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LadySarah:
cock and bull story.brush up indeed.
The excuse holds no water.
she was illiterate but kept churning out babies after babies.Her va.Gina wasn't illiterate.

After 40 yrs with her,you remembered that while you climbed the success ladder,the wife who was busy with home affairs remained dormant.KANU Nwankwo brushed up an illiterate Amara so what's your f..cking excuse?

I get the point you trying to make but stop making it sound as if given birth to the babies...she was doing the man a favour.

Waiting for the man to brush her up was a mistake....In reality would Amara have done same for kanu ..... would she have married him if she was the one that was wealthy.

How many wealthy women married an illiterate man .... just give me one example.

what is your contribution towards this financially.

Marriage require alot.....him marrying you isn't the prob but life after wedding is the issh.

Just this week alone .....money I drop for feeding have double....my fiancee went to the market yesterday and i had to spend almost double of what I normally spend... cost of living is too high.

if he is on 60k and you can come up with 30k you have a shout but if you aren't contributing just free the man abeg.

fati2001:
THE HISTORY OF YOUR MOM!

so ur mom used torn panties and rags in the name of pad whenever she's menstruating?

if you have a mother and you respect her.. you won't abuse or insult anyone mother.

I know you are a low life and I can't go that route with you because I respect every mother.......I know your mother trained you well but i assume the almajiri system messed up.

fati2001:
no not 13th but as 100 wife to ALHAJI.
my miserable life is better than you and ur useless life (if you even have one), wasted soul you are just a dead walking bone.

You still a teen living under parent

you can't even afford to buy ur menstral pad or panties yourself yet and you put ur mouth conversation about life, relationship and marriage....girl at ur age you should reading books and stop wasting your time and life here.

At your age I was already in year 2.

fati2001:
it is waec not weac
and to be honest this is the first time seeing this acronym "waec "WEST AFRICA EXAMINATION COUNCIL

and no I don't have it.

1. waec id card = don't have strength to scatter my shelf[looking for waec certificate ]because of you .
2. Neco result
3. junior waec.
4. primary 6

just use this to show you guy's (uneducated, trolls, cyberbullies) that are quick to point fingers at someone in any opportunities.

So what next with the o level certificate??


are you going to waste your miserable life away on NL everyday or they have sold you to an alhaji as is 13th wife

fati2001:
like you !

an educated person will not utter those craps you wrote above.

do you have a waec certificate

in between you are too dull to understand only a foolish woman allow a man sex her anal..(not even her husband is allowed)

Speak much about the tell of woman both of you are.

baralatie:
not every couples plays the bad hand to the partners before they get married.
it has been known that some men and women conceal their dark secrets until after they have consumated the marriage and have a slight control.
for some marriages the partners may keep his extreme out of the home but for some na their they will show the other partners what they are in flesh and blood


that is why I said not always

and at the same the partners may be thinking one way whereas na something totally different

for example a.guy and his wife broke off because of his sex drive.when they were courting it was something she could take but after marriage she was 6 months pregnant and the guy wanted her to stand and bend down.hian!
she did not fight him o but for night she just skimped out and okada out of town straight.
or the one that happened in apapa where the wife tied up the husband to the bed and the next thing she wanted to y.a
n.sh her husband butt hole.
omo see man dey shout for house

So who fault is it for marrying a man with high sex drive
who fault is it for marrying someone who tied you to a bed

See bro in life you have a choice.....once you marry someone what ever happens that was your choice.....the sensible thing was if didn't feel comfortable with the anal she should have left.

If I marry a bad woman.....I will blame myself not her because she was my choice...... only weak people try to blame people for whatever shit they find themselves.

fati2001:
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you don't have anything to say.. just Bleep off.

I avoid you and the other one that her moniker start with Z because it makes no sense engaging people who lack proper education.....do you even have a weac certificate??

baralatie:
not always

always bro......am not from the north but I know there men love anal sex.... didn't she know before marrying him

is just like marrying an ekiti man who u know love pounded yam.....then after marriage you're complaining about pounding.

That what all of them do......play victim of something they were fully awear of from get go.

They are always the victim.......if you have malaria the wise thing to do is see the doctor or get medication not blame mosquito.

Northerners love anal sex.....she knew fully well before marrying him

Eastern bonnie and Clyde.....

callmeRichie:
Apart from some of them mofos, some of them are really real with this u know

Only few paint the right pic........

same line....lol

Most of them say the same thing..... I don't fall for the BS neither should you... they're always victim

Your brother is weak bro......this what happens to weak men.

Is cross to carry since he is a sissy....trust me if I was your brother that woman won't even have mind to knock my gate.

They only want good times......

Kriss216:
The innocent child is not a Bastard. Your prostitute dad is the father of the boy.

I know I will have to contend with fools like you.... what is the definition of a prostitute
when you know the meaning you are unfooled cretin.

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You raise some issue on that thread which I will like to give my perspective as a man so you can understand things better.
First of all you saying him, friends, boss had to beg you before you agree to date him shows you didn't like him from the get go or you just trying to show pride.
All through your thread you didn't talk about if you are working or running a business.....Do you have a major source of income??
You staying with him will put pressure on his finances....there are somethings he can forgo or do when is more easier for him but you been around he will have to do them... perfect example is the DStv sub if he is staying alone he can decide not to pay if he isn't buoyant but with you been there he has to pay which will kindof stress him out....I know sometimes he has to borrow money from you to get things you both ?need....lol

You coming to stay with him, first few months will be sweet as times goes on and the expenses start raising it will start affecting the guy mood especially if you are not really contributing and trust me I don't believe that 60-40 sharing of bills you said because women are naturally stingy.

What is happening is natural......it will take him time to adjust to the fact that things will be finishing fast because you are now two...he has seen you finish no need to fake anything.....is freedom is limited in that house and trust me atimes a man needs that freedom.

Am talking from experience so I can relate to what happening.... majority of those who comments on that thread have no idea nor first hand experience of what you talking about.

When he was alone he could maybe spend 50k a month but with you staying with him it will go up to 75-80k which will kind of stress him out at some point...
You are lady and I know how things will be.....there will misunderstanding, quarrel andi complains.....so if you want things to work you have know this.
You will have to sacrifice alot more, endure alot more and over look alot of things
Erase that mindset of it his duty to provide everything in the house.
Buy things needed in the house without telling him...try and understand is body language so has to know when is bouyant or not.

Lastly is always very sweet when a guy ask is fiancée to come stay with him but when reality set in it kinda always difficult to adjust to the financial aspects ...He still loves you but reality is just hitting him....Give him time.

@ Iamafinegirl.....

Sixfeetbelle:
Yes, you can. You know how her situation was before you started dating her and the level of upliftment she encountered with you.

Besides, saying I suffered with him/her isn't my focus here. My focus is on the example you used. A guy in a self contain is well to do and someone can't say 'I suffered with him' in that type of condition. Some self con costs like 500,000. You can't suffer with such a guy nah

There is a different ball game for I suffered with him.

Have you seen guys who live in face me I face you rooms? Those kinds of houses that have mud walls, aluminum rusted zinc, shared public bathroom and gecko-infested holes? Where the only thing modern about that entire building is the rusted zinc?

Shey you know some of them have ladies who are 'sponsoring' them through life as it is now? Now imagine, if after some years and the guy gets a two bedroom flat and has a car, would you castigate the lady for saying 'I suffered with him'?

why is it Ladies that make this statement??
How many Ladies who are financially ok date guys staying in face me I face you??
Can you sponsor a guy or have you sponsor a guy before

This the truth I want you to know.....no one is suffering with anyone in a relationship because you knew is financial strength before dating him....no one forced you to spend on him/her.

that is an entitlement statement which can only be said in marriage.

Sixfeetbelle:
I've sha said getting into a debate with your moniker is one of the things I won't do on this forum cause you're never impartial in your arguments. Even trying to correct your assertions, na real war

So, here's to not getting into a 'back and forth' with you

just point out how am partial in all this....then try to correct my assertion in contest of what I wrote..

So if I go into a relationship with a lady who is jobless and am the one supporting her....after she gets a job can I say I dated her when she had nothing??

Or are Ladies permitted to be broke??

Sixfeetbelle:
You need to get the full gist of 'When he had nothing' from the people who actually dated the guy when he had nothing.

The picture you painted up there isn't the actuality of that matter.

lol......why not repaint the picture since you no the exact actuality of the matter better.

sixfeetunderground will be a better moniker....since your brain is always grounded.

valentineuwakwe:
Any lady who have endure with any guy have the right to say that....after all wen you had nothing, she was with you. that's why i tell ladies, don't be sure that broke guy crying n begging you to love him is real..wait till a guy have money then you know if he loves you or not. ..

so ladies, make una ask them, if them no fit finish something, then don't start it.... case dismissed

what about the other way round.....or are Ladies permitted to be broke??

Adasun:
confused too

Bro we are just here really confused... like how did she suffer with him??

My question is does a lady have a right to say this in a relationship.

1: She dated/stayed with a guy when he had nothing.

2: I suffered with you.

Please what is the meaning of a guy has nothing from a lady view.

How does a lady suffer with a guy in a relationship.

The reason am asking is because I hear ladies say this alot and I don't really understand.......you are dating a guy who is staying in a mini flat, paying is bills comfortably.....he helps her out when he can and she does same too.

Now the guy moved into a 2 bedroom, got a car through loan..you expect him to start doing somethings for you which he cant.....she now telling him things like **I dated you when you had nothing***I suffered with you.....the relationship is about 8month old.

Does she have a right to say this.

budaatum:
I think you should have thought about my behaviour and character before you married me but I'm absolutely certain you don't know what it is which is why you'd marry someone you disrespect.

Do note that I'm not crying. I kicked your sibling out of our home.

I hope you are enjoying your parent house...... your mum need to stop buzzing my phone.

Have told her why I sent you packing...

budaatum:
Me I no de tire. Covid has locked me down and I have plenty food for house so nothing much to do but eat and explain to this individual that he should not assume I am "such women" and if he had sense, he would not have married me but here we are.

Perhaps he will learn to take charge one day but so far he has failed in his responsibility to maintain a peaceful home and will fail again and again until he dumps his "such women" ideology and shows some respect.

like I said earlier humtty dumtty....you don't command respect but rather earn it.....if you are well behaved and your character is good you won't be crying to be respected.

Sixfeetbelle:
I've learnt, from my brief stay on this forum, to not argue anything gender related with this particular Op. He's stubbonly partial and set in his way and beliefs.

Kudos to you and Ima. Can never be me

You can't engage me now.

A woman throwing out is husband bro things over any dispute is wickedness.
Only wicked, useless women do that. ... period

budaatum:
You should ask yourself why you married me if I was "such women", because I am certain you would not want the beautiful amazing daughters I would have for you to turn out to be "such women" which is bound to be the case if I was "such women" myself. Were you blind, perhaps?

Do know that this is 2021 and not 1821. We do not tolerate anymore but respect and demand respect in return. If your siblings can not respect your wife with your support she can pack her stuff and dump your ass. I mean, it's not as if I can't go and work and pay my own rent and the schoolfees of your daughters if you the husband who promised to love me above everyone else refuses to protect me from your rude siblings and instead assume I am "such women".

Please choose. You either respect me and order your siblings to respect me or ........ Because if you have any sense you would realise that by disrespecting me they are disrespecting you too.

well am not surprised with this submission..... that why single mother full everywhere.....it must be about me mentality.

You don't command respect dummy....you earn it......if my sibling offend you and you feel the best decision is to throw his things out without informing me then am a foolish man who is wife has no regards for.

budaatum:
I hope you would at the very least consider her reasons instead of just assuming she is "such women".

No Matter the reason she has to wait till I come back......like wtf.

You send my own blood out of my house without informing me that means she can even to do it my mother.

If my wife try such with me , she going to her parent house I swear to heaven.