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WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

You might not be where you ought to be, but you are better than those living under the bridge already in their 40s

Run your race, don't let those ahead of you put you in depression. You are now a graduate, that means you are preparing yourself for the forthcoming opportunities.

This is the time for you to be positive cos breakthrough is just on the way. Forget girls for now, this is the time break free from the chains of poverty.

Try your hands in teaching, age isn't a barrier there, develop good relationship with great minds and from there , you move up the ladder to better career pathway

Vyolet:
You do not know her but somehow you know she bleached.

Only blind people won't know that she bleached

JaneYave:
Too much bleaching spoils a woman's beauty. HBD

honestly, her skin is gone

kayuseful:
Wahala be like rain challenge

Why call down rain in raining season. You guys should wait till December harmattan period to call down your rain

helinues:
We missed Yaradua truly..

A unifier

Rest on

yinmu, if he had completed his tenure, you ll be one of those wishing he wasn't in charge.

Akorede95:
Please house if someone want to go into transport Keke Napep or Korope bus which one is more profitable and how much can someone target per day? Location Ilorin precisely

Korope: 7 passengers

Napep: 5 passengers

The answer to your question is obvious

IgweOfNnewi:
The first slay queen in the world was *Delilah*.
Second was *Jezebel*. Third was *Queen Vashti*.
Fourth *Herodias*.

None of them ended well.

But look at *pray queens* of history:
* Sarah,
* Ruth,
* Deborah,
* Hannah,
* Esther and
* Abigail.

They all ended up well.

Word to the wise, ....never be envious of slay queens and the flashy lifestyles they live.

Satan is preparing them for flash. But God is preparing you to shine.

The flash on your phone or camera is bright for short periods of time, but sunshine provides a permanent shine.

Be wise!
Be smart!

Rahab was the first slayed queen though her heart was good

Focusmind:
I am not hating but celebrating being a citizen of another country on social media smacks of inferiority complex. This is very common with Nigerians and African players. Mikel Obi did same when he got his UK passport.

I was thinking that with their exposure and status, they should maintain some level of dignified silence in things like this. Everything is about God in Nigeria and for Nigerians and that's why our religious leaders are taken advantage and playing mind games with us. As someone asked above, whether God works with Portuguese immigration.

In sane countries, things works properly and you don't need one divine miracle to get what belongs to you, unlike here that we keep calling and invoking divine spirit to intercede on our behalf because of man made problems we brought unto ourselves.

Wait until you have opportunity to travel out of the Country, you ll understand better

deavicky:
I'm trying to understand why you thank God for becoming a citizen of other country. Is it not the same God that put in ur original country or u think he does not know what he is doing.

After his career , he's sure of a good old age life in portugal compared to Nigeria

kktbm:
Congratulations...... but does he dream to play with Ronaldo and Bruno Fernandez

He's already a Nigerian international....too late to wear portuguese jersey

mejai:
Na which expensive ride be that?

EOD

7*5 = 35yrs imprisonment

osazsky:
u dey answer them.we beat PSG in thier own home and someone was saying we scored by errors and luck...instead of them to talk abt Chelsea misfortune on how real will definitely knock them out them they talk say Chelsea don reach final and psg will beat city at Etihad.i told them city dont play at the Etihad without banging goals...against any team they bang goals at Etihad but I cant really understand how average man u keep getting results against us at the ethihad.even if man u lost 19 games against other teams immediately they come to the Etihad all thier players get an erection I am still studying this mystery the thing nor clear.even liverpool they collect self.maybe over familiarity I dont know sha

An average Man u fans don't want city in the final. Even baba Alex Ferguson visited Psg in their camp yesterday

2. Those that want mbappe or Neymar for balon dior will not want city in the final too

Starzo:
mbappe on the bench

Injury

That guy and Neymar are Injury prone yet Messi and ronaldo in their 30s hardly get injured

wolfenstein:
I know but Op wrote Fufu not me and I know wat dudu is Mr Lecturer

It is "what" not "wat"

Fuckingmallam45:
Neymar go cry today specialist in crying, cry crying baby

He promised to die there,we don't want him to cry

Farmers league people can now go back to where they belong

Where are the bookmakers

Any team that knock out barca always get to the final......story o

Gamesmart:
Tell him to kiss our asss and we don't care what he hates.

he doesn't know you

Penielly:
Good day everyone, please am confused on which decision to take,am age 33 and got a federal job of 111k per month,am afraid that this money can't be enough if I start having family,so am thinking of looking for a greener pasture in Dubai which my friend over there ask me to come and look for work,that we can save and move to another country,am just confused now now what decision to take, please help..

This your friend, I hope he's legit

wolfenstein:
Dodo and fufu, make she kukuma add a 3rd and call her Egusi

Dudu not Dodo
Dudu means black

Funfun not fufu
Funfun means White

xristos:
I have done my findings I just but ofcourse no one has the monopoly of knowledge..kindly share your thoughts.

lived all my.life in lagos till.2014.Abuja since then...but thinking about Jos.
I'm 36, IT professional n married with 2 kids...wife not really working. i currently work in an ingo that also gas field offices includin Jos...but my salary isnt that interesting to make me that comfortable in abuja considering the bills on my neck.
we stay in a 1BR apartment in one of the villages (chika precisely) in abuja and pays abt 370 yearly.

ive visited Jos more than 5 times and i keep loving it more in each visit...Rayfield and surroundings to be precise...calm, weather friendly, fresh n affordable food, my salary wud get me a comfortable 2BR flat... navigation to/from abuja is jst 4hrs..so i feel i can apply for a relocation to our field office in jos..or at worst work from abuja and travel weekends.

i dont intend living anywhere outside Jos south/Rayfield environs

as a family man...i find it most suitable to relocate there..most esp for the sanity n good environment for my children's growth -stressfree of going to school in abuja, the hot sun, bad electricity, havin to wake up to fan my.kids at night (ofcos i have Generator)..i stay in a noisy compound that dosnt befit me..many fake foods n fruits in abuja, ..i wonder if its the same Nigeria...but Jos looks like a greener pasture for me.
waduyu think??

Abuja is expensive....move away from there if you are not a politician or govt worker

Sunisonflex39:
the Oha soup I cooked with N850 only..

ladies and gentlemen.. as the single broke student guy I am like this.. Things are very expensive this period that I have not eaten swallow for like a month due to finance..
so today as God may have it, a good Samaritan gave me 1k, I quickly made a list of food stuff to get for Oha soup o.. Hunger dey..

I bought meat #500
crayfish #50
OZiza leaf #50
fresh pepper #50
Offor #50
kpomo#100
prewinlke #50

the fufu is not factored in the price..

as for the dried fish, okproko, I got them from somewhere for free..

local man cannot kill himself o..

Wahala for bachelor, but double wahala for bachelor Wey no sabi cook o..

The Malam sliced the meat into ten pieces, and with the dried and stock fish complimenting,this soup will last me till Wednesday I think...

School for Nigeria dey reset brains As per Hunger o

Please if you want to fine me money.. DM dey o... Help your guy survive and re-survive o..

You are neat. This is better compared to the eyesore I saw on fp yesterday

emmanuel596:
Fact and sometimes myths

Depends on your beliefs

Even the villagers now reside in the city

chloedogie:
Jose's undoing was the rift with that Chelsea female doctor. He has never been himself since that incident He is a world class coach and I have always said it, Italy is his base. Give him money to buy what he wants and don't interfere, he will deliver in Italy.

Italy isn't competitive. How can a team win skudetto for 9 straight years

Horoyeencar:
What car will you suggest for a first timer, budget between 3-4M.

Go for suv

Toyota highlander or Rav4

Avoid Hondas that are before 2010

Don't mind the mumus comparing him to Efe

definitelyHIM:
Hello guys I am currently stuck. Jamb starts soon I currently don't know if to pick a private or government university...I would say government uni becos I'm not the kind of person that likes been restricted alot, and technically that's what private schools are good at.. what do you guys suggest?

By the time ASUU deal with you, you ll embrace restriction for 4yrs over 8yrs of liberty

Billionsclub:
if you were to rent a house, would you prefer the house where Landlord is or where Landlady is? Which is better? give reasons

Where non of them lives. I need my liberty, I hate been monitored by the owner of the property

kenzysmith:
A worker deserved is wages oga Edris did u pay timaya his wages? is food salary ? even a poor man can afford to help others with food what the big deal about food? u use him as a back up artiste for years without giving money you made from the songs is that not selfishness? as God would have it Timaya is now bigger than u after u go come dey sing about politians wey no dey pay salary. keyamo and timaya dragging Edris

Had it been he treated Timaya very well, he wouldn't be chasing Keyamo everywhere for contract

detectivejones:
Because God hates divorce he should remain in a marriage where they both have obviously fallen out of love and are each other's nightmare

They can fall in again. Something brought them together in the first place. They can rekindle the fire

familier:
Good day RomanceLanders
I just clocked 20 today

what are those advice you'll render to us in our Early or mid twenties...What are those mistakes or bad decisions that you'll never want us to make so as not to have regrets in life... I'm currently doing my ND2 in a state polytechnic with the thought of dropping at this level, I'm interested in leaning building construction.

You're advice and insults are welcomed

Forget romantic relationship

2. Focus on your career

3. Don't forget no 1 if you want to succeed with no2