₦airaland Forum

[quote author=Divanona post=94374342]Eight years ago, with tears in my eye, I held his hand, begged him to stay with me that we will struggle together and succeed, but he refused. He walked away living me pregnant. Now, he's back without anything.

We were friends from the University, I graduated before him because I was studying a 4years course. The very first time, we tried to take our relationship serious was after my graduation. We had s.e.-x for the very first time and I became pregnant.
The truth is, the guy have always been good to me throughout my stays in school.
I remembered that day he sacrificed his school fees for mine so I could be able to do my final clearance. But when I became pregnant, he walked away after convincing me to keep our baby.
I went through everything all by myself.
Since last year, he has been apologizing on phone, so last week, I asked him to come. He traveled down to my place. Without being afraid of anyone harming him from my family, he believed in me and came. He's around in my family house, staying in my brother's room for the past 3days.
He has opened up everything to me, my family members and have apologized.

now, I'm so confused with my life.

He couldn't graduate, he had problem in school after I left and all this years, he has been struggling, but now he wants to take responsibility and be with us, but he had nothing. No certificate, except diploma which he later did from another school, no job, no place of his own to stay. He had nothing. He wants us to get married and have a family.


I feel I'm about to add more burden to my already stressed life.
The only positive thing here now, is the excitement my son is having seeing his father and the relationship they're building.

A part of me wants to see this guy have a great life and have direction and not see him live like this, even if I don't settle down with him. because when I meant him, he was kind, a good person, he had dreams, vision and good plans.
But living us alone all this years, with all his explanations, I'm not contented.

Another part of me is confused, afraid and I feel ishould push him away and let him go back to his life and keep moving with my son because I don't have the strength to shoulder all these.

Please matured mind in the house, what do you have to say? This is my life and it's getting more confused.
What would you advise? What should I do?
I don't want to make more mistakes.

Sorry for my lengthy write-up

[/quo



MY DR. BE CAREFUL,PLS.

"He has opened up everything to me, my family members and have apologized...." TO WHAT EXTENT HAS HE OPENED UP TO YOU. IS HE TRUTHFUL? ALL HE HAS SAID IS THAT D TRUTH? DON'T BE DECEIVED, YOU ARE ALREADY GULLIBLE. PLS THINK ALL OVER AGAIN. YOU ARE NOT YET MARRIED TO HIM, DONT BE CONFUSED, SIT HIM DOWN,LOOK INTO HIS EYES AND TALK WITH HIM. DON'T BE FLATTERED BY SO CALLED WILD LOVE OR INFATUATIONS OF BONDING WITH HIS SON. 8YEARS IS NOT 8 DAYS OR YOU ARE CURSED. CAN YOU VERIFY ALL HIS CLAIMS AND STORIES? GO TO GOD AND DONT BE IN HASTE. THE STORY IS A PATHETIC TALE. WAS HE A CULTIST,EXCOMMUNICATED IN SCHOOL? WHERE ARE HIS PARENTS AND SIBLINGS? THE STORY IS VAGUE TO ME AS A MAN IN D HOUSE.,PLS.

Chatflick:
What Ozo did was really bad. That's an immature thing to do. I almost slapped him that day when I watched the party

The Nengi Did Worse by avoiding him or rejecting his Advances the Day he was Evicted, I think d Reason he Rebuffed her last Saturday. All is Well and Good for the End.

EmptyGarden:
Bad how? Your eye dey pain you? Abi you no see as milk and groundnut full inside the garri? Na serious enjoyment dem dey so.

YOU ARE NOT SERIOUS O. IS THAT WHAT BOKO HARAM AND BANDITS EAT TO BE FIGHTING OUR FORCES WITH FERVENCY? YOU SEE PEOPLE SUFFERING JNDER UR NOSE AND YOU ARE HAPPY SAYING SUCH ROTS.

Ekeletu:
Please what'sthe price of a Rang Rover that every nollywood actress buys it?

PLS FIND OUT FROM THEM THAT,BOUGHT IT NOW. WHY ASK PEOPLE WHO ARE USING JAPANESE CARS...

dukeprince50:
Amaechi was right, during his administration, Rivers ppl had voice but Wike came with his tyrant nature and start oppressing us. Give Wike President and he'll build flyover from Rivers state to Aso rock


All that said, Amaechi is very stupid to have used the funeral of late justice Karibi whyte to promote his political stupidity. As a minister, what development has he drawn to the state?
Karibi whyte, we the good ppl of Abonnema will miss u, we lost an icon with an unshakable integrity
Dein na mu

lalasticlala

YOU ARE WRONG. BOTH ARE SAME PEOPLE AND STYLE. AMAECHI WAS VERY TYRANICAL AND ABUSIVE OF ELDERS AND LEADERS,SO MOST PEOPLE REBUFFED HIM. HE IS AS PROUD AS HIS SUCCESSOR. BIRDS OF SAME ... IN DIFF.CAMPS. HIS THOUGHTLESS ACCUSATION OF GEJ IS STUPENDOUSLY CHILDISH AND EVASIVE... HOW DID HE DEVELOP KALABARI KINGDOM AS D EXE.GOVERNOR WHILE IN OFFICE? BACKWARD SPEECH TO COVER UP MISGOVERNANCE.

Iyoocartel:
Iyooooooo cartel

Laycon verified onye obodo.
Congratulations brother,may God blessings never depart from your life. Enjoy your money but try to stay away from vagina people for now.
When you're Hot just find any lose girl around,login and log out immediately and pass her on the next unlucky guy like ozo.

Insanity Mentality needs Reprogramming

davefieldpop:
I always learn at least one thing from every edition of BBN, that can make me go very far in life.
Last year: Clout
This year: Simp
The interview I'm going for this week I would just tell my 'would be' employers when they asked their an the perrenial, anthemic question Tell us about yourself.
"I am not here for CLOUT, I am an alpha male not a SIMP".
And the job is mine!

PLS GO AND STUDY FOR GOOD,IF THAT IS ALL YOU CAN SYMTUDY FROM THIS USELESS SHOWS. JOB INTERVIEWS ARE BEYOND THOSE JABS...

simaoooo:
Watch the viral video as Tiannah consults the Iya Osun for Laycon to win the 2020 BBNaija reality show



https://www.instagram.com/p/CFnLhIRhzIX/?igshid=12rxruoacatkn


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fU-Cgivh2PA

RUBBISH STUFF

Bloooody:
See this betting of a thing eh
It'll lead me to my early grave

CHANGE UR LIFESTYLE. GREED IS VAIN COVETOUSNESS IS SIN. CONTZCT ME TO A PROFITABLE REWARDING BUSINESS ENDEAVOUR PLS.

jesusjnr2020:
^^^^^Produced a lot of covetous, materialistic and corrupt persons.

Keying into "covenant of wealth" (which suffered a huge setback due to Covid-19 despite tithing) instead of doing what Jesus said:

Matthew 6:32-33 (KJV)

(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

I MARVEL AT UR DISCONTENT AND SEDITIOUS BRAVERY. MAY GOD ALMIGHTY HANDLE UR GRIEF AND STUPENDOUS MALIGNING. REPENT OF UR GUILT AND SINFUL LIFESTYLE AND GOD WILL PURGE AND CLEANSE YOU OF ALL IMPURITIES AND GUILT. THE DOOR OF MERCY IS STILL OPEN TO YOU AND UR PEERS. EXPLOIT IT WHILE IT LAST PLS.

tobechi74:
AArmy.. navy,airforce. Kill for national safety


The image of a foetus

stabbing a helpless woman

keep playing on my head.

It was all my fault.

If not for me

She would be alive today

A choice had to be made

My life or hers

I lived she did not.

I took her life.

She gave me mine

If superstition were true

The circumstances surrounding ones birth

Gives a clue of his mission.

I took a life the day I was born

She died during child birth

Each time my birthday draws near

My soul is filled with guilt

Reminds me of my life purpose

I am born to kill

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/10/born-to-kill/

MAY GOD HAVE MERCY UPON YOU. LIVE UR PURPOSE,BUT LET GOD HEAL UR HEART AND LIFE. DO WHAT U ARE CALLED TO IN LINE WITH THE CLEAR WORDS OF GOD.

falcon01:
what's wrong with this preachers on Nairaland

HEED THEIR ADVISES, WARNINGS AND ENCOURAGEMENT, OR YOU PERISH WITH OUT HELP...SINFUL LIFESTYLE HAS ITS TURN IN GOD'S JUDGEMENT DESK.

CAPSLOCKED:
WE ALL KNOW THE BIBLE IS A COMPILATION OF TALES FROM VARIOUS CIVILIZATIONS.
IT'S JUST LIKE CHINUA MENTIONING ORLU AND AWKA IN HIS BOOKS, BUT THAT DOESN'T MAKE AMADIOHA REAL.

BELIEVE THE BIBLE AS GOD'S INSTRUCTIONS TO GUIDE MAN OR KEEP QUIET FOREVER UNTIL U FACE ITS REALITY OF DIVINITY AND JUDGEMENT FOR IGNORANCE AND INIQUITOUS LIFESTYLE.

[quote author= post=94360413][/quote]Politically Ensnared Apologist on d Border Line self Delusion

oshozondii:
https://www.nicnadr.gov.ng/news/1001/just-in-again-industrial-court-restrains-tuc-nlc-others-from-embarking-on-strike

THOSE IN GOVERNMENT ARE CONSPIRATORS IN DESTROING THE ETOS OF GOOD GOVERNANCE IN NIGERIA. EXECUTIVE AND JUDICIARY ARE HANDS IN GLOVE TO CAGE AND IMPOVERISHED THE POPUPLACE.

Trustwallet:
Hello nairalander!

Unknown someone keeps sending money to my diamond access bank, this is the second time am recieving money to my account, which is 30,290 & 30,136 naira and the text on the remark is a foreign name.

At first i got alert of 30,260 with remark "Stepan zemalek", at first i thought someone mistakenly sent money to my account, i said lemme wait if i will receive a call from someone claiming the money but nobody called to claim the money, not knowing that my bank have deducted 530 naira for sms fee nd 200 naira for stamp nd postal fee, i have to transfer the money the money to my rubies bank account with the hope somebody will call me nd claim the money.

Secondly, i got another alert of 30,136 with the remark saying "Jaonna LiebeltEtzler/18.9.20".

I dont remember giving anybody my bank details apart from my mom nd uncles, i have called my bank customer care to complain about it and to know who sent the money from my account but he said he cant disclose the information to me. i have complained to the bank and the keep saying their normal bla bla.

I need help on what to do next....below is the screenshot of the alert...

Calm down. Exercise Patience till Four Months and Don't Touch d Money again or Transfer it. Leave it in the Diamond Access. Avoid that Account for now till Six Months time. You lost Nothing, Pls.

CallMeDrino:
https://igberetvnews.com/1365887/none-ex-lovers-replaced-teebillz-boasts/

Then, Pls Go Back Now...!

celinajumbo11:
In Response To Garba Shehu’s Statement To The UK House of Lords and The Commonwealth Secretary-General


Open Letter To Baroness Cox, and Her Co-Signers

House of Lords,
Parliament of the United Kingdom
SW1

Dear Madam,

I write in reference to the statement given to the press by a spokesman of the Nigerian President, one Mr Garba Shehu, in which he disparaged your good selves, as well as Lt General Theophilus Yakubu Danjuma, a former Nigerian Chief of Army Staff, and tried to pass off his boss, as a caring statesman who is trying his best to bring peace to Nigeria.

I would urge you not to give any credence to the statement by Mr Shehu, who is well known in Nigeria as an agent of disinformation.

For example, in trying to discredit General Danjuma, Mr Shehu stated as follows:

“He was last in a government position 17 years ago in 2003 (as Minister of Defence). At that time, religious and ethnic riots erupted in two states of the federation, (2001 and 2002). These were violently and ruthlessly put down by the military under his authority, leading to the loss of thousands of lives and the displacement of some further 50,000 persons. He is, therefore, not a natural source of pressure for good governance.”

If the above is true, then that same action disqualifies Mr Garba Shehu himself, because he was a spokesman for that very same government, which he now disparages. He held the position of Special Assistant on Media at the Presidency at that material time, before he was sacked and later arrested, for actions that undermined that government and Nigeria’s national security interests.

He has remained bitter since his sack and lacks the capacity to offer an unbiased appraisal of that government that he served until he was booted out.

Garba Shehu will say anything to please his paymasters, and I call your attention to a statement he made on August 22, 2017, wherein, to explain away the long absence of General Buhari from his office (which was later discovered to be due to ill health), Mr Shehu claimed that rats and other rodents had occupied the President’s office and he was staying away from his office as a result!

Mr Shehu is a propagandist whose words have little or no value.

In any case, in keeping with the legal maxim that he who comes to equity must come with clean hands, Mr Shehu, has also, by his admission, shown that “He is, therefore, not a natural source of pressure for good governance” being that he served with Mr Danjuma in the government of President Olusegun Obasanjo, that he now disparages.

Furthermore, Mr Garba Shehu said:

“Our government is made equally of Christian and Muslim cabinet members. Our Vice President is an evangelical pastor.”

This is a lie, and Mr Shehu is known for this type of behaviour, which is known as Taqiyya, a deliberate disinformation, for religious purposes.

It is not true that the government of General Muhammadu Buhari is “made equally of Christian and Muslim”.

Under General Muhammadu Buhari, the heads of the three arms of government, namely the Executive, Judiciary, Legislature, are Northern Muslim males. This has never before happened in the history of Nigeria, until Buhari rose to power.

In addition to this, the entire Nigerian military is effectively controlled by Northern Muslim males. For example, the Minister of Defence, and the heads of the Army, Airforce, Police, DMI, DSS, EFCC, NIA, NCS, NPS, and 90% of the headship of Nigeria’s security agencies are all Northern Muslim males.

This administration is very good at window dressing, and will cite General Abayomi Gabriel Olonisakin, a Christian, who was appointed as the Chief of Defence Staff. Please be aware that this position is a desk position, with absolutely no real power. The powers are wielded the the National Security Adviser, the Minister of Defence, Chief of Army Staff, and others in actual command of troops. These are all, without exception, Northern Muslim males.

Mr Garba Shehu is a skilled misinformer. He lied when he said:

“When the government came to power, the terrorist group held and administered an area the size of Belgium. Now they hold none. The terrorists are hiding out amongst remote forests and across borders.”

This is not true. When General Buhari assumed power on May 29, 2015, Boko Haram had been defeated in Nigeria, which was why the 2015 elections held in every polling unit in Nigeria, including those in Adamawa, Borno, and Yobe states.

How could elections hold, if Boko Haram held the territories in which the elections were held? As a matter of fact, according to the Global Terrorism Index, Boko Haram is stronger today, than they were in 2015. You would be reminded that the GTI has no dog in this fight, and so have no reason to lie.

The truth, which Garba Shehu seeks to muddle up, is that General Buhari and his cronies have made comments and taken actions that show that they have sympathy for some of those responsible for the violence.

After emerging victorious in the 2015 election, General Buhari, at an event at the United States Institute for Peace, said on July 25, 2015, as follows:

“Constituents, for example, that gave me 97% cannot, in all honesty, be treated, on some issues, with constituencies that gave me 5%.”

He proved this, by sending thousands of soldiers to the areas where he got very little votes, to quash groups that were protesting peacefully, while treating groups in areas that he felt supported him with kid gloves.

For example, General Buhari sent only 300 policemen to stop the genocide against Christians in Southern Kaduna (where his crony, Governor El-Rufai, admitted paying killer herdsmen), and sent 30,000 policemen to Edo state, to help his crony, Mr Adams Oshiomhole, win elections.

Furthermore, on October 13, 2017, the President of the World Bank Group, Jim Yong Kim, said:

“You know, in my very first meeting with President Buhari he said specifically that he would like us to shift our focus to the northern region of Nigeria and we’ve done that. Now, it has been very difficult. The work there has been very difficult.”

What reason would the President of the World Bank have to lie against General Buhari?

So, in summary, I would urge the House of Lords, and the Secretary-General of the Commonwealth, Patricia Scotland, not to fall for the Taqiyya manipulations of Garba Shehu, a man with no sense of honour, who now attacks the government that he once served, just to please his current paymasters.

Should the current Nigerian government’s tenure end, and a new and opposing one emerges, characters, like Garba Shehu, would once again change their tunes.

Reno Omokri

#1 Bestselling author of Facts Versus Fiction: The True Story of the Jonathan Years. Avid traveller. Hollywood Magazine Film Festival Humanitarian of the Year, 2019.

See link: https://m.facebook.com/1152008079/posts/10222859598015790/?d=n

THANKS TO RENO FOR REMINDING US ALL OF GARBA SHEHU'S PAST LIFE. HE IS A BORN SERIAL LIAR LIKE HIS PARTNERS IN D INFORMATION DESK OF D PRESIDENT. No wonder for his very Bad Behaviour. Let him do his Worse. God will Punish You all for ur Repeated Falsehood in d Country.

saphiere:
Nollywood actress Anita Joseph took to her IG to react to the pant washing saga which has been going on online for days now after Neo was spotted washing his lover's pants.

The actress disclosed that her husband washes her panties while reacting to the conversation around BBNaija's Neo washing his love interest, Vee's underwear.

she wrote:


Anita's husband Michael Fisayo Olagunju, aka MC Fish, who was in the background, agreed with her and insisted there's nothing wrong with it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aE-O-_PentQ

https://www.instagram.com/p/CFh_69Oh0GE/

YOU TALKED TRUE,BUT IS VEE AND NEO ALREADY MARRIED? WHAT A RUBBISH ALLUSION?

dingbang:
I wonder how this husband will be managing this waist.

PLS FIND OUT FROM HIM,BIKONÛ.

epicmadam:
Oh cool


Don't forget that i have magic organic seeds (Akpi and Fenugreek) for ladies that have deficiency in their butts, hips and breasts. Chat me up before considering artificial implanting or surgery which at times ends in disaster. I'm just a click away...

HOW ABOUT MEN OWN?

jaybenugo:
Korede Bello has taken to his twitter account to declare that women are the superior gender, IgbereTV reports.

The singer wrote:

https://twitter.com/koredebello/status/1309093607505354754?s=19

His statement got varied response from people. While some agreed with him, others called him out.

THIS IS UNTRUE AND WRONGLY CONTEMPLATED. WOMEN CAN NOT BE SUPERIOR GENDER, BEING THAT SHE CAME FROM THE MAN. NAMED AFTER D MAN...'WO MAN' SHE IS DESIGNED BY GOD FOR HER VERY SPECIAL ROLES. THE IS MADE HEAD BY GOD FOR HIS DIVINE PURPOSE... SO KOREDE SHOULD LEARN AND RETHINK AND REPHRASE HIS THOUGHTS OUTCOME.

Osagyefo98:
The Godfather of Delta state Politics.

Infact the father of all Deltans.

He is Not. He was not and He will Not...

abobote:
Stupid DSS, maybe they thought it's armedless IPOB

I PITY UR END IF U DON'T CHANGE UR LIFE FOR GOOD. MAY GOD FORGIVE YOU,UR SINS.

jaybenugo:
Man Released From Ikoyi Prison After 7 Years For A Crime He Knew Nothing About (Photo)

A Nigerian man has been released from Ikoyi prison in Lagos state on Thursday, September 24 2020, after spending 7 years in there for a crime he knew nothing about, IgbereTV reports.

Lawyer and writer, Malachy Odo, who facilitated his released, recounted how he got involved in helping the man secure his freedom.

Odo tweeted:


https://twitter.com/MalachyOdo1/status/1309123537307873283?s=19

https://igberetvnews.com/1365828/man-released-ikoyi-prison-7-years-crime-knew-nothing-photo/

THANK GOD FOR LIFE. BUT WHAT COMPENSATIONS WILL BE PAID OR GIVEN TO HIM FOR HIS ABUSE AND RECOVERY, PLS?

backT:
A lady has taken to popular micro-blogging platform to show off her two husband’s as she gushed over them.

According to the lady identified as Brisbane, in her social media post used the mathematical Greater Than sign (>>>> to indicate that marrying two men is greater then marrying one man.

She shared photos of herself and the two men in her life who looked very happy and satisfied with the polyamorous relationship.

Captioning the images, Brisbane wrote ;



https://mobile.twitter.com/brisbanebee/status/1307528853133418496

Insatiable Appetite for Sex will destroy this Vile Woman.... Sinful Pratices from that age will Confuse them eternally.

Kestolove:
E beta say she no go dey fvck around like dat senator call oduah wey be igbo

DID U CATCH HER OR SEE HER FUCKING AROUND? AMEBO...RUMOUR MONGER AND CHIEF GOSSIP MISTRESS. MIND UR MOUTH?

Kestolove:
E beta say she no go dey fvck around like dat senator call oduah wey be igbo

DID U CATCH HER OR SEE HER FUCKING AROUND? AMEBO...RUMOUR MONGER AND CHIEF GOSSIP MISTRESS. MIND UR MOUTH?

Brandstudio01:
It's a family issue. Let their Leaders settle them instead of washing their duty linen in a market Square. Unless they're telling the world the party does not have leadership.

The party is quite to young for all this drama. Not this was how PDP started that kept them together for 16 solid years. Their Leadership should avoid making mistake PDP made in 2015

WHAT ARE YOU TALKING HERE? THERE'S NO DIRTY LINEN,PLS. OBASEKI IS FIGHTING WITH NO BODY,NOT EVEN OSHIOMOLE.HE HAS FORGIVEN AND FORGOTTEN ALL. OBASEKI IS PDP AND OSHOBABA IS APC WHILE OYEGUN IS APDPC PLS. TAKE NOTE.THANKS.

[quote author= post=94200248]We guess some wise people have advised him from the pride and foolishness his brain went to into in the first 24 hours after winning the election, talking like a proud little tout, Abusing everyone.

The progress of Edo state is what really matters at this point, not political foolishness.
Enough of the jargons, threats, bickering and foolishness he has been spewing just after 24 hours.
Go straight to work and move Edo state forward Mr Guv!

God bless Edo State.
God bless Nigeria.


Even our darling number one wailer on Nairaland, who campaigned for him day and night,
sometimes, even forgetting to eat!
has got some good advice for him below.
Pride truly goes before a fall!




It is always good and refreshing to see that we have reasonable members like you on this forum.
Good to see we are not the only one.
[b]A better Nigeria all around is all we want. [/b]R
End of Discussion.

Don't mind the big kid. [/quote]FOOLISHNESS ON D OVER RIDE SEAT. ARE YOU MORE INTELLIGENT AS TO TIMING? PLS KEEP UR RASH CRITIQUE IN UR POCKET. JESLOUSY. NEEDLESS FIGHTING

Awol1:
He shouldn't.

One of the 48 Laws of Power states that you should "Crush Your Enemy Completely".

Obaseki should crush Oshiomole beyond recovery!

NO PLS. HE SHOULD BE MERCIFUL. HE HAS GOTTEN WHAT HE WANTS. HE SHOULD TREAD SOFTLY,PLS AND MIND HIS BUSINESS WITH FOCUS ON HIS JOB...

ODJ124:



Obaseki should Calm down.... the battle is about taking a new leaf...

He might be disqualified on the grounds that He sort for nomination in 2 different political party for the same election...

which is against the law... (AA in imo state)

ILLITERACY IS A BURDEN,POCKET LAWYER. THE TWO CASES ARE NOT SAME,PLS. DIDN'T HE DECAMP B4 SAILING IN PDP?