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snazzylove: Yes dear. I fix it like a pad. (Size 5 pampers) just get all these panties that looks like short but tight on u, very comfy. I can sit for hours without bothering to watch my back. My room mate back then in school introduced me to it, at first I was like, whaaaat? Pampers? But I tried it once, and since then I've been happy. No stain, no check .

madan: why not say the truth. Just like you delegated the major things in furnishing the home and she assisted

madan: she bought is handling some of the things to furnish the home already

Sophyrocks: This is getting interesting. #Spreading mat as quickly as possible#

madan: the Op is the person in question, he wants the lady to handle owo obe I.E handle the soup and stew they will be eating when married. Isnt this funny? After the lady has assisted him in fixing up the home, she bought some of the things in the home and still wants to do more not minding hw little she is earning. this lady isnt a demanding type, cos she has never asked what the Op cannot provide, she has bn so understanding and loving inspite the financial status of this guy, she stayed with him. When he brought up this soup issue, the lady told him nt to worry cos she would manage and balance whatever they have. If it comes to the point to add, she would definitely add up to make it okay. bt he insisted she must be in charge of soup and stew cos that comes up frequently. Is this right? The woman should be in charge of Owo Obe cos hw wants to buy foodstuff in the home. I rest my case.

bellong: Actually there are diapers made for adults. The ones for bedridden adults.

I guess it will be of good use in this situation.

AtheistD: Women too must take the blame. Why must it be men alone?

It is laziness and hypocrisy to refuse to acknowledge the role women play in this type of morality. Men are reactive.

Amhappy: Pls tell you friend to also share bills for children school fees. His wife pay for 2,he pay for the other 2. Make his wife pay nepa bills,security,waste disposal,fuel while he pays house rent etc. Make him buy fruits and the wife vegetables.

snazzylove: Heavy flow seems like almost everybodys story . Am not exempted too. Lol. B4 I started having kids it was really heavy (not that it has reduced now) but I've found a way of managing it, at least d first 3 days which torments seriously how bad it is? I don't use pads or tampoons, I use diapers . Yes oo. Pampers to be precise. I don't want stories, or always having to watch my back. I change like 2wice b4 d day runs out. Its very comfortable.
@lashawn, if the doctors says there is no serious health condition, (fibroid, endometriosis, etc) then relax and be managing it the best way you can. Hopefully by the time you start having kids it will become a story 4 u.
Cheers!
E no easy

kingviny: So on point. He spoke kindly to her o when he brought the issue up. He has never been the autocratic type, instead he wants to carry her along, he wants to make her significant in the running of their home. He did not use the word DELEGATE . But even if he had, that shouldnt be an issue for an humble soul?

jaybee3: Some people can't function well with unstructured planning.

Absolutely nothing wrong with delegating responsibilities when it's not like it's for selfish reasons.

I honestly don't understand why people complain about delegating responsibilities. It's an effective way of getting things done. It's really as simple as that. You empower someone to take ownership and in turn derive joy from delivering consistently and on time.

Now this delegation issue is not restricted to women alone cos I know some African men frown at such as well especially when it has to do with helping around the house.

Marriage is a team work and everyone has to pull their weight in a structured way in other to achieve desired results.

kingviny: A very close friend told me he asked his wife to be, to when they get married be handing soup matters while he will still be buying other foodstuffs and provisions. This he said is not in anyway to abdicate his manly responsibilities, he just feels in this modern age, a working woman should be able to handle some minor bills at home.

His fiance is refusing vehemently. He said she prefers the man providing the fund for everything and then she using her discression to add her money if and when neccessary. As it stands now, they are both on a collission course on this divergent school of thought about family finance yet, they want to tie the knot soon.

Great people of nairaland, what do you think of this issues? I have given him my 10 kobo advise but I will like to know what others think, especially, married nairalanders.

Thanks

aisha2: The poster is the one who used the word "delegate" ohhhhHhhhhhh. I am not sure he called her and said I delegate soup matters to you. If she had said lets discuss it more or let me cover some other area then I would agree its about the word delegation but it seemed more like a discussion where she has vehemently refused to contribute

aisha2: True nah. If I was the man I will not raise my hand to do a thing in the house, let her sweat, cook, clean, bath the kids and only sit and watch TV all day, let me see the mouth she will use to complain after all supporting each other should be at ones "discretion"

jaybee3: Would it have been okay if he used transferred instead of delegate?

IMO, whatever term used to get his point across is inconsequential in the wider scheme of things as the underlying fact is that the man is simply trying to make his wife responsible for some things in the house.

A wife that's not ready to be a team player would always find issues with manner of approach and that's simply wrong.

Like you rightly said, the mind-set from the onset should be "We are a team"

aisha2: Its not about delegation she just doesnt want to put in her money. They are team members and he is the head of the team and can delegate roles and duties. If she said she will contribute somewhere else then its different she doesnt want to contribute at all except at her discretion.

egopersonified: Godmystrength, no mind them joor, op abeg open counter thread make I read their reactions.

Tymax: .

Tymax: I've been in this world long enough to know you ladies. Let women know this: my money, my rules.

Tymax: So when it's time to spend money you ladies have no qualms about men being the head? Hmmm. Continue.

gladiator12: My hubby didn't take me for honey moon. He didn't have much then, so we didn't go any where.

MadCow1: I resemble Jesus for ya eye?!

MadCow1: Shey na ehn gree make I go holiday with ehn wife?

ElFenomeno1: Let me tell you something.... My role centres around three key areas

- Be a leader
- Love my dear lady unconditionally
- Serve and provide for my dear lady

As long as i am doing all of the things above well, my wife is happy... She will do some things without waiting for me to turn up.

Pot of stew? SMH... My wife doesnt wait for me to come back from trips before she heads to ASDA or Waitrose to do the weekly shopping... and no, we dont have a joint account.

Why should a working woman be fighting her husband for money to make a pot of stew if the husband has been good?

Even when i was dating, i had times when my ex will do the grocery shopping without my knowledge, and i will ask for the receipt so i can pay her, and she will reject it...

My wife does that till today... At times when she does the grocery shopping, i ask to reimburse and she rejects.... what do i do? go out there and buy her a nice gift to show appreciation and gratitude for using her head and playing the role of a wife well.

DebateNigeria: Lol. Chai see wickedness o. But sharing in this context does not imply sexual involvement. I need more education on how Magun works

MadCow1: Magun.


Enter the place and remain there till I come.

ElFenomeno1: Women are so tight nowadays its ridiculous....
Thank God for my wife.
I play my role as a man and hubby and she does her role extremely well.


OP, good luck to your friend ooo

Godmystrength: Please what is the role as a man and hubby and the role as a woman and wife? I need to know honestly. i am only asking YOU because you mentioned it in your post.

MadCow1: As long as I am the one being shared with someones elses wife.. I support this.


But if you dare even think of sharing my Nwababy..