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Elantracey: biko nau




mummy JJ?

zboyd: According to some women I've come across, the first slap, shove or push is a 'test.' Such men are 'testing' the woman to see how she reacts. If she accepts his apology, he will 'up the ante', so to speak...and continue to 'up the ante' until it explodes into a full-fledged beating. That's why some battered women (and men) say things only get worse and worse, as time goes on, if you don't leave the very first time you're hit.

Another weird thing I've heard some battered women say is: "My husband doesn't love me anymore, because he hasn't beaten me for a month. I wonder if he's cheating!"

WTH!!!

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pickabeau1: Im fine.. thanks for asking

How is your family

good

family doing great.

Elantracey: Hehehe I will o , what's your old moniker ?




its not easy joor

not telling

dytbabe: Childhood swt die
Agbako, lalude

bukatyne: For better for worse..

The worse is cheating and abuse from the husband's end only

Get on with the times

hmmm. yes ma'am

pickabeau1, how are you?

sarutobie: lets say a union of five years with kids involved, your wife hits you during a misunderstanding, the man should leave the union because "once is ALWAYS enough"?? do you people actually think through what you post here? or you assumed only men hit women in a marriage?

I don't know too. Please how many times is enough?

Mind you nobody is assuming anything because the OP is asking both male and female. The females are saying there own. the males should say there's too

if you actually read through, not everybody is saying ''once is ALWAYS enough''.

lastchild: so girls can't say yes to rev father if he decides to date?

Do Rev Fathers date??

Elantracey: I don't really know o , it mainly depends on the op and most of the contestants are busy with different things , you know it was really active during the strike .

that's true. I still look forward to it coming alive again. I miss everybody there. please don't ask me that question

It is easy to learn Yoruba

Elantracey: Make I do go learn Yoruba o , lol

How far with the nairaland bible quiz? when are you guys resurrecting it?

profemoral: see these fool women snapping pix..

So unfortunate that you didn't see the wise men in their midst.

@OP all these people na wa for them o. There is no value on the human life anymore.

But it doesn't look real to me sha

Elantracey: intepret am for me abeg

I won't be able to interpret perfectly o tracey. Na the WITCHES she dey throway salute for

Tallesty1: Marriage is both. You enjoy the good times and endure the hard times because you both are in it and are determined to make it work.

one person shouldn't be the one enjoying and enduring. they both should. And i don't think the hard times we talk about in marriage should be ABUSE.

dytbabe: Awon iya mi
Oshoronga
Apani maku
Olokiki oru
Osholonsha
Oshalansholo
Awon ti won ma nke winwinwinwin
Emi juba yin

you must be an ''AJILEYE's'' fan. You know their oriki too much o

lastchild: thanks but what baffles me is that women should be the one complaining about something like this

From what you said above, to me, it looks as if you are coming across as a man who thinks he is doing a woman a favour by marrying her(i may be wrong though).

For all the girls to be leaving, you need to do a critical self evaluation and see if there is something about you that is chasing them.

In everything, be prayerful. God will bring the right person your way and also make you right for the person..

oyeludef: i will answer diis questn wiit questions. we were all brought up by african parents(i will assume). to be sincere i believe ur mum must av told u of a time she was slapped by ur dad (mayb as newly weds b4 dey really got to understand each other). now d question i wold u av gotten to where u r today if mum had left nd u were brought up in a broken home? secondly wld u have forgiven her so easily for leaving cos of a slap or two? does ur dad still slap her (of cus not dey av both outgrown d urge to provoke each other to dat extent). d success of a home lies mostly on the mother dan father. As long as life is not under threat. (if ur spouse threaten you wit a knife or cutlass u r free to leave dat very minute). marriage is not jst abt u

It is not only a knife or a cutlass that can pose a threat to someones life. A WRONG push can send someone to the great beyond.... a slap can puncture your eardrum.... a wrong word can harm you psychologically.... etc. You will never know when it will happen.... why should anyone be made to endure any kind of abuse??

@OP- i don't know how to answer your question. But one thing i know is that the ''union'' will never be the same again. I just pray not to find myself in such kind of mess That is why i try as much as possible not to put my partner in a situation where he will be tested....

Babymama1: He shouldn't give out your own things without your consent though I agree

THAT is d REAL flaw. the giving is just a side flaw.

and i have also learnt to ignore and face my front concerning his ''giving ministry'' and only complain when it is going to affect me or my baby directly.

^^^^you have ONLY two skirts just to find them missing and after searching and asking your sisters, hubby now confessed after 2months that he has given it out. That's what makes it a flaw. Now i have started locking my own side of the wardrobe.

^^^^ imagine the feeling when you see a dress om someone and you are like ''oh i have ds kind of dress o. Lemme even rock it 2moro'' only to discober that it's actually your own. Same wt shoes.

@babymama1, your case is diff. I am also a giver. But wisdom is profitable ....... Example of when he dashed out money meant for rent and we now had to be runnin from pillar to post when it was time to renew rent. And what about giving out my things without telling me.

akinladejo: I once met a woman that said if a woman did not given
birth to all babies in her womb it will worry and disturb her health
later in d future.hence she kept on given birth.

funny

my
hubby can dash out anything to anybody. he will empty his wardrobe and
won't have clothes to wear. he dashes out my things without my
KNOWLEDGE. His friends warned me on our wedding day to be extra watchful
before he will dash out our children to some waiting couples. he has once dashed out money meant for our house rent.

please i don't want to come back as somethings else other than a WOMAN o. but with just some amendments like longer fingernails and fuller hair. that's all. plus PLENTYYYYYYYYYYYY MONIES

i refuse to believe this one o.

jayedu108: may thunder fire u if u keep side boyfriend and cheat
on ur husband.

. The thunder go wait tire o cos i gat no
business with it(thunder). :DLol. wetin even concern you? Na you be my hubby ni?

orbis: [size=22pt][/size] A BIG AMEN TO THIS PRAYER

MAY THUNDER FIRE MY GIRLFRIEND IF SHE SLEEPS WITH A MARRIED MAN

MAY THE SAME THUNDER FIRE YOU IF YOU KEEP ANY SIDE CHICKS, SLEEP WITH ANOTHER GIRL OR SLEEP WITH ANY MARRIED WOMAN.

sammily: Haaaaaa!!!!!!!

why Haaaaaa!!!!!!!?

Sagamite: Did you see anywhere where I said it was raape?

did you see anywhere where i said you said it was raape? You are just intentionally looking for whom to pick on. All these ish just for an ordinary question.

Have a good and fulfilling weekend.

carefreewannabe: Then let him come again as a female animal.

best deal ever

carefreewannabe: I had no intention to punish him and being a woman is not a punishment.

okay. but to him, being a woman is the worst thing that can actually happen to him. if he comes as an animal, he will have a happy life cos that's his wish. but as a woman, he will forever regret ever making that statement.

carefreewannabe: You don't know for sure.

even if he mistakenly have one, i think it will b better he comes as a woman. that is a better punishment than granting his wish.