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virginprincess:
Op, i know that money is important in marriage, but it doesn't guarantee a good marriage, i prefer to marry a guy who doesn't have much but will give me peace of mind and treat me like a queen than a billionaire who will treat me like a piece of rag, what guarantees a good marriage is God and peace of mind not money.

god does not guarantee good marriage, I've many pastors that prayed and fasted before getting married divorce.

what guarantees good marriage is two willing people who love each other and really want each other so bad they're ready to sacrifice (not stupidly though).

lol
They could be cool, they could have broken up but everyone has a reason for doing something. it could be for Davido; A son, Chioma; a secure way outta poverty.

but still it's all speculations

Bluezy13:
It is a common saying that God keeps people alive for a purpose nah.
You don't need to test near death to agree.

But on the other hand,
Does it mean that God did not have any purpose for those who died ?? He did not have purpose for you already dead family member ?? Pardon my emotionlessness.
Meaning that when God stops having purpose for anybody, that person dies??

This christianity stuff is really confusing.

To the OP, nobody has experienced death and is still alive. You can only experience death when you are dead.

I was about to say this before seeing your comment

Rosskivvyy:
So why have Boko Haram not reached YOU and bombed you to smithereens??

What's stopping them?

See, they want to convert you to Islam by force. And if you refuse, kill you. That's what they do. So why have they not come to your house and done that? Who is stopping them? This is a really simply question to all of you who dismiss the army as ''useless''.

There are Fulani herdsmen killing and abducting people along Benin-Auchi highway daily.

Same soldiers went to Lekki toll gate to kill innocent unarmed Nigerians protesting for a better country holding the Nigerian flag.


Are these ones protecting me??

p.s BH and ISWAP kill Muslims and burn mosques too.

They're all scams. This year they'll come and repeat that same nonsense again.

This is an old video sef.

Apart from winning parades and harassing civilians on highways those ineffectual buffons can't do nothing.

tobechi74:
Since I gave birth, my husband no longer give me the attention he used to. He spends more time at work. When he finally gets home, he quicky goes to bed to prepare for the next day. We engage in superficial discussion-the bills, our son, the neighbors, the house etc. He rarely comments on my outfit. There are times I would move around naked yet he would not mutter a world. He would be physical present with me yet thinking of his work. Sex was mechanical. He did not care If I cummed.He would sleep off afterwards. I cannot bear the neglect. I have tried to give him subtle hint as a woman. He is unable to interpret my signs. I have come out openly yet he plays it down. I got no choice but to proboki him The other day, I nagged bitterly. He walked out of the house. Every attempt I make shuts him down.I just came back from work and he did not bother to ask how work went. He fixed his eyes on the television screen watching a soccer match. I tried initiating a conversation with him but his eyes are fixed on the screen while giving me monosyllabic reply. I couldn’t take it anymore.

“GBAM”

I hit the television screen with a kitchen pistle until it blacked out. For the first time, he gazed his eyes toward my direction. He rushed me like an angry lion pouncing on its prey . I was unable to count the series of slaps and punches that landed on my face. I passed out and found myself in the hospital. I was bedridden for three days.

I came back home and met a changed man. He apologized for laying his hands on me. I still felt pain from the beating. He served me breakfast in bed. He would call me thrice while at work to know how I was faring. Knowing he was thinking of me while at work made me blush. He reminded me of the days we courted. I felt desired once again. I continued giving him the silent treatment for two weeks. I wanted to enjoy his affection while it lasted. I finally accepted his persistent apology.Our made up sex was fantastic. My satisfaction was his concern. He cuddled me afterwards. I have learnt that damaging what he cherishes most and receiving the beating of my life was the only way to get back the love we once had.It is a matter of time before he begins to ignore me again. Next time, I would break his car windscreen.

when he beats you to death I'll definitely attend your burial and eat rice

5hanklee:
Valenciabaddie is also his alternate account

I thought so too mods should check him out before he scams someone

so accurate

married men cheat too.

it all depends on you and your partner, besides while dating you should know what your partner is capable of doing.

their eye never clear

so these past few days I've seen a few posts from this nairaland account Lovethaa and I just want to say it's a fake account. actually it's a scam account.


fake giveaways
contradicting posts about himself
the recent relationship issue between him and his 'ex' could be fake (I'm investigating it)



p.s RealGBoy is his alter.

Truvel:
I Like Girls Dat Av Brain Or Inteligent D Boobs Or Ass Just Jara.

see my person.

unintelligent girls are a big turn off for me

Nazgul:
I have an uncle like that.

Very wealthy, lives in a duplex, yet his wife is a housewife. She sits at home 24/7 even market, it's the maids that go there. He bought her a Honda crosstour, she doesn't even drive it cos she doesn't leave the house.

I do pity her, cos I see such marriage as slavery. And if she wants to go out she'll call him to take permission, if her reason for leaving the house doesn't sound reasonable to him, he'll disapprove it.

His fear is he doesn't want men to toast her and snatch her away from him. Some me are truly insecure.

why pity her?
she knew how her hubby was before she married him but because of money she stuck on and now she's enjoying what she went for

this is gonna be interesting

lmao, I know what I want to say now will appear harsh but you just gotta face it.

no one made it or failed in life because they had or didn't have a father. it's all delusional, some had father's that abused them so I don't see how that helps anyway.

p.s there's this stupid stereotype that single mothers can't raise great kids and it's all a stupid African myth. if my mom was a single mom I'll still have turned out this good and I know many successful people that were raised by single mothers or fathers e.g world acclaimed neurosurgeon Ben Carson was raised by a single mom.

you just gotta be a man for yourself and do what's right cause you know what's right.

Ihedinobi3:
Bible quizzes were normal to my childhood experience except for one thing. I had and still have a terrible memory, so quizzes that required verbatim recall of Bible passages and specific verses and chapters were almost guaranteed to be failures for me. I can find almost anything in the Bible today, but even now I can rarely remember the exact rendition of any passage or the exact verse where it is. I find things by context and I recall by paraphrasing. Memory is still my weakness.

Also I was never a children's pastor, but I used to lead Bible studies. I was an usher for a little bit too. Where I was most visible was around music -- I used to sing. So, somewhat similar story here.

The difference between me and you, it would seem, is that I persevered in seeking the truth. I never doubted the authenticity and reliability of the Bible nor did I ever find a meaningful reason to even want to. I found fault with every single church I ever attended, with every pastor that I ever tried to submit to, with every teaching ministry I ever came across, with every book/article I ever read, with every televangelist that I ever watched, with even my own interpretations of the Bible, but never with the Bible. I have never had any reason at all to doubt the Bible's reliability, but pursuing understanding in its teachings was a back-breaking task. Because I distrusted even common sense and every other authority in my life, I couldn't make anything of worth out of my life with my considerable talents until I understood what the Bible teaches.

This is not absolutely necessary to everyone's experience. The sacrifices I made and still make are my own path, but everyone is called to patience in following the Lord.

18 Therefore the LORD will wait, that He may be gracious to you;
And therefore He will be exalted, that He may have mercy on you.
For the LORD is a God of justice;
Blessed are all those who wait for Him.
Isaiah 30:18 (NKJV)

Although the Lord is really the one waiting for us, since our hearts are calloused by our love of sin and it generally takes several divine operations to bring us around to readiness to receive His truth, we have to demonstrate our own sense of value for the truth by waiting however long it takes and sacrificing whatever we have to in order to get the truth, if we really want it. We do this very thing with everything that we really want, after all. For all the complaints about anything at all, no one who really wants a PhD in, say, physics, drops out just because it takes so long or because your mates make far more money than you for years after you finish your first degree. If it is that important to you and you think that the payout is both worth it and certain, then you will grit your teeth, do the program, and graduate.

This sense of value for God's Truth is something that I have found missing in atheists and even in many Christians, because very few people are interested in the Cross that Jesus warned everyone who might have a mind to follow Him about.

23 Then He said to them all, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me. 24 For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will save it. 25 For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and is himself destroyed or lost? 26 For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words, of him the Son of Man will be ashamed when He comes in His own glory, and in His Father’s, and of the holy angels.
Luke 9:23-26 (NKJV)

The idea of the Cross touted in Pentecostal circles now is that it is this brief period of material suffering that serves as a prelude to great material wealth. That is sheer madness. The cross of the Christian is a lifelong war against the influence of the ways of this world over him or her and against his or her own desires that oppose God's Truth revealed in the Bible. It is a steadfast rejection of all things that do not submit to God. So, it is hardly brief nor connected to material wealth. This is often the problem. In your case, you just unilaterally reached a verdict on the Bible and closed it so that you could fashion your own way independent of God. Why? Because God did not show up at the time you demanded that He do and because He did not do things the way you thought that He should. But He is God, so why should He come at your beckoning or operate according to your demands?

This then is the difference between me and you: I don't believe that I am God, so I do not have any illusions about my right or ability to command reality, but you do. I am willing to live under the limitations of my circumstances, to accept limitation as a creature made by God, but you are not. Not that I am judging you or anything you've done, I'm just contrasting the definition of a Christian with the definition of an atheist.

Now, with respect to your invitation at the end, I do not decline, but I'll tell you what I've told at least one other atheist: You can't persuade a man with good eyes that the sky is blue. If a seeing man looks at the sky and insists that it is green, you have absolutely no chance of convincing him otherwise. If he does not trust his own eyes, why should he trust you? This is a demonstration of how free will works. If you expect me to give you answers that will persuade or convince you of anything, you will be quite disappointed. We choose what we believe. All of us do. Not that the truth is hard to see for oneself, rather it is because we have the ability to ignore the truth and pretend that it is something that it isn't. If you think I'm selling you a load of hogwash, consider flat-earthers. Have you ever tried to convince a flat-earthers that the earth is really a spherical-ish thing? You'll appreciate what I mean then. If, as far as you are concerned, the Bible is contradictory and incomplete, then nothing I say will make a difference to you. If, on the other hand, you are willing to see if maybe you are wrong about that conclusion, then maybe I can help you. But beware that you can deceive your own self about whether you are willing or not to see such a thing. The heart of man is a very deceitful and desperately wicked thing.

See epistle
I managed to read the first one, but this??

well you got the answers you sort after, you believed the Bible and went to look for proof that it's genuine so definitely that's what you saw. did you bother to check-up how the Bible was compiled??
what about the many many contradictions in the Bible??
why the stories don't add up??


if I have time next year I might write extensively here on this errors in the Bible but for now lemme just say the Bible isn't complete.


funny how jesus changed all old testament laws like the one that said you must not plant two different crops in the same plot, the one that said you must not wear silk and linen together, no need for burnt offerings anymore but monetary offerings and tithes must remain huh

Fuckhypocrite:
That shit dey vex me like wtf

He get one of my neighboor wey dey beat him pregnant gf nt wife oo, make this gyal go her parent house she refused

The thing tire me, no be say the guy get money oo

Almost 4people wey i know wey dey beat dey gf anyhow and the gf refused to japa

Gyals matter strong ooo

exactly my point
like these guys got nothing to offer

those set of girls always put emotions before reason. that's why I like arguing with girls I like before anything, if they tend to answer my hardpill questions sentimentally instead of realistically I just know there's nothing in the brain

dear pinkpill,

you should actually buy him a gift considering the fact that he spends on you and is an alpha simp so he'll definitely get tired of you if he feels his acts (of giving in this instance) are not reciprocated.

p.s when giving him the gift let him know that you bought it from the money he gave you just to appreciate him. buy him a gift that he can always see daily. it'll make him remember you.

Her life, her choices.

it depends all on the 2 people involved, wether or not they live together if the love is opportunistic then who want chop go chop but if they aren't then they can live together.

MEGA4BILLION:
Greed for money and material things

Maybe, this is a plausible reason at least but I've seen where womenncling to broke ass men that beat them all in the name of love.

virginprincess:
Low self esteem.

sorry to say I see it as stupidity.
the girl knows clearly that the guy doesn't like her cause a guy that really loves his woman will never hit her when provoked rather he will leave there and go somewhere else to cool off.

some even cut off people that tell them to leave their boyfriends that beat them claiming that those people are just jealous of them like wtf

I've been wondering all this while why it's hard for ladies to leave relationships where they are being abuse but would hold on even until the point of death

Ihedinobi3:
Hi there.

This is a common claim from atheists, but I've never seen it backed by any actual evidence. Why do you feel so sure that you know the in's and out's of Christianity just because you were one before? Do you understand that Christianity is more than just that Gospel that we hear to become saved?

Many people, the vast majority of Christians in fact, never get beyond that rudimentary level of faith. Very few grow spiritually, much less become spiritually mature, at which point the full outline of biblical teaching has been apprehended by them. Even fewer progress any further to get more and more mature in the truth. The very highest level of Christianity is attaining to ministry, that is, getting to a point where the Christian is able to use their unique spiritual talents -- whatever those may be -- to help their fellow believers to also grow spiritually and fulfill ministry. It is a ridiculous minority that ever gets there. This is not in the least due to the gap between arriving at the threshold of spiritual maturity and becoming worthy of ministry. That gap is the testing phase.

Some people think that the Christian Life is hard because of all the temptations we face, but that is nothing at all compared to the tests of maturity. The tests of maturity are a real challenge. Unless a believer passes them, they never get to ministry. It does not mean that we cannot do some things to help others spiritually: We certainly can, but full-fledged ministry is the spiritual equivalent of finally landing a full-fledged professional career in this world. You simply cannot become a trusted minister in God's house until you have proved your love for the Church by suffering through different sets of difficulties for her. That involves taking pains to prepare oneself too for ministry. For pastor-teachers, that preparation can include studying ancient and church history, learning the languages in which the original manuscripts of the Bible were written, and learning textual criticism. None of this is a small task at all.

Now, if you are an atheist, it is really hard to believe that you took the trouble of seeking out a gifted and prepared pastor-teacher who could teach you everything that the Bible has to teach so that you could grow to spiritual maturity, much less bother to suffer for Christ, to say nothing at all of ministering to fellow believers in deliberately designed ways to help them learn and know the whole Truth of the Bible. If you did any of this, I can't even begin to think how you would be willing to throw all that hard work away. For me, it took all my life to find a pastor-teacher at almost 32. From childhood, I read all manner of literature including the various works of the Jehovah's Witnesses, the Roman Catholic way, the Seventh-Day Adventists, the Pentecostals, even the Reformers, all in a bid to try to understand what I read in the Bible. I destroyed career opportunities I had, sacrificed relationships, lost a huge amount of time pursuing understanding of the Bible. I have absolutely no intention of giving up that understanding now for any reason. It came at too great a cost, and Heaven knows that when it finally came, it was better than the hope I dared to have of it. I'm still working at qualifying for ministry even now. At what point could I possibly just decide to give it all up? What does this world have to offer that could even begin to rival what I have got so far, to say nothing of what more I hope to get? That is why these claims by atheists such as yourself that you know something about Christianity always leaves me mildly amused and significantly confused.

Of course, this is not to say that people who reach a great height in Christianity could never fall away. We could fall even when we are right at the doorstep, but it gets harder and harder to fall away the closer we get to the Lord. That is my point here.

I seriously doubt that you know anything that the Bible teaches. But you certainly should know the Gospel that once saved you, although you don't believe it anymore. Maybe you went far enough to also appreciate some of the more fundamental teachings of the Truth, such as the Trinity, the doctrine of baptisms, etc. I don't know. But it is hard to imagine that you went the whole hog and then realized that it was nothing worth having.

Hello Ihedinobi3,
I read through all you said and I must confess I'm more than impressed. I was baptized in church, was a children teacher (sort of children pastor cause it was one class in a small church), and also an usher. Before then I was a Bible scholar and I'm not bragging there's no Bible quiz I went to and didn't come out top 3. I also in a bid to get answers searched the scriptures cover to cover multiple times but I must say I wasn't impressed. There's a lot of contradictions, unanswered questions and I must say the Bible isn't complete.


I didn't become an atheist in just a day of course, it's a gradual process that even still I'm still open to finding answers to and I don't mind if you can help me

blueAgent:
Ok, but you seems to have grudges against christianity.

not necessarily i was one before so I know it in and out

blueAgent:
But you accepted that you have Ape daddy for ancestors?

lol not all atheists agree to the theory of evolution. it is what it is (a theory).

p.s. I'm sort of agnostic so I don't believe anything just like that.

blueAgent:
But you accepted that you have Ape daddy for ancestors?

lol not all atheists agree to the theory of evolution. it is what it is (a theory).

p.s. I'm sort of agnostic so I don't believe anything just like that.

blueAgent:
I guess you are an Athiest, the most confused and naive people on planet earth.

Cause I refused to accept the existence of sky daddy??

watch them fill here with rubbish but no logical answer

gideonjeta:
Jesus Christ did not get married. The Bible makes clear that Jesus was not married, even though it does not specifically comment on his marital status.
Consider the following.

The Bible frequently refers to Jesus’ family as well as to women who accompanied him during his ministry and who stood by him when he was executed, yet it never mentions his having a wife. (Matthew 12:46, 47; Mark 3:​31, 32; 15:40; Luke 8:​2, 3, 19, 20; John 19:25) The most plausible reason why the Bible is silent on this matter is that he was never married.

Concerning those who remain unmarried so that they can do more in God’s service, Jesus told his disciples: “Let the one who can make room for it [singleness] make room for it.” (Matthew 19:10-​12) He set the pattern for those who choose not to marry in order to devote themselves more fully to God.​—John 13:15; 1 Corinthians 7:​32-​38.

Just before he died, Jesus arranged for the care of his mother. (John 19:25-​27) If Jesus had been married or had fathered children, he would have made sure that such close family members were provided for as well.

The Bible uses Jesus as an example for husbands, but it does not refer to the way he treated a human wife. Instead, it says: “Husbands, continue loving your wives, just as the Christ also loved the congregation and gave himself up for it.” (Ephesians 5:​25) If Jesus had actually been married while on earth, would not his perfect example as a literal husband have been used in that verse?

This is one of the few times I've heard a religious person say something intelligible.

You Sir, have cleared the air brilliantly.