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 Travel › Re: Please I Need Advice From People In Abuja. Am Depressed! by Gerrard59(m): 3:07am On Mar 16, 2023 |
Karikapapaya:Our society promotes poverty and mediocrity. Why are they forcing a young man (yes, in the institution of marriage using marital age globally, as a man, you are young) to marry when he does not have a stable source of income? I can understand pressuring you to marry or bear children if you were in South Korea or Singapore (due to low birth rates), but then, even Koreans and Singaporean males would rather remain single than bring children into a financially unstable environment. They are not offering pieces of invaluable advice to earn a good income but are looking at marriage. Honestly, when I read that line, I got angry. You needed to see my reaction.  Help a brother. Am Esan by tribe but born and brought up in Warri. Am like a burden to my aged parents right now because I still live with them and feed from them. I have savings of up to 150k. Keep the advice coming please. Should I just rent a small house in Warri and be managing things or I should relocate to Abuja ? Or even Lagos? I know I am brilliant because I graduated with a second class upper grade with a 4. Point CGPA in biochemistry. I can speak fluently and can defend my certificate but have not been really lucky with jobs. Have spent t fare attending different interviews in Lagos in the past I had to give up and stop coupled with he fact that the age factor isn't on my side anymore.Like Tensa20 has said, it is pointless going to Abuja, especially if you are not guaranteed a place to live free of charge. Good, you have 150K, continue saving. This is what you should do: Those your married and well-to-do mates, try to seek financial assistance from them to finance your postgraduate studies by doing a PhD in a developed country. I would say target the US because it has many scholarships even in tier 3 universities - who would be ecstatic to have you as a student. You need to do your research painstakingly. Ask your mates who have relocated via studies to assist you with payments, recommendations and tips. If any is in academia, seek his/her assistance in recommending you to a professor or faculty member. On your part, save, be disciplined and be focused. P.S. This is exactly what a close friend did; he is in Canada today. Although a first-class graduate and in his late twenties, his financial situation is exactly like yours. He rallied around for financial assistance (I supported him, too), got the admission through a friend of his erstwhile professor in Canada, got fully funded (aka no tuition fees but with a monthly stipend), and rallied again for flight ticket and visa expenses (again, I supported him). Thankfully, he is in Canada today. Determination and perseverance = success. Even me sef beckoned on people I knew for assistance to pay application fees due to CBN issue or give me advice for the application process. You need to get into that network ASAP. It is there, you just need to ask. There would be rejections here and there but ask. In my case, the dude called me one day that he had an emergency and I should be of assistance. This was after asking almost everyone he knew and no positive response. Today, he is in Canada. If he can do it, anyone can. No need to go to Abuja, it would be too expensive if you don't have a place to stay. No matter how much you get paid, it comes down to square one due to increased living costs. You have a place to stay and free food - which means you have little overhead costs. 2 Likes |
| Travel › Re: Please I Need Advice From People In Abuja. Am Depressed! by Gerrard59(m): 2:45am On Mar 16, 2023 |
onihaxy:Let me teach you a little bit about critical thinking and communication... When you see someone write something you strongly doubt or are surprised about, you don't outrightly say it is a lie. Rather, you ask, "how possible is it?" "Do you have evidence to support your statement/claim?" "How come it is done?" "What are the examples of such?" Alternatively, you conduct your research to confirm if what the person said is true. Both of you are on the Internet, so opening another tab should not be hard. You then Google "scholarships that sponsor student's tuition fees, living expenses and flight tickets to and fro". You would get results and learn one or two things. Now to your disclaimer. You are wrong about it. There are MANY scholarships that cover everything from flights to settling down to living expenses to tuition fees. I hobnob with these people daily and yes, they are Nigerians. I even guided a Nairalander on the nitty-gritty involved when he arrived the country. The organisation SPONSORED everything from start to finish. 10 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Canada Finally Humbled Me With Pussy After 8months: Pictures by Gerrard59(m): 2:38am On Mar 16, 2023 |
Raalsalghul:The average Nigerian man loves sex so much. So, don't be surprised by how they lament. They cannot do without it. It is the reason hookup has increased exponentially. Smart young, succulent and beautiful ladies are fleecing them, and rightfully so. |
| Travel › Re: Debate: Can A Nigerian American Visa Interview Officer Be Assigned To Nigeria? by Gerrard59(m): 2:35am On Mar 16, 2023 |
hamouston91:So, because he denies Nigerians visas, then he is an asslicker? Your type dey promote mediocrity. In fact, statements like the bold would even propel him to deny Nigerians visas since you believe because he has Nigerian ancestry, it should be automatic approval. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Canada Finally Humbled Me With Pussy After 8months: Pictures by Gerrard59(m): 2:33am On Mar 16, 2023 |
Thamesbridge:This is the result of having constant sexual intercourse while in Nigeria. If you are like me, you won't find it so hard to stay without sex. In Canada, it took you eight months. Where I am, boys don dey two years plus, pant dem no see.  My advice has always been simple: attain citizenship, immerse yourself in the culture, make money (business or career), and then explore other locations. A man with money has many options. The Caribbeans and South America are in your backyard. Life should not be hard. P.S. I am glad many Nigerians, especially the men, are realising that the vast majority of Nigerian men are not handsome. This I knew more than three years ago. Nigerian women, even without makeup, are finer than the men. |
| Romance › Re: Canada Finally Humbled Me With Pussy After 8months: Pictures by Gerrard59(m): 2:27am On Mar 16, 2023 |
1Sharon:For once, we agree on something. |
| Travel › Re: What Else Can A Man Do To Please A Woman. (UK EXPERIENCE) by Gerrard59(m): 2:21am On Mar 16, 2023 |
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| Health › Re: Pretty Nigerian Slayqueen Dies After An Unsuccessful Liposuction Operation (vid) by Gerrard59(m): 9:56am On Mar 15, 2023 |
Dshocker:Chai! What God gave Southern Africans free of charge o Well, you cannot blame men. Testosterone is the culprit. The same hormone makes us who we are. Na so life be. 1 Like |
| Travel › Re: What Else Can A Man Do To Please A Woman. (UK EXPERIENCE) by Gerrard59(m): 10:56pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
The problem started with you marrying her just so that you have a wife before you relocated. Then, you left her in Nigeria (she mentioned loneliness). Although, having a companion is good, I think many young Nigerian men need to live life without having one so that they know how both sides can be. Are you telling me you would die while being a bachelor in the UK? 52 Likes 2 Shares |
| Travel › Re: Help: What's The Average Rent Around Ikoyi, Lagos? by Gerrard59(m): 4:18pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
ednut1:So, how do tenants cook then? |
| Politics › Re: Mercy Johnson Speaks Esan, Thanks Electorates For Voting For Her Husband by Gerrard59(m): 4:14pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
Mexyz:There are very few Esan people, and even fewer with economic clout compared to Yorubas. Just as there are few jobs that a Nigerian can get if he speaks Swahili compared to Chinese across Africa. Why do Asians learn English instead of French? |
| Politics › Re: Mercy Johnson Speaks Esan, Thanks Electorates For Voting For Her Husband by Gerrard59(m): 4:12pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
jayinfo2:This is a dogmatic way of looking at things. So Nigerians who learn Chinese do it because they love China, not because of the economic opportunities? If I was doing business in Nigeria at my age, I would learn Yoruba as it is. Non-Hausas in the military learn Hausa because of the opportunities and protection they get, yet you say it is not a way to the top? Do you know the effects of learning a dominant language when bidding a contract? I understanding learning it since it is your mother's tongue, but it is unargubaly better to learn any of the major ethnic group languages for economic reasons. |
| Romance › Re: I Urgently Need A Piece Of Advice That Might Decide My Future by Gerrard59(m): 10:41am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Wawelexy:LOL! What kind of business generates so much profits within six months? You people confuse revenues with profits. Because a business generates high revenues doesn't make it profitable. For a business to generate profit, it takes quite a while NOT six months. BTW, what is the potential interest rate you expect his investment to generate within six months? Regarding the bold, it depends on the route he decides to take. Unless via tourist visa, which is hard to get these days, if he spends two to three million on GRE and TOEFL preparations, application fees, WES evaluation etc., he can get a fully funded admission or significant scholarship if it's an MBA (quality work experience matters here). Student visa is one of the best bet in migrating to the US. It depends on his undergraduate degree and grades. However, he should understand that US citizenship isn't too guaranteed even with a high paying job unless he goes the marriage route as quickly as possible. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Travel › Re: Nigerians In Australia, What's The Country Like? by Gerrard59(m): 10:33am On Mar 12, 2023 |
earlalright:There's a thread on Nigerians living in Australia, check it out. Sometimes, you first Google "Nigerians in XYZ country nairaland" before creating yours. Read the entire search results. That's how you do research. Because if you can't do that one, e go hard when you begin the process as it involves lots of personal research. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Gerrard59(m): 10:26am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Bullythebully:I do understand your points. I have always acknowledged that women are hypergamous. So, I'm surprised you quoted me. |
| Politics › Re: Senator Joseph Wayas' Corpse Abandoned In London Over Funds by Gerrard59(m): 2:45am On Mar 12, 2023*. Modified: 3:14am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Raalsalghul:As Rege.x mentioned, a few black-dominated countries (mostly island nations though) are doing pretty OK. Regarding the bold, I use to use Singapore as an example but upon reading further, she got assisted by the west. The same applies to Japan, South Korea and Malaysia. Kudos to them too for having pragmatic, enterprising, meritocratic cultures to add. Without them, they would not have come this far. Also, they were/are largely homogenous. In Singapore's case, the Chinese control the society, and Chinese or East Asian Confucian cultures have those traits I listed. The way I see it, oyibos would not desire that sub-Saharan Africa develops because of what she did during the slave trade era. If SSA is as rich as China and Japan today, we would have given them more trouble than China is doing today because of what they did to us. They have seen what a rich China is doing, then imagine people you enslaved for more than 400 years + colonialism? These folks (west) like who they can control such as Japan and South Korea. Once you don't allow them to control you. they fight to put you down. For instance, many EU countries are looking to reduce or cut trade with China, but I wonder who would replace China (economic and market opportunities)? It should be Africa as we are way younger and have the land plus we share the same languages. But where are they going? South East Asia. Same region China has a massive influence as it is her backyard. OK, why not assist African countries the same way you assisted China, Japan, South Korea and the rest? Not all would become as rich as those Asian nations, but on average, they will become richer than they are today. For where! Another instance is France which controls literally all Francophone countries in Africa, none of which is doing well economically. The top five economies in sub-Saharan Africa, no francophone country dey inside. The EU's future is in Africa. If she wants to be safe from illegal migrants, she should work with the continent to make her prosperous or be prepared for invasion (high birth rates, climate change and conflicts). They too have low birth rates. At the same time, many SSA countries don't promote those traits I listed and lack delayed gratification. Also, we are too heterogeneous. 1 Like |
| Politics › Re: Senator Joseph Wayas' Corpse Abandoned In London Over Funds by Gerrard59(m): 2:29am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Regex:Trinidad and Tobago is rich due to oil revenues and a smaller population. But she has social issues due to the black/Indian divide. Barbados is better off as she is predominately black. Colonialism does have her issues and joining different ethnic groups makes no sense. From my observations so far, prosperous societies today achieved it as they were homogenous to an extent (same ethnic/racial group). A harmonious society will progress faster than a disharmonious one. OTOH, one would have expected the likes of Gabon or E. Guinea to be like dem UAE or even Trinidad and Tobago, but the archaic mentality and poor creative skills have ret@rded their development. Other examples are Namibia and Botswana. They are not pragmatic and forward-thinking like the rulers in UAE and Qatar. Developing a country nowadays is not difficult. The way I see it, not many ethnic groups' cultures in sub-Saharan Africa promote meritocracy, enterprise, pragmatism, innovation, integrity etc. This I believe is where the issue comes in. But colonialism do us bad thing, then, lacking those values/attributes I listed also contributed as they would have lifted a country above it. |
| Romance › Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Gerrard59(m): 2:17am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Raalsalghul:The thing here is: they are winning from both sides. Fork around, get paid beautifully and marry a man who will take care of you and your children. Mission accomplished. The only way a man wins is when he forked around, has money then gets married to a chaste woman. Unfortunately, the vast majority of southern Nigerian men are not in that category. Yet, they won't insist on standards like their northern counterparts (excluding teenage marriages) or counterparts in Arab countries. If southern Nigerian women were listed on the stock market, I would buy and HOLD. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Romance › Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Gerrard59(m): 2:11am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Regex:I have seen it all. Women who flirted getting the best men. Literally, these ladies clubbed every Friday, went to nearby cities and states every weekend for sexual rendevous, and juggled pen!s here and there. Even the ones I thought were pious also fvcked rampantly, as I was told. Or the ones who gist me of their sexcapades as I was free and open-minded. Or the then escorts who serviced men in Lagos/Abuja, but relocated to another state to get married based on tabula-rasa. I hold nothing against them for fvcking. They played their cards too well. Today? Dem don marry. Na why alfa meil rants make me laugh. The reason they are ranting is because of poverty. Give them money today, and they will patronise escorts, and get side chics (Nigeria's married men defend side chics even more than the side chics defend themselves). The average Nigerian man loves toto so much and will do anything to get his preek inside a vagina once there is money. When the money is not yet there, he begins to form Ikot Ekpene Andrew Tate. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance › Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Gerrard59(m): 2:01am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1:I use to have that same mentality, but changed it as what both parties bring to the table are different. A woman, as your posts point out, should look at a man's future before getting into a relationship with him. That is correct. A man, on the other hand, would look at a woman's past before getting married to her. It is the reason single men prefer single women, not single mothers. It makes no logical sense for a young man who is doing well financially to marry a single mother. Also, when I was an adolescent, it was common for young women about to be wedded to become pregnant as a way to indicate their womb was functioning due to the presumable number of abortions she must have done while growing up. If however, you don't expect women to be chaste, please don't complain when these men cheat on their unchaste wives. Although I concede that there are women who married as virgins yet are cheated on by their husbands, which is unfair in my opinion. Nevertheless, women at least southern Nigerian women are winning the game. Kudos to una. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Gerrard59(m): 1:44am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1:Actually, it does. I perfectly agree with you that a man must be a provider. In fact, it is better to be dead than be alive as a man who has no money. Of what use is a man without money? I have seen the disrespect men get when they have no money from their wives, wives' family members, society and even their friends. So, the rants on the first page are ignorant of how the world works. However, as much as you want a man who works and provide, you need to bring something to the table which are your feminine values and character. I find it odd for a lady to expect the top 1% man yet she is not also a top 1% lady. It is a merger of unequals. Most men, especially traditional men since you referenced men of those days, are not interested in a woman's money. At the same time, these men need you to be chaste and have high feminine values. But then, I can't blame young ladies who desire the top 1% yet are in the bottom 20% since the average Nigerian man lacks standards. If I was a Nigerian lady, I would do the same. Flirt around and do unimaginable things then turn around and get a rich man. Honestly, I hail una. The strategy has been working for donkey years, notwithstanding the alfa meil chants (most of whom are very poor). 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Travel › Re: Carers In The UK: Can You Please Share Your Honest Experience by Gerrard59(m): 1:32am On Mar 12, 2023 |
ednut1:Na true. Make the students mellow small. Persephone1:With this explanation, I see nothing wrong with the scheme. People should learn to be realistic and strategic. |
| Travel › Re: What Downtown Looks Like In São Paulo, São Paulo, Brazil by Gerrard59(m): 6:32pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
DontBullshitMe:Well, considering the first Europeans to venture out in search for new lands were the Spaniards and Portuguese, it was meant to be so. I think Ferdinand Magellan wanted to head east (China) but through the west in search for gold and other valuable items he heard were abundant in the east. Nevertheless, it is better to be colonised by the Portuguese instead of say the French. The vast majority of Francophone countries are terribly poor and have weaker passports. If Biafra, supported by the French, had succeeded, she would have been poor too. Brazil and the US are the most heterogenous countries globally I can think of. Brazil has got Blacks, Lebanese, Chinese, Japanese (the most number of Japanese outside Japan), Europeans etc. 3 Likes |
| Travel › Re: Carers In The UK: Can You Please Share Your Honest Experience by Gerrard59(m): 6:23pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
tensazangetsu20:I just checked, and he also attended Oxford o 4 Likes
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| Romance › Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Gerrard59(m): 6:18pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Raalsalghul:Erimma1, You have not answered this young man's curiosity. But then, I recall well-to-do Nigerian men who still married ladies who fvcked around when they were younger or in school. Sha, I don talk am, the average Nigerian man has no standard when it comes to marriage. Na to dey shout alfa meil for road while dangling the smelly preek. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Travel › Re: Carers In The UK: Can You Please Share Your Honest Experience by Gerrard59(m): 6:09pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Is the UK really that bad? Abi, no be Nigerians dey attend London School of Economics, Imperial College London, Cambridge University etc., I read daily? Shey London is a major financial centre and tech jobs brekete in the country? Things should not be that bad na. tensazangetsu20:I am yet to meet anyone who loathes the UK like you do. |
| Romance › Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Gerrard59(m): 10:20am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Regex:I saw the comment and wanted to quote it, but realised that the concept of marriage differs among people. The average Nigerian equates marriage to childbearing, let alone marriage. How many married couples are intentionally child-free in Nigeria? Very few. So, I understand his point. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Gerrard59(m): 10:18am On Mar 11, 2023 |
I can't believe that Nigerians are discouraging a young man from getting married. |
| Nairaland General › Re: Happy 18th Anniversary Nairaland by Gerrard59(m): 12:32am On Mar 11, 2023 |
I have been here since 2011. I enjoyed the political debates leading up to the 2011 elections and decided to register. Also, it had and still has relevant information from a Nigerian perspective. Notable feats between Nairaland and myself: - Got by first job from here (hired by a Nairalander), - Got tips on how to attain a first class, which I didn't attain sef. - Got invaluable tips on self development. Frequent commentary on Nairaland aided my writing skills immensely. I recalled commenting almost every single day. - Got to know my UTME aka JAMB result on Nairaland. - Got the relevant information I used to japa - Got paired with good folks who have remained buddies till date. - and many more too numerous to mention. Regarding tribal posts, that is APC's fault. Leading up to the 2015 elections, APC went the tribal way. She sponsored propagandists to smear Igbos and other ethnic minorities, most of whom supported Jonathan. In return, they had to retaliate which led to Nairaland being very tribal. Even those in the diaspora were at the forefront. One named Dayokanu now Ramduetter whatever or Eko Ile. Seun could not do anything because the bigwigs in the APC were/are Yorubas, and as a Yoruba lad, that would be an affront on his leaders. So he overlooked. What he did was appointing mods from the two ethnic groups, who then push posts smearing the other ethnic group to the front page. Additionally, he was threatened by islamists to reduce what they called "anti-Islam" posts on Nairaland. What they didn't say was that "anti-Islam" posts became rife because of the atrocities by Boko Haram. It's why the Islam section has a pre-warning before you comment. Unfortunately, he didn't replicate the same for Christians since he's an atheist. Funny enough, his father is a pastor (owner of Ambassadors College in Ogun aka Cowbellpedia Mathematics regulars). Recently, he has been bromancing with El-Rufai. Just like his buddy Mark Essien (Seun once invited Mark for AMA session years back). An example is how the posts smearing David Hundeyin graced the front page but David's rebuttal wasn't. El-Rufai and David are sworn enemies. So we might begin to see less posts about the slaughtering of Christians in Northern Nigeria. Who knows? 🤷🏿♂️ In summary, Nairaland will still remain Nigeria's most visited forum or social media website owned by a Nigerian by any measure because there is no competitor that comes close. The website contains invaluable information from a Nigerian perspective. That is her selling and strongest point. TheFreshVanilla:Seun is like the founder of Craigslist. Craigslist was founded before Shopify or few years after Amazon, yet the owner and present CEO (who was an early member) have remained very private. The website is still very bland but easy to navigate. That has been Nairaland's strength, at least during the 2000s - 2015 when less sophisticated phones were prevalent. Maybe in the next few years when those Symbian phones stop reigning or aren't prevalent, more features will be introduced. But then, it's the founder's nature. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
| Politics › Re: APC Will Compensate Civil War Victims In Rivers – Amaechi by Gerrard59(m): 9:38am On Mar 10, 2023 |
Itsrm:Brilliant question. EmekaMD:Another good observation. But my people would forgive him, after all, they forgave Wassapping and even donated to his cause. Only for him to say na scope. 2 Likes |
| Politics › Re: APC Will Compensate Civil War Victims In Rivers – Amaechi by Gerrard59(m): 9:37am On Mar 10, 2023 |
Igbo people don suffer for Nigeria. Left, right and centre. Chai! 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Travel › Re: Japanese Visa And Travelling To Japan by Gerrard59(m): 6:01am On Mar 10, 2023 |
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