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Good day fam.pls I need an advise on this.
I met this guy a month ago,he asked me if I was in a relationship I told I was not which was true.so he told me about the girl he currently in a relationship with for 5years that the girl cheated on him that they have been on the issue for a long time that he want to break up with her but he don't know how to because he has invested a lot on her. I told him he has the choice to make. Some days after we met he told me that the girl told him she was coming to see him she lives in a different state but I and him live in the same state. She spent four days before going that they didn't even have sex that they where still on the issue. I notice something about him that he is always jealous when he sees me with another guy, before then he told me he don't want us to attach emotion and I should not fall in love with him yet that either me or him will get hurt. I ask him why he said because he don't want to have another heart break. So I told him we can't be having sex and been romantic with eachother to avoid such he was not happy with me saying we will not have sex or doing romantic stuff. So I ask him what did he want from me. He said he likes me that he really likes me. But I said you have not break up with your cheating girlfriend and you are jealous if you see me with another guy I don't understand anymore. And I told him that we need to stop seeing eachother. He then say is was because I want to start considering another guy and which is wrong I am just trying to avoid regret. And if I want to cut off from him he keeps trying for me not to separate with him by trying to make me reason with him. I don't know what is his problem I ask and talk maturely with him what he wants from me. I don't understand him if he can't we can't date or something why don't he want to leave me alone. I have asked him to reconcile with his girlfriend. I don't just know what to do.

Pls no insult mature mind what should I do about this pls I need advice. Should I separate and forget about him or I should just play along? Thanks.

Opposite sex can never be close friends you said no. You guys want to proof obvious wrong ,this is just one of outcomes.


Closeness of two opposite sex that are not bloodly related often metamorphosis to love, either from one or both ends, and this has little or nothing to do with marital, educational , even spiritual status of any of them.

If you dnt apply break immediately, before you open eyes, you too will enmesh in love affair that would soon or later become toxic, just like the guy you mentioned and his so-called girlfriend is experiencing now.


Ask urself why brother and sister of same parents hardly be bestie to each other?

Before you take any action against government, think properly the "backfired effects," so many hoodlums and touts are out there to hijack your actions to benefit themselves.

Fairmedia:
Mad animals, so why are the Pastors preaching, they should save themselves first. Dumb educated fool...your type is the reason for all these religious hypocrisy in Nigeria that is making a lot turn to idiots and weak. No heaven for a hypocrite.

crazy kids, why people not obeying God and stop fornicating with pastors, why greedy people looking for miracles here and thr?

Is it an abomination if you go to paradise and leave pastor to perish?


Dnt u know how to read ur bible directly without pastors preaching to u?

Must u open ur leg for pastors wen he asks u out


Wen will u blame ur own very self for various sins u re commiting?

Hope you will tell us who bankroll ur protest? Tinubu? Amechi? Atiku, Umahi? Pls be bold enough to say it openly.

BigRocky:
An innocent man would clear his name again and again and again.
Period.

Coward will die many times before he eventually dies. It's a innocent foolish that will clear every insult throw at him by all and sundry.


Learn how not to base ur judgement emotions, sentiments and hearsay.

BigRocky:
Oga if u are really innocent,sue soyinka and let him bring evidence.

No dey cap like lost sheep abeg

#2B court awarded in favor of him in previous judgement, wen are you paying it?

Will you bankroll him to offset the bill that he would incur in pursuing the case? The case that if he wins again, you won't pay damages.

Akwamkpuruamu:
Sit at home, I doubt can be stopped until MNK is released. Even the church so called service was scanty!

If you want to solve a problem, go to its roots. Cutting the leaves is a waste of time. Release MNK, conduct a referendum or restructure Nigeria back to the three or six rregions, with a very weak centre. Simple as ABC

Even after Kanu release, it may not stop or takes months if not years to stop

.......we only know the day war starts and not the exact day it will end........

Even ipob is regretting the action now. Hoodlums and touts are everywhere to hijack whatever actions you want to take against government, think of it critically before you roll it out.

Fairmedia:
Shut up, then the pastors should be arrested for fraud and deceit of the congregation...it's like a breach of contract. Stop comparing someone that calls himself Pastor, earns tithes and offerings as a result of this claim, while all along he is a lowlife con-man, to ordinary Nigerians being deceived. You are a big hypocrite or very stupid to compare people calling themselves pastors to ordinary Nigerians.

U re foolish and u would destroy if u think think u can do anyhow but only want pastors alone to be clean.

Remove the log in ur eye before anybody including pastors

Origin:
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Because the cheating husband, his friends family and passersby will beg the wife to stay....

Ah there is no perfect husband anywhere...

Ah think of your children,,,,,,

Ah don't let this marriage spoil.....

Ah it is the devil and the many girls that do not want you to have a happy home...


But let the wife cheat they become speechless!!!!!No defence. Ah abomination *they spit*

Forgetting that God no de look face or gender when it is time to serve rewards.

Even you female, if the wife of ur son cheated you will flare up and threatening the woman.

Something that's cultural is cultural, no education or mordernasation can remove it.

The same way some frustrated guys will cry from now till eternity, it won't not stop men from spending for women. (Reason. It's cultural)

Antimarraige:
95% of our ladies above 50 will fall for at least 5-10 pastors gimmick and end up on the dïck in their lifetime... you see there are many things going on behind you that you don't know, so many fücks going on out there

But for you, you free to bang any woman abi? Infact, going to brothels at will since you are not part of those that are going to paradise?

Perhaps, only pastors that are going to heaven in ur own bible.

Heaven or no heaven, it's duty of everyone to be moral ok. Let it starts from u sir.

Generalwoodz:
. Lol. You ignited the hot flames in her and cowardly ran away. You wouldn't help relieve 6 solid years of build up longings, passion and tender wants, why go ahead to give her such advise?

That's the Hallmark of playing with her emotions, awakening the almost dead desires in her and strucking the dusty chord of her clitoris.

Every words you utter are lethal weapons, be very careful how you use them mate... In your case, the words were seeds. You planted it.

And you think he ignited it? Or she wanted him to chop his own, wife don turn to shareful giver, who now gives it freely for who is bold enough.

Beress:
Request for the redesignation of my appointment to an administrative staff

Request for the redesignation of my appointment as an administrative staff

Request for the redesignation of my appointment to administrative staff

Request for the redesignation of my appointment as administrative staff


Pls which is the best to use among all these. It's meant to be the title of an official letter I want to write. I want to change from clerical staff to administrative staff.

I will appreciate your response


MODIFIED

Having listened to some grammarians here, I now have two options:

Request for Redesignation to Administrative Staff

OR

Request for Redesignation as Administrative Staff

Pls which is the most appropriate

In ur modification, A is the correct answer.

abayormie00:
The main reason most students don't like school or anything that has to do with academics, is because, students seem not to have a pleasant experience of it from childhood, as a result of the behaviour of despite parents, who always try to force things into their child's head, even at pre developmental stage, when their brains hasn't yet developed to accommodate such school work.

However, it is crucial for parents to educate themselves on a proper age that is required and appropriate to enroll a child to school.

Finally, some parents should take it easy on children that seem not to respond to school work, because, the fact that a child doesn't seem to understand at infancy, won't make the child worse-off at latter stage of development, because, learning is a long life thing, and every learner should be given the opportunity to learn at their own pace.

By Abayomi.

In England all the schools, private and public stick for age standard before they enroll, I remember the son of my sister in law that went to England few years back.

Despite that he started schooling here already, they refused to admit him there until he reached age 5/6 then not specific again.


In naija everything goes.

saphiere:
I fear men o.

Run away from man o, l mean all men, make sure you start from ur dad, next ur blood brothers, even wen u born male child endeavor not to bring him back home, ok

texazzpete:
What you consider 'waste of money' is someone else preferred channel.

Those are relatively cheap to license.

If that is the case, they should give individual chance to select prefer channels and pay accordingly

kingsways:
The Senate is stewpid I'm sorry to say

With the value of the Naira crashing, cost of power and fuel going up, you cannot ask a business not to increase prices

It seems to me this Senate has completely lost focus.

They should have focused their energy on how to ensure lives and properties of Nigerians are secured rather than waste valuable time on DSTV prices

50-75% of the channels are just total waste of resources, they can cut down of such useless channel to cushion inflation effects

It pays lady than guy ,guy won't be able to bring other girls while lady can sneak out do whatever she wants.

Just like my guy that dated one girl in same house those days.

My handsome guy that every lady wanted to date couldn't bring any lady home again, meanwhile ,the girl claiming innocenti" at home but did sneak outside to ride different dicks outside, until the day I caught her in the room where they use to bang her, the room belonged to friend of my friend, she didn't believe I could know someone in that house.

siofra:
I just say make I tell una.

Never leave a good woman because she mistakenly slept with another man Thank you

Can good woman mistakenly sleep with another man?

HeeBraHim2:

What are you talking about something you don't know, how can jump into these foolish conclusion.

In islam, fasting during ramadan is a must.

And if adrehent (faithful) chooses not to fast?


That's what they told and u refused to do findings yourself, so many things you heard from those people are not exactly of how it's.

You may accept you may reject but truth stand tall.

I repeat, fasting is mainly to seek favor and answer prayer and nothing more.


People like you can kill if you notice any faithful that not fasting during Ramadan

Fasting not compulsory for anybody, it's pure personal and to get favor or answer prayers.

Essence of fasting is just for to be more serious and holier which makes u to clean more than ordinary days when requesting certain things from almighty Allah.


Some kill neighbors because they are eating during Ramadan, they are one of religion's followers (Islam, Christian and others) who dnt really know reasons they accepted and follow faiths.

Many will end up in hell fire ignorantly base on what they subjected them to by their religions leaders.

gidgiddy:
Do you have any proof that IPOB killed Dr Akunyili or is it "operation blame IPOB for everything"

Infact, it's not ipob that declared Monday sit at home ok.

CSTRR:
Nigeria is a crime scene.

The Court has already released this girl for heaven's sake.

They are treating her like she is the source of Nigeria's problem.

Useless people.

Court released her for terrorism, did u know if she is being detained for financial offences?

Or court released her for all forms of offences

gidgiddy:
They used her to spy what? Do you think there anything this young girl can see that anybody else wont see?

" I don hear oooooo"

First of first, as urself what Buhari is competing with this little girl? If u can convince urself that it's absolutely nothing, I think it's time to think otherwise ok.


Try not put emotional sentiment on everything, before this little girl can be arrested and rearrested, she big big case to answer.

Dr Akinyuli was sent to early grave no thanks to handwork of ipob which the girl is allegedly be an agent for them, what millions of naira loosing every Monday?


Is it not same naija that 13, 14,15 yrs lads are cutting heads for rituals?

lilvicky68:
You better stop checking your husband's phone unless you want to lose weight.

But if it's man that give this type of same treatment from his wife?

U guys redillers will know importance of women by fire by force

perambulator:
you are very daft if that is the conclusion you reached. Read my post again and tell me how you came to that conclusion. Again you highlight the problem with many Nigerians, a lack of English comprehension.

If u re not foolish, you would have given Logical solution to the problem op posted, endeavor to read all the posts and compare them with ur own stupid advice.


Someone said he is loosing opportunities, dementia is saying he shouldn't worry about his problem.

perambulator:
Chinese is the official language in China, English is the official language in Nigeria. Dont use another person's yardstick to measure your life!

Op said he is loosing several opportunities, you are discouraging him, is he in China? Even in China one must able to speak Chinese language, her lingual franca, if not he/she would loose opportunities as well

qekng40:
Read books, watch movies (not Nigerian) , and self train.

All those won't work effectively, he knows how to write good English already.

Only and only solution is to force himself to speak it always, from there, his spoken of English will improve.

seyigiggle:
i disagree.

the major setback is states setting up monitoring/enforcement agencies

states have their own traffic law enforcement agencies, are they effective or not?

the governors should stop playing politics with the issue.

And u think traffic law enforcing agencies (officers) effective? Capital No, infact not effect up to 50%. (Abba kyari a case study)

No single entity that is working in Nigeria system.

Go to ordinary Benin republic and see things, u can also compare it with ur own system.

Police are number one law enforcing officers in the country, but police are not on their side, since oga at the top not surporting.

Even laws that federal government passed, how many police enforce ? And the one that police try to enforce? Political leaders and well to do in the society will frustrate them and circle continue.

That's how naija degenerated to jungle and become banana republic.

jesmond3945:
are you married?

By God grace for several years and right from the time of our courtship, I had all passwords of anything that my wife operate, not only social media, but also her different accounts she operates in the banks

jesmond3945:
if you are married, you would know the issue of talking to ex especially newly wed couples is very rampant. The fire brigade approach you are proposing will only drive her further to the ex but adopting an aloof approach coupled with greater family responsibilities on her part will quench the fire.

First,if she couldn't stop chatting with ex , I will not even wait to drive her further to ex, I will send her parking before it got to that length.


Meanwhile, u talked about newly married still charting with exes, I want to ask you , what happens to period of courtship?, that's period in which such passion would have been killed, after all, if she's unable to quench passion for her ex, it would have been better for her to marry such ex, either as first wife or as a polygamous.