₦airaland Forum

finessela: Stephen: So, when I am hanging out with the men and they are all talking about their careers and businesses, what will I be talking about? Diapers and baby food?

cococandy: Don't you get it?
You're LUCKY he married you at all.
You should be grateful he even came home at all

pickabeau1: pics or adonbilivit

letsdothis: Nairaland oo see topic smh

dytbabe: If we can't get his mothers name we say omo awawu, shey Eve na awawu na

50calibre: Not true!! Most of the time, he has no love for his mistress, she's just a tool. At the end of the day, he'd return to the one he loves, except she's a pain in the as*s.

The truth is most men cheat, most men with busy lives & jobs cheat, it's that simple. It's very hard not to cheat.

dytbabe: Let me finish it up for u
Ohun taba wi fun ogba logba ngba
Eyi ti emi *ur name* ba wi fun iwo *his name n surnmae* wi fun e ni eni yi ati isin yin ti ko gbo
To to to to
Ashegun




*Godmystrength*

BABE3: Wrong conclusion.
The issue isn't black or white. You can't conclude that all men cheat and you can't conclude that all men don't cheat. The key word here should be "CAN". CAN all men/women cheat? If your answer is 'yes' then every other thing is irrelevant. For a disciplined man, it'll only take the right moment, the right woman and low consequences for that Potential "CAN cheat" to turn to Kinetic "WILL cheat".

You can't tell what people's limits are unless you push them to their limits.

Your girlfriend isn't cheating on you probably because she hasn't met a man better than you financially and facially ; if she does, that's the real test.

Your husband isn't cheating on you today probably because he hasn't met a woman better than you, at the right moment and with minimal risk; if everything clicks for him, that's the real test. If the woman is now the one throwing himslef at your husband; that's even a bigger test.


so you see, it's not black or white.
Btw, everyone can cheat, just like everyone can tell lies and everyone can be selfish.

And don't forget, some may never get tested till they die, so how can you tell if they're cheats or not? Blurry.

Godmystrength: When ladies say all men are cheats, the men raise a lot of hell. Now ladies are saying that not all men are cheats and the men are still raising a lot of hell saying ladies that believe men don't cheat are just deceiving themselves. na wa o......
My own conclusion is that the non-cheating men are not on NL today

teeo: Water and garri.

teeo: Any lady that bashes dudes for cheating doesn't have things to do with her time, same way i insist any lady that cries over a cheating boyfriend should just wake up.

You honestly know the truth but you're obviously in denial, cause its online. Ladies shout divorce, biko immediately you do that a hundred and fifty women some of whom said you should kick the cheating dude out would gladly occupy your space. Next time he is going on that business trip, do the right thing and give him a condom finish

JayKayMaybachz: Modest in dressing, manners, societal behavior etc ... Showin that motherly role

joe4christ: I hope you are already prepared to remain miserably single for life

Godmystrength: . I am either your chick or not your chick. No time to be claiming some silly title of MAIN chick. To hell with the person and his numerous SIDE chickens. I am already out before you know it.

Godmystrength: I am not one of the gals who try really hard to become 'wife material' by giving a single man all the benefits and rights of a married man. Who has time for that one. when i am not jobless....

letsdothis: Thank you my brother. Have you tried married women too. You will share testimony

JayKayMaybachz: By behaving like a married woman ... Shikena

scribble: First of all you have to comprehend that men and woman are wired differently.

If I explain from now till rapture, you won't understand and your anger fit make you miss heaven.

All men get it or 99% do.

Good luck looking for the 1% that don't agree with me.

Godmystrength: How does this your post address my question o. na wa. maybe i am the one with comprehension problem

scribble: Good luck and I wish you success.

Let be be more candid with you...

Can you be more successful than beyonce or Oprah

Beyonces man is cheating whenever he can...

Oprah has no man but licks Gayle kings box...she is bi...

Godmystrength: So working towards your success now translates to approaching lesbianism??

KMTee: 1. she won't be cooking during the week except on weekends, so they get what they would eat on their way from work.
2. no in-law should come stay more than a week and for the duration of their stay, they must cook and wash their plates themselves.
3. he must not report her to his mother, mother-in-law cannot advise her what to do, whenever she errs, he must be ready to protect her and he must not allow any member of his family to disrespect her.
4. he must not give any female friend/colleague a ride even if they are staying in the same street, except she is in the car with him.
5. Sex should only happen according to how it's written and explained in one of her books, hubby can't just demand for sex anyhow, it must be according to timetable.

Now, the guy complains bitterly, quarrel and nagging every now and then...he now closes late cos he is too scared of getting home early cos of complaints, nagging and fight..the last fight they had was that the mother called and started tutoring her on how to take care of her man, how to love him, how to adore him and how to be submissive to her man, the woman even shared some of her experience with the lady. she was so furious dat wen they got home, the wife started complaining and lamenting that he is not protecting him from his family, the mother is always on her neck telling her wat to do and not do bla bla bla

aisha2: Burn ya trousers and wear double wrappers

scribble: The next thing na lesbianism


You women leave all these unAfrican things alone but una no go hear word.

scribble: I take delight in being a man and doing manly things.

scribble: Besides cheating is such a strong word.

scribble: If a man is uber responsible and ALL the needs at home are met and he decides to have an extra marital affair that doesn't infringe on his wife's sensibilities. Ie because she doesn't bloody know, then fine and dandy.

biafransoul: Why wouldn't a Nigerian guy not have a 'side chick'? Nigerian girls ain't loyal. The same girls that will easily dump a loyal guy on the premise that he is not ready ( financially buoyant) How many Nigerian girls are ready to stay with their poor loyal guys? Abeg, tell me another story.
My advise to guys, if you've got the wads, try and have as many holes as possible and don't even take any serious cos they're ain't loyal. They want the money, you need the sexx, so be it.

scribble: lol so u think men that use their brains to make billions will sit down and get discovered by a smitten boo for cheating...

chei face your work o....maybe u will find solace there...

i know a billionaire in this lagos who keeps his mistress in a crib across the road from where he purchased a home for his mother in law

u never learn work...na today

women only discover cheating when the mistress is pained/unhappy/indiscreet or not well taken care of

heard of a man who abandoned his wife with their home in VGC

he had been cheating for years under her nose...

they went to paris (him and his wife and mistress), kept his wife in one room and mistress in another floor of same hotel

u think we plot on billions but cant hide affairs...the men that cannot hide affairs are not sophisticated my dear

men could care less about cheating spouses sha...just so you know, especially if he is well taken care of outside...its not a level playing field madam...u guys stop trying to level what is not level

let me leave you with something from King Solomon

Eccl 7:28 Among the things I seek but have not found: one man among a thousand I did find, but I have not found one woman to be wise

hispinkolo: @Godmystrength
No epistle for you..Cut the guy off totally..He's being quite self absorbed,wanting to destroy 2 families.Hes lost a child,he should focus on grieving with his spouse. I'm sure she's very lonely and heart broken.I feel soo sorry for her.
So he wants you to leave your spouse and move in with him and live happily ever after?
If things go wrong nko? Like a biz deal doesn't click? Will he label you a destiny killer?

Your hubby is hyper vigilant as usual,it will take time but you need it sorted. He has to CALM DOWN.Adding people on your phone? Not very nice.
Tell him about this guy,and use that avenue to ask him not to add or reject requests on your phone without speaking to you first.
I say tell him cos this man harassing you is unpredictable and you don't want to be accused of anything untoward.Tomorrow now,he will land Infront of your gate professing love.
I've told you to post a pic of you let's see...you must be hot like fire!

cococandy: @godmystrength. You said your husband accepted this guy's friend request on bbm after you deleted him?
That shows he's very very keen to know every single conversation that goes on between both of you. This maybe because he feels the guy is sooo into you. He doesn't want to take any chances.
I suggest you tell him what's happened the last few times the guy contacted you.
If he stumbles on any new info he didn't know before,it might seem like you were hiding stuff from him and that could translate to you falling gradually for the guy.

Don't let someone who doesn't respect his marriage ruin yours.
I pity his wife.
She lives under your shadow. I'm sure he must be comparing her to you in everything she does. Too bad.

snazzylove: Ok I get d gist. What does the guy want sef? For you 2 leave your hubby
and then he leaves his wife, then be joined together in ...matrimony?
(Fill d blank space for me abeg) I can't stop laffing.

5minsmadness: Sex is food.


Am sure you've heard it b4.

softsparkyy: Apology accepted.
@godmystrength we are patiently waiting.