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ImaIma1:
Not all marriages have infidelity issues.

Infidelity is not the only issue in marriage.

The fact that someone says they are enjoying their marriage and they will marry the person again doesn't mean the marriage is perfect but they live through their problems.

Siblings disagree and fight every time but they still love each other.

You believe the sad stories without a problem but choose to question the good ones.

If you think I am fooling anyone, that is your personal problem.

Don't let happy marriages pepper your body. You will be fine

Majority of the stories are looking too fabricated. But deep down we all know the truth.
And personally you are the one with the problem thinking it is my problem. Well time always tell.

ImaIma1:
Hey fisher007...it's not everyone that has a good story. I guess this is the bad story you have been looking for.

Nope it is just everyone is painting a perfect picture of marriage which we all know is a lie. The rate of infidelity from mostly married people is disgusting to me, and both.husband and wife are aware.

But you all come online and fool the young ones with.sweet.happy ending story. Misery loves company. Keep fooling those willing to buy your stories. When they marry finish una go dey look them talk say go.back and fix it.

SultanOfAbia:
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CbTMN7bQ2Tg

Now I agree Nairalanders are mad. As in purely. Mad. I had doubts before but you my brother just confirmed it.

You just sit there and be creating nonsense. With all the great things to innovate, it is mixing your sperm with hen sperm they sweet you. Damn

Just lies everywhere. Hmm

But the worse thing to do is to be in self denial of the truth to keep a perfect image for people that literally don't care.

Then after when you are alone you absorb the real truth. That is the worst type of life to live. But what do I know.

I am not married. Let me continue reading the fairytale with happy ending stories.

Mother and daughter .hmm Mr Ned. Ok ooo

Setup

Lol in between she don carry ba?

Make we no hear stories later ooo.

Nigerians and our moral eeh.

When any sensible person watch Nigerian films or music videos, you will just be seeing the redflags in all the message they pass.

Unconsciously they pass the message that prostitution and scam is a norm to survive. You need to be sincere with yourself to see this.

But l have come to realise that Nigeria is the most promiscuous country to be in if you want pure hypocritical immortality at it utmost ability. If I am lying look at our population. Both matrimonial and side chick kids. Extra marital affairs full everywhere now that you cannot tell their spouse because of the destroyed illusion.

Then we use religion on Friday or Sunday to cover it.

To marry, born gone dey fear person.

Celibacy, entrepreneurship, education, family, religion, relationship, marriage, friendship, children(might not be yours ) ,business, politicians, and our president himself na scam.

Hmm this should be a message for you ladies out there.

That no matter the amount of.degrees, money, bags, houses etc.you have. Once you are out of your prime years 18-27 max. No man really or truly will.marry you for love.

It just the.pure.hard truth. Men.start their peak or.prime years.from 35-60. He.can go.for.younger fresh 18yrs to 25 cause he.is now stable.

But.instead of you ladies to.cash out.at a.young age.and find.that.retirement plan, you.will be riding John, kunle, Ade, hassan, Musa,.chinedu and co’s dick up and down.

'forgetting that when you booby pass your Belle, wey Man no wan collect' Kiss Daniel.

You will be asking where are all the.good men gone. Ok

Analsye the message.before.you Qoute me.or look around.you and observe. The truth is always bitter. Simple

Stupidity. This is what happen when you marry a woman who has nothing to offer apart from her body. She feels she owns you and entitled to you as a belonging.

If.she.was truly.self independent and strong. If you cheat.she moves on and.show you, she.worth more than that. Simple.

But.what.do.I know. When fake feminist full everywhere leeching on men but liar to themselves. Pssh

Elbone2:
Nah inmessage is raw sewage for me more like going to a brothel....I've used Tinder and badoo too especially when i'm traveling to a different state, country or continent,find it very useful.

That is why I said a quick fix. Then try bumble. It is similar to tinder. Safe

Elbone2:
Hahahaaaaaaa Lolz....Funny but true,So how many Dating site are u currently on?!My New Years resolution was to ditch all these dating apps as they awere a complete waste of time and money...Never rematched, Did not really meet any one I fancy.
The very pretty ones either end up with smelly puna or they suck the D like hungry lions...A Turn off really.

Focus more.on tinder,bumble and badoo at.your leisure time. Like during break at office hours or when TV is boring. I mostly fix appointment for weekends. When am home cleaning, doing laundry. No stress, All.poison(edibles, non edibles, digestive, non digestive ) availabe from food, to drink (non alcoholic to alcoholic ), whatever you want and like I have it and into it too . I always follow the rule use your hand kill yourself

However if the Lady treats me right I give her a nice treat after, but not before it. She needs to earn it one way or the other. Simple

Now if.you.want a.quick.fix try inmessage. They are too direct on that platform. But will still strongly suggest tinder and bumble. Simple.

Elbone2:
Guy leave there ooo...For guys that have been on these Dating apps u will know that most of the women are bat sheeet....It's pretty pathetic,you see roughly 60 to 90% of their pictures have those stupid filters looking Soft when they actually have dog faces and look like scary movies in real life...Craze women puna dem... Nothing like seeing and meeting someone normal looking in a pub or eatery and having that lengthy conversation even though most times it's a waste of time or eventually they end up being game players.

I.understand your point which is valid. But once I see you and i don't look like what I see. Nah to dey go back ur house Max after 1hr na. Simple.

Or you.come and you.are forming. I will just ask a simple question which works most times. You left your house to my place. You dressed up and paid your transport to come and do what?

Although I.have heard different answers but it end up making them look stupid cause we didn't agree on anything in most case. So you are free.to go back and I aint spending or wasting nothing (even fuel in my.car). So at the end she puts herself in a compromising situation. Which is obvious to her after thinking herself. Simple

Guy you would.be surprise how most ladies behave themselves after. Especially when your crib looks nice (hypergamy comes in play for most girls trying to.branch to a better tree). Simple but they.are not aware of my mindset based on past experience, happenings or events, so I.play along. Simple.

Lol, People still go on dates

I never knew cause with dating apps everywhere. We know where the main dates venue is

I guess some people will complain about spending or eating too.much or people sizing them.up. or people.asking stupid questions like ' how much you earn' Lmao

Well you choose the wrong venue. Everybody knows what they want immediately you ve seen each other photos and chatted over the phone for few times . Dont let them fool you about getting to know each other. Please go straight to the point.

The more time you.waist the more you loose. The more time you loose the more validation you give. The more validation you give the more it cost you. The more it cost you, the more you.feel.like making it a relationship that might lead to.marriage. when the relationship or marriage fails you feel pained. At the end, you either accept and die with the pain or you come on nairaland after few years of investing in a place that brings more investment and you will still be blamed.

That why I go straight to the point meet me at my place simple. Either you are in or you are out. It cost nothing and doesnt waste my.time cause whatever the case is am at my place. Lol

What.do I know self. Let wait for the elders or white Knight who have been burned to.come and.give us more knowledge on what they dislike or hate about dating. Hmmm

otipoju:
No. The girl is bisexual. No one knows that the two sisters in the lord are ***king each other. People know she is a close friend to the family as well but dont know there is something more.

Even after she marries the boy, she go still dey ***k her girlfriend. I just got pissed that night. We were all at a house party and less than 5 minutes after the brother left, the two of ladies started cuddling. It was so disrespectful and i had tell her to use her brain and act with decorum because i know whats up. She did not deny ooo.

I cant tell the guy anything oo. If him no fit do due dilligence na him sabi.

Church people.

Ooh now that is a twist to.the whole matter. Lmao

Best part is leave the guy in his personal darkness. He will learn. Experience is the best way to expose certain things word cannot tell.

Safe.

Brightgem:
Bla Bla Bla! Why are you afraid of being quoted. Man's nature in general is fickle. It's not a women thing.

But then believe what you want, it's a good road to a miserable life. Time too will tell you that.

Lmao. A good road to a miserable life for stating the obvious truth which you know in your mind.

Am sure you know you cant even trust your own female friends or relatives cause you know your own nature.

Well time will tell, at least that we.both agree on. Lol

otipoju:
Any man that puts his all his trust in a woman is dead already. Dem never bury am.

When your angel shows you her truly colour you go get brain damage from the shock.

Women are wiley and imcapable of love.

I have one stupid girl that is about to get married to a church boy, meanwhile she is still ****king another girl in her church very very codedly. If i was not a street boy i would not notice.

The boy dey happy sey im don see better lady, i just dey pity am. I had to warn the girl though as i just could not stand the deceit.

Your first 3 paragraph I understand. But from the fourth one you got me confused.

Then you became a white Knight+ amebo by telling the babe. Let both of them live with their consequence. You don't know if the babe is aware after her own slut/hoe phase decided to give our brother in the Lord her leftover.

I wont be surprise she will still go ahead with the marriage as most ladies of these generation are incapable of self love, self finance and still believe that been called. 'MRS' is an achievement. Simple

Hmm where do I start from?

He never understood his wife's nature. He never knew people can change especially his wife. Even himself can change.without knowing. This case is just sad. Most men don't even know their so called holy, trustworthy, loyal wives are most likely the same as that woman.

And the day they eventually realise, I pray they don't snap like this pastor and kill their wives. That why they say most women carry a lot of secret to their grave. I always say your legacy as a man is your child (confirm after multiple DNA test). After it the women or ladies or wives in your life are just vessels. It is a hard truth.

Women are fickle like cats. You can never catch or see two cats having sex. Slimmy and full or mystery, which is better for you not to unravel. They change behavior or virtue signal you at most time to give you an image of what you want them to be.

Men are like dogs. Too open and can see them.acting up. Big mistake but that is how they were created. Men cover themselves with a smokescreen of my wife, sister, mother, female friend, girlfriend etc are not like normal female. But pray that circumstance don't arrive that will lead to.exposing their true nature. Most men will nearly snap or run crazy.

Qoute me at your peril. Time will show you and help you accept the bitter truth.

emilfischer:
I want more people like you in my life.

Lol don't worry.we have a lot of people like me on nairaland. We speak the bitter red pill truth even though people cant accept it.

Most people fight the messenger instead of listening to the message and try to reflect on it in their own personal life. Luckily you are not one of those people.

Have a great day and year ahead.

None.of the above

What you should fear is the following?

That Graduating to the harsh reality of unemployment.

That Entrepreneurship hardly works in most case so fear that.

That NYSC is just a smokescreen and waste of time.

That your current girlfriend or boyfriend is not your future spouse.

That societal norms will definitely mess and deal with you. Which might lead to sadness and depression.

That you might.luckily get a job but it is as if you are unemployed because you wont see your savings.

That the Rat race is real and you must run in it for a while.before you.can find a solution that suits you.

The most important is that.uncertainty is the main order of the day in all aspect of life in Nigeria. Everything is chaotic and in the chaos you must path a way.

All.those stuff.you.stated above are.child's play. Believe it from a true sincere Nairalander giving.you milenials snippets into the future.

Simple move to.the.next comment.

Lmao my brother Date but don't accept it as a relationship that will lead to marriage. Take your piece of the vessel and return her back to the street where she belongs.

My reason for the above sentence :

My brother why are you.complaining, she doesnt value you and she see you as an option. You are a low life to her. If you were really worth it initially she wouldn't make you wait that long. She has shared whatever she has to offer and still sharing it around.

Reverse the case that she asked you out and you waited 3 yrs to answer. Lol how will she treat you.

You see you must learn to treat people the way they treat you. Example ladies complain wealth/rich men treat them like shit but they forgot how they treated these men when he/they were poor and hustling.

My advice chop wella don't dull it. You can even have six on the side but don't dream or get to into it. Use a condom. Just date don't make it a relationship or something that can lead marriage.

Simple

Pataricatering:
Lol - yen yen yen - a man’s pride is in a man not getting his woman but he goes around disgracing his wife with his desire for every women he meets - u people don’t know nothing - u think ur out there servicing other women and ur wife will be there waiting like a mumu ? Nowadays men toast married woman like water - both single and other married men . U can’t think ur smart and he sharing what ur not supposed to be sharing while u think ur wife will keep hers strictly for you alone ! Lol .

Am really sorry for you. From the way you started your comment. I realize you have never met a real man who cherished you or loved you.

All you have been meeting all your lives were fvck boys, fvck men, alphamale, etc. You sound pained and cant believe a man can truely cherish a woman. Well I understand you.

So you feel all men cheat in realationships. Most might but not all. Well you might never be cherished if you continue with this immoral mindset. You will keep attracting what you think sha.

Lol see I am sorry.

But most ladies will tell you not to tell him, why because they know they all likely will do the same. They always want to eat their cake and have it. A man will marry you, fend for you, suffer up and down to provide. See you as his ultimate treasure (which is wrong), but men are programmed like that. But she doesnt give a fvck (she was programmed like.that too e.g Eve ).

Most men will tell you to tell him, cause one of a man's greatest pride and ego is his wife and once it can be taken or gotten by other men. It is not worth it. Real men that love their wife know this but don't want their wives to know cause as usual they will start misbehaving once they are aware.

So my advice, first hint him but don't tell him. That means , give instance of the situation and sees his answer or reaction to it.

From that you will know what to do. Simple.

Lol, Well because humans are nature of change.

We always want change or evolution.

You can not like or want the same things, feelings, object etc of 2,5 or 10 years ago.

Although you can grow with someone but your interest or mindset change over the years, only if both of you are on the same frequencies. Which is never the case in most marriages because most partners fail to communicate or power struggle come in.

In some cases external influences such as friends, colleagues, ex lovers etc affects ones sexual satisfaction over the years. Some couples go.back to the past by searchingfor nostalgic sexual satisfaction with ex- lovers, friend,colleagues or school mates, which doesnt or can never be the same.

Wait what do I know. Psshh
I am not even married. Please ignore my comment and wait for the Elders.

SOFTENGR:
This is the most responsible post I've found on this thread.
You need to see the way my uncles and aunts are disturbing my brother to have a child when they know quite well we haven't secured a job for him, talk less of planning to train a child.

My brother it is a painful thing most people experience it. The luck we have now is that we are aware and awoke.

Tell your brother not to fall into that trap of everything will get well after marriage. Na scam. Imagine a Rat race with children you can't fend for plus a nagging wife. Na hypertension go follow.

Plan well my guy. Make people no go dey use your story as negative example. Simple
Keep and remain smart.

Aaaa you see lack of proper education
(School, financial, marital, child planning
and mental education) leads to this .

Nigerians don't plan. We just live mostly in the moment. Most of our parent did the same, no planning, just gave birth and then expect God to help raise the child.

They transmitted the same societal norm values to us.

Finish school - marry - have children.

They never told you the responsibilities that comes in play after all this stupid norms. They didn't plan their own why should you plan yours. Put him/her in the mess, he/she will figure it out.

Some youths dont even think for themselves. They just follow the trend and start complaining life is hard. Afterall they put themselves in the same mess.

If you like listen to Marlians, tiwa, davido and co. Then get pregnant and born, life is coming for you.

I don talk my own.

Deep

Na uber, bolt, taxify cause am. Lol

charliboy654:
You are just confusing yourself, you said you will deceive her and get what you want.
She dress provocative, you approached her, you said some words, she agreed, then u do you thing. That's what every normal guy would do. But even after talking to her (deceiving her according to you) she refuse, do you then force her to get what u want or you move on?

No one is justifying indecent dressing, but it should not be serve as a reason to justify rape.

It has even been proven that inappropriate dressing is not the cause of rape. Little girls with no feminine features get rape, girls covered in hijab get raped, girls in deeper life dressing get rape as well.

.

Here comes the white Knight in shinning armour.

Firstly, I agree with.you on certain thing that little girl with no feminine feautures can get rape by peadophilles. And girls in hijab/nun dress too can get raped. I don't support rape.

But when you dress like a slut purposefully all in the name of trend or feeling comfortable in your head. Please deal with.the.consequences.

Secondly not.every normal guy will approach her. Some guys hate slutty appearance Lady. They prefer the normal dressed turned naughty or slutty in personal space. You cant generalise for all men.

Thirdly, Let.call a spade , a spade. She dressed like a slut simple. Do.any.female(mother, sister, cousin, girlfriend, wife to be) in your family.dress that way and you see nothing wrong it? If yes my brother with shinning armour, you will be the biggest hypocrite of the year for me. If you are truly a male behind the username.

And if you want.to prove me wrong I suggest the same thing I.suggested to her to you too. Prove my point stupid and invalid and dress your female folks or daughters up.like that at a tender age and not.expect the irreversible, unwanted and truamatic experience of a life time for them.

Simple, have a nice day.

Hairdo666:
Okoto meow skrrr. My dear, its too late to defend your stupidity

From your reply I can see my point is clear and valid. You have nothing to counter my claims. It hit you in the head.I guess at time you need a little of that to bring you back to reality.

Please make sure your Daughter at 16 still wears that transparent Bra and pant out as a way to prove my point is stupid.

Slut given birth and raising new sets of sluts for the future. Later they will come on nairaland and say men slut shame them not knowing their mother raised them as one. Pssh

My attention for you.this year is over. Qoute me at your peril.

Lol

Hairdo666:
Someone you don't know, she has nothing to offer because she is dressed the way you don't like. You sound like those aba boys from the village that haven't gotten proper education. You'll still accept a free visa to countries where girls are still respected for going out 'naked'. From your comment, you sure feel entitled and you think your opinion about adult women matters. You definitely have nothing to offer

Lol I guess some random lady found my opinion stupid. No problem.

Please make.sure you.dress.out that.way or your.future.daughter from age 16 dress.out that.way, even though she has something in her brain to offer. Make sure her pant too is transparent as much as her Bra. All in.the name of fashion and see what will happen.

Oh yes I purposely said 16 so that the.truama will have a long lasting effect in.her life.

Any small.thing they.start.comparing.civilised world or western world with Nigeria. As if we have not.been.there or lived or studied there for years. Abeg pack well. Let her try that abroad we know and have seen what still end up happening to ladies like that.

You are part of the problem we have in Nigeria when you see something is bad but encourages it, all in.the.name of trend.

Hmm where should I start from?

You see most females are hypocrites, they love been decieved and manipulated. It took me time to figure this out. Eve was deceived, I should have picked that from the Bible.

Most females love dressing slutty and provocative nowadays. If you express how they look and your mindset based on the.dressing, they will call you a rapist/ fool etc. Just for stating the obvious truth.

Now which normal decent one of.you.will advice your own sister, daughter or siblings to dress out that way. Please confirm my doubts and I will accept my point is stupid.

Me if I met a dumbslut and mentally dumbfucked chick like that at a party. I will deceive and manipulate her instead of being straight like.that guy. I will eventually get what I.want,.which is the only thing she has to.offer based from her dressing then go my way and never call back except if the.monkey double backflip is worth a remix.

Over time she will eventually get the message of what I saw her has, just like most naija females who dress similar to her do with several men. I will continue my no relationship / courtship/ marriage mode Jeje. After all she don give her best and only thing to offer

Simply Qoute me and.your phone.will blow.