I don't see why you should be too much annoyed for someone to drop call on you. I don't see it as disrespect rather show of displeasure over what you re discussing with her.

Secondly, you can't marry her and her 2 children she had for her late husband. Na only her toto you go marry. Stop promising something that is impossible

Take life easy on ladies.

Draslo:
The son who wants CBN to have the money is no different from the woman who wanted Solomon to divide the child into two for the two claimants to share

That guy is so wicked that instead of sharing the money between his brothers, he wants CBN to have it. Nawaooo

I will keep saying this
''marriage is free entry and free exit''

If it take me 10 times to marriage in order to get better spouse I will do that.

Quit when there is evidence of frequent beating ; it means that you re no longer needed.

If I may advice, let her keep her own accommodation while she moves in with you. You people will understudy each other to know how compatible you re. Maybe 3 to 6 months you people may take further decision. Secondly you have to consider your moving, because of your place of business. You said your current house serves both your office and household.

Am praying to meet such gal who is hardworking and giving.

I wish you people good luck

I don't why people fight over their children during divorce. It is because he wanted to see his children that he was arrested as a result he lost his job, etc.

Men should know that children are better taken care by their mom. They should leave children to their mom to care for until when they re of age, they will certainly look for you.

Why can you share your eggs into 2 or more baskets. There are many fish in ocean, you don't need to break up with her, just get another girlfriend who you will be knocking pending this your gal will enter sch. Just reduce your communication with her.

You should stop giving her that 75k every month. Let it be part of her contribution to the family.

Resigning from your job is another big mistake; apart from ignoring suitable suitors and aware of this family hatred from beginning.

Solution, look for job when u get another job, ignore them as they re not existing. Mind your immediate family.
No family is perfect.

Tell her to stop preparing for coming.

As simple as A B C

Why do you need public advice just to do some thing that will benefit your life.

What if you fell in the kitchen preparing the soup just less a week after child birth


Another shocker I got from your story is having tear or incision from v*gina to anus. Nawaoo. How can they stitch this express way to become pathway again.

When in Rome, Do as the Romans Do

This is a jungle survival tactic and popular saying

What 200 naira can avert or smartness or streetwise can save.

I have been taken to police station with my car because frivolous little mistake in my car documents. I have to pay 5k in 2012 to save my head and car.

That 5k is too small for my life. And thank God I have that time.

There was another time they caught me for expired paper, I didn't have money. I have to beg them and waited for 1hr before they allow me to go .

My advice is simple, leave that manipulative lady before she ruins your life. Any woman that accuse you wrongly for rape when you had consensual sxxx is psychopath

Leave her, dump her and don't look beck

This is indeed political prosecution and vendetta. This is to stop him from re contesting for US president in forthcoming general election

highchief1:
those were my dads words.he was never too comfortable with being too fast.My dad will say if u achieve what ppl should achieve at 70 while u r 30 u should also be ready to die when those that are 70 are dying.But it doesn’t really apply in all cases.

It does apply in most cases. The remedy is to slow down, hide one's achievement, assumed fake failure, etc.

So, those that cannot happen are those that applied the above remedy. Read 48 laws of power, you will understand it more. Even bible says good people die younger

If a man begging for sex is attempting rape then a girl or woman begging for money is also committing robbery .

Because it is same emotional manipulation a woman passes thru is what the man will pass thru when she begs for urgent 2k or more.

You can only beg to have sex with lady you know that you people shares affinity and affiliation with. No man will see random gal or someone he doesn't know and started to beg for sex. Except such gal is *horse.

In another vein, some ladies like their men to beg them for sex,

You people should have online meeting or zoom meeting to discuss how you people should finance your parents health and old age expenses. It is thru this way you people will know her grudges, grievance and anger for her little or no contribution.

You people should give her fair hearing to explain herself.

Rokiat:


Did I tell you I needed education on open marriage or that I didn’t know what an open marriage is?

Maybe you need such education to enable you understand more that such practice is allowed.

Sex is overrated and everything is fair in love and war.

Sex is not only made for procreation but also for funs and happiness.

BVN is now required for most of govt recruitment

Anambra State recently recruited 5000 teachers, their BVN were required.

So it is not a scam.

Rokiat:
That is not your husband that is your costumer and he treats you like a prostitute.

Why would anyone stay in such relationship?


This can not be real.


And the fact she even knows his side chicks and he don’t even hide it smh. What you allow is what will continue. This woman clearly don’t love or respect her self and the husband is just treating her the way she treat and view herself.

This is mind boggling to say the least. I can’t believe women like this exists.

It is only in Nigeria that open marriage does not exist.

Let me educate you more on open marriage . It is a situation where both partner / spouse live in same roof or separate roofs, but they re free to have sexual relationship with other person other than his or her spouse.

It is allowed scenario, it doesn't make the man or woman being taken as a prostitute or sex material. There is always terms and conditions of such arrangements.

So I will advice her to allow her maid to have sex with her man since she has been allowing him before

Please forgive her but don't forget her action.

Let her hire someone who will be taking care of her mother. Marriage is between husband, wife and children. Others are intruders and meddlers. You can help her by providing money need for the hospice.

Tit for tat, no one go vex

The guy can never be rich in his entire life, someone who has surplus as a result of his greediness and accumulation of poor people common wealth mistakenly sent N10.8m unnoticed to your account, nawaoo.

If it were me, I will keep that money there in my account untouched for let say 6months if nobody ask of it I will use it to change my destiny forever.

It will be a prayer answered

Oga, am from Anambra State, our sister or daughter marital rites are not exorbitant,

My advice for you is to ask the gal where she is not aware, you can do little introduction and ask for list.

From the list, you will know if you can go further

I don't know why people are mostly dogs in the manger. Leave those that watch porn to do so in peace provided they don't enforce it on you.

That porn have save many homes from break, prevent rape because the viewer will masturbate thereafter.

I don't see anything bad for watching porn

Mindlog:
In such situations, it is best the woman come clean with the husband, tell him the pregnancy is not his and end the marriage then walk away. The husband can continue the relationship with his colleagues.

She is already few years shy of 40 and can't gamble her chance of motherhood by going for an abortion irrespective of how the pregnancy was conceived.

There is no way; it is even insulting and abomination, character assassination to tell husband that he is not the owner of his wife foetus. This kind of news will make the man to abhor marriage while wicked men may sue the impregnator and the woman for crime of conduct capable of breaking laws and order,

So the best she can do is to divorce him, move back to Iwo, have her kid and to continue her life of single mom.

There is always justification for committing sin. So, my dear, divorce your husband and have that child as a single mom. You have means and wherewithal to take care of your child. Don't impose someone's child upon someone who doesn't want a child. Secondly your marriage with him is heading to doom, how can a man refuses to give his wife sex. It is a sign of cheating.

Some men Don't know how to handle infidelity, many men or women are monogamous in nature, they can't be able to eat two food at a time,

Your type will die getting nothing. Why you don't collect your own money. Since you have seen that everyone is forced to get money. That ypp man you're fighting, will he share his own money with you if he wins.

People should be street wise.

Anyway thank your God for safe journey

Napata77:


This makes no sense.

If Yorubas settled in Lagos in droves more than anyone else from the 1450s, as the article says, then it IS Yorubaland.

Just about everyone living in West Africa today is descended from people who migrated from somewhere else.

This Oba Akiolu needs to go and study the history of the sub-region.

By his argument, Onitsha is not actually Igboland, but Edoland.

According to Encyclopedia Britannica:

''Founded by adventurers from Benin (nearby, to the west) in the early 17th century, Onitsha grew to become the political and trading centre of the small Igbo (Ibo) kingdom of Onitsha. Its monarchical system (rare among the Igbo people) was patterned after that of Benin.''

https://www.britannica.com/place/Onitsha-Nigeria

Onitsha was not conquered land, the people of Obosi and other neighboring town gave descendants of Onitsha their land to settle.

However Eko or Lagos is conquered territory of bini kingdom. Yorubas that later migrated there later wete people that escaped from Yoruba civil wars that led to fall of Oyo empire and formation of Ibadan.

History is good judge of men

Ọbá Akiolu is authority and he is very right to what he said.

efeski:


Even if what you're saying is correct that they refused to stop for check, does that justify him aiming at her point blank range and pulling the trigger?

That is another observation

As you know police and stray bullet na 5 & 6.

Let's tell ourselves the truth, why should a car seeing a police checkpoint and fail to stop for checking? The woman and her husband blatantly ignored police checkpoint with reckless abandon because she was a lawyer. Layers are above the laws.

There will be also a law that checkmates this reckless disregard and respect of Police checkpoint by Nigerian elites. They believe that police checkpoints are kept for poor Nigerians,

Law is no respecter of persons. He killed herself not the police officer.

Those govs lack common senses, they failed when they didn't say their preffered candidate before the election. They achieve nothing just toothless bulldogs

You have failed her and your family by your boyish decision of yours. You asked her to resign her job on the promise that you will open supermarket for her, she did her part by resigning. On your part, you reneged on your promises. That is no 1 error of judgement.

No 2 mistake is when you lost your job or your business suffered setback, the reasons for the setback were not said here. Maybe due to your poor financial rascality and imprudence. imagine giving your wife 1k every day, why wouldn't you give her bulk 25k to 30k monthly at least to help her buy her women things.

All these your accumulated failure and mistakes over the years coupled with your current brokeness, compounded her resentment toward you. She is being threatened by what future will hold for her. Her bad attitude said them all.

Solution. Accept your faults and apologize to her. Next time, don't take decision alone, ask her opinion before taking any decision that may affect her.

Take her to cool place to reset your brains and senses with Lovemaking to default state.

Ọkwa lost heavily. Normally he should have contested for senate but as a greedy nan he chose VP over senate.now he lost VP and senate. What a lost

What is the essence of inheriting properties you can't enjoy a peace, taking refugee, separating from your husband and your kith and kin.

Best to do is to either you sell those properties and use the money to japaa or let your stepmom have her share and you have have yours.

Putting your life , your son and husband life in danger . Since 11yrs ago you re running and hiding. When will it stop.