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MaxInDHouse:
No he didn't that is why none of those following him in the Bible teaches about Hell!🙂

Truthseeker10:
where?

Janosky:
True words you said..

Hellfire nah format to instill fear.
Jesus Christ never taught anything about it.

heartbraker:
I met a girl through a friend and we’ve been seeing each other for a short while now. She has come to my place a few times, and when we’re together there is clear physical attraction and comfort (kissing, cuddling, SUCK BREAST etc.).

However, things haven’t progressed to sex yet. It feels like there is interest, but at the same time she hasn’t fully taken it further, and I don’t want to push or make her uncomfortable

My question is:
In a situation like this, how do you usually handle progression naturally without forcing it or overthinking? And how do you know if it’s just slow pace vs lack of full interest?

I’m trying to be respectful but also not misread the situation.

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TITOPE:
You still want to get married? Lawyer asks as he shares long list of divorce cases in one court for a week


https://www.titopeblog.com/2026/03/you-still-want-to-marry-lawyers-list-of.html?m=1

Kalatium:
Most people think sin is just a spiritual issue. Something that offends God, triggers divine anger, or earns punishment later in the afterlife.

That framing is convenient, but incomplete.
Sin is expensive first in real life, before heaven or hell even enters the conversation.

Strip away religion and look at outcomes. Most things labeled “sin” come with built-in costs that hit your wallet, your mental health, your relationships, and your future.
This is not mysticism. This is economics.

LOOK AT THE BILL PEOPLE ACTUALLY PAY

Take infidelity.
Ignore morality for a moment and do the math.

Secret hotel bills
Hidden phones
Cash withdrawals with no trace
Gifts bought in secrecy
Divorce lawyers
Child support
Splitting assets
Starting life again from scratch

Then the invisible costs.

Loss of trust
Broken families
Children growing up unstable
Emotional damage that follows people for years

That is not divine punishment. That is consequence.

ADDICTION IS A BAD INVESTMENT DISGUISED AS PLEASURE

Alcohol, drugs, gambling, pornography.
None of these habits are cheap.
There is the direct spending. Then the indirect damage.

Lost productivity
Missed opportunities
Medical bills
Rehab costs
Legal trouble
Damaged relationships
Careers that never recover

What people call temptation is often just a transaction where pleasure is upfront and payment is deferred.

CRIME IS ONE OF THE MOST EXPENSIVE CHOICES POSSIBLE

Stealing looks profitable until you calculate everything.

Bail money
Lawyers
Court fines
Prison time
A permanent record
Lost job opportunities
Social stigma

Reality punishes bad decisions faster than any religion ever could.

EGO, PRIDE, AND ANGER ALSO DRAIN YOUR LIFE

This part is rarely discussed.

Pride kills mentorship. Ego destroys partnerships. Uncontrolled anger ruins careers.
People lose jobs not because they lack skill, but because they cannot manage themselves.

Promotions disappear. Contracts collapse. Networks quietly shut their doors.
The cost shows up as income that never comes.

RELIGIOUS LANGUAGE WAS WARNING ABOUT PATTERNS

When ancient texts warned against certain behaviors, they were often pointing to patterns that reliably lead to loss.

Poor health
Broken families
Violence
Instability
Poverty cycles

Religion called it sin. Reality enforces it as consequence.
Different language. Same outcome.

WHY PEOPLE STILL CHOOSE IT

Because the pleasure is immediate.
The cost is delayed.
Humans are terrible at long-term thinking. We enjoy the gain now and ignore the invoice coming later. By the time the bill arrives, the damage is already done.

THE HONEST CONCLUSION

Sin is not expensive because God sends an invoice.
Sin is expensive because it violates how life actually works.
You do not need faith to see this. You only need honesty.
Reality keeps receipts. Reality always collects.

Anything you like, do with this information.

Jerkbaba:
Every morning, you see everybody running up and down like mad monkeys just to get one paper with a design on it. After all that work, you buy this and that and pamm, all the money is gone! It's crazy!

You repeat the same cycle till you're old and die. You carry nothing with you! All the things you worked soo hard to acquire, you carry nothing!

Hmmmmm What a stupid useless life!

Sirchiboy:
When people die. Where do they go. I want to know.

AdiNike:
PLEASE YOUR ADVICE IS NEEDED.

I have experienced outbreaks of this kind the third time in the space of 5months. At first, it was like 3 appearing on my penis cap, the next day after a rough sex but i don't even know when it burst open and dried up because they were smaller in size compared to the outbreak in the picture and then later, a single one pops out twice which i burst open myself and they dried up leaving a tiny scar.

I thought it was all over until this recent outbreak. It doesn't itch or cause any pain and most times, I don't even remember it till i have to urinate.

I had unprotected sex 2 days before the last outbreak and noticed i urinated a reddish color urine and i used antibiotics and did not feel it again until the outbreak showed up.

NB: I haven't met the last person i had the unprotected sex with when i first experienced the first outbreak and both times were unprotected sex.

Could this be Herpes?

If this is Herpes, what are the medications I can start using?

I just got married and my Wife is pregnant.

MetaBroadband:
Good morning mature men and women in the house. Please I need your help on this topic.

My Fiancee told me about how her biological dad abandoned her and her mum after getting her mum pregnant.

Her mum later married another man who adopted her as his child.

Now she's grown and I've proposed to her, I wanted to go for her official introduction and list collection.

Would it not be nice to hear the biological father's opinion? Should I just ignore the fact that the man is still alive and proceed with the marriage arrangement?

Although she said I should not bother about that, but this is Nigeria and as an Akwa Ibomite I don't think it's proper. Although she's against me trying to find out about the man's opinion. Should I care?

What can you say about this?

Note: she only told me that the man abandoned them, but what if it was her mum that actually took her away?

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Chioma4eva:
I mean they toast you for weeks endlessly and try to get your love and attention and when you finally give them the attention and give them the chance to win your heart and maybe after dates and probably sex, they lose interest and go cold. Why is this so? Is love dead in Nigeria?

ccjoe:
I haven't been able to sleep since yesterday. I'm a promising young guy and still in school and this girl is my bestie in school.
We do it regularly and without condom, I never knew it will end like this.
Pls i'm just an orphan and still very young.. I need advice on how to handle this situation now..

##Mature minds only and no insult pls.

Rozross:
Sexual activities between couples require some form of skills and energy no doubt. Women hold down jobs, being moms, being a wife and this can be overwhelming and highly desexualising making it difficult to shift into romantic modes with worn out energies.

With all these put together, should women worry over not being good in bed to meet up with their partners' fantasies?

Do men really care about their partner’s bedroom skills? As a man, will you leave your woman because of her poor bedroom skills?

Jimmythewise:
I won't leave her for not being good in bed but her inability to satisfy me is a temptation to get a better option.

Rozross:
Solely plan on the 100k first before thinking of what the other person brings to the table. Any man with such “bring to the table” mindset does not go far in life, let’s be realistic for once.

Lamanii22:
seek God's counselling ke....

Oghene1st:
https://guardian.ng/life/food/how-to-make-banga-rice/

HOW TO MAKE BANGA RICE

Just picture it as palm oil rice that looks like jolof rice but very different in taste, traceable to the Edoid tribes in Delta (Urhobo and Isoko). It is an easy, refreshing change to your palette that your taste buds will surely thank you for.

INGREDIENTS:

700g (1 De Rica or 4 cups) long grain parboiled rice.
400g palm fruit extract, canned or made from scratch
Beef Stock
2 medium smoked fish – deboned and broken into small pieces
Orunbebe stick (optional)
1 red onion – chopped
1 tsp banga spices
1 tbsp crayfish (optional)
1 tbsp ground cayenne pepper
2 seasoning cubes
Salt (to taste)
Dry or fresh habanero pepper (atarodo) (to taste) – diced
Scent leaves (to taste) – rinsed

HOW TO PREPARE:

Wash out the starch in your rice with hot water. Drain, pour cold water over it. Drain again and set aside.

Mix the banga concentrate in a pot of hot water so that all the sand and particles can sink to the bottom.

Decant slowly into another pot for cooking your rice. Make sure no sand transfers to the new pot.

Add beef stock if you have, onion, banga spices, orunbebe stick, smoked fish, crayfish, crushed seasoning cubes, salt and pepper to your taste.

Make sure the liquid is enough to cook the rice you need. Reduce the heat, cover and leave to boil.

Add the washed rice and cook on low heat until it softens. Then turn up the heat and let it boil.

When the rice has absorbed almost all the liquid, stir with a wooden spoon and lower the heat. Add your shredded scent leaves.

If the rice is still too hard, seal the rice in with foil paper or a plastic bag and cover the pot for a few minutes until the rice is properly cooked and has absorbed all the water.

Stir properly and take off the heat.

Serve hot or sprinkle a little banga soup on top if you have any.

Badboibipo:
If you’re in your 30s as a man please avoid anyone below the age I just described. They are still in their “I am the wicked, I am the nicki Minaj bad bitch” phase in life. They have zero brain most times and they only want to wear big polo and dance “mofejoko” on TikTok while collecting daily, weekly salary from you for giving you the privilege of dating the “queeen nicki Barbie”.

If you are bored of just empty sexxxx and want anything genuine and real, search for older women if they even have a kid out of wedlock even better. Those ones are very mature, understanding and down to earth most times. They have finished their “nicki Minaj bad bitch Barbie” phase and are genuinely humbled with their age and are ready if they see you’re hardworking and serious.

Those young ones are just starting life and have no real experience yet, they are extremely dramatic and attention seeking while having the mentality that the world revolves around their arse and boobs and they feel entitled to every mans attention and adoration.

If you’re young as a woman don’t even bother to like me please , because I will not only see you as a toddler I will even buy you cracker biscuits and Fanta to make you go play in the rain as the baby that you are.

Mature women don’t hide their feelings or play too much games, they go straight to the point.

SARSCoV2:
Same Okowa.

Mod’s should please move this thread to jokes section.

Okowa that is just a sitting furniture in government house.

Even Deltans know that their state does not have a governor

yinkaOdutuyo:
So the main issue that led to me denying her food this night.

I asked her for the two of us to go and get ingredients for food, she said she's having serious headache so I went alone.

When I came back I washed the rice and put it on fire and I also start grinding the pepper and tomatoes with manual grinder.

After few minutes when the rice was done I asked my wife to go and put down the rice from fire, and fried the stew afterwards.

She just started shouting she's so tired, her head is hot and making hefty sounds inside that she can't stand up from this bed.

I insisted and she went to put the rice down and off the gas, instead of her to start frying the stew. She just came and meet me on the bed.

And she started shouting I didn't tell you am hungry, am not even eating this night at all. Do whatever you want to do, I'll never stand up to make any stew in this house. If you want to eat go and make the stew yourself.

I just stood up and enter the kitchen to make the stew. As I was making the stew, my wife that said she's not feeling fine was busy watching film om her phone. She complained earlier that her head is hefty and aching her that she can't stand up from the bed, but she stood up and start looking for the BT Audio to connect to her phone so that she'll be able to hear the film audio very well.

Immediately I finished making thr stew, I served the food on the table and the next my wife wanted to stood up from the bed to join on the table so that we can eat.

I just told her that You can never eat from this food this night and tomorrow morning, because you were the one that said you were not hungry that I was troubling you to make food.

I also told her that the headache allow you br watching films and also allow you to be looking for BT Audio. But denied you to cook for me.

So house I want to know if this is right or wrong pls or what can I do.

To all moniker saying have I ever helped her before this is for you below:

BTW I have cooked many times in the house, there are times she'll go to work before she comes back I'll have prepare good foods, that will atimes takes me 2 or more hours to prepare and she'll come back and eat and smile and say thank you. I use to get home between 5pm and 6pm latest, while she'll be coming home by 7pm, 8pm or latter.

At times the two of us may be at home and I'll be the only one cooking, while she'll just lie down watching films or doing another thing while I do the while cooking.

I think I have being helpful to her in cooking and other chores in the house. There are many times I'll be the one washing all the clothes in the house, while she's sleeping or doing something else.

I literally do almost 80% of everything in the house if not more than.

But me doing all those doesn't mean am a fool or I don't know what am doing.

Bit I think as a man you have to man up.

Nacoss25:
I bring greetings to you all. I want to make this brief as possible.

I and my wife are married for a year now and since incception of the marriage it looks like the person I married is not the person I dated for two years, now due to series of issues that shows clearly that we are not compatible for marriage, and I have decided to end the marriage.

While the marriage was going on I set up a shop for her and I want to retrieve it from her but my problem is. She is with the shop receipt which I gave her after paying for it.

My name is Mike osundu and my wife name is Theresa though not real name. On the receipt it was written Theresa Mike Osundu.
I want to ask is it possible for my wife to lay claim on the shop.

No insult pls, only matured responds. Thanks

Streetbabah:
It's a dilemma choosing to marry between a spouse with good character and submissiveness who relies on you to make 80% of all decisions.... And a spouse with high IQ of great intellects whom u can discuss anything with be it business politics and so on with who is also a self starter... people's opinions are needed

TheGidRedpiller:
She is sick, to the point of stooling blood, this is actually true.
That biittch thinks she isn't enough curse to me than whatever she thinks is standing by at the middle of the night waiting to manifest her all powerful curse

I know she is sick, i know, but i also know when she is trying to manipulate her ways into things with the attention she gathers from her illness situation. She asked for financial help, i swear i wanted to help her too, but i just couldn't, did she deserve it or not


Irrespective of what she has done to you and your siblings, please forgive her and help her if you can. Vengeance is of God. Two wrongs can't make a right. Do good to her biko.

If you followed me from scratch, you would know that this is the same wh0re of a mother that would fvvck another men in her matrimonial home after the death of her husband, this is the same selfish biittch that would put herself first before the interest of any of her children, she literally made my sister cry over her education, but my sister watched her change wardrobe every week!

I know i'm being very mean & vengeful, i need people to help me snap out of it because I JUST WANT TO PUNISH HER!!

Still Typing...

Stargurl20:
Guys, do not lose a good woman just because she unintentionally had a fling with a guy or something. Learn to forgive, forget and move on with her

Stephen2324:
I joined a hook up whatssap group chat only to find my girlfriend as the admin.

killmods:
He feels guilty because he wants to. She got pregnant and they both agreed to terminate it which he did twice. And she even fùcks different other guys raw too. He lost interest in her because she defaulted from their original plan to keep herself like he did. She even went as far as getting pregnant for the other nigga. Ogbeni ur own advice is stupidly wrong. What kinda shīt is that