₦airaland Forum

PrettyCrystal:
According to some ladies online, they can leave their boyfriends over and over again for this handsome young man who makes them "drool" with his cute pictures. David, who lives in the high class area of Abuja (Asokoro District), has become an "icon" online, as different ladies (both big and small) keep bombarding him with compliments and messages -to get his attention. See below;

Source; http://www.nationalhelm.net/2016/10/meet-handsome-abuja-boy-who-has-won.html

Barigaboy:
Nyc one, every lady u see will tell u I don't like someone is not real. I don't like someone who lies.
After I heard all this I felt that well am a plain person. And she asked me after wooing her. Do u have a gf I told yes n that I don't love her anymore that's y am talking to u now n we ve agreed on breakup. She asked what do u do? I said m still searching for job. I observed that she was not satisfy with ma answers n she avoided me for 3 months. So I restategize. She ask me again do have a girlfriend I told that have stop dating for 5months but m ready to pick a girl I want to love forever. I told her my car was down n its with mechanic n I don't stay in Lagos, I cud be in Abuja today, Port Harcout tomorrow for businesses. If u see d way dis girl was jumping over me. She wanted to kiss me on d road. I refused. She calls me 6 or 5 times in a day. Abeggy y dem prefer lie

favoured234:
Make I believe say you they play with your comment

I am like that and today I cant thank my stars enough for being like that ... Yea all my non-negotiable has been checked
"Till death do us part" is too long to be unhappy

Xiadnat:
One should make list of what they want in suitors, but be flexible and willing to hold loosely to the list--

I have my "lists of non-negotiable", "deal breakers" and I will not settle for less. If it means remaining single, then so be it. Point blank.

StupidYorubaFool:
I used to join goingape1, hardbody, FuckTheM0ds, finalboss, saintfellow et al to bash naija girls of how useless they are and have nothing to offer asides from their pusssy.
I threw in the towel when i met janet, she's a beautiful young promising girl, whose parent are rich (her dad is an inspector, her mom is a nurse) she saw me doing my brick laying job under the scorching sun, she overlooked my ugliness and poverty and black charcoal skin and still paid attention to me when i chyked her.
Without much of a delay, she accepted my relationship proposals.
She called my line umpteen times daily and flooded my inbox with messages of hope and a bright destiny.
She sent me airtime and subscribed my monthly bundle twice.
She pleaded for a no sex relationship, i frowned and insisted for sex till she agreed but i told her i was joking and vowed not to touch her and she became happy.
I recently had a problem with the police and she came and bailed me with 15k.
She Took me back to my apartment and entrusted me her atm and password.
She's 21 and in her final year in the university while i am 30 years and a poor brick layer
To round it all, there are few nigerian girls that are still magnanimous, let's not try to generalize again by calling them b1tches.
I've learnt to respect them now cos my mother was once a girl.
Janet has taught me a positive lesson and i'll try to be grateful by respecting her fellow female folks

Gaborone:
I watched a documentary some years ago on something like this. The only difference is that pestles where being used to 'pound' the breasts back in. Not with enough force to crush the girls chests though.

Quite sad that women are forced to 'protect' their daughters from prowling men with this unwholesome practice. If only they knew that nowadays, the average 9 year old girl with underdeveloped features has one or two 'suitors' on her trail. No thanks to lust.

lawrenzi:
In all my years as an African, I can say I have heard of some barbaric things some Africans do but never this (breast ironing). I know you will wonder how far true this is. Africans have always taken pride in their bodies and this is hard for me to believe, that in some part of Africa and indeed Britain, this Babaric, archaic, denounced and outrageous tradition still exist.

Breast ironing is a process of getting a girl child’s “ironed” by her mother in a bid to stop them from growing so that they won’t attract male attention. It is the brutal flattening of a young girl’s developing chest to ‘protect her from rape and sexual harassment.Those who implement the practice tend to believe it will stop a girl from being raped and that it is for her ‘safety’. It is the process using objects like large stones, hammers or a spatulas, spoon that has been heated over hot coals to compress or mutilate the breast tissue and make the adolescent look less ‘womanly’.

1. Breast ironing is practised throughout Cameroon and has also been reported across West and Central Africa, in Benin, Chad, Ivory Coast, Guinea-Bissau, Guinea-Conakry, Kenya, Togo, Nigeria and Zimbabwe. In South Africa, a similar practice is known as “breast sweeping”.

2. It has also been alleged that the practice is also carried out in some parts of Britain since there is no Law that stops parent from ironing the breast of their daughter(s). It is estimated thousands of girls in African communities in London, Birmingham, Manchester, Luton, Nottingham, Leicester, Sheffield and Leeds may be exposed to the ritual, which usually happens in the family home.

3. According to a Cameroonian doctor Flavien Ndonko he said: “Breast ironing is both physically and psychologically damaging. It can cause infections and abscesses and has been linked to breast cancer, problems with breastfeeding, and severe depression.”

4. It has also been claimed that breast ironing has not stopped teenage pregnancy in the areas where this practice is carried out, for example the case of cathy who underwent breast ironing for the first time at the age of ten, it did not however stop her from getting pregnant at the age of 16 and leaving school.

5. The united Nation estimates the perpetrators of this acts are the mothers of the victims.

My view
The truth is that in trying to protect them from assault from boys presumably, they are actually assaulting them, two wrongs cannot make a right, a lot of people have asked the question “why” are they doing this, which I see as a misplace of question because it is neither here nor there, my view is that it shouldn’t be done in the first place, parent who are found guilty of this barbaric act should be charged to court and made to face persecution.

It has been noted that while suppressing the development of the breat, it also exposes the girl child to numerous health implications such as dissymmetry of the breast, infections, cancer itching, discharge of milk and lots more.
The victims are most likely to experience cysts, severe fever, tissue damage and disappearance of one or both breasts, to make matter worse, it does not stop sexual activity, any girl child who will engage in sexual promiscuity will still do it irrespective of what her getting her breast ironed or not. It is better to give sex education to their child as early as possible.
http://www.lawrenzi.com/2016/10/08/the-dangers-of-breast-ironing/

FlirtyKaren:
A darling Nigerian husband has shared lovely photos of the coconut rice dinner he made for his family just so that his wife can get enough rest.

Kalu Igwe gushed that marriage is beautiful and said:
Today, I cooked dinner for the family. I enjoy helping out in the kitchen especially when I want my wife to take some rest and refresh. I love doing this, it's always refreshing. Marriage Is Beautiful!
#marriageisbeautiful #kaluigwe

http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/10/nigerian-man-shares-photos-of-coconut.html

elvision1:
Wrong! Intelligent people are not all that positive with attitudes. They are more depressed than you think.

verygoog:
some girls have no shame sha...............where is that lie coming from that all men most cheat

mrk74:
I do feel that I’m a very lucky man to have a very compatible lady as my wife. We love each other so well and I strongly believe we were meant for each other. However, I have one issue. When she has issue with a suggestion, request or complain she may agree without stating or discussing her objections but will simply not take the suggestion. Sometimes she will out rightly disobey me. The result will be me complaining severally and eventually getting upset. We hardly have issues, but when we do it’s usually because of something like this. We had dated for about 3 years before marriage. We had no issue in our 1st two years. Not that there was no complain at all but we easily made adjustments to accommodate each other. But there were several instances of this kind of issues in our 3rd year and I was seriously bothered. We had a very serious misunderstanding still from this kind of issue few months before we got married. At a point I asked her if I’m difficult and she told me that I nag. It was very embarrassing but when I the dictionary definition of nagging again which states that “(of a person) constantly harassing someone to do something”, then I agreed that I did nag. Then I realized how easy a partner’s action/inaction could make the other to nag.

Just before we began the process towards marriage I had to extract commitments from her for us to avoid this kind of issues in the future. I had explained how we could have handled situations like this better and the fact that she shouldn’t make it a big deal to apologise and she agreed with me. We got married on 30th December 2015 and we have not had issues since then till few days ago. I told her to stop using an item for cooking due to the health challenge I have with the item when it much in the food. I had previously asked for her to avoid putting too much of it which she agreed but she will fail on about 2 out of 9 meals. It was when I realized she can’t moderate it appropriately I asked her to stop and add it when she eats. She agreed but still won’t stop. I then told her not to have the item in the house at all. She agreed but will still buy it and hide. Even though I had noticed the presence of the item on meals for a while but I got to find some that she had recently bought and hidden in a locker. When I confronted her on it she only argued and asked if I had noticed it being overused recently. Even when I pointed out how bad I felt about her disobeying me she will not see it as a big deal.

I’ve been cold with her for about 2 days now (We talk, but not with the typical high spirit when we are both happy). Yesterday she told me that I have been behaving abnormally and I have not told her what is wrong. Then I used the opportunity to remind her of how she has been disobeying me including that of another incident that I had just refused to be upset about. All she said was that she had agreed to stop which I’m not sure I remembered her saying so. But even if she did, how is it different from the previous instance she accepted but began to hide the item. I believe she should apologize for disobeying me but this is something that she won’t do. As far as she is concerned, she had told me she will stop and expects us to move on and there is nothing to be addressed any further.

Fellow nairalanders, what do you think about this? Is an apology for disobeying me out of place?

We had agreed before marriage not to take our issues to friends or family which I strongly uphold. But at this point, I think we should get opinion of a 3rd party hopefully we can get an objective view on this and either of us can have make necessary adjustment for us to avoid this in the future. She reads selected items that lalasticlala pushes to the front page and I hope she gets to read this too. She will definitely know it’s about us. If I don’t hear her mention seeing it on nairaland, I will deliberately lead her to the thread.

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I notice some comments are being directed on the food incidence as if that really is the issue. Please the issue has not always been about food. It's just these last issues that have been about food. There had been an issue with her using bleaching creams, one about her refusing to apply for a sponsorship of her project by an International organization which I pushed for mainly because of the exposure she could get. There had been one about applying for her MSc in a nearby University. Except for the bleaching that she just didn't seem to believe the level of risk involved with the bleaching creams the others she simply won't express her reservation or make objections but just won't act till it becomes annoying then you will know she was not comfortable with it. Meanwhile she had given the impression that she is act or was acting on it. Till date she still regrets where she is having her about to be concluded MSc which could have been avoided if she had opened up on time about her reservation on where I had initially suggested.

The issue is actually more about her not expressing her reservation on a matter and not apologizing when she realizes that she didn't do well. Instead of showing remorse she will simply say we should move on sometimes without even wanting to address the issue.

For those who think I'm controlling. I do let her make her decisions. But I do wish she can share her objections where I make suggestions that she is not comfortable with. When I asked her to get registered for her MSc I had asked her to do so in the Federal University that is about 3mins drive from our house. But that is where she had a BSc and she was not comfortable going there for her MSc. But instead of opening up on her reservation she was just lazy about getting the form and was making enquiry about it from wrong sources till I lost my patience and insisted she go by herself. The school is very close but she didn't even need to trek down. When she got there it was already late entry but I didn't mind. It was when she should have gone to pay that she now raised her reservation but initially hanged it on someone else opinion. I didn't insist. I even tried to assisted her in finding an alternative. But by this time it was only one school that still sold forms for MSc and that is where she is schooling now.

opeyemiieblog:
This lovely couple in the photo above, started as childhood friends way back in 2002 and now are planning to get married 14 years later.

The gentleman man proposed to his fiancée, Marilyn Uche Nwoko at a known cinema here in Lagos, and it was quite lovely – the movie was disrupted right in the middle, with different photos of Marilyn on the screen, it then ended with a ‘Will you marry me?’…

She wrote;

So we went to the cinema and the movie was disrupted right in the middle. Seeing my pictures all over the screen with a "Will you marry me?" felt like a
movie on its own…..Everything still feels so surreal. #isaidyes #FaithfulGod #HeMakesAllThingsNew #SoonToBeMrsE #bellanaijaweddings #africansweetheartweddings #preweddingnaija #theknotandbeyond #nuptialsandmore


Source :: http://www.praizeblog.com/2016/10/see-how-this-guy-proposed-to-his.html?m=0

FuckTheM0ds:
Who is the most stùpid man on earth?
The most stupid man on earth is the man whose mother is using nokia torchlight but he ignores that and buys an infinix hot note for his girlfriend.
Who is the most stupid man on earth?
The most stupid man on earth is the man who spends most of his airtime calling girls rather than calling home, his guys and his siblings.
Who is the most stupid guy on earth?

The most stupid guy on earth is the man who spends most of his time chatting with ladies from one social media to the other via BBM, INSTAGRAM, FACEBOOK, 2GO, WHATSAPP, CHING CHANG, BADOO etc. But the last time he opened his bible to devote himself to God is only on sundays.
Who is the most stupid man on earth?
The most stupid man on earth is the man who sponsors a girl in the university for four years or 5 as in the case maybe, no matter how rich the guy maybe, he is very stupid to spend his earnings on girls which are nothing but bunch of ingrates.
Who is the most stupid man on earth? The most stupid man on earth is the man who takes a girl out to classy restaurant sit out, takes her to boutique and spends on her birthday.
Such men are stupid and deserve to be wiped off the surface of the earth because of their foolishness by allowing themselves to be domiciled by ladies who are just useless creatures in this universe.
cc finalboss, goingape goingape1

teepsee:
me self don dy think am too oo. It didn't worth the stress and trouble.

seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

recievesense:
After the recent ordeal of a Kenyan Lady (Laura_lolo) with a customer service agent of Orange Kenya, I decided to follow up.

She has revealed to a local Radio Station that she is a rape Survivor. I guess guys with privilege customer information will learn from this.

Follow previous story on https://www.nairaland.com/3385869/lady-exposes-customer-care-agent

mondob2k:
Good Morning Nlanders. I am really bothered that is I am writing this as soon as I woke up even before saying my prayers... make I pause first abeg... Yes I am back. Recently my boss approved d employment of a new Secretary/Cleaner and attached her to my office. I supervise works in d organization and most times I make payments to external contractors like drivers, operators n mechanics.

Since she came in my imprest didnt add up on two occasions. Though I had my suspicion, I decided to gave her d benefit of the doubt. The last straw that broke d carmel's (actually my) back was d N28k I left in my locker (it doesnt have a lock) coming to work yday and I counted and it was 26k. Immediately I picked a brown envelope containing 5k earmarked for something else and lo and behold it was 4k. She simply said 'that one no complete too?'

Nobody has access to d office apart frm d both of us. and when I am out she is always in. She resumes before me daily. I told a colleague, he doesnt av any solution at hand.

I need your advice pls.

Edakun epp me... b4 100k go lost

igotec:
I will forgive her a million times and even more