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Worksunlimited: Apparently, you still dont understand my point.. Never mind then!

blank: I had busted her since just that i felt that people will think i have personal beaf. But when i saw how people were following her updates religously, i just had to talk. She will soon come and explain how she meant that they have been living together even though not married and she had children for him but they just decided to get married. Mtcheew

blank: This was as at July 22 2013.

This was as at Aug 2014

There are so many fake stories in this section that when i see inconsistencies, i bail out immediately.

aisha2: The process is not the same for everyone of us, I have a feeling she is afraid to say somethings so "Peace can reign" hence bottling up so much and feeling so angry. Slowly sha, God heal them.

Thank You dear. Am fine dear. How is my Soldier

snazzylove: Seriously I don't get this.
A 3yr old boy selfservicing!

A friend of mine yesterday confided in me that on 3 different times she has caught her 3yr+ old son stroking his manliness.
The first time according to her she didn't read meaning into it but cautioned him gently, the second time, she said she was very firm and warned him sternly to stop it and never to try dat again.
But the third incident is wat actually hit me, this time according to her she caught him in the same act and unfortunately the younger sister that is barely two years is practising the same thing with him. She said she spanked him mercillesly and even applied hot pepper on the kini
I told her to monitor dem closely especially what they watch on the tele, the type of people they associate with and even the kind of books around the house. And equally make sure they are always together idle, she should get them educative toys and books to keep them busy, at least it will take their little minds off dat.
Fear grip me o
Dunno if this is normal or what.
Mothers pls oo keep an eye on what your kids are doing.
Anyone with similar experience or solution to it should pls share so that we all can learn.

aisha2: She probably hasnt really been able to fully express her hurt for the fear of being labeled arrogant, a bad wife and a rude woman who thinks she is all that for supporting her husband.
She may be walking on egg shells hence her own feelings are concealed and may even pretend while she is hurting.
We Nigerians are good at that, we care more about appearences than real feelings hence bottling up our feelings and ending up hurt and very angry inside, one day we explode to something so little. I carry my emotions on my sleeve, if I am angry I react then and there then let it go, so many people have advised that I pretend more but I refuse, better for me and my mental health.

I advice that she sit with her husband and be totally honest on how hurt she really is, explain how talking her down upsets her and from there they open a new chapter and genuenly move on.

Purecotton: This whole situation has turned me into a very angry, abusive, unhappy and bitter woman as I feel I hold so much grudges against my husband and I really need help to let them go.

SStoneCCold: Ever since my wife started earning more than me, she keeps telling me she will give me her "final answer" whenever we have any little misunderstanding. I'm still wondering what that means.

ayanah: But u ll have one day or are u a gay?

hizaya61: pride and been arrogant, she automatically become the
husband, and you automatically turn to househelp, pick up the children
from school, go to market and get food items, get home as early as
possible to make sure food is ready and laundry

Worksunlimited: Na wa o... Mbok! i see u dont understand d point of what i stated earlier, hence your profane primitive thesis and sub-thesis..
Let me give u a clue/a set of clues unlocking what i said earlier..
"A baby boy doesnt turn into a man overnyt.. buh the parents know with all certainty that eventually the baby boy would be a man sumday"..
"The grown man likes his soup prepared a certain kind of way by his childhood friend-cum girlfriend-turned wife, he also indulges in secret habits he would not share with any living soul becos of its profanity, since "old habit are hard to kill".. So he lives with dem like the oxygen in the air he breathes"
I am not a smart man. I know you are a smart man.. you would figure it out, once you ruminate deeply.. (N.B. - No pun intended)

Worksunlimited: Stop lying there... if your boyfriend mess up once.. your scream and cry go pass nigerian borders.. come ere dey lie, u think say we no know ur boyfriend..

Women lying since the days of adam and eve.. undecided

There is God o...

EfemenaXY: *** Faints!***

Girl, you are one tough cookie!

Lol @ "Nee Observe"

aaronson: Godmystrength Coward your castrated d!ck couldn't
even rise upp to the occasion,talking sh!t behind my back is what you
could do perfectly,better get a new hobby mr sissy male

aaronson: FUkkkkk you mothaFUka I Don't give a FUkkkkkk,You
Could Get Your MothaFUKed,you writinq slick like you talk can slick in
person to me,fukkk yo still piss on the bed and still coming out on here
writinq shit like a raving lunat!c,last time I checked I had my own
opinion to share about whatever situation why not give yours and keep it
moving instead fukin your girls lap cus she aint gave
puzzy,*judgemental fargottttttttttt

crackhaus: But let me rephrase the question then;
Unlike in your extreme examples and in a much more realistic situation where both husband and wife contribute substantially to the upkeep of the home, would it be right for a wife who undertakes a personal building project (maybe secretly) without any financial input from her husband to include his name on the documents of this property?

Godmystrength: If the sharing of the finances is by mutual agreement, then both names should be on whatever property is acquired. He shouldn't wait for his wife to tell him to include her name because they both worked for it. If he does otherwise, he is just selfish and wicked o. It won't be fair on me if my husband tells me to be in charge of paying the rents and children's school fees alone and also 100% feeding and recurrent bills so that he can concentrate on building a house only for him to put HIS name on the house so where does that leave me? if i know he will do that, i wont agree to the sharing. I will just suggest 50-50 for the recurrent expenses and 50-50 for the capital expenses else we will have to be doing our things separately.

chiefinalowo: blank, please what is the difference?
I think Mr & Mrs XYZ means the Husband, the Wife and the last name of the husband

crackhaus: Hence I said that it's up to the man (based on the dynamics of the family and how the couples agreed to run their home) in deciding whether or not to include her name.
It's something she would have discussed with him, not something he is expected to do...neither is it one he should be held accountable for if he doesn't do it.

May I ask though, what's your opinion on women who start and complete projects (e.g building) without the financial input of their husbands...would you support the inclusion of the husband's name on the documents of that property as well?

snazzylove: Pishure of the man and the witches or...

EfemenaXY: @OP: Furnish us with stories (and pics) of Nigerian witches and wizards in action.

Wetin concern us with Indian witchcraft?

crackhaus: Having both husband and wife as legal owners of properties is only logical if both actually contributed financially in the acquisition of said propert(y/ies).

Worksunlimited: Dude! Try get sense.. no be from boyfriend/girlfriend, spouse dey sprout?

abi u wan just meet babe, propose marriage instantly?

aaronson: Long story,only time I know the usefulness of that being called woman/women is when the Womanliness grip my d1ck!!!!exstacy

snazzylove: @Godmystrength, I no just wan comment on your comment . You are just attacking left right and centre, no single soul spared

In a nutshell, that family is a HITTING family.
Mother hit son
Mother hit hubby
Hubby tried to hit wifey
Next time...
Son maybe hitting daddy or mummy, either way there will always be hitiing going on there.
*dodges a blow* na wao. Make una see my head oo abeg. *runs off*