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She wasn't, only that you were not observant enough.


Nobody can effectively hide his or her character if you are a good observant, many guys also hide their characters which often made the partner not exhibit hers too.

Meanwhile, ur excuse and allegation are flimsy, you need not inform your wife if truly you want to do charity.

Try to work on ur behavior to make ur marriage work.

selfdefence:
Na wa, see beautiful ladies o, what crime could they have committed to find themselves here?

Very sure just like chidinma, 75% are there becos of relationship/dating/marriage issues

Most especially beautiful ones among them.

lecturer50:
Another thing that is surprising is that most men don't help a fellow man but would rather help women.

But when they have problem, it is a man they would run to for help.

Most men would not go to a woman to get help but they would rather seek help from a man.

But these are the people who like helping only women.

So if they have a need, why not go to women to seek help since it is only women you help?

Why go to a man?


If you are a man, and you help only women, why do you think another man should help you when you don't normally help a man?


I mean, it's very ironical.


Most males believe it is not proper for men to ask help from women.


They equally believe that as a man, they should help only women.


But when they have problem, they still expect a fellow man to help them.


Is it not totally ironical that you don't help another man but you expect another man to help you?


If you believe you must only help a woman, why not seek help from a woman when you also have problem?

I don't understand the irony that characterizes the life of men.

You talked, you also countered urself. From very beginning. You said man don't use to help fellow man and you now concluded that, "when men help women and they themselves need helps they rush to fellow man, ..........which mean, at the end, man is still the major helpers to fellow man".


Meanwhile, let me correct certain misgiving that people have on assistance most especially guys.

...thre are certain things that you are doing solely to get instant or greater accomplishments" in future, such things don't fall under rendering help or assistance.

Eg, 1.somebody serving you in other for you to give him big money to establish in future.

2.You voted for particular person because you collected money from him, yet claiming you do him good.

3.You pay lecturer transport fare in anticipation to give u pass mark in exam you know you will fail.

.....4. YOU DO GOOD FOR FEMALES BECAUSE YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HER....

you see, many of helps that you think men do for women fall on this category and on many occasions its not "lasting legacy assistant", ....after getting to the pant, the help normally seize to flow. As a result of that, such not really assistance per say!

lecturer50:
I had a misunderstanding with some motor park agberos and they gang up to beat me up.

Nobody cared to try and save me from them.

After I managed to escape, some people started blaming the agberos for "fighting with me".

I was wondering how people could call that "fighting" when I was not fighting them, but they were the ones who assaulted and beat me up.

Prior to this, a lady went to fight with one boy. She was even the one who was beating the boy while the boy was trying to cover herself from the blows.


Before you know it, many men around joined to beat up the boy. They accused the boy of beating the lady even when it was clear the lady was the one who beat the boy while he was covering himself and trying to escape.


What I observe is that even if it is a female who is assaulting a male, people tend to say it is the male who is the culprit and they'll be supporting the lady.

If a male is being assaulted by another male or males, people would say they are fighting, so that they won't feel the need to save the victim from his tormentors.

All these is done because men don't want to help a fellow man.

Because they beat you and nobody intervened, you now generalized that men don't help men.


......for me, I assist human beings irrespective of gender/religion/tribe/race even color equally. I do it according to how spirit led, my pocket and situations at that particular time.

MYHUBBY:
you and that Chipink are always quick to just badmouth Yoruba whereas MNK that's using the little virgins left in your region for fortification is still worshipped in southeast



how brainlesss can you people not be, since if you Imbeciles didn't mention Yoruba your fellow dead brain in your failed rising sun will not like your imbecilic post



bunch of iidiots in majority

Reluctant to answer fools, so that people won't see you as a fool.

Learn how not to give attentions to inferior people, 2nd class citizens, not easy for region to be enslaved in her own territory nah. Another 8yrs of presidency around the corner and we know 2nd class materials will not smell it.

When a father refused to act like leader of a family, his wife and children would be controlled by different people around the street.

Hope you knw Tinubu, Osibanjo and Atiku among others fall to this category as well?

Kwestionair:
Story. I will remind you of this post in few months

And if it goes against ur taught?


I watched that program live, how seun was interviewing him, his body language contenance and several of such interviews with different politicians on channel TV

Llight101:
Hahahahaha.... It's like you're new to Nigerian politics, at the end of the day he will be like, Buhari convinced me to contest

Oga, Elrufai has been schemed out.

Elrufai not going for president or VP.

If truly u understand how politics is going ooooo.

Elrufai had influence in the first , three year of buhari, the influence shrink over the year most especially when kyari left the stage. He too is almost onlooker.

Cyntie55:
We have been dating for 5 years now (we met in our final year at uniben). I copied with him for years and he's not stupid enough to start sending our kids to buy cigarettes for him if eventually we get married.

He smokes if he hang out with his friends, he can never smoke in his house, I visit him often and his house is always neat, there's no sign of cigarettes pack, odor or ashes.

Please don't get me wrong, I'm not in support of his red flags, like I stated earlier I always advice him to stop smoking.

He respect me, he don't beat me, he's transparent with me he don't cheat on me. By the special Grace of God we'll get married by next year.

I can't cope with a woman beater or a cheating guy. Never!!

Mind you, my boyfriend is just like every other average Nigerian who is working and hustling legally to earn a living, he's not broke neither is he rich, he's just on an average.

I biliv u read where I said............if you don't see it as big deal you are free to roll on....... you are the one who wants to leave with him and not me, ........... I can perceive ur emotions for the question I asked, hope you can cope ooooo if........

This is enough to establish the situation if he eventually smoking at home and send his kids to buy it for him.

He would be leader of the family and father of his kid in future, if he chooses to send him/her......

DMerciful:
What makes you think Bubu will not convince him? He is speaking from both sides of his mouth by saying he will not contest yhen saying he will contest if Bubu convinced him

What makes u think bubu will convince him to vote?

Cyntie55:
Flaws and red flags mostly have same definition. If you end that lying or cheating relationship of yours, how are you sure you're going to see someone better. Mind you I'm not in support of a cheating or lying partner.

Let me tell you a little bit about my relationship. My Partner smokes like he's in a competition with a car exhaust, although I'm not happy and I do advice him but then that does not mean I should end the relationship.

I don't know if my next relationship might be worse, probably the next guy could be a chronic cheater, drug addict or woman beater.

So my dear, I just have to manage and endure with him.

Hope you can cope with odor of cigarette in his mouth and in the house and how will you cope in future if he is sending ur daughter/son to buy cigarette for him and eventually your son starts smoking? You think deeply, if you don't see them as big deal, u re free to roll on.

I will also ask you, if you are not sticked with him mainly because on his money ,fame or handsomeness?

Francisanointed:
Pardon my grammatical errors
A lot of people who regretted getting married to their spouse can attest to the fact that they saw the "red flags" but they insist on continuing the relationship and getting married.
Why do people do this ? Married men/women, single ladies/guys,what make/made you to think of marriage even after the red flags
A girl continues a relationship or marry a guy that beats her often,cheats on her unrepentantly,abuse her and disrespects her.
A guy continues a relationship where he sees the girl cheats,lies and disrespect him. Sometimes you know there are things you can't naturally tolerate but you tolerate them in relationship and eventually when you get married,you want those things you tolerated in your marriage to stop. That is impossible!
I know you can't marry someone that is 80 percent a version of you. But you must know what you can cope with

Why do people get married with someone they saw "red flags" ?

From female perceptive, they carried away by money ,gifts , handsomeness and pressure.

From male perceptive, they Carried away by sex and ass.

After marriage and perhaps children, eyes will now open wide.

iKON11:
I'm 31 and my friend is 34 years. Lately we've been having some issues over the above topic.
I don't know why but he takes so much pleasure in sleeping with girls he's far older than. Like 18, 19 years old girls (very tender girls).
Anytime I complain about this, it becomes an issue. He even think I'm jealous of him, in fact he told me today to stop been jealous but frankly I feel very embarrassed anytime he brings such girls to our gathering.
We are new in this area but people have already taken notice of this and its even rubbing off on me now.
The funny thing is he doesn't even feel any shame or remorse about this.

And you think u re not be jealous? Did teenage girls complain to you??

The last time I checked, 18yrs old girl is mature and free to date/marry whoever she wishes.

Kwestionair:
Story. I will remind you of this post in few months

I will also remember you, its less than three months.

Compare how osinbajo is replying and how rufai replied.

Odidigboigbo:
Are you a learner or just new in Nigeria politics, so you want him to come and tell you that he is scheming to be VP? They don't contest the position of VP in Party primaries you only scheme yourself to be appointed by the eventual winner of the primary, hence the diniar. Telling you that Buhari is the only person that can convinced him means he has a hidden agenda. Our politicians are known to denounce contesting elective position, when they eventually came out against their previous statement, they will tell you that it was their constituentcy that persuade them to come out again.

You guys think of negative always, anyway I don't blame you but those in govt over the year.

Elrufai going nowhere as far as presidency is concerned, he himself know is not fitted to that permutation and no longer in the main corridor of power as it used to be.


Even if he doesn't say it on channel, a real follower of Nigerian politic would have known that el rufai had been dropped among cabal more that 2 years ago, he too is seen it from distance now.

Jonah2022:
https://thetrumpetng.com/el-rufai-the-self-appointed-spokesman-could-sell-the-north-and-apc-for-his-vp-ambition/

Trash, he himself said it categorically that he is not contesting for president or VP, in fact , not contesting for senate as usual for all other retiring Governors.

He buttressed his claim by saying only Buhari can convinced him, .........this means almost impossible for him to contest.

No politician with such magnitude ambition will deny such openly on international television at this time .

You guys should compare how osinbanjo used to reply with how rufai replied,
Body language of a man is very important in decoding his inner taught jare

Spandau:
Go go punish whoever transfer data to you.

Attend school you say no.


Read your post and give it to any secondary student to correct it for you.

Elvictor:
According to Nairaland Nato Lapdogs and US controlled zombies, that Ukraine is winning.

Ukriane is winning, why is Sweden scared?

Russia isn't a paper tiger world power, it position in world power must be maintained, no thinking man should root for blue eyes and blonde heirs to wield absolute power.

Imagine a world ruled by US and it elites unopposed, that they can wake up and destroy any opposition, we don't want the world.

That in the name of civilization a country will be bullied to accept what it doesn't want, remember what Obama did to Nigeria because GEJ refused adopting LBQT thrash.

Imagine a world that NATO do the talk, and walk the talk, till today, Nigeria is still a slave to England, we can't even make decisions on our own.

What have they so called West done for us? After colonizing us, and roping us in a confuse marriage, nothing, they can't even give our military weapons that cab get rid of Boko Haram, but were readily vibrating like nokia to send those sophisticated weapons to Ukraine that have been rounded by Russian forces.

Why do I support Russia?

I support Russia because, Russia fought two world wars, I and II, and she didn't invade Africa to colonize us, neither did they impoverish us, or meddle with our electoral system, to install their puppets, Russia didn't come to Africa and tell us what to do, or decide the fate of the Africa race.

I support Russia, because absolute power corrupt, imagine a world without someone to stand up to US and it gay rights activist, guess what, your a** will be reaped and nothing will happen.

I support Russia, because she is a mother that cares about Humanity more than anybody, if Russia didn't end the world war 1 and 2, we would have been in a serious trouble.

Us won't teach me what humanity is, when they were the first people to deploy nuclear war head into Hiroshima and wiped an entire state, in a conventional war.

Someone is bragging that Russia failed in it invasion in Afghanistan, I read about it, and I find out something worth mentioning, an excerpt "As midnight approached, the Soviets organized a massive military airlift into Kabul, involving an estimated 280 transport aircraft and three divisions of almost 8,500 men each. Within a few days, the Soviets had secured Kabul, deploying a special assault unit against Tajberg Palace. Elements of the Afghan army loyal to Hafizullah Amin put up a fierce, but brief resistance.

On December 27, Babrak Karmal, exiled leader of the Parcham faction of the Marxist People’s Democratic Party of Afghanistan (PDPA), was installed as Afghanistan’s new head of government, and Soviet ground forces entered Afghanistan from the north." Many people said Russia failed in it invasion in Afghanistan, and said America succeeded, just read this excerpt, you will realize those who support NATO against Russia are not intelligent, and every curses they claim to be sending, will be on themselves.

God Bless Mother Russia.

God Bless Putin, the anointed Bear that will salvage the world from evil scheming blue eyes and blonde hair, with pale face.


Hope you are on ground to bring him down, because those you are banking on, have told you, they won't involve themselves.

If you are updating urself on daily basis, you would know that Russian is going down but since you only update by street talks from local gin drinkers ,thre is high tendency for you not to be updated in real term and from unbiased angle.

.......... Putin released statement.

........... Kremlin released statement

.............Russian central bank released statement.

Endeavor to read them.

Elvictor:
According to Nairaland Nato Lapdogs and US controlled zombies, that Ukraine is winning.

Ukriane is winning, why is Sweden scared?

Russia isn't a paper tiger world power, it position in world power must be maintained, no thinking man should root for blue eyes and blonde heirs to wield absolute power.

Imagine a world ruled by US and it elites unopposed, that they can wake up and destroy any opposition, we don't want the world.

That in the name of civilization a country will be bullied to accept what it doesn't want, remember what Obama did to Nigeria because GEJ refused adopting LBQT thrash.

Imagine a world that NATO do the talk, and walk the talk, till today, Nigeria is still a slave to England, we can't even make decisions on our own.

What have they so called West done for us? After colonizing us, and roping us in a confuse marriage, nothing, they can't even give our military weapons that cab get rid of Boko Haram, but were readily vibrating like nokia to send those sophisticated weapons to Ukraine that have been rounded by Russian forces.

Why do I support Russia?

I support Russia because, Russia fought two world wars, I and II, and she didn't invade Africa to colonize us, neither did they impoverish us, or meddle with our electoral system, to install their puppets, Russia didn't come to Africa and tell us what to do, or decide the fate of the Africa race.

I support Russia, because absolute power corrupt, imagine a world without someone to stand up to US and it gay rights activist, guess what, your a** will be reaped and nothing will happen.

I support Russia, because she is a mother that cares about Humanity more than anybody, if Russia didn't end the world war 1 and 2, we would have been in a serious trouble.

Us won't teach me what humanity is, when they were the first people to deploy nuclear war head into Hiroshima and wiped an entire state, in a conventional war.

Someone is bragging that Russia failed in it invasion in Afghanistan, I read about it, and I find out something worth mentioning

But very unfortunate, despite ur support , Putin is going down.

Sorry ehn.

Viktorkrum321:
this is bullshit
naija has been battling boko haram and bandits for a long time now
yet we cant get this kinda help
thousands of innocent lives are wasted by bandits and boko every day yet ...
smh

They send you?

Ur children no see food eat, you dey blame someone father.

Putin's brain will reset in due course.


..........Yoruba adage says a child that had not been into another farm,would say no farm is bigger than my father's farm.

.........Putin looked at his arsenal, believing nobody can match him, doing gragra as if he himself is immune to nuclear destruction.

But they say u have apaji" nah. They say when they kill you, you resurrect and continue ur fight, that no gun and bomb can kill you, that you appear and disappear.



..............few weeks in cell had reset werey brain to normal.

Meninmen:
I just pity the common man in Russia. The effect of these sanctions will become increasingly more biting for the common man in Russia as time goes by.

Some clowns said China will help Russia overcome the effect of the santions . They have turned a once great nation that once competed with the US to a China puppet that needs to survive off China.

Let's see how China will help them

Those that dreaming that China will help them, don't know how typical Chinese man thinks and behaves, unlike USA who does father Christmas, China will never part with their hard earned resources unless you sweat for it.

If you want to knw how China behaves, just study a Chinese man in ur area who owns company and study how he uses his employees.

dre11:
SOURCE

If its true that he deteriorating heath, he supposed to have retired to take care of his health, but trust naija ,they sit tight and prefer to die in the office

Jakiblend:
My dear am a woman,

But I fear my gender, am not trying to generalize. Not every woman is wayward. You see r lady's now a days, I bow for some of them.
Bros no gree that statement o, "his just a friend or his my bestie" .
That nigga dey push, or you think dey nigga is just showing up for nothing. One day na one day she go open for the nigga.

Thank God you are living in a world of reality rather than that girl hiding under one finger.

Arguing obvious, as if we are not in same naija with her

Datboredberry:
This is stupid... I'm friends with my exes... Doesn't mean I like them... God forbid....

We're not all miserable losers holding a grudge...

Many men aren't mature... Imagine being insecure cause your girl don't hate her ex...

Hate? Capital No! But be close friend with him, it absolutely bullshit. It woman rapper will allow you to do that or better practising polyandry.

hussey1149:
Getting married to a good man is very good.
We share everything together happiness joy pain secrets etc. But things keep getting worse by day it's getting to the point where am breaking down myself I feel his pain I supported him that is why I share his problem I find solutions on my own I hide all my pains just to comfort him and stop him from losing his mind and doing something we will forever regret but I can't bear it anymore what do I do?
We are losing our home because of 20k.

We planned business like POS business for him.
And a hair saloon for me but we were unable to start the business because of money what else can we do?

I think some people here say jobless man can go for marriage.

Marriage takes whole lot of responsibilities, therefore marriage meant for guy (most especially), who is working and having income, thou its also good for lady to have income as well o.

If you don't sort that aspect out first before venturing into marriage, this is one of outcomes of such marriage.

No matter how you love ur man, if he is not bringing money home to power such marriage , the marriage will become toxic jare

Rubyjade:
Love has been compromised.

I've come across so many men who said they want an independent modernised working class lady,who would help with bills ( Good decision though)...

I know of a girl who was a cleaner in one of the banks,any guy she tells is was a cleaner will not find her good enough for marriage, just for friendship... And she wasn't getting younger,
She changed strategy and started by wearing nice dress to work, taking pictures in various seats and tables in the banking hall, tells any man that cares to know she's a banker, less than 2 months a man started talking marriage to her, told her how he prayed and God told him she was his wife,
3months later they got married,
Problem started, When the husband found out the woman he married is a cleaner... Babe has gotten the Mrs she craves for...
That's all that matters to her...

A guy once approached me here in 2014 asked if I'm a working class Lady,
I told him I'm a student, today he is married to a banker..

You see....
Many women have been rejected due to their poor back ground,educational level, their class in the society,
The jobs they do,
When they run out of patience and start living a fake life out of frustration because they're scared they will never get a man to wife them as marriage is very important to them,

A Cunny man die, a cunny woman will bury him..
If a woman doesn't raise her standards, these end time men won't find her useful in marriage....

Marriage has been compromised, many don't marry for love, rather for benefits,
That's why a man will say, he wants to marry a nurse,a banker an accountant,
Without minding if he is compatible with the woman or he just getting married to the title (nurse).
Some are in unhappy marriages because they married because of this same requirements..
This issue is not attributed to the men only, women do it too...

No love anywhere in the society..
And I'm not surprised at the rate of divorce..

As you advise ladies to stop living a fake life also encourage the men to accept women for who they really are and not what they're bringing to the(table) marriage.

When you see a woman doing the little she can to earn, that alone should tell you she's hardworking,
Not when she's doing a professional work you can only classify her as a working class lady.

In as much it is very bad to live a fake life..
Part of the blame should Go to the men.
Fake people attracts their likes.

In the End of it all...
Love has been compromised...

I come in peace..
Happy weekend

With your narration and ways of reasoning, I can see why marriages are having issues, but you guys will blame marriage institution instead of actors.


Meanwhile, the last time I checked, I knew several ladies that totally jobless and in which someone's son had walked them down the isle, why several bankers ladies in particular (and other good paying jobs) are still roaming about in the wilderness of singleness.

In as much that being working raise the bar, telling lies to get married is totally dangerous most especially from women's angle.

To me, its even an insult, "toasting " my daughter in my present and in present of my church members without prior information.

qekng40:
But no southwest in this equation...
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What happens to Osinbajo ?

In fact, it beats my imagination how you people react to an issue like complete nonentity, why can't you give ur phone for ur neighbor to careful read and interpret the post for you in your dialect.

Tactically to dodge hammer of judiciary