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Damnnnnnn!!!!

Tallesty1:





You eeh

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GloriousGbola:
Me too I am offended and vexed

You too dey find trouble.

Tallesty1:
Enyi, the reason you said sorry was because I told you to count me out Nigerians wey dey vex and you are still telling me make I no vex?

Tallesty1:
Enyi, the reason you said sorry was because I told you to count me out Nigerians wey dey vex and you are still telling me make I no vex?

Ehen na. I have to say "Sorry" twice.

Sorry, please, don't be offended, excuse me Sir.

Tallesty1:

Nor vex.

Tallesty1:
Count me out

Ma binu, Sir.

Gerrard59:
My pleasure. In my time on Nairaland, I see more reviews and posts about living in the West (can be understood) and very few from Asia (depending upon region; I don't consider Arab countries to be Asia, though). So, a growing part of my posts going forward will be to explain how life is in this part of this world based on my knowledge, people's experiences, scientific studies, government reports, general surveys etc.

I am where I am largely because of information which other people share, so I will pay it forward by sharing the same.

You're right. I hardly see Nairaland posts on Asian countries hence the limited knowledge.

Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us.

Everybody is angry in Nigeria today but the actions of the driver should NEVER be justified.

Gerrard59:
Yes, it is heavily frowned upon. The wedlock rate in Japan is below 5%, which is abysmally low compared to other developed countries. I don't know about China or Korea, but in Singapore, government policies aimed at housing and certain subsidies deter it. It is frowned upon. In return, the poverty rate is low, there is social cohesion and order in the society. East Asia is a case study where the two parent system works and the society is prosperous. It is my go-to example for "saner climes". Most Nigerian netizens see the West as "saner climes", which I disagree with. There are other wealthier societies which are saner than the West.

In the West, birth rates are low because people have fewer children even though they are in a union. In the East, it is low because marriage rates are low. More children are born out of wedlock in the West compared to the East. So, when accounting for fertility, that distinction is important. In summary, marriage begets children in the East, but not necessarily so in the West. Additionally, the Japanese government counts everyone with Japanese nationality as "Japanese citizens". However, I don't know if this applies to fertility rate analysis. But since the government has certain subsidies and policies aimed at ethnic Japanese, I believe there is a way to account for the fertility rates of ethnic Japanese. After all, the overwhelming majority of the citizens are ethnic Japanese. Also, it makes sense to prefer people who look and think like you to procreate more. Humans are tribal.



There is a slight majority to men, but more balanced than China's.



Boring and bland to me. But the ladies are facially beautiful sha. As you stated, it is not really fun. It's not surprising as her cousins (Koreans and Chinese) are the biggest consumers. I am pretty sure they don't enjoy Ebony Porn either.



Exercise, eating more fruits and spices (ginger & garlic), longer pre-intimacy duration, cutting down on alcohol and other deleterious things we consume would add more stamina to sexual intercourse than drugs. Drugs do more harm. Folks should go natural. Pans.ophist has emphasised this deeply.



I sympathise with him sha. He has the money, but cannot enjoy the best women. But then, there is more to penetrative sex. Most men don't last up to 30 mins via penetrative sex naturally. So, why bother when there are other styles which aren't penetrative?



That is, a black man, regardless of nationality, would be admired (even if it is strictly sexual) in regions with fewer black people because the numbers favour black men. I don't see how black men would be admired in France compared to Mongolia. Scarcity induces curiosity.



There are a lot o. A significant proportion are African American men who are stationed as US soldiers in military bases across the country (this applies to both Korea and Japan). Another proportion are African men, especially Nigerians and majorly Igbo men, who came in during the '80s and '90s. Then there is the group from the Caribbean, dem Jamaicans and Haitians. One Senegalese (who speaks better Japanese than myself) who lives in Yokohama told me that Japanese women who like black men prefer African American men to black African men. They only move to black African men when they don't see or cannot get an African American man.

P.S. I wager that there are more black African men than African American men in this country.

Also, he told me that biracial kids don't like black men, especially black Africans, as their fathers (black men) left the family, leaving the upbringing to their mothers. Raising a family anywhere is expensive. As a result, most couldn't get into the university due to high education costs (prepping to take the national exams costs a lot. Juko, like JAMB classes, are revered here and cost a lot). So, they carry that grudge with them. I can understand the POV of those black African men. The women were a means to an end (PR status) and/or they couldn't last long due to cultural reasons and/or the man planned moving back home and the woman no gree (logical enough).

Japanese are more exposed to foreigners than Koreans. So, the perception towards marrying a foreigner isn't as bad or negative as in Korea. Koreans are more nationalistic or preferential than Japanese in that regard. I am surprised you say you see a lot. Maybe because you consume more Korean content. But a black man, regardless of nationality, has higher chances of marrying a Japanese than a Korean or Chinese, all things being equal. As for the Chinese, that has more to do with black African men who went/go there for business and trading. I wager that very few African American men are involved due to the usual US-China historical relationship and the non-existence of US military bases in China. For instance, in Taiwan, it could be 50:50 with a slight majority of African American men fathering women with Taiwanese women because of US military bases there. In all, the white man is the most preferred after the native men across Asia. Yes, as a whole continent - from India to Malaysia to Japan to Thailand to the Philippines - the White man wins emphatically. Whether he is ugly, has less money or is fat, his chances are way way higher. Asian women LOVE white men.



Causal relationships benefit men more than women. The presence of testosterone is a major factor. Women are largely more demisexual than men. Except for the religious folks who are not pretentious or hypocritical as most Nigerians who claim to be religious are, almost every man likes to have a taste of different women at some point in their life. As Chimamanda said, it is the men that are benefitting. As a man, I wish the sexual liberation ideology lives on forever.



Ignorance is the reason. As I said, except in regions with fewer black people. Else, we are at the back of the queue in women's preference of men. And even at that, African American men come first before black African men. That is the power of wealth. Women, regardless of race or nationality, are hypergamous. And heck, everyone wants the best for him/herself.



No, I did not. If I did, I bet I would have attained first-class position even without heavy study. I am naturally good at the theoretical aspect.



The same here. Someone to handle the math assignment for the kids, while I do the theoretical explanation. Mathematics is good as the best jobs are math-inclined.



It is expensive. It is sweet o, as a man. But it is expensive. Terribly expensive. Only the financially comfortable should cheat. It makes no sense to be struggling with rents, school fees and other financial necessities yet cheat. I find it distasteful.

Gerrard, I have learnt so much from you pertaining the Japanese culture. Thank you.

If I reply everything here, this conversation will span into 1week, as I am very inquisitive. 🤣🤣

Proserpina:
This op deserves the Vawulence . He is one of the redpill trolls I avoid because he will always want to have the last say. Even when you agree he is right, he will raise a point to disagree. When you leave his mention unanswered he will lurk around to wait for someone to oppose you then he will mention that person to gossip/ talk about you. Very annoying being..... Now I understand better.

Lol.... I stay awake to read those posts sometimes

It serves him right.

It's actually very embarrassing when I see some really old monickers troll/ say nasty things about women all in the name of "Redpill". Now that he's joblesss, he can dedicate 24/7 trolling.


Omoo! Stay awake ke? No oh. You people have turned me to early bird in this Lagos. I now sleep 9pm/10pm on weekdays

Proserpina:


You too like Vawulence....

You sure say you no be part of those Nigerians wey dey roast other African countries on SM?

I live for vawulence.💃💃💃

Hahahaha no oh. I dey sleep that time sef.

Proserpina:
10 years with a company as a lift operator! You dey whine?

And you never thought of developing yourself in anyway but you can write epistles on why women are evil on Nl.

I've always known most of you who shout on this forum are nothing to write home about. Women are this women are that. Are they also responsible for this too?

I feel no pity for you o! It's obvious your goal in life is to be Nl Alphamale Lord.... Now you have enough time for that.

Wetin concern Se.un here?

Raise am!
Raise am!!
Raise am!!!

aysnoopy:
Thanks so much for your prayers. It's really a long story. I just don't take the job, it has reasons but I was used and dumbed. I wasted a whole 6 years and I've to just start my life afresh. Been depressed and hungry isn't something to joke with. Right now I'm hypertensive, at 33years. I've been on drug since I was 29years old. I just hope I won't die young coz of the problem I'm facing with my health condition too

Awww, sorry about that.
I hope things turn out well for you.

Tallesty1:
The worst thing about such jobs is that they don't develop you and they don't give one time to self-develop or even search for something better.

I wanted to blame the guy for taking such a job, but I held myself back since I don't know his story.

I pray he gets something better.

This is so true. The meagre salary isn't even commensurate to the skills the man has. That's crazy because he read Civil Engineering which is a professional course.

Phewww!

I pray he gets something better really.

Tallesty1:
Totally.


A salary of 30k and transport fare taking 50% means a married man goes home every month with 15k, provided he doesn't eat at work.

How are they coping?

It's terrible! My heart sunk when I read that.

Tallesty1:
This is scary

This country is finished.

cococandy:
Why didn’t you take the same oath?

Good question. 🤣🤣🤣

[quote author=GloriousGbola post=128342162][/quote]Hahahaha.

More like;

Him: You're so short.
Her: Okay, put some inches in me then.

Disclaimer: Not my handwriting. Account was hacked.

Tallesty1:
Fill the place up first, utilization comes next.

Lmao. Wahalurrrrr everywhere.

[quote author=Tallesty1 post=128340574[/quote]Tallesty1

I seriously don't know how it relates.

What if you have it big and cannot utilize it properly? Waste of resources.

Gerrard59:
From an Internet search, it is just the government not approving contraceptives as OTC. Thus, anyone who wants it must get a prescription, which is a long process and can be difficult because of the language barrier.



The government is interested in increasing the birth rate. So, I posit that by making it hard to get contraceptives over-the-counter, citizens are forced to accept the possibility of marrying themselves if a child is the result of their sexual intercourse. In East Asia, wedlock is heavily frowned upon. So, once there is a child, it is expected marriage follows immediately. As a result, people either stay off sex, use condoms or the few contraceptives approved via OTC or masturbate to porn.

P.S. When the government says we want to increase the birth rate, it is focused on ethnic Japanese, not foreigners.



Big business, but facing a shoftrage of male actors due to the ageing of the population. There are even older female actresses (>50 years) in the industry, but as the population declines, male actors are becoming scarce. Maybe actors from China would come in, or South Korea - the two major consumers of Japanese porn.



The thing about some of the medicinal practices we have in Nigeria is how people cannot think why these medicines aren't popular beyond Nigeria. The question to ask is: why are these products not popular? If there is a product that increases the size of a man's preek, whoever is behind it would instantly become a billionaire. Anything concerning male sexuality will make money big time. As I have written on NL, men all over the world like to fvck largely because of testosterone. Enlargement cream no dey work, else that Israeli billionaire wey do surgery and later died would have bought them to increase his preek's size.



It gives off confidence. And since, on average, our women have big hips and yansh, it means the preek can do wonders. In fact, the belief that black men have big preek is why foreign women, especially those in places with few black people, might/would want to test it to see if it is true.



Because they are a minority and since most foreigners aren't black and a proportion of black men marry Japanese women, it is better to seek defined relationships than causal ones. The numbers don't favour black women. So, it is appropriate to be tactical.



Well, this is a point, but in Wike's voice if it didn't dey, it didn't dey



Forget those miscreants, people wey never chop belly full. I am glad many Nigerians, both genders, have japa'd in recent times. That belief that black men, especially black African men, are hotcakes to young white women has been demystified. They have seen it for themselves, not dem say or person tell me. Black men aren't really prized. Many would go back home to marry. That is the truth. So, the slurs are from unexposed miscreants who have not seen the inside of an aircraft.

Humans are social animals. We seek communities, except the person is very antisocial, and this is a minority group.



Till today, some people ask me why I did not study economics or finance Sha, na poor math foundation from secondary school, hence my signature.



Sure. But the ROI sex brings is very low. That is the truth, especially for men wey no too get money. It is good and sweet from a biological aspect, but bad from a financial POV. Once the numbers don't favour me economically, I withdraw.

Ohhh I see.

Yeah, I noticed that children born out of wedlock is heavily frowned at. I observed this in the many Korean movies I watch. The children are usually omitted from the Family Book/Tree and they're usually despised.

Lol. So the increase in birth rate is within themselves and not foreigners? Nice one.

Male actors are scarce? Interesting.
Sorry to ask, but what is the ratio of the population of women to men in Japan? Lower? Higher?

I don't even know how people enjoy Japanese porn.

Enlargement creams do not work actually but people still patronise these products. Your Nigerian men are still taking "agbo", "shekpe", "monkey tail" to last long in bed and do "snake in the monkey shadow" sex style.

I remember the story of that late Israeli billionaire. He must have been really insecure about his penile size.
Truly money can't buy everything.

I wish the foreign women the best in trying out the black man koboko.

When you say the foreigners aren't black, do you mean the Vietnamese? Singaporean? Chinese? Korean? etc surrounding Asia Or foreigners such as the Americans, British folks.

I'm surprised black men marry Japanese women (I've seen more of Chinese and Korean). I don't think I've seen much of that mix. Although I foresee them having beautiful kids.

Even in Nigeria here, it is still better to seek defined relationships than casual ones.

Hahahaha. Na really if it didn't dey, it didn't dey. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

That's true. Black men ALWAYS feel like they're the best thing after sliced bread but when they reach other climes, they know better.

Oh, I thought you majored in Economics/Finance in your undergrad years.
Cool too.

I had poor Math foundation in secondary school. I'm really terrible at it till date. I definitely have to marry someone who's good at that otherwise we're toast!

Fornication is expensive las las.🤣🤣🤣

Adv14:
I hope so, studying cancer development and the cure is such a hard science.

I know right!

It is such a hard science. I really wish something fast can be done about it, so we nip it on time. It really is a cankerworm.

ifegen:
I no dey carry anything comot any where 😁😁😁. You need some long penis that can stimulate your gut (stomach) muscles. That's the ultimate Gspot. LOL
Just kidding, don't mind me. But speaking of penis sizes, I really think if we represent sizes as a spectrum, Nigerian straight men are mostly on the far side of little. Wonder why that is!

Hahahaha. Make Una carry problems for ya head. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I nor want abeg.

This is true. The gay guys I met in Law School? Hmmm! They had big organs and well rounded butt.

GloriousGbola:
This topic is officially 101% derailed

You like trouble pass fight.

please tell me you are AA genotype and can manage stubborn genz chicks. Asking for a friend

I saw what you did here. Lol. Smh.

pansophist:
Both are not easy, either finding a wife or finding a husband.

I have always said before that good marriageable people are scarce. Until you have made money as a man, or are ready to settle down as a woman, you won't know how hard that thing is.

Then, you begin to think back on the good people you have pushed away due to your ignorance, vanity, or lack of tolerance. You were caught up in the lie that there is someone special and angelic waiting for you. And that there are many fishes in the sea.

True, there might be many fishes in the sea but do you know what's also in the sea? Trash, yes, lots of trash and plastic. Also shit, stones, sands, shells, and inedible stuff. All the rubbish you find on land is also in the sea.

Also, many of the reasons people push off good partners are because of their lack of self-consciousness. You are so imperfect, totally blind to your imperfection, but somehow, expect others to be.

When Jesus approached the men who wanted to stone the prostitute to death, he said a simple sentence to them, ''he who is without sin, throw the first stone''. They all vanish after he says that.

This sentence made them conscious of their imperfection, and that they should be easy on the prostitute. Don't kill her because she sins differently than you.

So if you are conscious of your shortcomings, you won't be out there looking for perfection in people. By tolerating imperfection, it is not character-based, but mostly physical such as what young people call ''spec''.

If someone lies, manipulates, wants to tame/conquer, is deceitful, vengeful, wicked, and just a shitty human, then dump him/her. Don't tolerate that because it's character-based. It's free to develop your character.

But if they aren't having a fat ass, not over six feet tall, a bit chubby, broke but not poor (poverty is a mindset), then these can be overlooked.

So yes, stop pushing off good people, them no plenty at all. If you are young and reading this, thinking you will just push good people off, you might not meet them again. I don't believe in karma, but only a few people escape this.

If you meet a good person that your heart accepts, who loves you and treats you right, then work with that. Otherwise, accept that you might not meet them again. Then go ahead and break up.

Wholesome writeup. No one is truly perfect.

Una dey repeat this topic every Eke market day. It's becoming bland and boring.