lytech1: She start calling me some months ago telling me about her husband incompetence(financially broke and not responsible)
sometimes,she ask for financial assistance which i manage to render on most cases.
She also felt sorry for letting me go(she was impregnanted by the guy,that leads to our breakup)and always seek for forgiveness.
She pay me a visit 3days ago and start demanding for sex which i manage to resist.. She pleaded and cry but i make realize my concience wont allow me do such a thing.
Though,she is the reason why am still single(coz i found it hard to love since we path ways).. She has been calling ever since asking me to make love with her even if its just once to shows have forgiven her totally...
My concience is against such..... Fellow nairalandes, what can i do to stop her....?
Your first mistake is giving her money
Your second mistake is giving her the impression you want her
Your third mistake is giving her shelter and comfort
You better get yourself a future and stop drowning in your past.....
I once had this with a married ex but I am glad I gave her the impression that since you married do everything possible to love your husband in all totality, whether good or bad... .i told her that if anything happens between them I will never accept her, thank God she listened, she didn't have to come to my house or ask for money, my phone was enough to do the communication. Her husband was aware we spoke on phone.. .
Today she's doing really well with the family.. ..
creative11: It’s always a good idea to be totally open to your wife. Let her know your plans, movements, visions and thinking. This will help her to connect well with you and get along with you as your wife and Mother of the house.
Despite the facts that you should be totally open to your wife, there are 9 secrets that you should never reveal to your Wife. Let me open your eyes to them here:
1) BAD THINGS YOUR MOTHER SAID ABOUT HER:
Maybe before you married her or after your wedding, your Parents might have told you some things they don’t like about your wife for one reason or the other.
You have to be careful the way you talk to her about what they said. You may correct her without telling her who said what or say it in such a way that she will not get hurt by their words.
If you say it the way they said it, you may create eternal enmity between them.11 Secrets Man Should Never Reveal To His Wife
2) BAD THINGS YOUR FAMILY SAID ABOUT HER:
Like your Parents, your siblings, Uncles, Aunties etc might have said some negative things about your wife in the past, handle this with care, lest you create a battle that may outlive you between them.
3) YOUR TERRIFYING DREAMS:
It is very easy for a woman to wake her husband up to tell him about her nightmares and terrible dreams. 11 Secrets Man Should Never Reveal To His Wife
It’s not bad for a woman to say this to her husband, but it is not always good for a man to share terrible dreams with his wife that may not allow her to sleep.
You can tell her to pray or pray together concerning the dreams but avoid giving her the graphic details, lest you scare her. 11 Secrets Man Should Never Reveal To His Wife
4) HOW YOUR FRIENDS REALLY FEEL ABOUT HER:
You friends might say unkind words about her.If you relay it the way they presented it; your house may become a no-go area for such friend.
5) YOUR DIRTY FEELINGS ABOUT HER:
Avoid speaking out your negative thought about her when you fight If you utter all that is in your mind in time of conflict, you will hurt your wife greatly and destroy your home
6) GIRLS THAT ARE EYEING YOU:
Once in a while, you may notice some ladies who are really after you and see you as their source of “crush” despite the fact that you are married. You don’t just go ahead to tell your wife about this, for a lady to show interest in you may not necessarily means she is after you.So, be careful. If you tell your wife about it, she may not handle It rightly and can begin to suspect you and fight the innocent lady.
7) HOW YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT HIS MUM:
Her Mum may not be behaving very well by your standard, but that is how she’s been behaving and raised the damsel that you married. So, it will be bad to tell your Wife that her Mother or Father are not well behaved.
HOW WHAT PEOPLE SAID REALLY HURTS YOU:
Some people will say something that will hurt you greatly. Please, avoid saying how it hurts shedding tears in the process. If you end up forgiven the person your wife may never forgive somebody that makes her husband cries.
9) HOW WHAT PEOPLE DID GREATLY Hurt YOU:
Just like the case above, people will do something that hurts you, but must avoid sensationalizing it to your wife. Please, always downplay your hurt so as to make it easy for your wife to forgive people.
10) NAMES OF GIRLS YOU HAD SLEPT WITH:
It will be totally wrong to show her the list of those you slept with before you met your wife. She doesn’t need that information, they are your Ex, please move on
11) PAST SEXUAL ENJOYMENT:
Likewise, you need not tell her what you enjoy in other ladies to motivate her to perform better in the bedroom, that will be very wrong.
A sensitive and observant wife will notice majority of these points without you telling her....
Some men can be scared of dreams too, so it's not still advisable to tell the man some dreams in details... There are wives also that can give you right meanings to some of your dreams, it's all about knowing and understanding who you're married to...
About the sexual part, nothing wrong in telling her, it's left for her to decide to stay or leave, it's better for her to hear it from me than hear it outside... ..
secretsuccess: my name is joshua a chemical engineering graduate. it is so difficult to survive as a hardworking, honest and God fearing person here in Nigeria. After my NYSC i have been struggling from place to place, looking for opurtunities. i always shuttle from lagos to portharcourt...thinking that one day it will be well. i just discovered that it will never be well..
When we were in secondary school we were told to get a good course..my parents were happy when i got chemical engineering..then in school it was get a good result..that was no problem, i got a second class upper.
Ater service it was get certified..ahh, no wahala.. i got my NEBOSH certificate..then again some said it was connection..ok, i joined lots of proffesional whatsapp groups after much work, i even had to pay for some...funny enough the so called proffesional group failed woefully.
twice i was called for a job brief..twice i was rejected..the first reason was because i am igbo the woman saw my name and her countenance changed though she dashed me 2k and told me the usual words i would get back to you..ok, fair enough. The second was in portharcourt i was rejected because of my church..Roman catholic.. hmmm. A young man was also rejected for same reason he kept on complaining while i was just laughing..though later i begged him for #100 for my TP, he gave me sha.. he is a nice man.
ok. i had to go back to the drawing board..met some people and they said i should just do further courses..oooo! course again, ok.. no wahala. i begged my mum to sell her bike for 110k so i can add 30k and do process safety and loss prevention..she accepted.. i sold the bike and did the course.. yet, no interview call. i said ok let me visit companies and give them the cv..my brother no show.
i sat still again..and then reviewed my cv..paid 2k for push CV to review the cv..still no luck.. downloaded CV review app used it time and time again. same results.. no calls.
the only thing i get everyday is insults from my Father and some relatives of how lazy and weak i am...this is not fair life itself is not fair..is it not better to die? after working hard in school and after school for about 8-10 years no result for it..
People will always say dont be tired but my brother i don tire... i know many of us have same story, but for me the only thing i can do to make the pain easy.. is write..
Nigeria is not worth it.. did i tell you i briefly went into business?.. but how can you do well in business without long time experience.. it is always difficult..well, the pressure is much and i see that breaking point is close... only God knows Tomorrow.
These days the only thing that comes to my mind is suicide..i have downloaded lots of books to see if i can find a solution.. but none yet.. please if you have good advice for me i am willing to hear it.
thanks E Joshua
Don't give up sir.. ..when it seems like nothing is working just know your evidence is close, After all you've been through don't give up, don't let discouragement take the better part of you, ...i pray that you will experience a miracle that would make you know that all your efforts wasn't in vain!
apeiron24: University of Lagos was named Moshud Abiola University Of Lagos and there was a protest. Thanks to God for the success, if not, Some people would be students of MAULAG now..... what an Impertubably Lugubrious pronunciation.
Naming Higher institutions after heroes I not my problem. My Problem is the abbreviation that follows after.....
Imagine Naming University of Ibadan after "Gbadamosi Adeyinka"... which will make it Gbadamosi Adeyinka University......
The abbreviation is "GAU".... which is a bad word situation in Yoruba language.....
..... Jambite would be like "Mo to wo GAU" I have been admitted.....
....Imagine you are in a Church and a Lady is giving testimony about his admission into "GAU"
...She will be like...... help me praise God o.... I just entered GAU......
..... Please our Governments should think about abbreviation o.....
...Anyone here want admission to "GAU"
What baffles me is why they name it after these people have died... ..
RapportNaija: The Nigerian Federal Government agency, National Identity Management Commission (NIMC) has a mandate to ensure all citizens of Nigeria possess a National identity (ID) card. There is an enrollment process in place where citizens of Nigeria can walk into any of NIMC centres to register for their National ID card. This National ID card is meant to identify citizens and to avoid illegal immigrants in the country.
What is a National ID card?
A national identity card is a portable document (which is a typically plasticized card with digital embedded information) that each resident or citizen of a country is issued and required to carry as a means of identification.
The NIMC has created an easy process for everyone who participated in the enrollment to check if their permanent plastic ID card is available. The way created to check for availability of National ID card for collection is a web portal.
Below are the requirements to check your card availability status:
1. Laptop or Smartphone (Android, iOS, Windows, etc.) 2. Internet connection (with enough internet data) 3. Full name (First and Last) 4. Last 6 digits of your ID number (remember, the number consist 11 digits and can be found on your Temporary ID card {paper printout}, 14673******) 5. Knowledge of internet usage
Now that we know the requirements, all we need to look at now is how to check your card availability status online. As soon as you finish this process, you will be notified if your National ID card is ready for collection.
Step 2: Scroll down and click the button that says "Click to proceed" once.
Once you click that, you would be taken to a page where you will be required to fill your enrollment details into a form.
Step 3: The next thing to do is to fill in your details into the form. Correctly input your ‘First name’, ‘Last name’, and your ‘Last six National ID card number’.
Step 4: When you are done, click on the button at the end of the form, "CHECK NOW”, and your National ID card status will be displayed.
As you can see in the image, this card is not yet ready for collection, so that is how the notification message will be displayed.
Tynasparks: Any guy that beats a lady is a coward. If you feel like punching someone look for Anthony Joshua .
Modified: For all those quoting me, i am not saying it is right for the lady to talk recklessly. I am only saying it is best the guy gives her a silent treatment more like ignoring her and walking away for sometime to get fresh air, because 2 wrongs can never make a right.
I still think it's very wise for people especially ladies to find the history of a man before they jump into commitment...
in Mercy's case, I believe she wasn't the first wife, and am sure she didn't look into his life but just accepted the physical appearance she saw...
GloriaNinja: A MAN WHO FAILED WITH FOUR WOMEN IN THE PAST WILL STILL FAIL WITH THE CURRENT ONE, LANRE GENTRY IS JUST A BEAST WHO BEATS WOMEN, SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
Though we keep saying no to domestic violence, these women keep going back to these men.. ....why?
There's another lady definitely going to end up with this same man, though she sees everything happening right now....
aboyaji: Let's check a scenerio where you worship in a particular church, but attend a ministry else where and decide to pay your Tithe. How wise would it be to split your tithe among those places of worship?
As the Spirit leads, don't think it's wrong, have seen people pay tithes to their home churches and their main churches in town....
At least you are paying what you have to pay...According to the word of God
EmtolalaaPRAISE: I remember one day I went to a church and the sister in front of me wouldn't let me pray. I just picked up my Bible and left the church because most sisters were dressed that way.
I can't be in church and be high in the spirit knowing it wasn't of the Lord lol! No I can't. It's not because I'm corrupt. Ladies that dress to kill , I have this to tell you, you do not know how a man thinks, so don't act like you've been a man before, like you reincarnated to be a woman. You cannot think like men, you cannot think like a man and act like a woman. For me, it took me time but God solved that mathematics for me lol!
However, you cannot finish slaying a man in church and expect him to come and minister to you in spirit, mbanu, sister Kolewerk! If he wanted to get all that high, he could decide to visit a porn site or go to a club where everything goes.
I am no preacher but please some of you that dress to church like it's your last day to attend a night club, please stop it. It is not good. That is why some people go to church without understanding anything. See it happens in a man's head not your head. It is not about why he did not focus. At least reduce the distraction ni!
One cannot finish fighting temptations and winning outside and come inside the church a supposed place of refuge to be slain eh? Why nu? Lol...
Emtolalaa Praise has spoken his mind!
You wasn't just ready to be in church. .. You would have just changed your sit.. . You don't go to church for anyone.. . You will keep seeing this in churches.. . You just need the Holy Spirit to help you guard your heart from falling and distractions. .. You see these on the streets and everywhere out there, we're the church and not the building, if you can't guard your heart out there you can't you the building we'll come to have a church...
Hardeysolution: How does one tackle a sin that reoccur every time? Even after prayer and consecration, when you still find your self in sins that you are aware of, what's the way out??
self-consciousness and asking the Holy Spirit for help and direction.. .
It's what comes out of a man that makes him and not what goes into him....before you commit that sin, you've definitely played it over and over again and now though you're used to it you still play it before you perform it in reality....
So now you have to tell yourself...since I do this and I feel this way.. .lemme try not to do it and see how it feels, occupy your mind and self with other things... Philippines 4:13 is very encouraging if you're determined to change, the psalms and proverbs are very good too.
The true reason why I think we still go back to those sins is because we don't regard, respect and value God as we should. Once heard that David never repeated the same sin.. It's not easy but with the right focus, determination, desire, God will see you through!
Teewhy2: Hmmnnn Toyo baby was a good balance for jenifa and both were compatible in the character. i would have loved them to work more together, but as they say 20 friends can't play together for 20 years and since Jenifa is married she might have different views about somethings as her husband will influence some of her decisions.
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Ebal: VIDEO: Another Man Gets STUCK Inside Best Friends Wife While Doing It From Back
This is the moment a man got stuck inside his best friend wife while having sex and doing it from back after her husband put curse on her genitals. Unable to control the pain that came with their embarrassing situation, both let out loud yells that attracted the neighbours. They cried out but only succeeded in attracting a large crowd of onlookers. A crowd milled around the house and the two were moved outside and covered on a sheet as more and more people gathered to see the shamed lovers, still locked together and draped only in more sheets.
Afam4eva: I didn't really watch the Big Brother Naija 2017 but i followed most of the happening on Nairaland all over the internet. I even got to watch some highlights of the show and i saw the video where Kemen was accused of molesting TBoss.
Let me say it here that as much as the Nigerian in me feels some pity for kemen for the way he was disquaified and eventually been taunted wherever he goes, i think it's brazen idiocy to take lightly the issue of rape. If this show was done in a developed country. kemen would by now be vising the law court on a regular basis to know how many years he would spend in jail.
It's funny that some characters came out in defense of Kemen, calling TBoss all sorts of name. These people have been fvcked up by the Nigerian system, so they can't tell right from wrong. To them, if a girl comes to your house to visit, you must do her and if she refuses, you do it by force. These cretins are the worst of the worst.
Now, the idiots that i described above me aren't really my problem. My problem is when celebrities whether in the name of comedy or any form of entertainment down play what TBoss went through. I cringed when i watched AY and Helen paul tow the line of senselessness but stupidly taunting TBoss at the "Warri Again" show. As if that was not enough, AY brought the stupidity to the "AY live" that held yesterday. I cringed whenever the camera focused on TBoss while they were taunting her. Comedians took turns in humiliating her because they had nothing else to offer.
Whether you like TBoss or not, i don't think any sane human being should support the character assasination that she has suffered in the hands of these so called celebrities and quasi nonentities. I wonder why she keeps showing up in those shows anyways.
My 2cents.
You said you really didn't follow the show, so I guess there are lots of things you didn't follow.. ..
We're humans...i believe kemen didn't just decide to do what he did.. .something definitely lead to something, with all the irresponsible attitude and immoral acts performed in the name of playing a game with nothing to teach the younger generation...they both know the truth of what happened, and that's why it's good to be careful what angle you choose to attack a situation when you don't have full knowledge of it.. .
Did kemen rape Tboss?... Did he drug her? Can someone touch you while you asleep and you don't feel anything?
I love and respect the female folk 101%... But what you attract is what you get... They had their moments in the house which you obviously didn't see!
It's high time we start investigating things properly rather than just commenting on what other people just put out there...
Nellychinma20: sad truth I don't believe a faithful man still exist how I wish peopLe know how rampant this scourge is
if you believe anything is possible, you'll also know it's possible no matter how sad your truth might be...
Last month a lady married a V man(thouh V men are rarely) hard for you to believe. ....honest truth
Also seen ladies marry faithful men in the last five years.. ..
Am very hopeful. ...you'll find a good man, you just need a paradigm shift.. ...you've seen heard and done alot thinking on things you've seen and heard and that tinny hope you had is fading
Nellychinma20: There was this married man that wouldn't let me be. mind u he's married with 3 wonderful kids, I snubbed him all through till the day I became pissed off. so I told him I love him too but all I need is for him to kill his wife, children and mother that way no one will disturb us lol that was the last time he called.
God can give you a man that will be faithful to you no matter what it takes. ....faithful men still exist... .all you need do is make your request known to Him, and be patient for yours.. ..
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preshdiva: Good day everyone, I am a 2016 Batch A stream 1 Corp member passing out on April 7th,2017 by the grace of God. I recently got two job offers, a contract bank job (marketing) for 52k per month with commissions based on your input or a teaching job of 40k. Aside the banks meagre pay, I feel it'd add to my professional work experience more than the teaching job+ I'd get to meet people who might help me in securing better positions tomorrow but then the stress and time. I really don't know what to do. #maturedresponsesplease#
If you need time I would suggest you go for the teaching job, you can organise after-school lessons and even make much more than what d bank and teaching job would pay you added together, if you're someone that wishes to further you'll have massive time to do that, if you so interested in the banking stuff you can get more professional certificates like ican etc while teaching, have a friend doing that,. ...the choice is yours, you've got many advice but the final say is on you, trust me you can get good connections as a teacher if you are good and passionate about it, the school has different parents from different works of life and children definitely talk, favours will sure come if you deserve it.. ..
Ihechikara: some will say yes and others will say no...give us a solid reason
yes.. . Don't see any reason in discarding my ex no matter how things ends up... We might need to be of assistance to either our selves or kids or relatives.. ..so friendship should be kept for future purposes. .. It saves the heart from stress and enables right thinking... Sometimes friendship with you ex might just even be better than relationships cos sometimes we rush into it when of a truth we're better of as friends.. ..
Am still friends with my ex.. ...though a few find it difficult to cope but they still get along
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so a full grown man cn b raped 2 
HOW WHAT PEOPLE SAID REALLY HURTS YOU:
A MAN WHO FAILED WITH FOUR WOMEN IN THE PAST WILL STILL FAIL WITH THE CURRENT ONE, LANRE GENTRY IS JUST A BEAST WHO BEATS WOMEN, SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.