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Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

It's a good thing that you already stated that at the beginning of the relationship. If he can't wait, then hold on and wait for your right man. If he truly loves you, he will wait, DO NOT GIVE IN TO THE PRESSURE. I had a no sex relationship too, now I'm married and enjoying my home. God bless you

Ifyjos:
No I didn’t go to his office again because He won’t even want to see me and That would be a waste of time and transport. But before I left the house this morning , I did recorded some voices videos narrating what I did and sent them to my sister WhatsApp, so far she hasn’t seen it yet because it’s only showing one tick and her last seen on WhatsApp was yesterday 8.19pm so I’m just here waiting to see what will happen when she listen to those voices I sent her. I’m scared and my mind is telling me because she hasn’t seen them yet I should deleted but I don’t know if I should or not

Don't delete it, let her see it, also be praying about it, you should have still make an attempt to see her fiancee

Ifyjos:
How?

1. By being wicked to a fellow human
2. By not being ready to make amend
3. By destroying somebody future
4. By not controlling your anger issue for days, months
5. By allowing your anger to take over you
6. By ganging up against your blood sister
7. By exhibiting the trait of witchcraft
8. By allowing your sister to suffer and keeping quiet
9. By lieing constantly
10. By envying and being jealous
11. By maybe killing your sister

Ifyjos:
Its you that’s wicked see for the fact that you have been insulting me since I started my thread , it show that you are heartless evil soul and U have no peace and go and take your frustration somewhere else , u r taking as if u have a man in ur life and who will want to marry a heartless thing like u? Well all I know is my guy loves me a lot and we will get married . U old cargo keep waiting for a widower to marry you and that will be your sisters portion too not mine. I have a big God he can never failed me

but you know you have FAILED God.

letitrainnow:
Lolz, I wan die for laugh, this girl is foolishly funny.

Do you forget that GOD can be unmerciful too?

leave her, all her sister needs is some aggressive prayer and fasting, before you know it, her eyes go clear.

Ifyjos:
Yes I want to confess to him but am scared of the outcome .

you are not scared of outcome when you said you confess to God, but you are scared of outcome from man. In life, that is why it is not good to be wicked, when you are hurting her, framing her up, you and your boyfriend must be happy that time, but now to make amends its an issue and you are "scared" of the outcome.

You should be more scared of God that can take and give life and soul than man, you have already started what you dont want to finish. if you think God will or has forgiven you when you have not make amends, you must be deceiving your self. there is no peace for the wicked.

Repentance is not complete without making amend ifyjos. You dont have all the time you think you have. (Proverbs 27:1 Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring)

James 5:16
Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

Ezekiel 33:14-15

"But when I say to the wicked, 'You will surely die,' and he turns from his sin and practices justice and righteousness, if a wicked man restores a pledge, pays back what he has taken by robbery, walks by the statutes which ensure life without committing iniquity, he shall surely live; he shall not die.


Numbers 5:6-7

"Speak to the sons of Israel, 'When a man or woman commits any of the sins of mankind, acting unfaithfully against the LORD, and that person is guilty, then he shall confess his sins which he has committed, and he shall make restitution in full for his wrong and add to it one-fifth of it, and give it to him whom he has wronged.

Ifyjos:
Nothing because I haven’t seen any good advice so far apart from the insults . I don’t need people to justify me because it won’t make me rich , all
I need right now is to reunite my sister back with her fiancé

this your thread is 32 pages and you claim you have not seen any good advise, lots of people have been telling you to make amends, confess to your sister fiancee. You will need to go to another planet to seek for advise. or maybe you want somebody to tell you to kill her, then it will be good enough for you.

Ifyjos:
Please I’m not mad at all , I know what I did to her was bad and I created this thread for people to lead me in the right way to apologise and get them back together but all the people here are insulting so u are expecting me to be quiet ? No karma won’t visit us because God is full of mercy and he won’t allow anything bad to happen to us

have you seek for the mercy? have you make amends? have you apologize? Read your bible very well madam, you just keep mentioning God as if you believe in God.

Galatians 6:7
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

Proverbs 11:21
Though they join forces, the wicked will not go unpunished; But the posterity of the righteous will be delivered.

Isaiah 3:11
Woe to the wicked! Disaster is upon them! They will be paid back for what their hands have done.

2 Chronicles 7:14
If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.

Ifyjos:
So because she was working and waking early And if my child cry so I have to suffocated her because the queen of Nigeria was sleeping no way , all baby do cry and no way I would have kill my child just to make her happy , well she was buoyant enough to rent a place and sleep in peace. I don’t have any money to contribute but I do contribute with house chores and that’s more than enough and nobody forced or put a gun on her head to be contributing for the house and she did it for the sake of our parents which is her duty . Yes if I have more hair customers I can earn more than that 20k and I have nothing in my saving but as long I’m alive I know that someday i will pay her back that money and it will be more than 2millions. I accepted because of my child education matter if not I would have rejected.
Am not God [b]but I know she is not fertile and she wish to be in my place to have a baby just like me and she has been jealous of me [/b]because at my age only 15 I can have a baby and she doesn’t ( I know what am talking about but I won’t go in details ) , she doesn’t discipline herself because she is not a virgin only virgins do discipline themselves. Yes I’m very proud of my child and I wouldn’t change her for the world. She is my pride and joy ,she is my doctor in the making

It is obvious you hate your sister and also your guy. But what is surprising me is the way you have been mentioning God in your posts. You have not taken a single step to amend your ways, you made somebody to loose her means of livelihood, her hope, her joy and her fiancee, about to loose her life and you also think she deserves it. and you think God is happy with you and your fiancee?

no life was lost, no property was lost

Ehibiggirl:
if only she knows the word of God she would have value for her self and others

true, shes over defensive as well. She has a long way to go

Ifyjos:
Thanks your are right. I have an idea and I don’t know if it will be the best way to do it. What if I recorded myself voice recording narrating everything then send the voices to my sister fiancé on WhatsApp ( I will need to use a new number because he has blocked me , my sister and my cousin numbers) and please let me know if it’s a good idea

No matter how long and far lies can go, truth will definitely catch up with it one day, some day your sister will get to know, but them it will be disastrous, the best option is to come out plain and look for people that are close to her to help you mediate, find a way to contact her fiancé and open up and seek for forgiveness, start from there. Any anonymous message won't hold water and not believable, he will still request to see whoever is behind the voice.

Ifyjos:
Yes I choose to have sex before marriage , it's my body and choice

ote author=Ehibiggirl post=85620098]but you can have sex with him when he hasn’t paid your bride price abi?
Even if they donate your brain for research it will still be useless

1 Corinthians 6:19
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

Hebrews 13:4 (KJV)
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-4
3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable,

Ifyjos:
Ok I will tell him but its not easy doing for me to do it face to face , but am thinking of doing it anonymous with a new number without mentioning it is me.

quote author=DrayZee post=85623100]

You are still defending yourself..na the one wey dey vex me pass. It's as if you see no wrong in what you did at all.

I'm sure it's this insufferable behavior that made you get with a 24 year old at the age of 15. I'm very very sure you were warned, but your strong head did not allow you to hear word.

Now they are telling you to go and tell the fiancé what you did, and you're here talking about being scared. You were not scared when you were using days and gathering people to destroy your sisters life.

For once in your life think...just this once. Stop defending all your rubbish and go sort things out. I can't believe someone like you really exists.

If you do it anonymously, he won't believe you, he would think your sister is trying to arrange that

Ifyjos:
Yes I know that too , we lives at home with parents but she was suffocating me as if I'm living in her house , the house doesn't belongs to both of us so she should have respect herself and mind her business and if she couldn't stand seeing me in the same house as her , all she could do was to park and move to her fiance or rent a house for herself and let me stay in my parents house in peace until my guy is ready to pay my pride price.

quote author=LilMissFavvy post=85620626]Your upbringing must have been very bad and your morals are totally flawed, otherwise you should know that a lady moves into her husband's house after marriage is properly conducted, your sister knows this, she is responsible. I have sisters, I know this as well. You that began opening your legs in young age and have a child should have gone to live with a man, try and change for the better, hope with this poor mindset you will bring up your child properly.

You are not even remorse from your comments, I doubt if you are even ready to make amend, you sound bitter and toxic

Ifyjos:
yes I’m not evil I’m kid hearted more nicer than my sister . I’m not at home right now but maybe I will confess later but am scared

Nicer than her? Did I just read that?

Ifyjos:
Am trying but it is not that easy
. Don’t even know where to start

Ify you have to start from the first step, 99% of the advise says you should confess and mend your ways, but you are still procrastinating, for how long will you keep procrastinating?

Ifyjos:
He can never dump me because If he wanted to leave me , he would have done it long time ago when I was still pregnant. He never denied me and my pictures is everywhere on his Facebook and WhatsApp profile and our future will be greater. Not I’m not responsible for her loosing her job , she lost her job because at the time her fiancé dumped her , she was suicidal and missed work for almost a month and lost her job.

If her fiancee had not dumped her, would she had lost her job? If you had not set her up, would her fiancee left her?

Ifyjos:
Ok but is not easy for me. What if he arrest me for false allegations ?

You have to face it and damn the consequences, stop procrastinating, go to her fiancé, your parents and her. You are not sure if her fiance will still take her back. Delay is dangerous

Ifyjos:
Yes it is her money and she doesn’t owe me anything, but what can’t she mind her business and let me and my guy be in peace?

Then don't go and meet her for money, if you don't, she won't talk or insult you.
Please Ify, I am begging you in the name of God, please repent and make amend, I don't want you to die young or pray for all this evil to befall you, please go and make amend and seek for forgiveness no matter how long it will take your sister to forgive you. You know there is chances that her fiancee may not take her back. Think about that. You need Jesus

Ifyjos:
Thanks I wish I could tell him that everything was a lie but am afraid to do it because by telling him , my family will come to knows too. my family will hate me forever.

quote author=ojun50 post=85586614]what you did is very bad but if you want to make amends you should start with yr sister fiance, by opening up every tin to him and what lead to yr action..

seriously you wen too far

You are worse than a witch and Satan lives in you

Ifyjos:
She was the breadwinner , she helped a distant cousin with money to start business, if she could help a cousin and why not me her blood sister? She doesn't pay my child school fees but she does help if my guy doesn't have the money and before we get the money we will receive insults just because we are poor and she was rich . I'm 20 and going to be 21 on march 28
uote author=FloraEC post=85596615]
Lolzz, seriously your sister should start up business for you and your supposed baby daddy. Is she that extremely rich, have she not done enough by training your child in school.
How old are you again?

Ify, you are not even remorse, you still feel you are not bad,
1. Your so called boyfriend will soon leave you.
You said you want her to feel the pain you feel. Did you loose your job? Did you loose your fiancee? Was your wedding cancelled after a date has been announced?
2. You will soon loose your means of livelihood
3. Your wedding will also be cancelled
You said your bf is not bad because he didn't kill her, if she commit suicide or die from depression, who do you think is responsible for her death?
If you did not repent, confess, do restitution and make amend, those 3 will definitely come your way, no matter how long, Repent NOW!! before it is too late Ify

realstars:
Thank you, but that money was of help to me at that time.

the money can only meet temporal needs, what happens after then? what about the permanent needs? what about heaven? what about rapture?

realstars:
Its remains me when my boss ask me to buy camera head cleaner, he went with me and we play a sharp business with the sales boy and he know not.

That is unfaithfulness and unrighteousness

FuckAllTheMODs:
Nonsense, nothing like the price you pay for blah blah blah...

If you know the right place to get the goods/products and how to go about it, then you're good to go and also if you get good workmen and ensure you monitor them when buying the goods/products.
I would have given you one important scope to use when going to the market to get materials for work with your workman but I don't want to spoil their biz.

It seems you don't know that some of these workmen use substandard goods/products to do work even when the owners of the works pay them well

Why withholding information from us when we are all here to learn.

Nowenuse:
No, Pankshin is the coldest place on the Plateau followed by Mangu before Jos! ....I am from Plateau state.

Bring out your fact, reference,link not by words of mouth

Explorers:
* A Florida man was fixing his wife's car outside their Lake Worth Beach home when his 40-year-old parrot began to scream 'Help', 'Let me out!'

Cops in Florida arrived at a home to investigate after receiving reports of a woman screaming for Help, only to find the neighbor had mistaken the noise for a parrot talking.

The silly moment happened outside a couple's home in Lake Worth Beach while the husband was fixing his wife's car just before New Year's Eve.

Home security footage shows the husband calmly shifting through his tool box as Rambo moans 'Help' and 'Let me out!'

'I was changing the brakes on my wife's car and had my 40-year-old parrot, Rambo, on his outside perch where he sings and talks,' the man said.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7849929/Cops-arrive-Florida-home-neighbors-mistook-parrot-woman-screaming-help.html

Explorers, the man was fixing his brake pad by himself. Wow, he didn't go to the mechanic workshop to do that

TUANKU:
I have lived in both places so i don't need Google to tell me. Normally sef the country side is always colder than cities due to population density.

Why don't google the average temperature of both cities

Nowenuse:
No, Pankshin is the coldest place on the Plateau followed by Mangu before Jos! ....I am from Plateau state.

Google the average temperature of both cities

TUANKU:
If jos is this cold i wonder how places like pankshin and mangu would be.

Jos is colder than all these places, you can google it to confirm

highbee02:
Lo! just pulling your leg

Obviously MURIC is just trying to mislead the public and bringing unnecessary argument.

highbee02:
Take note, fg gave 2days public holiday for xmas

The 2nd day is Boxing Day (26). So bring another argument.