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hian..... yeye teacher. is lap dance part of the school's curriculum or subject syllabus?

na water birth or what? Looks like the woman just gave birth to that baby in that water abi is that not blood water

Alexsmith20: last time i checked diers somtin called housemaid.

okay sir.

@crackhaus-okay. But would it be too much to expect that hubby arranges for dinner when wife is running late say he has been home by 6pm and wife won't be home till 9pm?

dam007: i agree with you.. but should it be a must for the
husband? i mean i get it, men differ in their character towards things
and their perceptions.... i feel its unfair to let your woman handle all
the house chores when you can actually help her.. but for the ones with
a different perspective, are they to be forced??

NO. besides, who will force them? It is their wives' cup of tea... they should just try and drink it with agege bread...

crackhaus: What is your definition of slaving around? Cooking?

What is your definition of lazying around? Sleeping or watching tv?

Anyway you look at it, one person will still be in the kitchen while the other is not...how does this make the one in the kitchen a slave or the one not in the kitchen a lazy person?

I am not talking about cooking, sleeping or watching TV. I am talking generally.

Slaving around is when there are so many things that needs to be done at the same time and one person is busy doing one thing and moving to the next and to the next while the other person is busy doing nothing. Pardon my use of the word 'slaving' if that is not acceptable.
Example is a weekend when there is need for cleaning the house, washing and ironing all the clothes used over the week, cooking soup for the coming week, market runs, making of hair, barbing of hair etc and the man (because he sees everything as the woman's responsibility) decides to go barb his hair and from there go visit his friends while the woman finish cleaning the house alongside washing of clothes, goes to the market, comes back to do the cooking (all these along interruptions of attending to the baby/kid(s)) and then take a little rest then man comes back from friends' place, eat and ask if his sunday clothes has been ironed etc.......(when they don't have a maid) (please don't tell me it doesn't happen like that)

It won't have been a bad idea if the work load is shared in whatever manner in no particular order. i.e
woman is cleaning the house while man is sorting the dirty clothes
woman is washing the clothes while man is spreading them to dry
woman goes to the market while man goes to barb his hair
woman cooks everything to be cooked while man is minding the baby/kid(s)
woman goes to make her hair while man can arrange for clothes to be ironed
By the time they are finished, none of them will be tired and spent out. They are both on the same level and when they retire for the day, they have good time with each other.......

Even if they have a maid, he/she shouldn't be overburdened. All hands must be on deck.

What am i even saying?? Everyone to his/her family set-up.... Do what makes you feel good with yourself.

crackhaus: I believe I've said all I want to say on this matter already.

That both man and wife contribute financially to the running of the house is not a yardstick for both to share chores equally as well.
A caring and understanding man will help where he can, not because his wife insists on it.

Apart from the basic cooking and cleaning chores, women do not do the handy stuff like fixing broken things around the house. Last I checked, these are still chores which are done by men.

But we also have women doing this as well. So to me, i don't think there is a fixed kind of rules for who does what in a marriage as long as it gets done.....

and things don't get broken everyday........

My own is that both of them should get busy. One person can't be slaving around and the other lazying around regardless of who it is...

crackhaus: Before any more females decide to quote me out of context, my stance is this;

That a man helps out with chores is something he does of his own accord, not something he has to do.
And that a woman will probably not leave her house untidy just because her husband is not helping with chores. Period!

For the purpose of this thread, you are very right.

[s]and i will also like to add to my understanding of this your stance

That a woman helps out with finances is something she does of her own accord, not something she has to do.
And that a man will probably not leave his financial responsibilities unattended to just because his wife is not helping with cash. Period!

I am fine with that! Simple...[/s] (or maybe i should just keep this till a thread on ''Your Views On Women Who Help Their Partners With Financial Contribution'' or something like that is opened.

crackhaus: If your husband says/decides his not in the mood or for some other reasons, chooses not to do chores...you ain't gonna do nothing about it. You ladies should try being real here for once. The worst you would do is still ask him nicely or talk about it.

I guarantee that you and the other females on here would never leave it (chores) undone because your husband(s) didn't do it.
Men who help with chores do it because they want to, not because they're supposed to...the best a woman can wish and be thankful for is that she marries/married a man who's willing to help.

I guess it will also be right to think like this as well?
If your wife says/decides she is not in the mood or for some other reasons, chooses not to support the family financially...you ain't gonna do nothing about it. You men should try being real here for once. The worst you would do is still ask her nicely or talk about it.

I guarantee that you and the other males on here would never leave it (bills/financial commitment) unpaid/unmet because your wife/wives didn't do it.
Women who help with finances do it because they want to, not because they're supposed to...the best a man can wish and be thankful for is that he marries/married a woman who's willing to help. Abi?

crackhaus: Why wouldn't she want to help out if she has the means?
I'm sorry, but your question is highly unlikely.

So why won't he want to help out if he has the time as well??

so as a woman, if i work round the clock and bring all my money home for the house to spend, then i also work round the clock to do all the chores alone, then what will the man be doing? which kind sufferhead be that one?. so that i will now look older than his sister abi and he will be looking fresh and love-vendor. there is God o

Infact, i tire for all these kind debates sef. Let me face my work like Uche onise..

queenlabisi: no biggy in washing your hubby's clothes, I wash my husband's clothes and he does the washing when im heavy, I intend to buy a washing machine now because washing is time consuming.

Thank you for this your post jare.......Does buying a washing now makes you a lazy person?? i doubt it..........You can imagine a stranger seeing your husband doing the washing (maybe she asked hubby about you and he says you are sleeping) and she just rush to the assumption that you must be lazy

tpia1: Did the ex copyright the name?

Why would you think she's calling the ex when she's calling you?

Na oluwole name?

I don't know jere. Any name/thing that has to do with an ex is an abomination now abi not?

davno: Na waa oh!

Na waa what oh??


Na wa for the person wey like that my post o

Maybe you should go and change your name then (you can adopt your middle name) so that you will stop reminding her of her ex.......Each time she calls your name, it is a reminder of what she wished for but never had......... what nonsense How can she marry you when she knew that you have the same name with her ex?? Not acceptable because she should have known that any man bearing the same name as her ex or even share any semblance with him is a no go area for ever and ever.

Imagine having sex with her and she remembers her ex and calls his name, you will think she is calling your name. That's cheating

But how did the husband find out about all these yeye coincidence??

Acidosis: You mean you can't/don't wash hubby's clothes?

The other line is true, mama

i hate washing clothes
irrespective of whose they are....... give me something else to do like
cooking, fixing/repairs, arranging/organising but not washing o. my fingers are no pleasing sight to behold after washing..

You didn't answer my questions

alutacontinua: As a real african man that I am, I believe women
should do their job in the kitchen and let me do mine in the bedroom

aluta na MAN?

Caseless2: If you've vowed that you'll stick together for better for worse , i dont know why ordinary cheating should call for divorce of one's partner.

anything ordinary in cheating?

Impulse80: better to do that than have a crashed marriage! I know you are woman so u might not understand. If it takes cheating to avoid a broken marriage then I have no objections

oh.......your call

Acidosis: If a woman can wash her baby's/kid's wear, why can't she do same for her husband?

Nowadays, to even feed has become a problem, some women are ready to purchase robotic feeders (if any). We've become so lazy. A woman who washes are clothes, and those of her children, leaving behind her husband's clothes is simply Selfish.

With or without the washing machine, the man-power factor cannot be over-ruled! Despite the number of ATM machines in/outside the bank, we still have tellers and cashiers who count and dispense cash with bare hands.

Lets stop being selfish. It won't help our homes.

Wash her clothes, wash baby's/kids' clothes, wash husband's clothes. If you ask me to do all this, then you want to kill me because i don't have that strength. You can call me lazy o.

and please what is the meaning of man-power factor because anyone can be the man-power whether hubby or wifey...

What is selfish there??

jayedu108: But atleast nt watching d man wash his own clothes haba it a taboo and disrespectful.

yeparipa!!! that means I have been committing abomination. I must be a very naughty and disrespectful woman o. Who will help me appease ''olowo-ori'' mi now?

charles316: so it is wrong for a woman to spot something wrong in fellow women.

I don't agree that not washing your husband's cloth is wrong. It depends on how your home is....

charles316: If it is a man s responsibility to see that d home is okay financially then it is also d woman s role to see that d man s clothes are washed.

You and i know that this is by book o. This days, men are tending towards the side of man and woman both contributing financially and some people even go further to say that the person with the higher income should contribute more. In a case where the wife is earning bigger and contributing more, are you saying the responsibilities are allowed to shift base? or the day the man doesn't bring money, he should ''jejely'' go and carry his clothes and wash them?

charles316: She can use her hand or washing machine, d clothes must be washed.

The clothes will definitely be washed. why not. But you just have to be considerate. Just put yourself in each other's shoes

Hubby hates washing. When he was single, he takes his suits, shirts, natives and the likes to the drycleaner while he has a woman that comes in to wash stuffs like bedsheets and the likes. I don't know how he washes his boxers and singlets.... While we were dating, i didn't use to wash his clothes and it wasn't an issue.

While i was single, i don't wash my clothes too. I work mondays to saturdays standard and when clients' commitment is tight, we put in sundays. the few sundays i am not working, i rest and caught up with family times etc. It is not because i am lazy but where is the time to wash it when i can part with few nairas and have my little resting time to myself?

After the wedding ceremony, we bought a family size washing machine.......

My hubby has more time to himself than me and so he helps sort out all the clothes for washing and i load into the machine (to wash and spin), bring them out of the machine, put in a plastic and he spreads them out to dry while i am busy with some other things. So if anyone see him outside, its easy for them to assume that he is the one washing his clothes while i do nothing.

Marriage is not a competition of ''i bring in the cash and you do the dishes and co'' it is a partnership of ''let's make life easy for ourselves''

please note that my understanding of the OP is about hand washing of clothes.. I might be wrong though...

shizzleStar: i can imagine, i trust you.

shizzleStar: dont mind the op.

Need i ask how your weekend went?

You don't want to know the details o

dam007: Funny how men view things these days... I'm of the opinion that some things aren't supposed to be ignored regardless of the influence of our colleagues... Helping one's spouse with some house chores isn't mandatory but I feel men frown at it because it looks #demeaning to them as the man of the house.. Here's my view as regards this.. I help my partner with some of "our house chores" when its clear that she's too tired to or for Some reasons unable to do it all.. To me, I do it not because I should, nor because I'm mandated to but because its our house.. Ps I'd love more opinions happy nairalanders!...

Really??

eyeon: I just wanna know why most of the set of kids referred to in Nigeria as "lastborn(s)" behave in an almost-crazy-and-stupid way.

Share your thought.

Our last born doesn't behave in that manner. Matured

Evergreen123: I rather be ashawo than sleep with my dad/uncles

both are terrible things to do. No room for comparison. All two na Abomination!!!

DesChyko: True.. However, that is circumstantial, not ordinary.

okay then.

Evergreen123: when it comes to rearing another man's kids, Yoruba get am A1

Evergreen123 the examiner. You don mark plenty yoruba scripts be that o. Afi A1 na...... So which tribe dey get am for F9

shizzleStar: ^wetin u want tell d guy wey e go hear again? i
suspect dis language walai. Chai.... these 2 aunts wan spoil me. Pls am a
teenager'o

he go see another dimension of nake.dness ni.
My little boy is spending weekend with my mum so you get my point

pickabeau1: Lets wait for the OP
she or he has a point they are playing towards.. hookups?anti-polygamy?

Siddon look

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There is no Matilda anywhere jare. She didn't ''compose'' her story well well...

aisha2: Wooooooooooooo see yaself

yes na the guy go hear am this weekend. starting from this night sef

scribble: U do realize the fear of disease kills more than actual disease.

okay o. na you sabi......enjoy your life. sow your seeds well well. i wish you bountiful harvests.

aisha2: help me beg my brothers and sisters oh, we no sabi rest, weekends we will spend all morning in the market, all after noon and evening at a wedding or a birthday party or funeral party. Sunday after church there is another fellowship. Group meetings etc then we are tired again by Monday morning.

at least one weekend in a month sleep in, order food in ( this doesn't make you less of a wife) you and hubby get some good loving, take a morning walk, go watch a movie or take a stroll in the park, if there are no kids yet stay nak-ed the whole morning after church come home switch off your phones and sleep for at least 4 hours. Abeg rest is necessary not a luxury.

na only this one i see o

RuudNisterooy: Over 70% of Nigerian(or should I say African women) are guilty of post no. 9.

After marriage i think it's till important to ''look sexy''. And no, you don't need to wear tight-fitting and provocative clothes to attain that sex appeal. The right clothes, the right make-up etc. Will all add up to make your husy fall in love with ya a million times over.

***Modified***
I really think African ladies should take up this issue of work out seriously. They eat and eat and eat, without thinking of ways to burn excess fat. It's not nice.

noted sir. will spread the message.