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authority2006:
While this may work for a while but it's not going to be a permanent solution. He still needs to address the root cause.

It can actually be a permanent solution. There are two advantages to it: one, he will know his wife will not be attractive to other men (if he is the jealous type), 2) he'll last longer in bed and be more in control of things generally due to reduced sensitivity

frankdre:
hahahahahahahaha some men don suffer....Image niiii...what if him come forget the image...LMAO

Doesn't have to be image. Can be a scenario - as long as as it's something you find very arousing!

Incredible128:
he'd later get tired of it and might start / want to experiment outside

Anybody can want to experiment outside - even those attracted to their wives.
The point is to get aroused and be sexually satisfied (with your wife as the beneficiary). My point is that it can be easily accomplished if you don't insist on your wife providing the initial arousal.

gentlegenius:
"Sex is a mental game. If you position your thought well, no woman is unattractive."
This was the statement you made that forced me to quote you in disagreement.
Talking about the woman you marry, I agree with you that no man has the right to complain that his wife is unattractive. There must be something about her that you find attractive before you decided to marry her. Focus on it. If you can't focus on it, blame yourself.
As for me, attraction is three dimensional, because we are three dimensional beings. A woman's body, soul and spirit must attract me before I can have sex with her. Considering her body, for example, any physical attribute that made her different from men is what I found attractive. A woman with hairy body doesn't look different from men. A woman with a strong body; A woman with flat chest and flat ass doesn't look different from men. As far as I am not gay, I can't feel sexually attracted to such women because I believe any man that is attracted to such women can be attracted to a fellow man.
When she has a soft, succulent, smooth body... When she has boobs and ass that is big enough to be noticed, then she arouse my sexual interest. In fact, the more she posses those features that made her different from men, the more I will found her sexually attractive.
As for her soul, if she has good character/manners, it will attract me. If she's a God fearing person, her Spirit will also attract me.
Sorry to bother you with this story:
When I was about 18 years old, there was a girl in my church choir that was my namesake. She was so fond of me and anytime we finish choir practice, she'll be all over me. Other guys in the choir and even our choir master were getting jealous because she has big boobs and a good shape. My guys were telling me that I am so lucky that a 16 year old girl with such big, standing boobs is falling for me. They were sure she was still a virgin, so they were begging me to start banging her before another man will do that with her. The truth is: she was doing everything possible for me to bang her, but I wasn't interested. She was disrespectful, ill-mannered, and her character was extremely disgusting. Anytime she comes close to me, I will find her body very attractive, but her soul very disgusting.
She was living with just her mother, so when her mother traveled for 1 month, she came to my house and told my mum that she can't sleep alone in their house, that she will be coming every night to sleep with my sister, as she was close to her. I was the only one that knows the reason why she leaves all her relatives houses and chose my house as her sleeping point. Some days, she'll come since afternoon and stay till night. I didn't want anyone in my house to suspect that she want sex from me, so every night she comes around, I will leave the house as if I am going to sleep outside. When she enter my sisters room to sleep, I will come back into my room and sleep. One night, she followed me as I went out. On the way, we met one of our choir guys, and he decided to follow us to where we were going. When I reached my friend's place and entered his room, she Followed me in. My friend quickly leave the room for us only to meet the other guy standing outside. They both decided to lock us in. The girl quickly lie on the bed while I relaxed in a chair. Before 5 minutes, she complained that the room is hot and removed her top, remaining only bra and the short skirt she put on. The moment I took a glance at her, my dick became super charged. I was struggling so hard to cage my dick between my thighs so that she won't notice my erection. I had to focus on the pictures in the room to avoid looking at her. When thoughts of sex crossed my mind, I'll ask myself, what if I pregnate her an I'm forced to marry her? Will I be able to cope with her bad manners and disgusting character for the rest of my life?
After about 2 hours, the guy finally opened the door. The girl quickly put on her top and leave the room with a frowned face, heading straight to her house. My friend came in and blasted me: "How can a girl with such assets (something other men can kill to have) be following you around almost begging you to sleep with her and you waste the opportunity? Are you normal at all?".
Since that night she stop coming to my house and always frowns her face anywhere she sees me even up till now that she's a matured woman with 3 children. I still applaud myself for being able to overcome such temptation as a teenager (something older men and even most married men of today cannot overcome).
Now, I am over 30, yet I haven't changed. I still eemaintained that any man who finds every woman attractive is not a normal being.

Thanks for the story.
My point is that it is mostly what's happening in your head that determines sexuaity - so it can be you that control that. Hence men and women can orgasm using all sorts of inanimate objects, talkless of a live human being. Are they attracted to those objects? NO. But they are NOT thinking of those objects. They are thinking whatever makes them orgasm. My point is, they can equally do same with ANY human of opposite sex - if they wish to.

AvalonSpace:
Aren't there couples who have been in marriage for decades? No be there same eguisi them still dey eat?

Well you asked how he can possibly lose interest. That's how. Of course there are exceptions to everything, but the normal human behavior is to start losing interest in something that's always there and in overabundance

poweredcom:
Mr man what do u mean attitude ..he is a blogger and actor ..he need traffic to his page and he is cashing out

This guy use to be very good those days but as hunger de land he turn to IG blogger and started leaking things in the industry then he later started the gay thing to confuse ur mind

Now he has attention now and collecting small endorsements

Mr. Woman is he the only hungry blogger? Only people with gay tendencies behave this way.
Even that lunatic Kemi Oluloye, did not do this - because she is not gay

poweredcom:
This uche is a good strategist he is not gay and he knows how to divorce you people online

He has to be gay. Only gay people have this kind of attitude

AvalonSpace:
You must have cheated on her.. i don't understand how you just lose interest all of sudden.

What do you mean? Same way you can start losing interest in the egusi soup you used to love, if you are begged to eat it everyday

Mrsoft3:
Exactly the point, half baked story.

There should be a pointer to the fact that he lost sexual feelings to his wife, atleast a maybe

What do you mean? He no longer finds his wife sexually attractive. That's the hole issue.
"hole issue"

IJEYdiamond:
Master in the game..... ladies pic too to masturbate ??

The initial arousal doesn't have to come from the wife.
If you can train your thoughts, sky is the limit

Crossroad1:
We can't over emphasize the use of tracker..
How can you buy a car worth more than a million and can't install 50k+ tracker, how?

I pray you find your car

Hiw can I get 50k+ tracker? Someone told me at least 100k

Mrsoft3:
Are you cheating?

Do you see him say anywhere that he does?

Incredible128:
this is a bad advice, I wouldn't advice th e o.p to follow this advice as ur problems would still persist and later escalate. @ o.p, find ways to spice up ur marriage; maybe take ourselves out, and stuff lyk dat

It is good advice if done well. He can get himself sexually aroused then bleep his wife. It's a slight mental shift - if he stops insisting the initial arousal must come from his wife, he'd be able to bleep his wife a lot more.

malcom1X:
https://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-coronavirus-portugal-vaccine-idUSKBN2B72NZ

I gave you statistics from our world in data.

I gave you statistics (numbers!), you give me a link.
But even the link you gave shows you are lying:

The temporary suspension happened March 15. You said that's when Covid cases started going down - a big lie. See it below again

mariahAngel:
Then they both wouldn’t care.

You were talking as if he'd commit suicide

Sleekmilan01:
They didn't stopped lying...they are actually glaring for the actual moon event now,so there's nothing to lie about now again since they have the tech to go now unlike 50years ago

What is the conspiracist saying. Between 1965 and 72 they lied they went to the moon six times. Then since 72 no more lies. Use your head sometimes

gentlegenius:
I disagree with you on this...
Though, there are some men that can sleep with anything that has hole between her legs, but I am not one them. There are some women I see and I will tell myself NO MATTER WHAT I MAY BE THINKING OR FEELING, I can't just sleep with this one. There are some women that even if I am having erection on my own, and they suddenly appear before me naked, my erection will go away. This is not a psychological problem because there are other men like me. Men who have high taste for women don't sleep with anything they see. Even animals dont sleep with anything that is of opposite sex... A male lion can't sleep with a female tiger even though they are all cats. There can't be any attraction between them.
Every reasonable man should have taste when it comes to female attraction. As, a man, if every woman you see in this world can attract you sexually, then something is wrong with you.

But we are not talking any woman. We are talking your own wife that you already have affection for and have interests in common.

suffering:
These situations are too easy to counsel and make me wonder if they are real to begin with. If you don’t find her attractive, buy a cane and register her to a gym. Two months in and she’ll be the one posting here that she’s stopped finding you attractive. An alternative is to find her a yoga coach. That one is even better because she’ll move sexy at whatever size she finds herself.

What's the cane for?

Mystery9:
Stupid counsel

Yeah? Well same thing happens in masturbation - except in this case you lucky to have a live female to stick your dick into

Mac2016:
What about the friction induced sweet heat and warmth? I doubt your submission, bro or sis.

So, what supplies that to people who masturbate - and like it so much they become addicted to it! It's all mental

Sleekmilan01:
Oga checking Google for clarity is like asking a blind man what colour u holding...you don't expect Google to write that they didn't go to the moon na,govt will just shut em down..

You people should be doing your research outside Google for once .not everything u wanna know,you rush to Google to type... everything online are censored and u don't expect to find a top secret info on Google

Conspiracy nutism is truly a mental disorder. Google is just a search engine. There are others and also the dark web. So why did the government suddenly stop lying about moon landings?? Why not just continue lying instead of exposing yourself??

malcom1X:
Cases fell because the vaccine was suspended, that's AstraZenica.

I didn't see you post statistics just screenshot

Also you obviously don't know the meaning of statitcs.
The below is what us called statistics

malcom1X:
Cases fell because the vaccine was suspended, that's AstraZenica.

I didn't see you post statistics just screenshot

STOP LYING! You conspiracy psychos can lie eh. Cases in portugal started falling in January due to vaccines! See below

mariahAngel:
That you no longer find your wife attractive doesn’t mean other men don’t find her attractive.
If you keep making her beg for (what is hers) your attention, a time will come when she will stop.
Don’t come complaining when she eventually gets tired of your shakara and starts accepting the attention freely offered to her elsewhere.
By then, she no go send you again!

And what if he doesn't care, then what?

Kobojunkiee:
The man here is telling you that mentally he no longer finds his wife attractive. Obviously, he is mentally stressed and in need of help finding his MOJO again.

Asking him to go see a therapist is what I would anyone who is struggling with stressor. Why you think that will confuse him, I don't understand.

Do you see him say anything about stress. That's exactly what I mean by confuse him. The man says he no longer finds his wife sexually attractive and they'll start talking about stress. Simple: don't focus on your wife, focus on whatever you find sexually arousing, then transfer it to your wife. Same principle that makes masturbation possible

Onyi22:
Covide 19 still dy

saasala:
Stop the lies

It is not lies. Numbers this low means there is hardly any covid in Nigeria. See below, that's how numbers look in a country with covid.

babyfaceafrica:
The juju Kogi is using, make dem cut soap for us

Easy. Don't test, don't report. Even Wuhan woulda had zero cases if they did that!

Kobojunkiee:
Stress? See a therapist for help soonest so you can identify and resolve the problem either as an individual or as a couple.

You have to identify and know what it is that has changed , particularly in your life, in other to resolve it. Do not in anyway attempt to put the blame on your partner or attempt to make this a shared issue so you do not end up making the situation worse than it already is for you and your wife there.

Therapist my ass. Will simply confuse him. Sex is a mental game. If u position your thinking well, no woman is unattractive, and you'll not need more than one

ahnie:
Save your breathe...he has already gone outside.

How ya know? No need to AT ALL. Sex is 95% mental

I just admire how this guy is very comfortable in his own skin. Nothing fake
(Though I think cross-dressing should be vigorously duscouraged)