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@poster
I think you've already answered your question cos you can't get heartbroken if you were not in love in the first place.

why are you using their, they and them to descibe your lover?

I guess you are trying to remove gender bias from the reponses that you will get. But why is that?

I thought this topic was locked by Debosky the last time?

Richfella and harakiri, you guy's have got some strong and convincing points but I think I'm inclined to agree with Area Boy's opinion.
Maybe cos the chic is pretty and I believe I can definately meet her maintenance cost (whatever that means)  and I have all the other requirements except a cook, but that can fixed. Seriously guys i'm gonna call her. I'll keep you posted on the outcome.

eya Kpele . Really sympathize with you my bro. But you can't really blame them sha, because no one would want their daughter to be with someone that doesn't have security you know.   I guess they just dont want their daughter to suffer all in the name of love

tai2:
Kick her a-ss to the curb. Abi you want to hang around until she cuts off your balls? Are you a man or what?

Exactly!
What's happening to this world? Guys are becoming really really soft these days when it comes to relationship issues. Or is it one of the signs of the end time or just stupidity? I mean, you see that a chic is obviously cheating on you and you still come here to ask for advice.

No don't leave her you hear **hissss** Make you remain there dey do like sisi. Grow some balls man!

Chaoga:
i believe she loves me too but she have another boyfriend

huh  if she loves why then does she have an assistant boyfriend? And you know there is a difference between having a fling and having another boyfriend right?.
And you said:

Chaoga:
She's the kinda girl a reasonable guy won't dare losing. . . .

hmmm. . . maybe I'm not being reasonable but I don't think I would want a girl who doesn't have the decency of ending one relationship before starting another one.

Chaoga:
I feel so cheated.

That's cos you have actually been cheated.   and its possible that while you are here expressing you feelings on Nairaland she might be in the arms of the other guy expressing her feelings for him.  

Since you say you love her and don't want to let her go then my advice is that you let her know how you feel about the tripartite relationship and make her understand that she's been unfair to you by cheating on you. Then see if she is willing to let go of the other relationship. If not then let her be.
Alternatively, you might want to break up with her (that's after letting her know the reason why) and if she really loves she will come back to you. If she doesn't then I suggest you move on with your life.

Left for me I'll say you let go of the virgin b!tch although its really going to hurt but you'll be fine trust me 

@190
Bro watz up.
E be like say you dey a bit busy this period o cos you come scarce small o.
Hope you no dey up to any mischief sha

daduke2k:
Celebrity ko celebrity ni. See as im head don dey swel like balloon. . . . . .

lol

rokiatu:
for hell sake woman a two years old baby have no bosom.

I really hope that the story is not true but as for the guy touching her bosom that's a posibility (even if every sane and rational human knows that there's nothing there). I say this cos something worse happened to a friend of mine. The guy and his wife are really busy people and hardly stay in the country. So most of the time thier four year old daughter is usually with the nanny and house boy. One day the 'sickest' thing I every heard of happened: the house boy despoiled the little girl. After that episode the entire family fell apart and everyone started blaming and hating each other.

So I would have agreed with you that things like that don't happen but my dear they do.

I sincerely hope that the story is not true cos if it is then my dear poster your daughter really needs to leave that house.

mokha:
i go join her de call d guy name, den see watin she go talk. even if we de do something eeeeee i go stand up tell her to go,

Una no go kill me with laugh o.

Come to think of it that might not be a bad idea o. Cos she's going to be so embarrassed that she will avoid you for the rest of her life.

**Reenacting the sex scene:**
Guy (John) is pounding away then chic goes "oh Greg, hmmm Greg, oh yea. . . "
Then the guy starts moaning "yea Greg, Give it to me Greg, . . . I love you Greg. . . Egbami o! Greg you will kill me oooooooo"
LWKMD
These Nairaland guys are just too funny.

Genuflect:
I've not experienced this before. But if it happens, me sef go moan 'Oh, Scarlet Johansson'. End!

4llerbuntu:
guy u dont know the half!!

$hit happened to me once, in that case i don't think the guy was an ex, i think the girl was just cheating.

i immediately lost my hard on and stood up.

the galling part was: did'nt that mean the guy was such a stud she had to fantasize abt him while i was doing the hard work? ( and i aint no slouch too)

it was over that very minute, it took a lot of patience to resist dashing the idiot a slap.

actually i just did'nt say a word, maybe the fool did'nt even realise the gaffe, suffice to say i was really humiliated.

indie22:
Happened to me once and it wasn't funny,My ex called his ex by her pet name "chi", anyway one time, we were kinda messing about, I swear i heard him say "oh chi", I was shocked and was like "wat did u just call me"? He just shook his head, I asked "did u jst call me chi"?, he thot abt it for like 6seconds and said, "no I said "oh Poo", I looked at him and jst muttered "phucking idiot" and jst got up!

cantell:
I haven't experienced that and i can never do that kind of mistake. Why i go dey shout her name? She dey outside?

I've got tears in my eyes from laughing

spoilt:
You agreed to marry a guy you [b]melt on the internet same day after he told you he had two girlfriends?[/b]

If your story is true then I'll have to ask the above question again.

How the hell can you agree to marry someone you are just seeing for the first time even after he told you he had two girl friends? As far as I'm concerned you didn't know the guy at all before you said 'Yes' (**seems really desperate to me. **) .
Forget the point that you guys were chatting on the internet for a year before you met him because that doesn't count at all. We can be whoever we want to be on the internet. I can guarantee you that more than 90% of the people you meet on the internet are not who they really are.

The fact that the guy even had two girlfriends and wanted you (someone he's meeting for the first time) to marry him should have given the signal that the guy wasn't a good person. But instead you jumped on the offer like a b!tch in heat and now see where it has led you.

I'm not really concerned about you because you were the one that messed yourself up by not putting your brain to use or even demonstrating that you had one. However my concerns is about the little innocent baby. Only God knows what he would have already done or will do to the poor child. If he has already started touching her breast at age two, I wonder what his sick mind will lead him to do when she is five or ten.

If the story is true then I have no sympathy to offer you. Just get the baby out of that house. Both of you can continue fighting for all I care.

emmboy:
Thank u, I knew what to expect. But what pains me most is follow follow. When one person says something, the others follow. Thanks all the same.

kay0195:
at least u didnt wake up unclothed. lol

LWKMD
We've got some real comedians here o!

Nice story. But where do we come in?

Does she want advice on whether or nor to leave the first bobo for her new school boyfriend? **cos it seems she has already dumbed the brother**

Or Is it whether she should continue asking the school boyfriend to show her he loves her?

if its the latter then I'll say "you can't show what you don't feel". If he loves her believe me whether he likes it or not it will show. So tell your friend to stop making excuses for him (I mean the "he wants 2 be very sure before he finalizes" bull sh!t). When and if he is actually in love with her she will know.

dupsy_tosh:


of all excuses 2 use, dis is ridiculous

cant stop laughing

subconsciously cheating!!! hiihihihihihihihihihihihihihih, hilarious

hw old is the guy self?

LWKMD

That's my next breakup line. But with a little modification sha. Something like: Your subconscious is cheating unconsciously.

Voned:
I think no matter what form is been said as far as the other person loves u it will still hurt, just imagine someone you ve been dating and love so much came crying to you or begging you and telling you she loves you no more

Of couse I know that given the circumstance, there is no way that you can possibly put it for it not to hurt. But my point is that you should try and make it easier and lighter for the person to take. That way it won't be seen as cruel. Though it will still hurt but the person won't feel as bad as when you just drop the bomb without taking into consideration how the person will feel.
For example you may first try to make the person understand that the fault is not theirs (even when its a lie). You may also say nice things you'll miss about them before droping the bomb.

Ujujoan:
I think it's both!

I mean why did you use the L-word before if you knew you didnt mean it

Why continue saying it when it's a lie

Its possible you meant it while you were saying it. Maybe some where along the line the love just withered away. Like they say, love is like a flower that needs to be nurtured and cared for otherwise it dies. For instance, I know some folks that have gotten divorced after decades of marriage.
I mean if you can fall in love you can equally fall out of it (although not easily).

I think its honest to do so. But if it's done in an insensitive manner then it becomes cruel.

The post is not funny but I can't seem to stop laughing.

Bros why did you get angry?

Is it because PHCN took the light?

Is it because the girls left you while you were asleep and started doing their chores, would you have preferred for them to sit there and watch you sleep?

Is it because they left the couch?

Is it because the movie title was LOST?

I really don't get it.

I think what you did was totally right. Why? Because it was wrong, senseless and childish

omega25red:
i guess you need to talk to her about how you feel uncomfortable about her constantly asking you for money. I mean the food stuff is no big deal because i'm sure you ate some of the food but when it comes to thing of her doing her hair and junk she would have to take care of that herself. i mean if you both were not dating or if she wasn't dating anyone how would she have paid for all that stuff?

nip this in the bud before it gets out of control

Nicely said.  

Simply Google PARTY GAMES and you will get what you need.

ik_moore2:
we are like that because girls feels we are fools they can dump and pick up anytime they feel like,

Infact as i type this now I am in the same situation, she was my 1st teenage love but she refused me bluntly and now I am somebody and her so called prince charming have disappointed her, she is all over me. Aside _{She is equally wasting her time like she wasted mine then.}

What comes around comes around.

I totally agree.
I have also been in a similar situation and I happily broke her heart ten times over cos when I asked her out she opened her mouth wide and yelled "I can never date you". The embarrassment gave me sleepless nights. So when she started acting all loving and caring (even though I never opened my mouth to say anything to her) I didn't blink before messing her up. By the time I was through with her she felt the the dose of pain she made me feel ten times more and I felt satisfied.

I think the question should be : why do ladies think they can say no to a guy and come back any time (especially when the guy is doing well) and the guy will still be waiting for them.

snthesis:
ouch! here is a list of possible scenario:
phase 1-u just realised that u have been used and the hype of intimacy wsnt wat u expected and u cant go bac to bein a virgin -double loss.
phase 2; is to go on a sxx rump lookin to fil d gapin hole in your heart, alas u wud still fill unfulfiled.
phase 3: after all d sxxcapades u get a guy dat actually likes u, but u wont trust him cos u tink he is like evry oda dude u screwed
phase 4: u loose him and u become an emotional wreck, falling allover again for evry dude promising love.
phase 5: u give up on lov get a mumu guy to get u pregnant and den get married, and warn u kids dat if dey as much as kiss a guy they wud get pregnant and go to hell.

lol. . . Nice one but that wasn't the best, this one got me rolling on the floor

snthesis:
basically from an observation u opened dis thread basically for this purpose, the number of post u have ws one, makin it obvious that the person involved is actually u and u r trying to get solace/advice from the net, anyways i could be wrong, but your assertivemness that it isnt u , proves it more that it ws u-(wetin concern me sef- too much sherlock holmes).
take it easy though (or shud i say your friend), its not about the number of times u fall, but wat u do after the fall

sparta:
Thanks guyz, the break was very for both of us, am stil healing too and i stil cry once in a while. I wil jst be patient for old times sake. A break up 3 months to your wedding is heart wrenching i guess!

wow . . . That's really sad. I wonder what might have caused the break up considering the fact that both parties are still hurting.
I'm thinking infidelity on the guy's side.

Try and make him understand that you are not in any way comfortable with the fact that your pix are there and if he still refuses to see reasons, then I think you may want to take K.D.B's advice.

k.D.B.:
write some mad stuff on his wall for all his friends to see.

I have this friend who almost lost her relationship because of a similar thing. Few weeks into a new relationship with her new boyfriend, the guy checked her status and it was still showing that she was engaged to this other guy. Apparently she forgot to change her status after she broke up with her ex and her bobo wasn't happy with it.
So my dear do whatever you have to make him take them off.

rita@NL:
Only a useless man

I think the right word should be crazy.

On the contrary I think you are very useful (as useful as a tissue paper or a rag)

rita@NL:
You don hear this b4 ? GET A LIFE

Got one but its not with a mayguard. I envy u sha

rita@NL:
Jobless fella,i will tell my guard BF to get a job for you maybe you stop ventin your joblessness frusration on NLders

I've got a great one already, but you can still tell him to get the job for you sha. At least that way both of you will have the luxury of sharing quality time together (love birds)

rita@NL:
Dem no tell you say laughing continuously na im kill your Grandpapa n mama? I told you son,you need to [b]kill [/b]your parent cos they should av told you.

Get off my case MOOFOO!

Militant Rita, all you've been saying is kill kill kill haba you are begining to sound like a broken record o!
So your folks died of laughter? That means they must have seen your posts.
One last word of advice, please if you love your mayguard boyfriend don't let him see this thread cos I'm sure the poor rich young man will die of laughter too.

rita@NL:
Well all i know is this guy is rich and if he hadn't mentioned his job you would av neva tot he could be a guard. Or maybe he was just playin with my head but the only thing dat got me thinkin is the grave thingy.

LWKMD.
O boy point of correction, the guy wasn't playing with your head, the guy is all in your head. lol
***Just can't stop laughing*** so this guy actually believes this his story. ***laughing continuously***