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obowunmi: So anyone who knows me here on Nairaland, knows I've been on a mission to find a spouse. Well, it hasn't happened yet. So I decided to enroll the services of (1) a babalawo (2) a pastor to see which worked best.

I willingly gave each 1 million naira. They were both happy and said that they will begin fasting, praying, and appealing to the gods on my behalf for a wife.

Yesterday, the pastor called me to ask for more money. I told him it's been two (2) months since the 1 million naira and that I am yet to find anyone who appeals to me.

Two days prior to yesterday, babalawo called me to say he needs to do more sacrifices and that I should send about 500k.


Right now, I am disappointed and upset at both men. They both have not provided a solution to my issue yet asking for more money. Is it this stressful to find a good woman?

Might I also add that a girl I really liked and had been talking to, suddenly stopped talking to me.

Nairalanders, I am confused and need help. I won't be giving either men any money. All I need is a good woman.

DIDIVA: chai! This is getting serious o. Try and talk to him calmly in a way he'll understand dear.

nikkyshyne: Hian! What kind of a company is that?? I wouldnt last 2 months in this type of coy.

egbaguy: the OP might be an Attention seeking MOFO...........perhaps,those discharge certs are his!!!!!

damselleen: First of all, if I had place sexual satisfaction above all others, I'll never have quitted my relationship with AY. But I'll admit that I wanted it all; A good sex life, a responsible guy, a guy that understand the meaning of commitment. Am I hoping for too much?

For the sake of argument , if with time sex become irrelevant in marriages then why do couple cheat? Why is that more than half of those that will woo a single lady are married men?

freecocoa: Na wa o.

Since when is insecurity now a sign of love biko nu? I've read countless times in this family section that an insecure man is a no no, abi is insecurity a bad thing only when dating and turns into love after marriage?

Make una remember say some of us never marry and are learning from una o.

Saraha1: woman wrapper. wetin you find come this thread?
Lol

Phema: Love is Love! Whether na for your phone or colleague's or even your MD own. Bottom line is; he's showing love.

Don't you just feel like killing me

Phema: Lol.

On a serious note, just politely tell him how it's affecting your work and all. I can understand his insecurity (judging from your previous posts) and his need to exert his authority.

Then again, always call/text him just before you go into a meeting and inform him that you will be in a meeting for the next 30, 40mins. That way, he won't have any reasons to call up the whole world looking his Johnny lost wife.

DIDIVA: Godismystrength, pls the guy is in love & also feeling insecure at the sametime. Don't shoo him in a harsh way dear cos if u see as other women dey take dance azonto anytime they receive such attention from their hubby, u go go thank God.

Phema: Godmystrength

Somebody is loving you and you are there doing shakara. You think it's easy to get a man that cares about his wife this much? Abi na him fault say you too hot?

I go love ooooooo

aisha2: Tell him politely and calmly to stop before he gets you fired, it is not professional at all. Your colleagues will get talking and you will be shut off from projects because no one wants your husband calling them and asking of you.

egopersonified: Godmystrength, this guy dey die for u, u dey here dey question am. Hahaha, abeg I cant fit laugh. Maybe u shd try calling him regularly to keep him posted, eg, i just got to the office; i'm on lunch break, any issue; i'm about to go for a meeting, have you eaten; just left the office, on my way home, have you gotten home; etc. But most importantly, as long as he is not having any r/ship with d females and not asking the males for any favours, just talk to him to stop calling them and try picking his calls even when in a meeting. By the way, if I kidnap u, how much your husband go fit pay, so we can just do that once and for all. My own still better pass your own, me I dey 5pm grace, I close by 5, so once it is five fifteen, the calls don start, even on sundays when I go out, once it is five pm, na to start calling when I dey go house even when he is not in town.

hispinkolo: Haaaaa!Godismystrength,
You need to put up ur pic for us here oo,you must be very hot!
The bobo is just insecure and trying to keep tabs.You know the situation at home and it definitely will be affecting his confidence that's why he's trying hard to exert control on everything .

Relax my sister,you can ask him to stop it as its causing problems for you at work.No need to make it a big issue.

Jolosi de kill me here ooo.Lurv nwantinti

Safari29: op teach him. tell him how AY did it for you. head mouth action etc

snazzylove: Love nwa ntinti .
Insecurity! He only wants to be sure you are where u said u are at every point in time. No be say ur line no dey go .

cutiemoi: Lol! He loves you and is just insecure. His mind maybe playing tricks on him.

mcdreeezy: Procreation is the number one priority, what else could sex be for in marriage? I'm talkin about important tinz oh, not tinz that are matter (anytin that has weight and occupies space)

aisha2: This una relationship get other issues sha. Communication or lack of it a huge one:

onegig: God help you then and best wishes. I hope you are not one of those people from the 18th century that believe s.ex is for procreation only?

mcdreeezy: Sex is not that important except for procreation purposes, it is the couples that choose to make it important or seem like a big deal. If you're talkin about bonding, there are numerous ways couples can bond without sex. Except for procreation, I don't see the importance of sex, it's just somethin pple do for fun and shouldn't be a priority or one of the priorities of marriage

mcdreeezy: Hehe..but we're not fightin na

mcdreeezy: It's based on preference, my friend

mcdreeezy: Sex is not that important except for procreation purposes, it is the couples that choose to make it important or seem like a big deal. If you're talkin about bonding, there are numerous ways couples can bond without sex. Except for procreation, I don't see the importance of sex, it's just somethin pple do for fun and shouldn't be a priority or one of the priorities of marriage

hispinkolo: @mamateniola
We dey wait OOO,hahahahahaha.

Snazzylove,
You don talk am..Nothing to add.


@Icherishu
I totally get where you are coming from.Suffer and smile cos of fear of what people will say.
Make I no lie,I'm good at writing epistles and telling people the good things to do,but I don't practice all of them o.
You can see from my personal experiences that I react in a not nice way for starters and then repent later.
Yesterday hubby irritated me,d bobo was watching TV with his whole soul when I was busy doing 10 things at a time including baby who refused to stay at a place(sometimes I just want to handcuff her to a chair). Next thing he came up to me to hug and kiss his ancestors..I gave him a sharp jab on his stomach and told him how grateful to God I am for giving me a kind,helpful,loving husband(all with a sarcastic smile).He just arranged himself sharply and finished up with the dishes while calling me a wicked woman

Loving an unrepentant hurtful person is an uphill task ,I doubt I'm capable.I only do the ones I do cos I feel hubby is a good man and he doesn't hurt me on purpose.I bow for the saintly people who love I spite of everything.(your reward is in heaven).You try for as long as you can mainly because you chose to marry the person. When you give up,no one can blame you.Who is a robot? I will say find a way to make yourself happy eg a hobby,gym,swimming class,Zumba etc while you look up to Jesus to change the offender after all your efforts have failed.

One thing I will NOT allow is for someone to drive me crazy or make me sink into depression for the rest of my life.Imagine developing excess wrinkles on your face.Hoiii!izz not my portion!

egopersonified: Madan and kingviny, I suggest you both get on the same page, most couples have the same financial issues, dont let this be a barrier to your r/ship. Like aisha said, u both need to communicate and probably kingviny wants to know exactly what u can take care of so he can focus on the others. Madan, pls privately analize your salary and determine what you can put on the table every month without fail. Let k.viny know the amount, then you both can decide to wrap it around some expenses so he can focus on the others. I would advice u both stop posting any replies and just read people's comments before this thread becomes the devourer of your r/ship.

mcdreeezy: Ok oh, but I don't think sex should be an issue between couples. There are way more important things in life and marriage than the aforementioned IMO