishness. They will be quick to say it is a lie but won't say it out because they know that they are not fighting a just course.

When I start pasting their payslips and salary table they will keep quiet.

bornolowu:
313,000 naira.... thunder fire JOHESU executive for this kind of disinformation

If you don't keep shut I will paste payslips and tables used to prepare Salaries, you m0ron

jaychubi:
Consultant gini

In hospital only a doctor should be a consultant doesn't make sense for other health care workers.

We go soon get consultant cleaner nonsense, NMA should stop this B4 it's too late

Consultant pharmacist cant take order from doctors ooo n with dt there will be choas in d hospital

NMA ko. NIA nii.

Are you pained Good. Deal with the fact that the Almighty empire of the Nigerian Doctors have left their primary calling of saving lives and have refused to stay in their lane, meddling with the pay grade, career progression, and consultancy status of other health workers, threatening the government with industrial action at every slight opportunity has collapsed. What's er starts in Lagos State always gets to the Federal Level.

Deltayankeeboi:
some selfish quack doctors will not like this.

anyway they can now start commiting their long due awaited suicides

S A V A G E

osazsky:
its a lost battle even if they increase ur salaries doctors will demand for higher pay, even in us ,Canada, a surgeon earns more than a errand nurse who all he or she does is to hold a plate containing scissors while d operation is on,nig shldnt b an exemption. if u want to be a doctor go to s university study medicine den pass ur mbbs

Your stupidity and foolishness is on display for all to see. Anyway, Face your calling which is to save lives What government pays other health workers doesn't concern you. Whether they want consultancy status or not doesn't concern you( Lagos State Government has approved Consultancy status for other health workers and very soon the FG will follow). The power of the circular NMA signed with Government in 2014 has been eroded because NMA isn't a registered union so government won't answer you. Stay there and be ranting

osazsky:
with all these ur reasoning am a non academic staff and should earn same as a professor, make una go sleep hunger never beat una. be waiting for salaries.

Hey, Idiota.

Many doctors are yet to receive salary because their salaries weren't prepared by the accountants, turning them and their CMDs/MDs to beggars when the threats didn't work. Too many health workers have alternative sources of income. So if you think this strike is like the ones that have happened before, when it ends I will call you out and gave you an e-flogging.

AbuadStudent:
But i showed you proof that johesu is asking for the same pay as doctors.

If they were asking for a simple raise, it wouldnt cause his much problem.

Your presentation of "proof" is twisted.

Entry point for a graduate of medicine with NYSC is Grade Level 12 while other health professionals is at Grade Level 10 and below and the implication is that it will take other health professionals at least four years to reach where that entry point is.

The starting point of doctors Salary scale starts from the equivalent of GRADE LEVEL TEN while other health workers salary scale start from equivalent of GRADE LEVEL TWO. Can. you call that parity?

Nairalanddist:
Christianity should be banned just like China did. The federal government should amend the Nigerian constitution so Islam would become the only religion all Nigerians can practice. Enough of these infidels populating the country

Don't you know that plan will backfire as Islam will no longer be seen as a religion of peace and tolerance, you slowpoke?? Religion of peace my foot

Eke40seven:
Be happy!
Your husband chose the right profession and left behind countless wealth, enough the feed his 5th generation. Expensive schools, mega church and mega business.
Not all widows are as lucky. If he was a real "Archbishop" which I think is a title that legit belongs to the Anglican or protestant churches, the wealth would have been owned by the "church" in the true sense.. the schools would be free or at least affordable to the people who actually contributed to its establishment. The hospitals would be free or very affordable.
These are the legacy left by the churches established by the European missionaries.
So be happy "woman of God" and enjoy the wealth given to you by your dear husband.

Which free hospital are you talking about? Why should you be treated free and the workers are paid? who will pay them, you nitwit?? which money will be used to keep the hospital running? The country from which the missionaries came from don't have free hospitals, in addition to the fact that those missionaries were FUNDED by their churches. whatever you freely enjoy CAME AT A COST TO SOMEONE ELSE. Don't comment like you're not too bright.

Papiikush:
Time for the gullible Nigerians to offer up different cars and houses as gift to their mummy GO. Then expect blessings from God as reward

Meanwhile their distant cousins are suffering from poverty.

How to become a successful GO (General overseer) in Nigeria

* Build a befitting church
* Make sure you have sweet mouth
* invite gospel musicians and organize a lot of concerts
* Make sure your publicity team are doing excellent works on social media
* Preach about tithe and offering. Make sure you don't miss the topics on first fruits
* Bribe people for miracles

Make sure you do all these then sit back and watch Nigerians worship your feet

Your post doesn't need a second glance for all to see your foolishness and stupidity. How do you build a befitting church? You can't start a church with nothing and grow it into this with a sweet mouth.

Did anyone notice the look of pleasure on the girl's face as well as the waistbeads?

Kitanayo:
I will start from the beginning so that i will be better understood, soo sorry if it is too long


I and my husband met in one of our ICAN classes so we hit it off immediately, became friends, dated then got married. It was blissful, we had our kids, to me life was perfect till one day he changed.

He started picking fights on irrelevant things, wouldnt talk to me for days, i thought it was just a phase until one day he didnt come back home, after so much calls to family members, friends collegues at work, we found out he left the country with another woman, this was 4 years ago, we later found out he paid for the house rent for two years and he vowed never to have anything to do with me and my kids anymore.

Even after pleadings from family members he still refused so i moved on, believing that one day he would come back to me because i believe his actions was not normal, he asked for divorce, i refused cos my bible is against it (luke 16:18). Since then God has been soo good to me, i've moved into my own home(a working mom) and God has been taking care of my kids for me.


Now 2 years ago, i met this lady who was serving(nysc), i see her as my younger sister so we talk alot, so she knows all about me, she helps me at home, with my kids and all.

One day we were talking about sex generally, so she said she can satisfy my urge, i was shocked, i dont want to go into details but that was how it started.

Mind you i do not insert anything into my "VJ", what she does is the normal licking and sucking till i "CUM" she's in a serious relationship with a man so i do not do same act to her and she doesnt ask for anything in return(from a wealthy home).I dont see myself as a lesbian since i dont indulge in it moreso i still love my husband.

I agreed to it because it's safer than having sex and contacting std in the process, i am human, i have needs and i dont want to commit adultery cos i'm still married and i believe my husband would come back to me, i feel no guilt whatsoever for this act.

Reason why i brought this here is to know your views about this act, i want to have diff. opinions from matured minds so no insults please, thank you.



Mods please help take this to FP

Get a proper divorce. There's a place in the bible where it says you're not bound to a man who doesn't want to stay in marriage(I will look for it).
You're still young and you need a husband. This is just a temporary situation so what are you going to do when this current "arrangement" ends?? Its awkward

debbycreamy:
A cheat is not always a cheat, she came out plain and confessed meaning she felt remorse for wat she did, and hoping to repent, most girls will hide it and pretend til dey die, he should forgive her and never give up on her coz such girls are rare, most poor girls are tempted to cheat coz of d money to buy things or feed, don't blame her much, I believe if the bf had given her enough she wouldn't have cheat, forgive her and move on oh jare op

What makes a girl that sleeps with a man for money rare?? That your statement is a no brainer. Is she rare because she confessed?? Sex for money equals prostitution. The guy was already suspecting meaning he pressured her to confess.

How many of y'all remember BURNA BOY'S song that goes like this:
Niggas ain't running anymore naw, bang bang every body kiss the floor naw... Is a ROBBERY!
Robbery, Robbery, Robbery...

Those complaining about tithes don't read the Bible and are bordering on doctrinal error. The bible clearly admonishes us to give 1.to God for HIS WORK Mal 3, Luke 6:38 2. To genuine men of God and to others who are in need

IsaacBuchi:
Tithing is not biblical, it's not Christian, how hard is that for them blind Christians to understand?

Tithing and Giving are biblical and are expressly written in scripture both old and new testaments.

1. Until you show me in scripture (new testament) where it is expressly written that tithes have been done away with, I won't accept it
2. GIVING has never been done away with, and TITHING is a part of GIVING.
3. When Jesus told a rich young ruler to GIVE ALL HE HAD to the poor, the bible says he went away SORROWFUL. Also in Acts, the early Christians sold ALL THEY HAD and distributed it among themselves.
If the early Christians gave 100%, why are you having headache over 10%?
4. Fornication the old testament is fornication in the new testament. sin is sin in both testaments. The differences in the old and new testaments is righteousness by faith in the finished work of Chris

pattybf:
Worst u say?

It wasn't worst when he was sleeping around n lying ba? Which I know he's still doing anyways!

Bloody hypocrites everywhere!

So if your husband jumped into fire you would do the same, right? Or will you steal because you caught him stealing?

What nonsense!

You cheat because you want to, not because your husband does!

Don't tell me that.

If your caught your husband cheating and couldn't cope, L E A V E. Period.

Just dealt with a real life case of an adulterous woman who when caught red handed initially begged the husband with crocodile tears. When he assembled both their families on the issue, she suddenly turned around to say her husband also cheated. So they resolved to call it even IF he was found guilty: After thoroughly investigating her alleged husband's infidelity, it was found that the man was COMPLETELY INNOCENT.

Every adult is a free moral agent, capable of making choices.

LuvU2:
Stay in ur country

tell that to those who lost their family to the boko haram insurgents and are now living in IDPs, being subjected to abuse, rape, hunger and desperate poverty.

Hozier:
choi, what has happened to the Coco I know? These days, half of your comments are filled with arguements and malignant remarks.

Saying that a married woman can cheat because her husband cheated is as good as saying she should jump into fire because her husband also jumped into fire. Today's African women's mindset has been westernised. What's worst is that they can never disclose their movements. It is only when they are caught that they are guilty.

betafuture:
many thanks. But how do I know they never have anything together, I left her in Nigeria with my son for three months (though my cousin was in the house with her) before she came to join me in the UK. One thing that tourched me was that my son said 'Daddy, please give mummy a second chance, she is not a bad woman'

I felt like crying with that little boy's words

My dear brother: I don't want to add to your pain; the worst has happened. She definitely had sex with her lover before joining you. If you had played it cool, you definitely would have confirmed the worst. If it were me I wouldn't have confronted her just yet as patience and persistence would have made you confirm the extent to which she went. No desire for sex? Discrepancies in payments to her account??

Anyway, you can choose to heal for the sake of your son. But watch out: She will suddenly become overprotective of you with the passage of time, warding off any female she perceives as a 'threat'

JamesReacher:
May God punish me if I return such

'The woman won't blame me at all but blame herself for her carelessness. She didn't give me the money to keep. That's how life is, doctors are happy that u get sick, lawyers happy that u commit crimes, coffin makers happy that they are patronized, u see how life goes. What I won't do is intentionally cause pain. Never.'

Evil Spirits make people do wrong things and think wrongly. Don't be influenced by such thinking.

jerrywill:
We are talking about the Holy Spirit in person here...they called down fire and not the 'fire of the Holy Ghost'

why was the Holy Spirit sent to us? to consume enemies with his fire I guess

When you're facing powers of darkness you will know that fire exists.

Heard a testimony of how spiritual ritualists where going to kill mother and son. the small boy said HOLY GHOST FIRE! and God RESPONDED, because the GROUND CAUGHT FIRE.