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drnoel:
Jesus, that is a hard lesson nobody needs to learn. Believe me, I was there,.. a long time ago. She even had the nerve to start calling me assistant boyfriend. When I was housing her and feeding her just cause I needed someone to stay in the house and keep the house cos I was always away, women can be the very devil.
No vex but he doesn't need that at all. Best thing is he moves out ASAP.

That is true bro. He needs to move on immediately.

ImaIma1:
Hmmmm...true.

Good to realize how much peace I give hubby. Because he spends most of his free time at home and likes me to tag along when he goes out sometimes.

Thanks for this

My sister you must be an exception cause there are always exceptions.

Your hubby must be lucky trust me. Look at the lives of your female colleagues in school, what they have been through and how they pressure the poor husband to accept all these emotional baggages.

Most women don't understand what having a happy home means. They are so self centered and entitled that even it means disturbing the peace of the husband. The poor guy will just stay out all the time. Madam will think he is busy cheating around, not knowing the guy has so much responsibilities (school fees, mother, house rent, feeding and providing for the house, family (cousin, newphew, relatives ), career issues , self development issues) that cheating is his list priority.

Your hubby must be lucky though cause, look around you really, it is rare to see case as yours.

musachara:
That's bitterness bro. What happened to you

Bro it is the reality of life. Life is chaotic and out of the chaos you need to accept it and path a way out through it.

You think it bitterness (which is a shaming Language you used) ? Am even susprised you have not asked who hurt me . Lmao

I see it as the truth so sad to accept and swallow. Look around you because your case might be different for now.

You want to tell me you can't correlate with what I clearly stated in my first comment. Cheating, infidelity, manipulation, kids outside wedlock brought to the family, men drinking at bar constantly lying they are almost home due to wify problems and responsibilities placed on them as the head.

Women confused and not sure about what they want in life because they were pressured into marriage without defining themselves first (both career wise, financial wise, health wise and mentally wise). Then they bring all the garbage to the poor Mr husband while still keeping a lover at the side for sex and emotional tampon .

Well i rest my case if you can't see any truth in all I have stated. Have a great day bro.

Hmm na so them talk so tey all your first class degrees dey inside cupboard. Abeg hustle ooo hustle is the way.

bonnyhope:
All what you have written is base on your own ideology and perception.

Ok I wish that was the case. I would have be happier in the blissful ignorance. But the reality is bitter.

But like you said what do my ideology and perception know.

Please get married or stay married in the plantation. Time will tell. Hmm

Ecne:
My Brother you just spoke my mind, especially that marriage ish... No wonder Guy are running away from it, girls are still hooking guys with pregnancies.
Zip up Guys or use a condom

Na double condom gan. Ladies are desperate and I can't blame them. The pressure on them worst pass on us as guys.

That is why most end up depressed after the so called wedding. Reality sets in that it was just not worth the headache.

Hmm inside life ----- going to deeper life things. Hmm

Skepticus:
U no add Religion na scam (Churches and Mosques just open company for we head)

Well, you tried. Nigeria's problems summarized in witty language.

I swear na that one even worst pass. The fact I forgot gan tells you how dem done brainwash and format me so tey it skipped my mind. Lmao

Hmm where do I start from?

they are trying to remind you that it is that time of the year. Christmas is close by.

Minimum wage na scam (this one na just for mouth and paper. Doesn't translate to reality).

Education na scam ( after all the read your book. Psssh. I for don just play ball ).

Employment na scam ( you have a job and salary that amounts to nothing at the end of the month)

Business na scam ( investment into business that can not be sustainable in this teribble economy).

Entrepreneurship na scam ( story for gods. You go just dey hear motivational speech. They will never show you the way because most way gan no pure).

Marriage na scam ( more problem and responsibilities in this harsh economy. Ladies looking for who to turn slave all in the name of love and toto)

Fuel price na scam ( na every six months or year this one dey increase whereas income stays practically the same).

Even Christmas that use to be the most memorable thing in my life ( full of free rice and chicken) now done dey look like scam.

Cause price of rice no be here ooo. Frozen chicken go soon follow am.

Who did we offend in this country. Aah aah.

persinpapa:
I am sure this guy married for the wrong reason

Lol only if you knew my brother. Marry first then please comeback to this same comment after few years. You will understand.

Just to let you know. I am not even close to it. It is from family stories, friends experience, redpill content, married exgirl girlfriends rants and complain in their marriages. Them wan turn me to emotional tampon.

ceeceeuwa:
Lol, you talk too much!

Hmm the truth my person. If people wey dey marriage really talk here. This my talk na just HELLO for waiting dey really happen.

But what do I know.

saintneo:
What do you mean by abduction?

Abduction = Kidnapping

Or you meant to write Adoption.

Thanks for the correction. Changed it already.

taylor89:
Another man fvcking my wife


To my future wife out there please and please if u know you'll tag me an animal for laying hands on you don't do these Four below


1. Don't cheat (even if I cheat don't cheat back it's a set up because i go beat u before sending u packing

2. No matter what happens between us don't yell at me outside (u can do to me whatever you wish indoor even beat me I no go talk since na me dey at fault but don't do it outside

3. This one is the most important one, DONT COME BETWEEN ME AND MY PARENTS/SIBLINGS, they all went through hell for me probably when you were busy fvcking another guy(your then boyfriend) so when it's time to reap what they sowed u Better don't try to stop it because I'll stop you first

4. READ THE NO. 3 AGAIN I CAN EVEN KILL FOR NUMBER 3

If she can keep to this three then I'm ready

The three things will definitely happen too. You can't escape them.

She/ he will cheat behind you and with an unimaginable being. If na better person now you fit understand but ( may be ex, housemaid security, brother, sister, etc.) It will be for stupid and flimsy excuse. Especially women, they cheat for so much stupid reason that can never be explained to a logical person. Even baby go dey shock her reason for cheating. So get ready.

He/ she will yell at you everywhere due to stress, hormonial imbalance, economy, country situation, rage, etc. Get ready and stop believing you can avoid it.

He/ she will certainly come between you and your siblings. That is why you are married. You both come together as one. To make matter worse make you go broke, or loose your job. And you are trying to get back on your feet. Na total disrespect go come after you.

You will do nothing and accept your fate. Cause at that time. A beggar will have no choice at that time.

Sorry to burst your bubbles.

mysticgal:
1. What if we fall out of love with each other?
2. What if he dies before me?
3. What will happen if I feel i can’t take his bullshit anymore?
4. What if he doesn’t support me or I feel alone in the partnership.
5. What if an accident happens right in the relationship, would I stay or would I leave?
6. Is love enough or what if he is too much of a spender or an NFA aka no future ambition?
7. Can I bear his family members or mine during marriage?
8. How do we resolve conflicts, what if he tries to abuse me?
9. What if I have mediocre sexual experiences all through out.
10. How would he cope if I die, get disabled, leave, never want children or even like pets?

It bugs me a lot

Everything mentioned surely happens. Trust me it will come to a point you will have to due with this issues one at a time.

And it is not worth it. But societal norms, survival instinct and baby rabbies go push Una enter marriage.

feelmeTy:
I am facing it now oooo, I lost my job, n my wife don born, baby is 1 year plus, I dey get high blood pressure ooo. And wife business crashed too. A times I will wake up enter street of Ibadan looking for where them dey load frozen fish or noodles from truck to warehouse!

Deep bro.

Financial literacy is one of the key to a sustainable marriage. But that we were not taught in school or by our so called parents and elders.

Instead na to dey push for marriage and children them go dey ask for. Responsibility that they can not help you handle. They will abandon you and use one's scenario as a case study. Pure hypocrisy in Nigeria.

Hmm where do I start from.

She never loved you and she will never love you till death do you apart.

The only time women understand or have an idea of what true love is - it is after childbirth birth and nurturing.

Before that you are just a provisional tool for them. They will use you for their problems. ( Emotional, financial, mental, physically and psychological).

Now that you are both in the same house you will fully understand the full meaning of hypergamy and female nature. She will show you her true colour now. So observe and learn. You will need it to know how to handle future ladies.

Consider yourself lucky, trust me most men die without having the opportunity. They just slave away their life for a being that can never be satisfied. She is not even self content and satisfied. But we men now take it as our duty. It is abject and pure madness on how part has man.

Accept the pain to evolve yourself. You will need it. Safe

Hmm where do I start from?

Marriage is a scam.

Legacy is the only thing a man needs. As far as you have a child or children (surrogacy, adoption or baby mama). All na pickin, the rest is history.

Most people marry for flimsy, weird, crazy, survival, unfathomable and dumbfounded reason. I will speak for the men. Ladies you can speak your own too below in the comments section

You will marry a woman who's love for you is provisional, transactional and conditional. ( For better for worse statement na scam). If you doubt me try your luck. 95 percent of people in marriages are sad and cheat on each other.
The last 5percent are in a open relationship known to both party. Them just they push through for survival purpose

For men:

Na white knighting and captain save a slut wey dey do most of us. In order words beauty and toto dey too dey deceive us.

You will marry a woman you think you know. But you have no idea actually. She will form submissive, homely, loving until you done put am for house. Gbam the equation will change. Most ladies marry you based on their time don dey reach or based on they need you to provide.

You will now start understanding the famous quotes "my wife has changed. She is not the lady I married".

You see whoever you marry will always change. Change is constant. So don't complain. She will get fat, she will have hormonial imbalance, she will nag you. You will loose your peace, calm and quiet life. Just even forget sex - that one go turn weapon and manipulation tool for her. She will get old before you. Mind game go kill Una for house. It will be a power struggle since most women don't want to play their traditional role in the house. You will just be slaving and suffering for an ungrateful being brought out from your ribs.

To go home after work will be a problem, beer parlour and hangout will be your new base. She go police your life die. Na pure cage you go put yourself. But what do I know. Instead of you to stay single and enjoy your life as man. Nobody is rushing you. You will let stupid societal norms and Disney/ Naija/ Indian/ American movie fool you. Love doesn't exist man. It is only compatibility that exist.

You will hear excuse such as you will die alone. Lol. Did you come to earth with somebody before? Psssh

Qoute me at your peril. I done talk my own. Transformer and river is not far from you. Find the nearest one.

Hmm where do I start from.

You see, I feel sad for ladies of this millennial generation. Nobody is telling them the truth.
Not their mothers, brothers, fathers, sisters, aunties, or cousins.

Now she displays her stupidity online, practically naked to seek attention that will not last for 48hrs. But the consequence of this is that the internet never forgets. Her future weak husband, daughter or son will know mummy was a slut at her teenage years.

She doesn't know that her sexual market values that she values so much will not last beyond 30-35 years at most. So after that, from age 30-70 yrs realities comes in.

That is when she realises all this nonenses added nothing, not a single value to her life. By that time, may she has found a weak man to marry. Her body will drop drastically and her hormonial imbalance will take over after childbirth or without childbirth. She has no career, probably surviving based on her slutty Instagram post.

Not everyone can be the Kardashians especially in Nigeria. Cause that is what some of these ladies look up to. She will understand why mothers rush their daughter into marriage because they understand the sexual market value of men and women are entirely different.

Then all those broke guys will have just started or reach their highest SMV at 35 and above. Am sure they won't want an old milk like her.

I wish someone can explain this to the millennial ladies so that they focus more on their careers. Even if they become feminist just to attain a sustainable income and career till a certain age before they can engage in relationships.

But they won't, all their aunties and mothers allow them to make the same mistake they made. And the circle keeps relooping over the years like a curse placed on females from birth.

Qoute me at your peril. I have talk my own. Move to the next comment. Simple.

Hmm where should I start from?

Trouble sit down jeje na you use your hand go find am.

So you picked up ashewo to shit in your house?

Then you come online, of all place, nairaland?

So what were you expecting? That we will have sympathy for you?

Or we will come and pack it for you? I don't get it.

Cause I am trying to understand what your goal or aim is?Making me imagine and think for no reason.

Giving us unnecessary shit issues on this forum.

Infact, you are just useless. Infact you desserve some beating.

Please post your address and flat number so that we can all come to beat you and add our own shit.

Mumu Oshi.

Hmm that is actually a sex tape.

Only if you knew.

Hmm hmm

Hmm

Hmm

Hmm where should I.start from

Ryan03:
its like this feminist thing dey pain you specially. Will you be the one to throw yourself around after age 30? Allow them do their thing na

Lmao nope. But I agree with you on allowing them throw themselves at age 30 out of desperation. It will be fun sha.

Hmm where do I start from.

When you see such wonderful object in the dustbin, makes you realize that women are just lying too themselves. They never know what they want?

First I don't need a man na their everyday preaching. Now they gave you a vibrator which is quite bigger and stronger than the man.

In addition it works when you want. You control it anyhow and doesnt complain. But still you threw it away.

Why my fellow feminist?

Is it because it is not resourceful as the man?

It cant buy you all you need?

You.cant.put.your emotional truama on the poor.object?

You cant play mind games with it ba?

You cant introduce it to your friends or parent ba?

It.cant give you hot akamu to bear.you.kids ba?

You cant make.it.suffer from.you mood swing ba?

You cant subject it to.your narcissistic and entitlement behavior ba?

You cant nag it ba?

It cant cherish you with gifts and praises ba?

It cant suck both your boobs and pvssy in process make you.squirt and squeal like a pig when at orgasm state ba?

It cant protect or save you in time of danger?

It cant give you a wedding, children and blissful home ba?

At the end of the day you realised, it is just an object that is why you.threw it way.

Dont worry my fellow nairalander feminist, this is the same way.you all.will be throwing.yourselves at men as from age 30 onwards when your sexual market value done dey reach it peak

Qoute me at your own demise. I don talk my own. Move to the next comment.

PrecisionFx:
Stop displaying gross confusion here

My bad. Sorry experience is the best teacher. No matter how I try to explain. You wont understand. Until it hits you like a raging train. Your type (blue pilled beta simp).will now come here on nairaland and be complain about the plantation you put yourself in.

I am done qouting you. Shekinah

Have a great day ahead.

PrecisionFx:
'"After they have finish twerking, showing different boyfriends, different hotel rooms""


Same applies to u


After u sef av finished bleeping all sorts of girls for many years, u want to marry a virgin

Dude i am semi mgtow + sigma male meaning. I.have.chosen my path.

Sorry.to let you know. No marriage, no longtime relationship. I care less how many.niggas she had sex with. I.take my path and move on my brother. It is only my.turn at that moment. Even.if.Na virgin. Who.virginity. help. Abeg

No amount.of.I.love.you, I die.for.you.way.she.go.talk. I.understand her nature. Simple.

IhateInjustice:
Talk wetin you know

I have two kids and my “down there” is perfect...one week without sex and hubby finds it hard penetrating. Kegel exercise is the key to tightening the walls.

My husband enjoys MouthAction with me wella ...believe me , some of our naija men are really romantic and hubby is one of them

Hmm one.week without sex and kegel exercise is what makes it tight hmmm hmmm ? Why Na? Ok i will.act dumb and believe you.

But am sure hubby just dey rub your ego and pride, would do that if I was in his shoes. Gbam.

Afterall I.didn't say all women. I said most so you might be an exception.

Lucky that your hubby sabi lick/chop veggies well sha.

Have a great day.

Hmm where do I start from.

You see most nigerian ladies not all ( approximately 75 - 80 % ) have praticed lesbianism. Either at school, university hostel both off and on campus.

Some even started immediately they got a job believing in self satisfaction with or without a male. Lesbianism trait is almost like masturbation for most guys (they have all done it).

Most women who start lesbianism after childbirth are the worst. You cant blame them though. Their pvssy done turn vagina now. It is big and wild. Forget all those lies that it closes back (by standing over hot water steam), my brother Na format to boost your male ego.

So lesbianism now is the only way. In most case, Oga cannot give or perform (oralsex) head properly. He cannot touch her at the sensitive part and if she tells Oga about her new hormonial changes or pleasure . Oga will give her the slvtty look in most cases making her feel uncomfortable.

So the only way is self satisfaction ( probably fisting ) as the vagina done large or lesbianism. Simple.

Qoute me at your demise. Either Transformer or river no far from you. Choose the most convenient and available one to you.

I done talk my own, come and beat me.

Hmm where do I start from?

They don't want a good guy. They want omo olope. They want to pepper dem like bolanle. Hmm.

Now they have use them and they are running Mad or drying immediately after drop off.

My brothers from another mother, pray you don't marry a cured mad Olosho ( like this Lady) who will use you as retirement plan.

In addition, my brothers, here is a food for thought before you foolishly kneel down for an ungrateful being created from your rib.

After they have finish twerking, showing different boyfriends, different hotel rooms, different phones and restaurant their parents cannot afford, different car rides, different clubs scenes, different uncles in coded places, different expensive wigs and nails and their monthly pocket money no pass between 10-20k, different pools venues with skimpy clothes, different fish joints in different areas code and state across Nigeria all through their university years on social media ( Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp ) to entertain us. They will now graduate with sexually transmitted degrees, not employable in the Job market cause they learnt nothing for 4-5 yrs in university.

Then they will start praying to God Almighty for a good husband to take and accept them for who they are. A man to accept all these truama, damaged mind, damaged goods, several men‘s DNA in their system (which has been scientifically proven). They will say their village people are chasing them and their husband‘s away. Hmmm, My sister pack well. God cannot be mocked.

Every choice or decision has it own consequences. If you like hide it or keep it a secret. One day the truth will come out. Wind go blow fowl yansh open. Husband go know the mentally and physically damaged (slut) personality he married. Copied.

Qoute me at your own peril. Transformer and river no far from your house. Locate the nearest one abeg.

tonididdy:
you still haven't made any point my friend. Let me tell you were you will start from
you invest money to make more money to "SPEND".

there are rich people who have over 5 Lamborghiniz eg Mayweather, Manny, retired and current footballers.

if you are rich and wear a total of 50$ clothing is your personality. I am not extravagant, I just have a few very priceful items.

what's important is being able to maintain your wealth, knowing when to spend big or not.... Not necessarily investing all your money because you feel expensive items are a waste of money.

PS: you are still broke otherwise you wouldn't see a footballer who earns not less than 5m a week, owning a Lamborghini as a peacock black man mentality showoff.

One of the rule I forgot to personally use in your case was to mind my business.

So you are free to take the advice or mind your own business too.

After all it is your money. Abi.

End of discussion. Shekinah.

Hmm

tonididdy:
you call it silly lifestyle because you are still broke.
I once tot a friend of mine was silly as well when he spent $300 for some fancy Lacoste sunglasses but now somebody else thinks am even more silly after I declared a particular shoe price to him.


it's life bro... If you aren't there, you call it vanity.

Hmm where do I start from.

Let me enlighten you and your friend on your current status.

No offence intended. My guy you are still extremely broke and don't understand financial literacy. I was once there like you in my head (thinking have arrived). Until reality set in and I learnt.

You don't practice delay gratification and you on still on fickle fate.

The rich / wealthy don't spend money on luxury and designer. People give them mostly based on influence and status.

The real rich/ wealthy will use his 300dollars to generate more income ( either passive/ active/ direct/ portfolio ).

Even if the end result gives him additional 30 dollars every month on the 300 dollars. He keeps growing.

Because the rich truly understand that money works for him. Money attracts more money. Money is a tree/ tool for him. Money must keep growing at all cost. That is why they say the rich get richer.

But your case money lose way. Money attracts unnecessary attention. Money drain off. Money wey no get focus. Just thinking lavish spending will get you there .

The rich diversify at all time. True rich understand that he should have business/investment in place that generates wealth for him without even leaving his house.

My brother think twice when you want to buy that next Gucci shoes cause the designer and people don't give a Fvck about you. If the designer or people truly value you, you will get them for free.

Look at the picture below. It describes the case of you and your friend.