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Tell your friend you may have to leave him in the apt and move to another at the end of the lease as you are not comfortable with the prayers of his girlfriend. If he thinks he still wants to be roommates with you, he will find a way to make her understand you are not comfortable and she needs to reduce the volume of prayers.

Why not God delivered her? I know God has a different name and meaning to each of us however, what I don't understand why people would say it is the God of a particular person that heard them as though they do not have direct access to God themselves as well.

Ha! Must he say anything if he knows he can't be truthful? I wonder how his kind face his family after saying such.

Ah! What on earth could he be thinking? Just because his sleep was disrupted, he chose to act this stupid.

Dinner:

Potato bacon soup with side of bread.

safarigirl:
So, you know the reality, yet, you are advocating for unrealistic standards

What is unrealistic? A daycare is what a toddler needs and not some school.

You don't have to lie. Just tell her that she can't visit at this time as you already have sorted that part.

So nice of him. The hands of the giver is always on top.

safarigirl:
Somebody enrolled her child in a daycare and the child died. It was all over the internet just two months ago

The child was 3 months old.

Guess who got blamed?

See ehn, it is very easy to criticise people when you are not in their shoes. When you guys start having kids, you will know that expectations are different from reality

Madam, please stop generalizing. Some of us are fathers already and we know reality.

safarigirl:
Just one question

Who will stay with the kids while they are not in school?

Which parent will leave their job and have to stay at home with these kids?

They can enroll them in daycare or day homes.

I am amused at how parents enroll 1 year old kids in school. They now avoid daycare and day homes where the kids could interact with other kids and learn some social skills that is a requisite for life.

Brunch:

Coconut cake made by my wife.

Dinner:

Rice with black soup.

nnekaike:
The ikale's prepare theirs with MARUGBO leaves only,eaten with correct pupuru or pounded yam.
It is their main/ native food.

The Edo's prepare their own with bitterleaf,scentleaf and uziza(optional).

If you want to enjoy any of these soups more try using Banga juice as your base instead of palmoil.

Thanks for the clarification.

If you can afford it, please do. However, don't entertain any form of compensation from this act so as not to mess up your head and your home.

amorprincesa:
It depends the part of Edo your mom is from. I cook it maybe once in 2months. But it is a normal soup for the Binis.

Perhaps my mom's family don't just see it as a normal soup. She's a Bini woman to the core. Like I said, because the Ikale people around me growing up made it more was why I reached my conclusion of it been an Ondo soup.

descarado:
I never heard ondo people make this soup.
It's good to know. I love it.
Maybe, they are nebors.

folake4u:
I don't know if Ondo people eat the soup.
I just know it's more common with Edo folks.

Probably.

I know it more around Ikale people. Sometimes, it could be the circle of influence we have around us.

Dinner:

Salmon, Potatoes, and a side of Ceasar Salad.

folake4u:
The soup make sense oh.

It's an Edo native soup.

Is it Edo or Ondo people. My mom is Edo and the only time I see them cook it was for special occasions. The Ikale people that I knew growing up will cook it on a normal day so it makes me feel it is more attributed to them than the Edo.

Kellzzyy:
Lies.
Everybody on Nairaland is forming intelligent.
Who then are the cultists parading the school campuses?

That you need to lie to be who you are not doesn't mean everyone does the same. I don't know if you went to a university where cultist parade themselves on campus however, I went to one that we boast that there are no cultists in our university.

LordReed:
Abeg how dem dey take melt ponmo? Pineapple juice?

Use pressure cooker to cook it till it is super soft. That way, it melts in your mouth without struggles.

Had a lecturer who complained I don't come to his office. He saw me after I had submitted my project one afternoon and wouldn't accept my simple greetings. I eventually greeted him in Yoruba but with a smirk on my face and he responded.

Each time I remember the incident, I laugh because I wouldn't respond to such greetings i.e. one that I know is not from a genuine heart.

Funny thing is he taught me 4 courses and I made no A in any of his courses which is still amusing till date. There's no lecturer that taught me two courses that I don't make at least an A.

May his soul find rest with his creator. Nigeria is getting more dangerous.

paschal47:
Amen oo.

I think I get tired of chicken easily, I'll always prefer turkey because of it's oil or fats, but I'm stuck with eating chicken because live turkeys are expensive and I don't like the imported frozen ones

I would say the same of chicken in stew however, for the air fried ones, I love them. Easy to make and are fresh. You make them when you want to eat them.

bepositive11:
This is the first time I'm hearing about the age and friend base factor. Were you older when you went? How did you cope?

Why can't he stay with Emeka? People there don't like to help others out? Why?

Emeka might be lining in a shared apt with strict rules on guest sleeping over. What would you want Emeka do in such a situation?

paschal47:
Same thing I wanted to say, meat no dey scarce for broda GboyegaD house.

Bros keep it up.

emperorz:
bros na everyday yu dey chop chicken o ......con gimme my share na

Na grace ooo. God go do am for everybody.

That aside, I feel chicken is an easy fix and healthy too.

Dinner:

Coleslaw and crispy chicken.

Na so konji bad reach? He deserves a long time to help reset his brain.

emperorz:
i have seen diz picture b4 smwhere on dz page

Not the same picture cos I took this one on Friday. They might be simply close since it is same plate, same kitchen, and same person.

Food:

Pounded yam with black soup.

lefemmechoclat:
I kniw but he did win. What is a child support? Max 3k a month? He got citizenship off me, a 6ok mansion ,helped his parents because i helped get him there. I have lost. I could have remained singleand he could habe gone on and married a Nigerian who wont have to guess what he is saying is the truth or not.
Now im stick with 4 kids and he can just go on. All cus i was used as a stepping stone. Im going for everythingi can.

I would suggest you choose not to see it that way. He might not have thought about it that way and he was only following what he thought was the way to go. The very reason why I'm suggesting counseling so that you can let out your pain and begin to find way to free and ease your pains and begin to find ways to trust him again.

Don't feed that thought that he used you. Before you came here, that wasn't your thought thus, don't let the things you read on here make you feel used because many supported his ideas. Truth is they don't know your pains, they wouldn't share your pains, and neither would they understand the plights of your children.

lefemmechoclat:
I am..im divorcing him getting my portion and moving on. quote author=KanwuliaExtra post=111402728]

You will need to find ways to continue ALONE. He is not planning to retire and grow old with you.

When he was making his plans, you should have been making yours. There is no “we” in a TYPICAL Nigerian marriage.

You will need to continue without him.

Please, if possible, don't go this route. You both should seek counseling first and see if things can be worked out.

Like I said, he's wicked, no doubt however, his thoughts could have attended from the thoughts some of the men on this thread are displaying. Let's for the sake of your marriage think about it as ignorance.

Find a middle ground that works for both parties and where he's a major contributor to the family. As it is right now, he's at the losing end since he will have to pay child support but being the money, the children need both parents.

Dinner:

Mashed potatoes with gravy.