₦airaland Forum

I won't be surprised if some of those who robbed her are here on nairaland and ,

Nothing wrong with apologising even when you are wrong. If it happens all the time or the other party always expects it, then there may be a problem. Love and marriage is all about sacrifices and sometimes this sort of apology is an example of sacrifice. One must be the lamb and one must be the lion in times of conflict. Most times, the woman has to be the lamb [size=5pt]sad but true[/size]

Also, I have heard so many Yoruba and Igbo women say that their husbands don't like saying sorry verbally to them but they say it in other ways. And they have to always apologise to cool him down. So the man might accept he is wrong but say it in other ways immediately or later. What the woman should aim for is peace first and discussion later as Chaircover said

Late Chief Obafemi Awolowo
Late Gani Fawehinmi
Late Fela Anikulapo-Kuti [size=4pt]with only one wife[/size]
Adebayo Ogunlesi

,  I will think of more

svovi:
whats wrong with a 10 yr old smoking weed?will it kill them?what if they are being bullied or harassed at school don't u think weed can take their mind off the whole matter and easy their little burdens.the only think that's bad is guns and knives or stealing.Kids have their rights as well lets not 4get that

svovi:
Point taken,l thot it was age coz there is really nothing wrong if at 10 one wants to stimulate their mind with weed

NAIRALAND!!!

I found this interesting account of childbirth on Yahoo by a mother of three.


I have given birth three times.

17hr labours each time

Naturally,  no drugs.

One of them the baby was in the Complete Occipoto Posterior postion,  which is harder than a breech birth,

Let me tell you this. When ppl tell you how much it hurts before you have ever had a kid, you think it is pushing the baby out that is the worst bit,  it's not.

[b]It's the contractions. They take you over, they start out like a muscle cramp (you may have had one in your leg where you couldn't move it?) The cramping covers from the top of your bump, all over your belly, your back and down to your legs. Every 7 minutes.'

Each contraction gets longer, and closer together, and more concentrated.You will never feel closer to death. After dealing with these for twelve hours you are at the point where they are 2-3 minutes apart.

That means for the next five to eight hours you will have approximately another hundred of these,  and they are intense. So intense you forget where you are. You don't even know who you are,  who's there,  There is no way to describe the burning tearing ripping contracting of your uterus as you have no control over it,

Then you feel like you need to do a #2,  you may whisper it to the nurse as it's too much energy to talk, or scream at your husband (like me) that you need to take a ****

[size=13pt]It is EXACTLY like you are pushing a baby out of your bottom [/size],  and you have been constipated with this baby for ten months. No kidding. Think of your worst ever constipation and how hard that was to push out. Now times that by 1000.

You have no control of this pushing feeling, which is not forgiven by the contractions that are now on top of each other, you have lost all sense of time and life as you just vow to keep your heart beating through it,  it's all you feel you can do at this point. [/b]
Your perinium and vagin.a feels like someone is pouring bubbling oil from the hotplate over it,  and not stopping,

You have all of this pressure, pain, intensity and you just cannot help yourself from pushing,  then the midwife tells you you cannot push yet as you are not dilated enough,  you puff and pand and squeal your way through the next hour while your life depends on holding on to your bottom while trying not to do the thing that will relieve it all,  which is push,

Finally the midwife says you are ready. You tell th midwife you are ready too,  to deck her. You pull up your knees and put your red sweaty forehead to them and with an animalistic groan   and a new light at the end of the tunnel you start pushing,  you are hungry for this pain to stop, you need this baby out,  but it feels like the oil is still being poured over your sensitive red raw genita.ls. Finally you feel almighty stretched and raw,  the head is out

The midwife asks if you want to touch it,  you want to but cannot even move your arms. Everything hurts. Your hair on your arms hurt if someone touches it. Your fingernails hurt, your eyelashes feel next to death,  nothing feels closer to hell.

She says you can push again,  and you do,  You let out an almighty screm, buckle down and feel your insides getting ripped out.

Then you hear a cry. It is the most beautiful sound in the world. Relief washes over you, it is unbelievable. It is the worlds biggest mental orgas.m anyone could ever experience,  the pain goes,  it stops,  the room is quiet, all those hours seem like an instant memory,


You feel your babies skin, it is so soft and smooth, her little lips aremoist and her eyes trying to get used to the light. You have a sudden urge to say, that is q light, this is your daddy, thats your first chair,

Thy take the baby to weigh it and surpriser you with the news it is now time to deliver the plkacenta,

You have no intention of going through that pain ever again. After all, yours was the worst labour in the world, right!?

The midwife presses on your belly and grabs one end of the umbilical cord,  and pulls slightly to see if it is ready,  it is. So she pulls, you can feel it tear away from your uterus but you dont mind, it feels weird but you have just lived through death,  then it comes sloshing out,  Nothing really I can explain,  it feels like you have just been gutted and its been pulled out thru yoour womanliness really.


So yeah, I went on to have two more after that,  silly me!! LOL But I did it because there is nothing more rewarding, more satisfying in your life to experience the love a mother has for her child. It is overwhelming and addictive and surreal and highly, highly reccommended.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100202170654AACrdGi


Second account

It's absolutely the worst pain imaginable. no, actually, you can't even imagine that kind of pain, it's so bad.

I am speaking from experience. my epidural wore off before my son was out, and I felt everything.

I thought, seriously, that the lower part of my body (my rear and pelvis) was literally going to explode into pieces before he would make it out.

But, amazingly, right after he came out, the pain disappeared and the more I admired my new little miracle, the faster I forgot all about the pain. [size=13pt]It was definitely worth it![/size]

I heard their founding fathers (politicians, scientists, entrepreneurs, etc) were solid christians, disciplined and visionary hard workers and strong prayer warriors and that modern day America (and also UK) is still enjoying the results of their prayers and hard work.

Also, that they are Gentiles and are also entitled to the Jews' blessings.  I think I read it in a motivational /xtian book. Not sure about it though.

I really don't know why these people give other immigrants a bad name. They have hardened the British people hearts so the extent that everybody knows it was all a plan from the beginning and that the grandparents will be on their way to the UK if they are allowed to stay.

Its a pity (I really pity the kids not the mother) but they can leave voluntatrily and try to come back later or the mum can try another country since she is a nurse with British experience. The British have worn out their kindness _{the mother no try at all, she spoil show}

http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/showbiz/1069647/Gamu-Nhengu-gives-first-interview-to-the-News-of-the-World.html?postingId=1086702

And why, oh why did the scheming mother claim benefits. She shot herself in the foot by doing that. When the real British don't have enough and the ex-service men who fought for the country can't get houses. I thought Zimbabweans were more honest than some Nigerians.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1319282/X-Factor-2010-Gamu-Nhengu-begs-Cheryl-Cole-Simon-Cowell-dont-let-deported.html

And she made her daughter lie that she will face a firing squad if she returns to Zimbabwe? Nobody is deceived by the show she put on during her interview.

You could check http://alakija.com/, some really interesting pictures are there.

Not married but a good observer so abeg don't take me too seriously. If a man is cheating definitely divorce is not the immediate solution since it may be the fault of the woman directly or indirectly. But while trying to investigate the roots of the problem, abegii make una shine ya eyes!!! First find out the person he is cheating with (if its a woman ), and if she possesses spiritual hooking powers (i m sure u understand)  cos if she does, mennnnnn, na wahala be dat o!

Seriously, you have to be careful cos it could turn out to be a matter of life and death. You may have to stop sex immediately and go for tests and all the stuff but most importantly you may have to start watching your back and your children's own cos there are dare devil husband snatchers out there.

I personally know of a doctor who fell into the hands of these coldhearted women and he was "bewitched" as they say . The wife was a very religious woman and so she started trying to rescue the husband. At the time, one of their kids was abroad and the others were in boarding school.

The woman suddenly fell ill and then passed on after a time of rigorous spiritual warfare. Not long after the woman died, people started seeing the other woman more often around the clinic. And rumours went on that he might marry her soon since he craved the company of women and that was exactly what the mistress wanted anyway.

Anyway the woman refused to tell her kids what was going on before she passed on so when they come back they will come right into the new woman's den. while their father is oblivious of what is going on.

Another case, also of another doctor the wife involved actually lost her promising son in a spiritual struggle with her husband's mistress who wanted her to give up the husband. This was after giving her husband a second chance o not knowing there was more to it. Also there had been frequent attacks(real physical stuff) before then and it was obvious where they were coming from.

Cases abound of a man's mistress trying to spiritually attack the wife(who may be religious) and her kids so as to scare them away or prevent the man from slipping away from her iron grip, these cases are real and these women are very desperate. I heard of a Pastor that left his house after more than 10yrs of marriage to go live with one of his assistants. The woman was ready to give him a second chance but he was not ready to go back and it was not ordinary.

So I am not saying that you should not give a cheating husband another chance but you have to be sure of the level of threat the other woman poses and if it is worth you fighting for the man. Not all such women go spiritual and it may have been a one night stand or something casual but be very sure and be very careful. Its not worth dying and leaving your children motherless over a man.

I thought I heard wrong but alas I heard right. Naija don suffer oh

manmustwac:
Sir Alan Sugar yab naija on national television. Kai.

I prefer Omotola though Mercy is alright.

Its not a good situation, the man is supposed to be the main provider, the woman is supposed to help in case the man is sick or dead, or is down financially or so that the man will not kill himself with work-related stress. The man should aim to earn higher than her so it will be a temporary situation not permanent.

If there is a good relationship/frienship between them, she should first take her savings/tithe/personal allowance/contribution/siblings allowance, etc from her salary,  then give the remaining to him to decide on how to spend or put it in a joint account if they use that. He should make all final decisions with enough input from the wife.

If he does not spend it well, she can now complain and then they agree to a formula of contributing for example 60/40, he gives 60 percent of money required for the home's expenses and she gives 40 percent.

Some African women allow it to get to their heads though because traditionally a woman is supposed to be dependent on the man. Thats why single rich ladies are not respected because they are not under a man and may not easily get married.

So if she now finds herself in big money and already a Mrs with kids, she can tell the man to get lost and even question what he is useful for. But not every woman is like this especially if the man is her best friend.

Actually I cannot recall anything my parents did right now but I know of two cases:

My classmate's brother was beaten by his father who then pushed him around to the extent that he smashed his head against the glass sliding door and it was only God that saved him. The doctors said the glass that cut through his head was very very close to his brain Even after that he was still stubborn.

A friend of mine told me how her mum put chili in the eyes and private part of their housemaid ( I think it was a poor relative staying with them) for stealing some pieces of meat form their pot of soup

My friend's cousin's mother cut the back of her daughter's palm with new razor blade for stealing and then rushed her to the hospital She has the bold scars till today. Stealing is the worst offence a child can commit and most parents(especially fathers) almost killed their kids for it. I know of a neighbour who hit his son's head against the wall repeatedly.

Upon all these how come we are classified as one of the most dishonest and devilishly cunning sets of people in the world and even at home? Maybe its our level of poverty as a country and the irony of wealth and poverty dwelling side by side sha.

Another thing I have noticed is that some parents just give commands "Don't steal, don't lie, etc" and do not take time to explain the reason why the kids shouldn't do it or even the consequences of their actions on other people. They don't have the time to really talk regularly to their kids and just take the caning shortcut to put them in their place. So the kids only obey as long as they are with their parentsor still dependent.

Also, some Nigerian parents are naturally very aggressive in nature.

Yam and snail/smoked fish/beef stew with tea

WHAT I LIKE ABOUT MY TRIBE (YORUBA)

We are well educated and very enlightened. We have two religions (Christianity and Islam) and that helps us to mix. We show a lot of respect to elders and we greet a lot (E Ku , ) and this helps us to look as if we are closely knit.

Our traditional dresses are beautiful and extremely creative and thats why other tribes copy us.

THINGS I DISLIKE ABOUT  MY TRIBE
Disclaimer: please this does not apply to everyone

We are the best hypocrites and backstabbers and have absolutely no loyalty to our tribe. 

We show too much respect at times and so we cannot speak the truth when its needed. For example, Obasanjo who is a confirmed thief is still regarded as a remarkable_no!, charming_maybe humorous_{yes but na black man sense} elder_yes!. He is supposed to be in prison (life imprisonment with no parole) along with Banagida, Danjuma, etc.

We think we are the best. Indeed!!!   No tribe is perfect.

We are extravagant and love parties and enjoyment/show-off too much and care too much about how other people see us and too little about ourselves.

I am a proud Ijebu (EWESO OMO ALARE!!!) and I love my tribe but the truth must be told and it does not mean we are inferior to others in any way.

I NO GO LOSE MY HEAD


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WmoDVMWuxZQ&feature=player_embedded

All the good things we see in the West are the products of some people's sweat, tears and blood not just black slaves but white visionaries.

I heard there was a time when they used to kill witches by jungle justice and they also had their own corruption days.

If they did not make the necessary sacrifices then, we would not be thinking of emigrating today. Nigerians abroad need to come back home, change others' mentality (in different areas) and fight for a better life for the next generation.

The ancestors of the present Westerners fought and worked for what they have today through several wars and pestilences of old. Even as at today, they are still working on how to make their society better. We should not give up on Nigeria.

Redman44:
This is the kind of thread I've been waiting for    As a researcher and someone who loves looking for information online, I've been researching the potentials of different Nigerian States for some months now. There are a lot of factors that are keeping many Nigerians in the diaspora from coming back home. This is not to say some Nigerians have not returned to set up businesses in the country. However, they are in the minority .  The living conditions in Nigeria are terrible. I travelled out of Nigeria for the first time in early 2007. I was in for a rude awakening as soon as I landed at Gatwick Airport. From the Airport to my destination, all I noticed was an efficient system that was organized. The street lights and road signs from Gatwick to South-East London were functional and well illuminated. The Cab driver who was a Jamaican just asked for the postcode of where I was going and punched it into his TomTom device. As he drove, he started telling me of how he made his living as a Cab driver and other matters about his status in Britain. By the time I disembarked at my lodging, I had already known a lot about Britain. What I'm trying to say is that living among informed people matters a lot. How many Nigerian cab drivers take the time to buy newspapers and know what is happening in the country?

In Europe and America, the worst houses have electricity and water. I have come across houses that are dilapidated in some parts of England, but you'll be shocked to find out that there is running water and power in them. In Nigeria, you have to be a politician, very rich businessman or fraudster to afford 24-7 light and water.  Let's go to the transportation sector. In Nigeria, it is very difficult to set out for work and know the exact time you'll arrive at the office   You're consistently held in traffic and bogged down by bad roads. And sometimes, you might be unlucky to fall into the hands of unscrupulous traffic officials like the notorious LASTMA in Babatunde Raji Fashola's Lagos.  In Britain [ Let's not talk about the advanced transport system in Germany and Holland ], you can determine the exact time you'll get to work. This is because the train, underground tube system and the bus transport systems have been computerized. You can sit in your house and plan your journey. You can find out when the next train towards West London will be arriving at the station near you. You can even plan your journeys to other parts of Britain through the National Route Planner. We are yet to do these kind of things in Nigeria.

How about job opportunities and the chance to make a living? Many Nigerians are afraid of returning home because of the lack of jobs and sustainable ways of making a living down there. While I don't want to be an armchair critic, I know that there are not many job opportunities in Nigeria as compared to Europe and North America. If you're hardworking, you will find a job in Europe or America. The job might not be a pleasant job, but you will make good money in due course. It is not easy to displace citizens of European countries from getting jobs that are comfy. The problem with Nigerians is that they want to land in Europe today and be working in a top job the next week . Things do not work like that. There are different kinds of jobs that can be done in Europe.  In Nigeria, you have to pray, fast and hustle thoroughly to even get a factory job which pays you peanuts. I have also found out that some cleaning and factory jobs pay more than some executive jobs in Nigeria. It all depends on how we look at. Let me tell you something. I have seen people who are leaflet distributors in Britain and who are paid about £40 daily for distributing 2000 leaflets. These guys are very fast and they set out of their homes by 6.00am in the morning. £40 is about 11,000 Naira in Nigeria. How many companies can pay you that amount per day in Nigeria? These are the kind of situations that Nigerians look at before making up their minds to stay abroad.

How about the opportunities for personal development? There are hardly any places in Nigeria where you can go to develop your sporting abilities anytime. We don't have parks, community sporting centres and discount gyms in our neighbourhoods. There are parks all over Europe and North America, and you don't have to pay to use the facilities there. How well stocked are the libraries in Nigeria? Do Nigerian Libraries promote their activities in the neighbourhoods they are meant to serve? In London, the Libraries are ever ready to help you develop your potentials. And these are just local libraries. I'm not talking about the British Library or University Libraries o. All you need is to get someone to act as a referee for you and a proof of address, and you're given a smart card to access library services. You can browse the net or read and borrow books as you want. There are many charities that can also develop your potentials when you volunteer for them. We don't have that kind of personal development structure in Nigeria. The painful thing is that most Nigerians abroad are not even making full use of the facilities I've mentioned

I can go and on but I need to stop here. The reasons why Nigerians abroad moan are the taxes and high transport fares they have to pay to survive. It is not Disney World in Europe and America. That is why some Nigerians live in Europe for 15 years without anything to show for it. Some are struggling to pay their mortgage while others have to fraudulently obtain council housing. Bringing up children in Britain is not easy. You've got to feed, clothe and give them some change as pocket money if you don't want them to join gangs and sell drugs. Sincerely, Britain is not an ideal place to bring up your kids. As for returning to Nigeria, I respect those who make that decision. Nigeria is a developing country and there are lot of potentials in the country. There are many business ideas I've noticed that will work in Nigeria.  The best place to enjoy your money is in Nigeria. We need more Nigerians who have lived In Europe, North America and Australia to come and start businesses in Nigeria. I don't see any reason why Nigerians stay back in Europe if they're not really doing well there. Why can't they save up [ Sacrifice clubbing and buying new clothes ] and come home to start something? The hard currency will translate to more cash in Naira and you can take your dreams from there. We might have useless leaders in Nigeria, but the determined ones will make lemon juice out of the lemons that life throws at them. A well thought out business idea with some research on Nigerian areas will yield good money. Let me stop here for now. Will come back later. Cheers.


www.vibes-extra..com

FANTASTICA!!!

hackney:
Im ok here in the west abeg.
I earn more than my childhood friend who is a bank manager in lagos.
Coupled with all the amenities and safety here.

Out here, nobody cares about what you have and nobody is really after you for
your wealth like the norm in nigeria.

The west is a leveller where everybody here(no matter what your family is back home) is on almost equal
playing field as against in naija where if you dont know someone, you are literally finished!.
(i know people oo!! but what about all those 1st class guys that dont? ; makes me sick)

Again i dont see what the hype is about returning home (to all that rudeness everywhere;young and old); after all the people yapping about us returning home are not in their villages (you are somewhere else) so whats the point?
Is it about building the nation? let the yeye govt provide electricity that every other country has. (no shame)

Is it the distance? By the time you get to the east from lagos via road (death trap garnished with robbers) which is
over 8hrs, i've already got there from here, had a bath, settled in and had a round of Nkwobi @mbari kitchen or some fish @
item 7.

FANTASTICACA!!!

Matt 22: 36-40

36"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" 37Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' 38This is the first and greatest commandment.

39And the second is like it: [b]'Love your neighbor as yourself.'[c] 40All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments."

You guys are trying o , you are sending money to someone you have never seen before. My only concern is does menek know how to run and grow a business?

Anyhow may God bless you all(donors), secure your future, send kind people to you too and bring numerous opportunities your way.

I don't know anything about cancer or its risk factors. But I know our ancestors had little or no cancer cases because of the following:
1. They ate pure, organic foods as most grew up on the farm and never tasted any canned, frozen or processed food, maggi or artificial spices or sugary food. So their immune systems were well built up.
2. They trekked a lot (no cars or bikes) so did lots of exercises. Also they did a lot of hard labour on the farms.
3. They used plenty herbs and they were able to mix them properly and carefully then unlike today.
4. They had lots of morals
5. The women breastfed for up to 2yrs at times. I know many elderly people who were breastfed for more than 1year.
6. Pollution was low in their time. Now we have got all these radiation-emitting gadgets such as phones.

I guess all these pluses made up for any negative effects of smoked food. These are not applicable today so that may explain the tongue cancer thing and the increase in risk factors. We can't compare their time with today, so many things have changed.

What I meant was that no white parents will want to be involved in that kind of experiment that is if it is indeed an experiment. Black people are not inferior in anyway and can never be .

I do know white people intentionally adopt black children.

buzugee:
sharrap dia my fren. is that why black babys are the latest white celebrity fashion accessory ? or is that why white people are all rushing to haiti to snap up black babys ? fix your self esteem foo

I think it was planned by The Sun and the parents. Maybe they accepted to be used in an experiment and then make money and fame from the end result. Whites may not agree to such.It might be that an IVF expert helped them and mixed the mother's egg and another white woman's or the father's spermatozoa and another white man's or she agreed to sleep with a white man.

Nigerians are capable of doing anything for money.

Just trying to postulate because they look so happy about the baby

I think it was planned by The Sun and the parents. Maybe they accepted to be used in an experiment and then make money and fame from the end result. Whites may not agree to such.It might be that an IVF expert helped them and mixed the mother's egg and another white woman's or the father's spermatozoa and another white man's or she agreed to sleep with a white man.

Nigerians are capable of doing anything for money.

Just trying to postulate because they look so happy about the baby

I think it was planned by The Sun and the parents. Maybe they accepted to be used in an experiment and then make money and fame from the end result. Whites may not agree to such.It might be that an IVF expert helped them and mixed the mother's egg and another white woman's or the father's spermatozoa and another white man's or she agreed to sleep with a white man.

Just trying to postulate because they look so happy about the baby

I think it was planned by The Sun and the parents. Maybe they accepted to be used in an experiment and then make money and fame from the end result. Whites may not agree to such.It might be that an IVF expert helped them and mixed the mother's egg and another white woman's or the father's spermatozoa and another white man's or she agreed to sleep with a white man.

Just trying to postulate because they look so happy about the baby

I will say its a BIG decision  and you have to consider many things before taking that step. Like Chaircover said, I am sure you can still hold on a bit. People have waited 5,10,20,25,30 years before. First why do you want to adopt? This is so important as people have said. You have to be ready to go the whole way with the child even if you have other children later. Don't think of yourself alone (or your pain) in this matter because another person's lifetime is at stake.

As my people say, if you want to eat a frog, eat the one with egg. So if have made the decision,choose well the kind of children you will adopt.I know its bad but choose healthy, bright, ------------- I am sure you get it. I am sure babies will be better so you can experience all the initial stages and then the baby will start to feel like yours after a while. Then do blood tests and this may help discover lots of things.

You could talk to a doctor and a counsellor extensively. I am not saying people should not adopt sicklers or kids with disabilities or with AIDS but the poster may not have the emotional stamina for that at her age. It may be better for much older people who have had experience with their own kids.

Also, pray and make sure you have peace in your heart before you go ahead. The child may be from a cursed background. Yo may do deliveranace for the child if need be just to clear any demonic influence.And it doesn't matter what people say. People say all kinds of rubbish and most Nigerians are full of VILE. Do you even have to tell anyone apart from close relatives? Because those people you tell might use it to ridicule the kids later on when they are not ready for it or old enough to handle it.

They should get your inheritance because if human beings can give their inheritance to dogs, cats, elephants , etc and disabled people through foundations why not adopted children? The truth is we are all adopted children one way or the other. Sometimes people who are not our biological parents have really poured their love into our lives. And God adopted us too like someone said.

In the eyes of God, all children are equal whether born to Bush or Babangida and are given equal potential by God. No child CHOSE his/her background, parents or country of birth. It now depends on the child to make use of his or her opportunities notwithstanding the challenges.

Not only unwanted children are adopted, some children may be orphans, etc. Also, giving birth to a child is not really all that makes you a mother though its part of it. Afterall so many biological mothers throw their children away at birth (one even threw her big,bouncing baby boy into a forest full of soldier ants), some sell them into prostitution, some curse them, some abandon them and run away with lovers, some even bewitch them.

If you do adopt and it goes well, who will know some 30yrs time that they were adopted if you do your part and they do their part ? Main thing is don't maltreat the child when you later have your kids. Anything you will do for your biological kids, you must be ready to do for them. Are you ready to lay down your life for an adopted child? Will you be happy if your adopted child makes it in life more than or before your biological children?

You have to be ready treat them equally  because before God, all children are special to Him and can all equally make it. God's favour, grace and mercy does not know whether a child is adopted or not. Everybody belongs to Him. A child's initial background doesn't stop him from making it later in life. Afterall, who can hold the life of his/her child in their hands?

And please do not relax in praying and fasting for your biological children. Try all avenues. And you never know, you may get pregnant before your plan falls through or immediately after I don't know why African hate adoption, maybe its because of poverty.

In Britain, they are looking for parents to adopt black children. White kids get adopted easily by their kind. Africans love indiscriminate breeding but cannot even take care of their own.

Moses was adopted, Mordecai adopted Esther and Naomi adopted Ruth. God gave us equal rights and benefits as adopted children/Gentiles with the real descendants, the Jews so it shows the stance of His heart in this area.

The only thing I can see as a problem is if a relative traces the child back to you although you should choose a child with little or no links but the danger there is if the child wants to get married, hope he will not go and marry his/her own relative unknowingly? Definitely if you do your job well, even if a relative comes some 10 or 20years later, the child will want to stay with you.

Awwwww. CONGRATULATIONS!!! May she be one of the greatest, richest, blessed and most educated women of her time. May she bring more joy, peace and divine favour into your home. May you not lack energy and resources to take care of her. Una well done!!! Thirteen gbosas for the newest and proudest parents in Queens land

Haaaa, poor kids, they can't even get sympathy from fellow Nigerians. For goodness sake, this is wrong, wroong, wrooooooooooooooonnnng!!!

Anything can happen to those kids. When will people start accepting that Nigeria is bad,bad,bad!!! That was how Sosoliso happened and 60 kids died at once because there was NO WATER/fire-fighting personnel and equipment at the airport and everybody has forgotten. Is it because these kids in the picture are not related to you?

We want to run before we can crawl. Accept it, Nigeria is bad and BBC is helping us in a way because we have no shame at all. Nigeria is milleniums behind Britain, USA, and other countries (although they are not 100%themselves) and there is no basis of comparison. They are right to criticise us afterall they give us plenty monetary aids (from their taxpayers' money) which end up in politicians pockets.

If you can't say the truth for yourself say it for the sake of these kids. Only THE TRUTH can set us free.

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