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Hmm where do I start from?

I just posted a thread on nairaland yesterday about the deep truth of marrying ladies or men in their 30's.

https://www.nairaland.com/5542927/dark-truth-couples-above-30s

I received backlashes which I expected because the truth is always bitter.

And although they have been married for years, it still prove my points. They claimed are case to be psychological. Hmm.
So all those honey phase years, she didn't have or exhibit such altitudes?

This case still makes my point valued. Most people above 30 both men and women are damaged, some how or the other.

That is why marriage is never an option. It is a pure scam. It always end up terrible over the years. Either physical, mental, emotional or financial damage always occur. Most married people dont talk about it. It is now a survival phase and codependance case. They believe they can sort it out or heal one another. Hmm greatest error. Staying in a messed up marriage with a psychological demented partner.

End result is the above case. Hmm

But if you feel you really want to marry. Marry between. 18-25 yrs. But at the end you might still end up experiencing some troubles.

Qoute me at your demise. Move to the next comment jeje

SBL28:
Then speak for your friends and people around you, stop generalising.

Ok Madam righteous and virtuous . Thanks my attention for you too is over.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. The joke is on you bro .I'm already married with two kids.Once again. Congrats on your award.

That even makes it worst for you. But who am I to help you. When it hits you aaa. I hope you won't come and rants like older men here do on nairaland.

Well we will gladly comment, accept and welcome you back sha

MrHistorian:
I'm copying this and archiving it somewhere.

Am I permitted Fisher007?

Yes Sir, you are free to do that

Designerdollars:
bro don't reply that fool abeg , he will learn later on, give him time

Time will definetly tell.

sainttwist1:
most people will not be happy with you bro......

I am aware Oga. But at times you have to cut the disney world fantasies and bring brothers and sisters to the deep reality. The true deep ones no one wants to talk about.

SBL28:
What a load of crap. I can't believe someone took time to write this nonsense.

Aunty lets be logical and not emotional. You want to tell me you didn't have female or male friends that exhibited any or most of the above point in that write up. Haba

Be truthful to yourself at times. For me I had friends who did and would not lie. But that won't make me biased when valued points are stated.

Simple.

Fountainofyouth:
Even an idiot knows you're too stupid to put MOST at first.

Ok I have heard you. My attention for you and your senseless comments end here.

blueflower:
Are you married


If you are not...
Don't make silly conclusions like your write up above

Marriage is more that at that you wrote up there.
Marriage is a different world on it own.

Hmm some are already in inside life going to deeper life.

You feel I shouldnt express my opinions like our fathers, brothers and uncle didnt. So we can keep falling into such different world which you or no one wants to explain ba.

I am sorry the world has changed. Brothers are awoke and we will wake those still sleeping .

Simple.

Quality20:
d truth is dat ppl are now so corrupt and spoilt fro teenage yrs with few or nobody to tell them. sexual promiscuity is just too much...IThe op mentioned 30 as a late age for marriage, but here in hausaland many ppl or most would never marry a lady 25 and above,but even that is not fool proof, cos many of their teenage girls are now getting bad because of numerous senseless and immoral datings n hookup/hawking. what I hate d most is to see ladies who have been sleeping wit rich elderly men to come down and hook up young promising men for marriage. How can dat kind of marriage last and what respect/admiration/blessing can men married to these sluts get?

Thank you. The reason most parents try to get their daughters married at an early age is because of this. The mistake is feminism has sold them a big lie.

They want to act and they believe they are equal to men. The big errors is that biologically, physically, mentally and financially, we are not the same.

Women have certain advantages that we don't have. So do we men have certain advantages that don't have. Simple

But time always reveal the truth to them. That is why they always end up bitter and miserable.

Sleevia:
You are just stupid but you don't know it. When you are grown, you will understand the world is beyond marriage.

Dumb forks like you is why the country is so fvked up with overpopulation.

The truth hurts. Welcome to the rage mode, you will pass it over time and learn to accept the truth.

It has nothing to do with over population. Dont deviate from the subject matter. Embrace the truth and reality. Simple.

Fountainofyouth:
LMAO, he quickly went to modify his stupid write up adding MOST there cos the heat and insults are getting too much, what a fvcking dead brain.

You realised how dumb you are. Please check those who qouted me. It is still the same write up with the same grammatical errors.

queenitee:
Bless you. I don’t agree with the op one bit. All he wrote up there has nothing to do with age.

No probs. I am glad, that is why we all have different opinions.

Fountainofyouth:
I would gladly accept her 100%, your own promiscuous daughter will marry in her 20s, and the marriage wouldn't even last one month, simple.

Gbam anger management madam. You are being too emotional here. Well am not surprised, you were not created as a logical creature.

Fountainofyouth:
Mister man, show us where you put MOST pls, ode.

Madam intelligent, go to your browser setting and look for search or find in page. Search for the word MOST.

You will get your answer. Please learn to use your brain for other things appart from commenting in nairaland's romance section.

Fountainofyouth:
God have mercy, see who is calling someone blissful ignorance, dead

Pained bitter truth but you cant just accept it.. Please don't involve God in this. If you feel am wrong and don't have any valued points no problem, when your sons bring a Lady in her 30's or late 30's to marry gladly accept her. Simple.

Fountainofyouth:
You are so stupid it's unbelievable, a man, being a virgin, should not marry a non virgin woman but a virgin woman should marry a promiscuous, empty headed man who has diicked his destiny away right? Your stupid brain thinks pussy makes a marriage work abi? How old are you sef?

I never said that. Please read to understand. I asked a question which you in your head derived your answer.

But your dumbass and dumbfvcked brain couldn't understand. Simple.

AlwaysConfused:
Op, at least try to have respect for your readers. First, you are not passing any message with your write-up, Nollywood must have filled your head with this stuff.

Next time, you back your points with study, e.g "According to a study at the Oxford University, men/women over the age of 30..............". It provides more credibility.

Secondly, take a few minutes to proofread your content before publishing. It can't be hard. From the first paragraph, I was already spotting some unforgivable grammatical errors. Let's be guided.

Ok I have to proofread and make corrections.

I will add the surveys and claim to my point then.

Thanks for the advice.

JONNYSPUTE:
This your write up will win the most useless write up in NL for the next 5 consecutive yrs.Congratulations.

I always like your type my brother, it.reminds me of my white knighting days.

But time will tell. I just pray the shinny amor drops in your early days before the age of 55yrs. If not, you are in for a long while on the plantation.

Thank you for the award of useless write up. You will surely comeback to reread this when the shinny knigts fall. You will laugh at your own comment and be like damn, I was so blissful in abject ignorance.

Hubsolar:
Some nairalanders are mentally challenged.

Some nairalanders are in Blissful ignorance. That is why the forum is here to put them out of it.

Hisduchess:
The guy is dumb as fvck. Making an assumption look like the truth.age has nothing to do with promiscuity,it's more about decision. op needs some little money so as to buy brain cos he has none.

My dear are you sure this is dumb as fvck? Seriously ask yourself that question. It.seems you think i generalised all ladies. I said MOST.

Well am sure you have lots of female friends who you knew in their early age ba? Which ones would you proudly introduce to your male siblings to marry after age 30?

Are you sure most didn't exhibit any or all of what I mentioned above?

If so then am wrong. But be truthful and sincere to yourself when you answer those questions above

respect80:
I'm sorry op, this write up is marred with lies and misinformation.

For better write-ups, dial *234#
You can also dial *230# for better punctuation.

Ok I am happy you read it though. So that when you marry one of those ladies (not all), who you and your friends knew her slutty life in her prime years (16 - 30yrs) . Then she now uses you or your folks as a retirement plan claiming she is virtuous and holy. Probably you will meet her at church (Shiloh service). Few years down the line when eyes done clear, you will comeback to this message and reread it again.

Best of luck.

Jeezuzpick:
The OP is assuming everyone sleeps around.
I married in my 30s and I was a virgin.
My wife had a child, but so what? I loved her, and still do, even with kids among whom are now in secondary school!
That's my experience, and it goes to show you how wrong you are, unless you're trying to say marriages between couples over 30 are ALL based on lies and doomed from the start.
There are couples who married in their 20s and are divorced today, so....what exactly are you trying to say here?

You also have reading.comprehension Mr white Knight in.shinning garment.

I never said all. I said MOST, but it seems your wife's case seems to be confusing you. You married at 30 as a Virgin. Was your wife one too?

Cause if she was not a virgin like you, she saw you as a male provider, after all her own experience with various men. I can purely see she has you under her control with the number one manipulation tool of men ( Toto). You can not just beleive the pure truth.

She took you at the beginning of your prime years all in the name of love and marriage. While her prime years were over. She gave you her emotional trauma's and garbage which you must have been noticing silently at home. But you are here claiming Captain save a hoe.

Well done Sir, your case too might have been an exception indeed

Fountainofyouth:
Funny thing is that, Op may get married in his 40s, and he may have a single cousin or sister in her 30s, or his future promiscuous daughter may marry in her late 30s, cos I dont understand how one human being can spill a truckload of rubbish.

Hmm commenting based on emotions and trying to use a shaming language doesn't get message accross.

You.read it and felt I insulted you or siblings indirectly. Once I read comments like yours I know you or your sibling might have done or experience the things I stated clearly above.

That is why you see this as load of trash. If that is the case please make sure one of your brother marry that one of your promiscuous female friends at age 30 and above.

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MrMacinterchi1:
You are just running around a tree believing that you are passing a vital message to people whom the secret of your message was hidden from.

so, as all singles 30 and above are promiscuous huh

I used the word MOST (husband, wife, ladies,men), meaning there are exceptions. But it seems your and some few people 's reading comprehension is messed up.

Learn to read Oga.

danny56:
@Op, for better write up next time, say from your personal opinion. It's not generic!!!

Ok noted. Will do that next time.

proudevil:
Nice write-up op....
But what message are you trying to pass?..I'm not understanding

The truth no one tells you before marrying a Lady or a man in their 30's.

Why that is a terrible choice for men and women too.

Hmm where do I start from?

This is a subject matter that most of us avoid because the truth of the whole matter is too bitter. It is like a big elephant no one talks about.
We all act calm and cold cause this matter brings out the rotten decay worms or spiders from our personal cupboards.

For ladies above 30:

Every wedding I attend, I observe the same thing which is the ladies are happy for the bride, knowing in most cases she as caught a slave, a big mumu to accept her despite her slutty past. But she has not been saved from her slutty behaviours. She is now off the sexual market place for the moment and have found security. Until the husband looses what he can provide in all aspects of life ( money, security, care, job, attention, sex, family etc). ( I didn't mention love cause it literally doesn't exist at this age). Then she will divorce him if he is lucky. If he is unlucky she will enter back into the sexual market place codedly with her exlovers, boyfriend, uncles etc. She might even cook meals with money collected from such men for her husband (marital curse don enter).

We all know women who have had more than 2-3 sexual partners can never bond with their husbands. In most cases the wife sexual partners and escapades are always more than the husband. She might just lie to rub on the man's ego. The bride body is a container for various sperms, which has been proven scientifically that the DNA of such men stay in her body till death. This is the reason why most women are emotionally unstable.

We know that most ladies have been sexually active and have had multiple sexual partners from age 16yr to 30yr and can never be satisfied with one. No matter how you lie to yourself. She has gone through the hoe phase and her bodycounts will digust you as a man if she really tells you the truth at age 30. She was used and enjoyed at her sexual peak. Her body starts given up from 30 above and that is why most mothers rush them to marry. Because they know the truth, they will say because of children but the truth is they know she will soon become an expired milk.


For men above 30:

The men are quietly looking at the groom like only if we could tell you that you just caged yourself and turn yourself into a full time slave. In most cases some men at the venue have slept with your so called bride. Some uncles that sponsored too have used her inside out. Some former boyfriends imagining the amount of sex and abortions, they both committed and are saying you just saved a hoe.

The man's ex girlfriend too are present. All they see is the useless sex manaic, demented weak guy, abortion specialist is fooling himself and his getting married. Some see him as a prize they never had but are ready planning how they will cheat with him even next week or months to come. And that the wedding is just a show.

Most husbands hit their sexual peak just after wedding. That is why in most cases they can never stay committed. From age 35yrs to 60yrs is when most men are stable. They have attained wealth in some cases meaning younger ladies will flock them like bees. The wife will see this and know because she was once like those young ladies before chasing men with Money, looks and status.

So at the end all I always see is two damaged goods getting married. The bride who feels she needs to retire into her husband house. And the groom who is just about to fully start is sexual escapade and slavery because the wife will definitely never give him her best years.

Hmm

Offpoint:
nothing, i am still questioning my parents where they found me.

I think so too. Cause I look at them and am like we are nothing in common.

I don't look either like the two of them nor so I act or think like the two of them.

I am probably Clark Kent from another universe. Psssh.

gudugudumeje:
@fisher007,@taylor89 and many people today:- ... Your lack of tenacity of purpose and accepting to manage viccisititude of life courageously even in your careers are ur problem with marriage; not marriage itself or girls women; boys or men. Moreover and worse still parents spoil their children these days rather than enforce thrift and discipline.

Lmao you make me laugh. You think your career and purpose is better than mine. You think you earn half of what I earn , not salary oo. Oga come down from wherever you placed yourself.

You think I don't have a purpose in life and you will just come here on nairaland and sugar coat grammar to sound sensible.

My brother humble yourself when you want to communicate. We have different path. Focus on yours please.

I will leave you in your blissful ignorance. Time will always tell. Psssh.

musachara:
Most of what you say is reality of today, I can't agree less.
Pardon my wrong choice of word @ "bitterness"

No probs. It is just a sad truth. That is why to marry they fear me die. It is not just an option for me personally now. I focus more on financial literacy, self development and mental well-being bro. Safe