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olowodaddy: . Men NA those names my wife de fear pass. And I can't get mummy to see reason. She will just conclude that I have been jazzed or something has become wrong with my "completeness". My decision sounds very Unafrican. But I still wonder why people don't reason like me, no offense just wondering. I believe my son is better positioned to get the best in life because of this decision. Wonder why people don't see it this way and keep suspecting I'm not complete or the single child may die.

plus the fact that you lost your first child, she will never let you rest...

If your wife wants another child just get ready for another one because you will have it. Please don't ask me how she will do it.

imasleek: It's not Lagos ma

sorry about that. thought you were in lagos.

As long as you and your spouse are in agreement then no wahala..... But let your mother know that it is your decision o before they will start giving your wife different names


lol @

olowodaddy: My people help me judge this matter. I'm a young man, mid 30s, 5th wedding anniversary a few days away. To prove how sharp I am, .........trust me I would have put her in the family way a week later .......... My point in all this introduction is that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, complete in all departments.

harrysterol: With this point so far been expansiated I doubt in my right sense I will want to marry a yoruba female

harrysterol: this is a good reason, I only made an observation so such perception can be cleared and have a better thought on that, my present girlfriend is a yoruba so am not against dem

You are confusing me....

imasleek: Please i need matured advise from nairalanders.
i completed nysc feb this year.i couldn't remain there(teaching) because it was a very rural community and the permanent staff were earning 5k per month(not lieing).so i eventualy left. i went back to my dad in AKB. it's a rural community so no job opportunities. i told my dad the idea of venturing to bigger communities because of job opportunities, moreover, i'm grown and didnt want to put pressure on him cos he was very sick then and was not working. i used almost all my nysc savings then for all our feeding and bills.he agreed that i should go because if i don't, i may end up not getting a job and by the time the whole savings is finished, we'l be back to square one(i was on scholarship throughout uni).On getting here, i just got a teaching job which i shud be resuming by oct or when d extension is called off.the issue now is accommodation. a guy i told my issue is offering me accommodation in his flat, he says he doesnt stay in the house that much

Where in lagos are you?

pickabeau1: I reject am....

reject wetin? you no be student from the school ni?

pickabeau1: Another testimony from the Nairaland school

I hope you are happy

Who are you talking to now??our principal?

Tallesty1: By a maga that she is foolingShe can do this for a guy she wants to marry. This guy if lucky, unknowingly enjoys the maga's wealth.

Lemme read the one wey remain.

aisha2: Anyway, at the end of the day, it's your views, I pray for Gods guidance for you and us all in our journey

Amen

lrguru: The same thing is happening to me right now. last nite just cos a girl just replied my whatsapp message after a long time when I just reformatted my phone with "lol", all hell was let loose and my babe insulted the living day light out of me and has even packed her things and left. She said she is my gf that I am a devil, bastarrrd, demon bla bla bla. She was shouting all thru the night till almost mornin. She just evicted herself by herself

Is she living in your house already??

Okay

Elantracey: I can't but that doesn't mean out of the numerous there won't be one , just one that can meet my standard if its like that then I'll have to check myself because that only means that am either chasing shadows or the picture of me am presenting is not actually who I am because I know you attract who you are.

meeting your standard is different from wanting marriage.
What if you see a man that meets your standard but doesn't want marriage?
What if you see a man that does not meet your standard but wants marriage?
What if there is a man that meets your standard, wants marriage but you don't like the person for one reason or the other?
so many what ifs....So my dear, you really can't say...

except you are saying that you will be able to force yourself to love a man (that you don't love or feel connected to) once he meets your standard and wants marriage

if i was to go by your ideology, i should have been married like 6years ago but i have no regret walking away from that relationship(a 7years old relationship) (not because he wasn't my standard, nor because he doesn't want marriage, nor because i didn't love him, nor because he didn't love me). Though i have my own share of marital challenges, i still thank God i didn't marry the guy then

Elantracey: you can laugh all you want but show me a 30 years old lady that have never being approached all her life then I'll tell her to go see her pastor

Are you saying that instead of remaining single till 30years, you'll rather marry one of your numerous toasters even if he is not the kind of man you want to spend the rest your life with?

Elantracey: lol ,no I don't but its something I've come to terms with being insulted by people when you see things differently from them instead of just correcting or arguing politely .
My dear there's nothing wrong with a simple question because you have no idea why I asked it .
Am not good or better than her but I know in this my life I can't stay single till 30 and its a fact and if I ever do I'll know that am planing to stay single all my life and devote my time and life to order things .

5minsmadness: Just measured myself against this checklist



I ain't doing so bad


Very insightful. Well done.

5minsmadness: That too is possible

Please don't tell me it's a real story

aisha2: Believe Me jare, if a woman wet catch husband dey cheat is stylishly advised to cook and clean up after him which will result in future fidelity men too Don dey learn to iron clothes for adulterous wives and then partners na. Na who want broken home? If ironing will make the woman stay and not run to a sweeter pen-is why he no go even iron use spray starch join?

5minsmadness: A wife came home and met her husband in bed with another woman. She ignored them and went to make soup. The woman dressed quickly and ran out of the house. The wife shouted after her:
'Wait o, won't you eat?'
A few minutes later the man came into the kitchen and she told him to wait small that the soup will soon be ready. The man went on his knees and started begging.
The man hasn't been caught cheating again. He takes his wife outing frequently and boasts to everybody that she is the best thing that ever happened to him.


True story.

Note the word "CAUGHT". That doesn't mean he has stopped cheating. he has only learnt to be more careful......

aisha2: Na true I dey talk oh, if I lie make I nak-ed baffled for bathroom

before nko? you wan wear cloth baff ni? I no believe am jare

Elantracey: That's why I didn't say every , I said 80% and moreover there are ways on can cause some kind of problems for themselves without even knowing.

that is on the high side. Please don't just go assuming that 80% of the unmarried women you see must have caused the problem for themselves knowingly or unknowingly

iwakolewa: If you see her as the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with...then she is YOUR own wife material.

True.
You alone know whatever qualities you desire in your spouse.
Any man/woman you find who posses them is your own husband/wife material

aisha2: A man caught his wife in bed with another man and he said nothing, he picked their rumpled clothes and helped them iron it, the wifes partner picked the clothes and said thank you.
The wife has never cheated again
True story I swear with my left butt chick

aisha2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

perry2020: Well it won't be from my post u will no if he is a husband material or not coz u have alredi married him and of course had d knowledge that e was best for u coz f u dint u wouldn't have married him. no1 is perfect,as I said earlier it's abt individual choice,ur ideal husband material qualities myt differ from myn.dat was just a quick overview of my own opinion of a husband or wife material which any1 can pick what dey feel is useful to them from it. Tank u.

Na wa for you o . So you actually took that serious? I need no post on NL to know if he is a husband material or not.

And you left my question unanswered.

Godmystrength: Really? says who? I don't think i know. I want to know
Maybe i want to know if hubby is a husband material abi

Wendy80: Me personally I'm not down with I have a girlfriend but u can still be my girlfriend kind of man. Some girls will tell u as long as he's not married to her I can date him(i can't cos I'm d jealous type). That's where I hold her, but I won't say she snatched him cos d man opened his eyes very well and let go of his UK babe to settle down wth her. den for the husband he chose Whc is beta for him afta sampling dem and for the babe in the UK might just be a harmless friend and maybe nothn is going on btw dem. Like I told my mate it myt just be a gift and she should leave it @dat. 5yrs and 2kids is a long time for me to start tellin her u know he had a girl b4 u dated him.
#myopinion

My use of the word ''man snatcher'' is just a niger slang and you should know what i mean by that. But IMO, since the husband choose her over the US babe, she should manage that assurance that he will keep on choosing her over and over again over the US babe. So no problem....

Elantracey: Am not being judgemental or trying to blame her but being sincere but Ma'am there's no way a woman whether ugly or fine , fat or thin will not see who to marry her in 20 years its just impossible , I might be young but I've seen and experienced things far bigger than my age , from life stories from friends and relatives and from ready ladies biography around the world ive come to know that around 80% of ladies who instead to get married but remained single till above 35 is either caused spiritually or by the person herself ,am not generalizing tho but there's nothing new under the sun , if you get to know her life story you'll definitely see her mistakes which probably she didn't see then and maybe realised too late so that's I asked the question tho I know she wouldn't be able to answer.






patiently waiting for the insults to start pouring in , I know nairalanders never disappoint

I don't agree with this..... So are you saying that any unmarried woman above 35 is under spiritual attack or the architect of her own problem??

Nobody is going to insult you. It is just a healthy discussion unless you decide to take it to the next level......

perry2020: Husband material is almost same wif wife bt u no d duties of a wife is mur.

Really? says who? I don't think i know. I want to know

perry2020: wonder why ur asking sef coz I no ur married.

Maybe i want to know if hubby is a husband material abi

Wendy80: Just showed her ds thread to read and digest by herself
Godmystrength me I don't believe in man snatching thns jare when a man wants to cheat he cheats. I remember when I was dating my hubby, des ds babe who knew us together who was always calling him and sending him iloveu text. Wheneva I com around she will com to the house and be forming friend with me mnwhile she neva knew I know her finish. When we got married she stopped talking to me(goodriddance).
If my hubby had fallen for her will I say she snatched him? For me he chose to follow her.
#myopinion

So are you saying your mate is not to be blamed but her husband? both of them are to be blamed. I don't blame the US babe. the only thing i don't agree with is her buying t shirts for someone that left her to marry another woman. But what do i know? who knows the arrangement/agreement between Nigeria husband and US babe....

snazzylove: As she get mind snatch person bobo she suppose still get mind dey fight her battle (cos battle dey oo). Its well sha.
The bottom line is that the man is 'hers' now, legally, so make d man maintain too. Even if he married her out of 'neccessity'.

Na so e easy to maintain? You think it is easy to change a cheating man overnight? no way. The man sef no pure now. He dey date plenty babes all together and wendy's mate just manage to cage him

perry2020: 20.be a husband material before looking for a wife material.f u ain't a husband material don't expect to have a wife material

Hmmmm talking too much alred.dis ones re d basic sha,got to look out for all dis in a lady

19 points and still counting . Okay.
Sorry to bother you but since you know about wife materials, please tell me little about how to be husband materials in other to get these wife materials.... Thank you.

Elantracey: yes I did and am not taking it back .

Not asking you to take it back. But i was just wondering why you asked that kind of question. So if a woman doesn't have a man to marry her what should she do? go and die? or marry herself?

i am actually laffing at you here tracey tracey. Later in life, you will understand better.

Now i understand the saying that ''women are their own worst enemies''

Wendy80: Good Morn E-Family, Not been here in awhile. Been very very busy lately jare. But I get gist 2day sha des an issue concerning my mate and I don't know how to handle it.
She's been married for 5years now. According to her b4 she got married to her hubby, he was dating someone who resides in the UK and they were still very much 2geda but She still went ahead to date him. She was aware of d Chick in the UK but didn't really care since she's here with him, eventually he married her‎.
She's been worrying her hubby 2get som Tshirts for himself (for himself oh)to replace d wornout ones he has and h‎e agreed. Just 2weeks ago she stumbled on chat btw hubby n Ex about helping him to get some Tshirts and sending dem thru a friend who's in d UK for hols. She agreed and even sent him som pics of d clothes while in a shop. To cut long story short the clothes arrived yesterday and she's really been bitter and had to tell me about it this morning. The 1st question I asked her was if she has had any occasion to doubt his trust and she said No and I told her to relax it might just be a harmless chat but I'm in a dilemma cos in the 1st place she can't talk about it since her source is his phone which she doesn't want him to know about.
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Why is she bittered? let her just face her work and ignore the US babe since she was aware of her before marriage and still went ahead to marry her husband (sorry o but to me she is a man snatcher)

The same way she didn't care about the US woman when she was dating her husband, she should just continue like that since she is here with him as usual

What even gives her the impression that the relationship between her husband and the US babe is over? There is really no much difference between now and when she was dating the man IMO. The only difference is that she has a ring on her own finger. Shikena. She might never be the only woman in the man's life.

All the men that are looking for wife materials, how many of them are husband materials?

@OP, i have no idea what a wife material is but if i can see someone to tell me what a husband material is, maybe i will be able to understand....

Elantracey: I pity the woman



but what was she doing till 42

excuse me?? did you just asked that??