₦airaland Forum

maxwelltony:
Hi guys

Please i really need your sincere advice concerning my relationship, we have been dating for the past two years, but honestly speaking i am not enjoying the relationship, i dont know what is wrong with my man, at times, he would travel for three month without giving me any notice, and throughout that time, his number will be switch off, for the past two years that we have started dating, he has done that for over 5times, and i am getting confuse if i am not in the wrong hand, he wouldnt give me any good excuse and i am getting fed up with him, i dont want to break up with him all because we have gone a long way, but with his attitude, i dont think i can cope again, time is going...

Please i want the whole house to advice me because i dont know how to cope again, he has gone again and dont knw when he will be coming back.

zomby:
I disagree.
All men are wired differently...There is a possibility that this dude truly loves his girlfriend. For this reason, it is absolutely ok for him to cry. Crying is part of “moving forward” process.

With time all things usually come together naturally.

Give time a chance...

Authentic2008:
Good evening family. I am a young of 28yrs old and a final year student of one of the prestigious university in Nigeria.


A few month back, I met this lady who happens to be a student of this same university. At first we started as friends and during this friendship, I discovered that she has a boyfriend but the relationship wasn't that ok. During our friendship, she told me that, it was this guy that breaks the padlock (u know what I mean). At the long run the guy broke up with her due to mistrust,insecurity and mistreatment. During this period of our friendship, I developed feelings for her cus of her trained personality and religious upbringing. As a very sharp guy, i took my opportunity and talk to her, she agreed and we started dating officially. The relationship was very smooth and we mingled also( Hope u understand).


Suddenly, this same ex of hers calls her and begins to apologise. She agree to his pleas without considering my feelings..To cut it short, they started dating back.


Few days later, she came back and started apologising to me saying that she loves me, she feels free whenever she is with me and that I always makes her to concentrate more on the things of God and mostly the qualities she wants in a man that she finds it in me...


But anytime this guy talk to her and beg her, she will agree and go back to him...

Funny enough I've come to love her deeply. Am really confused and I need ur advise on what to do.

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HonNL:
HQNigerianArmy

Kingk47:
Make ignorance no kill you OP. Do you know HIV is not a death sentence.
Do you know living in Nigeria and you are broke is worse than living with HIV?
Do you know Maĺaria kills faster than HIV?.
Do you know there many ways to contact HIV and sex is is the least way?
Your type are the ones who stereotype and stigmatize people living with HIV. Brother you need Jesus

Insidenaijasblo:
https://newspremises.com.ng/nigeria-will-soon-create-digital-currency-cbn/

LegendHero:
Nice one.

But I think the Nigeria media need some schooling in their reporting.

The $100m Facebook grant will be shared among multiple business and infact there are over 30,000 business or so that can qualify when Facebook announced the grant last year.

So these EscrowLock guys will get the cash & ad grant not even up to $10k at maximum but this report made it look like it’s $100m for a single company.

Imagine giving $100m each to 30,000 small businesses, how much is even Zuckerberg worth to start with?

In the USA here I think the grant is $4000 for small businesses ($2500 in cash and $1500 in optional ad credits). I don’t know the actual amount for Africa.

Macelliot:
Your TIME are up.


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Investment seems to be SCAMS in Nigeria.

No investment is safe any longer.

vickydevoka:
Oga calm down. De guy didn't deceive , he knows de market very well. He uses people's money to trade n invest in crypto. Even me I once did after de payment I ran.
Ask yourself how comes he was able to gather people's 2 billionaire. Is from one person he got all of dis . People started bringing other people. So there are people who benefited from him

rita25:
PLS catch MAXWELL ODUM of MBA toooooooooooooooooooo the guy is heavy fraud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hafsatadebisi:
Nothing like that. Since that incident happened, I do come to nairaland and ask you why you did what you did, why you don't want to send me the money, but you'll just ignore me, it's only today that you replied me which made me go further. Other days you don't reply if I quote you somewhere, you'll just ignore.

Truvel:
There Are Fraudsters In Nairaland. Bewarn! Don't Be A Victim. Beware Of D Kind Of Info U Share Here Or Give Out.

Cpossibility:
What a friend did to me last week.

Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.
Guy think back well, you did something to that Guy and maybe you didn't see it as anything but he held the grudges, or you were a bit pompous while in school, we know how students sometimes behaves while in school, just come and tell us when you remember something. That Guy can't be talking to you even when you are already in transit and then switch you off.
Or his condition is even worse than your own, he has just been bragging on Facebook and Instagram, lieing to you that he has this big job with this big accommodation meanwhile money for tomorrow's lunch is not yet assured. All of sudden he realise that he wouldn't want you to come and expose his secret

My ordeal.
Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.

On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.

We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.

Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.

On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!

Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"

jesmond3945:
because you are not a civil servant. An average Nigerian lacks empathy.

dre11:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/462820-exclusive-why-abidemi-rufai-should-not-be-granted-bail-u-s-govt.html

plaindealer:
This is nothing but your own opinion diluted with misguided and flawed conspiracy theories.

There's no difference between a Dutch, India, Garman or Korean company building this railway , they all have their own technology, even America so what's the difference? Or you just gave personal issues with China? ...

....and the last time I checked, railways all over the world are financed by banks, bonds and all manner of financial instruments so why should Nigeria be different? Are we special or is it because we are from the Moon?


Too much ramblings but no serious substance.

Topmaike007:
oga create your own technology and employ Nigerians, nobody is holding you down. Paystack, Flutterwave, Andela, Rok studio and udux are all Nigerians and Nigerians are all working for them.

Drop the hatred and thrive. May God help us all.

Shalom

Rossiminku:
Baseless and false assertions.

Nigerian engineers are sent on courses to China in all of these projects, where they learn the operations. Do the research before jumping to negative conclusions.

Rossiminku:
Every nation on earth is doing business with China including the USA, her biggest debtor.

Peejayx01:
Good day everyone, hope our day went well.
I want your honest opinion on a issue bothering me.

So recently I got a teaching job that pays 25k per month, this job also comes with a free accommodation, a stone throw from the school(which means no transport fare). I was offered this accommodation due to the fact that my place is very far from the school.
Also, just today, a friend got a marketing job in a popular real estate company who only pays based on commission meaning no customer, no payment, but it comes with weekly stipends for transport. This has left me at crossroads presently and I'm not sure of the best decision to take right now. Please I need your advise...