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soonest:
Haba! Mama Goldmine, don't tell me you didn't know d pose is for ur fine sisi . Abeg take ds 50L of fuel as inlaw concern. We dey come.
Lovely family u hv got there.

Gbam! It's a done deal . Thanks dear.

@juliebest, amtaken, thanks.

MamaOO:
Abeg o, no vex for this stupid question. Don't the ultrasound technician show the parents the genitals of the baby while they're are doing the ultrasound? Cos, I was able to see the genitals right in front of me while the sonographer was doing her thing o, she pointed out the genitals clear as day, gave us color pictures where you can clearly see the genitals and I even made videos. So, unless the thing change overnight (divine intervention, lol), I'm confused and scared of this gender change thing.

It is not a stupid question Mama. When I did 2D, the sonographer was showing me different parts but me I no see them clearly. Whether na 1D sef(if there's anything like that ) . With the 4D I got clear pics and videos.

amtaken:
Beautiful twins. Cute family.


So scans can be wrong afterall.

Thanks for the information.

Thanks dear. Why not go for 4D? At least the features are clearer. You can also shop for unisex things for now. Afterall the baby doesn't need too many things for the first few months. Besides, after the baby comes, you would get some gifts and it would help streamline what you would need to buy later since u would have known the sex by then. You can buy what is absolutely necessary for a start and stick to unisex.

@soonest, fine bobo. My sisi never get husby o. Is he taken? See d pose sef.Correct boy! 
@rashme. Cute girl. Love her smile‎

amtaken:
Hello beautiful mamas in the house, please I will like to know whether anyone here has had a baby whose gender is different from what the scan detected or if you know anyone it has happened to.

One love family.

It happened to me. 2nd pregnancy. 1st was a boy so I was hoping 2nd wld be a girl so I cld close shop. Scan 'said' boy.I was so downcast. There and then I began to reconsider conceiving a 3rd time much to DH's delight. Well, it turned out to be girl. Immediately after the baby came out and the nurse put her close to my face and asked 'madam wetin u born?', without even looking I said boy. 'madam!', she screamed. Then I looked well. It was a girl. Did only one scan then though to detect d sex@23 weeks. Others I did were at the hospital I did ANC and dem no dey tell person sex for there.

It also happened to a friend. She did 2 at 2 different places and was told the samething-girl. She traveled to the US to have her baby and during a routine check up, a 4D scan was done. She said she was so shocked when she saw the genitals were that of aboy that she told the doctor it wasn't her baby. She had done only 2D back here. Didn't know about 3D or 4D before she travelled.

My twins @ 5mths et al. #threadcuties

Adorable wifey, so sorry for your loss dear. Don't worry God has better plans for you. You would bounce back pretty soon with your testimony. Looking forward to your next bfp announcement. E-hugs to you.

goldenruby:
We are 35weeks today :!!!!

Wait oh! Negodu this Babe. Did just type 35weeks? You're looking so hot. Love ur make up. Me at 20wks sef I don leave myself anyhow come resemble old woman . Went on low cut too. No patience for fashion men. Thumbs up Mama. I like ur style. And your skin is still glowing @ 35wks . Chai!

blessedtwins:
Ahnie and Rashme thank u for the mentions.Dd just had surgery so am drained emotionally and physically.Rashme God will help us through the journey of raising our children alone.I have no regrets that I left someone that violated me daily
Cc my sisters
Cherrymum , stadora
Hailings to my ppl here modath ,goldmine,MiddyO,Chinwendym

Oh dear, how's she pulling through now? What was the surgery for? Hope you're okay as well. The Lord is your strength

@adorablewifey, relax dear. God would not give you reason to shed tears. Looking forward to thegood news that LO is okay.

@sugah, 12 whole years I didn't get to read your post before it was modified but from reactions, I can imagine what your sister went through. May God keep her safe and heal her of both the physical and psychological trauma she went through. I once shared my sister's story here of abuse in marriage how her DH wrecked her completely. Thank God she's alive today. It's ironical how some mothers choose to hang on to an abusive marriage because of love, shame or the children forgetting that they need to be alive and safe to nurture the children in question. I was always averse to divorce/separation until my sister's experience. Now i'm team 'better safe than sorry'. Even if an abused woman doesn't want to divorce her husband, she should at least move away from harm and remain separated from him until things can be sorted out. It's just that in some cases, the situation is beyond repairs. Good thing your sister has family that is standing by her.

To all single Mums out there God is your strength. May he lead you aright and never depart from your sides. E no easy.

Onegai:
Goldmine, thanks for that detailed explanation. I've used Amazon several times but never with a Nigerian debit card (it's linked to my foreign cards). I'll try a few things from Aliexpress, hope I don't get my fingers burnt.

Hopefully, you won't. Just avoid items that have no sales or feedback and stick to sellers with high rating. All the best!

MumZ:
Ha, pap ke? No mind enkaydewdrop, if she get person like my mama, all her grammar go finish n d mama go still press shege commot 4 d vj, lol. My mama no dey look Uche face o, she ll hunt u till u succumb.

So many pages don fly. Wow! Congrats to all who have off-loaded. Welcome newbies.

Lol! MIL would say i'm wasting her time and the water is getting cold. When I bend down to dodge d tummy part, she would just aim for my back. The shock and pain would force me to straighten up then she would target the stomach. As for the VJ part I never agreed. She once reported me to DH that I refused VJ massage and sitting in hot water. Thankfully, I had informed DH much earlier about the warning I received at the hospital to ensure hot water doesn't get there.Her son sharply dismissed her in such a manner that she feared to bring it up again.

A family friend who had an almost 5kg baby at the same hospital had her VJ badly torn was warned also. Her retired matron mom insisted she sit and massage. All the stitches loosened fa. She had to be restitched and wasn't given any anaesthesia. 6months later,she still didn't let her DH kpekus. The trauma was always fresh. My own that wanted to resume duties ASAP didn't want stories that touch the heart. Told her she didn't know better than the doctors. End of story.

Onegai:
Goldmine this Jinobaby look so nice. Please how do I order off Aliexpress?

So sorry I didn't get to see this much earlier. I've not visited NL in a while. Did you eventually succeed in ordering off Ali express? It's kind of similar to buying from Amazon. After you visit www.aliexpress.com, you can enter the name of the item(s) you want in the search column and select from the available ones to add to your cart then at the point of trying to check out, you would be required to register. Alternatively, just register from the onset and begin to add things to your cart. I pay with a naira debit card though I observed that the exchange rate via Aliexpress is higher than that of Amazon by a significant margin. And unlike Amazon, Ali express did not notify of the exchange rate that was to be used before I was debited.

For every item you are interested in pls don't forget to check out the reviews/feedback. Avoid products that either have no reviews,reviews in language you don't understand or reviews with only star ratings and no comment. Also check the seller's percentage of positive feedback. The higher, the more reliable and better chances that you would be refunded should something go wrong with your order which is rare.

So many of their products are available for free shipping to Nigeria. I observed though that for those that do not ship free, you would be required to pay the shipping cost per item regardless of the number of products you are buying from a particular seller. If for example you see cloth diaper for $10 each and the shipping cost indicated is $5 even if you purchase 20 diapers from that seller, you would be required to pay $5 shipping fee for each of the diapers, that's a total cost of $100 on shipping alone. So I mostly stick to free shipping items.

Free shipping is of course limited to items shipped via China post registered mail which would be received via the post office closest to your address in Nigeria. Express delivery via dhl and co are far more expensive of course. I get my items with 2wks of paying. The post office calls to notify me that my order has arrived and I go to pick the package which would be released upon presentation of a valid ID card and a fee of N500. I know a few people who claim to have received their aliexpress orders at home. I have never been fortunate to be in that category. Mine just go to the post office nearest to me and they give me a call when it gets there. Now,it wasn't in all cases that I was called. It would best to track your order and the moment you notice it has arrived Nigeria, give 2 or 3 days(in case there's delay at the customs end) then go to the nearest post office with your tracking number and ID. Once it enters Naija you can't track anymore as in see details of movement within Nigeria beyond the customs end at the airport.

Most sellers indicate a delivery time frame of 15-60 days(for shipping via the China post o). A resolution period(not sure if that's what it is called) is given to you after payment usually 30 days or so. If after 29 days of paying you haven't received your items,you must go back to your order details and extend the period if you still wish to wait for your order, otherwise open dispute on that page and request for a refund. You would definitely be refunded. If you fail to open dispute before the time elapses, forget about your money cos by then,it would have been paid to the seller from the escrow account to which your money was transferred to after you were debited. Sellers don't get paid until you confirm that you have received your order.

Also don't forget to go back to confirm that you have received your order so that the seller can be paid.

I got my Jino baby diapers of this seller http://m.aliexpress.com/store/storeHome.htm?storeNo=521050&tracelog=store2mobilestore
Shipping was fast. Please and please don't bother with the inserts there. They're as good as using handkerchiefs for inserts . Got just a few to try out and eventually ended up using them as burp cloths. The naturally natures with gussets I got off Amazon are serving me well and i've never had leaks.

Hope my long explanation helps.

NoQualms1:
Please, how did you pay on Aliexpress? I've been trying to purchase some stuffs there but could not pay with my first bank debit card. After they send the OTP and I input it, I always get an error message. Please advise.

What is the error message?

ozycy:
All of you denying team November class captain, hmmmm let what happened last year 2015 (driest team) not happen again this year. Prices will be won for best team of the year.

Looooooool @ 'driest team'. Mama ozycy abeg no take laugh kill me.

Congrats to all new vigilante mamas. Welcome newbies. Hitch-free preggy journeys and easy delivery I wish you all.

Olubankemi, how body? Pele na small remain.

iyejima longest time. Pls try to 'show face' here from time to time. You made this thread bubble back then when you were regular. God has not forgotten you and all our fruitful sisters out there. He'll surprise you all,you hear?
Saw all the sexy bumps and sweet babies God bless u all. @ tchiwinnie i'm so tripping for your boy!

ozycy:
All of you denying team November class captain, hmmmm let what happened last year 2015 (driest team) not happen again this year. Prices will be won for best team of the year.

Double post

tatacherie:
Ma petite Akela @ 11 weeks already
#threadcuties#
Cc:goldmine & other potential ogos

Finally! Potential wetin? I reserve my comment on that . I see u're doing a good job . We carry eye go market .

Beautiful babies shared here. May God bless them all and also bless all that didn't show face too. Our LOs would always be sources of joy and pride to us.

@hajarabadmus, that Bobo's smile na die!

tatacherie:
@ goldmine ma'am I love ur babies so cute chai! God protect them for u o
Network nor gree me show ma petite jor

Thanks dear. Issorite. Some other time. We'll be patient.

zaynie:
Goldmine!!!!!!!!
They're too cute! And they look alike despite being frats.....
Now you are making me grow soft on twins!

Thanks dear. LOL@ grow soft on twins.

zaynie:
#ThreadCuties

Lovely! Atinuke don d'agba finish. Looking so grown up. Moyo's looking sweet too. Been a while my LOS showed face here. Make I no look others own pass today that I remembered thread cuties on time.

My twins them @ 4mths 1week. #threadcuties

Oya tatacherie bring out our wife let's see how well you've been taking care of her

@mompurity2, also experienced it and was diagnosed with malaria shortly after it started. I wrongly assumed it would go after I recovered. It had nothing to do with the malaria. It gave me sleepless nights but I didn't even notice exactly when it stopped. It just did one day.

lioha:
Our God is a good, the God of Sarah, Hannah and Elizabeth still lives. He is still sharing babies. Delay is never denial.

I am now a mother after Eleven /twelve good years of childlessness. Wedded 24 sept 2004.

Tcc/Atc mamas with God everything is possible.

Coming soon with ma birth story

My able team March/April how are you doing? All mamas and mamas to be how are you doing? Thanks for all your wishes and prayers.

Just pump in to say hi. Pls someone should take over team April class captain, vigilante is real.

This joy you are experiencing has been perfected and shall never be cut short. Almost 12 years!!!! I'm so happy for you. You would celebrate more bfps and carry to term IJN. This is just the beginning of God's wonders in your life. Congrats dear. Don't forget to share his pics on thread cuties so that we can behold a glimpse of your testimony

@Ahnie, they're great. Trust Zino is as well.

HumbledbYGrace:
Thank you so much ma'am. How is the family?

Gaily04, Juliebest and Mompurity thank you.

The family's great dear.

Congrats to all Mama's that have put to bed. May your joy never be cut short.

HumbledbYGrace:
Thank you so much ma'am. How is the family?

Gaily04, Juliebest and Mompurity thank you.

The family's great dear.



Ina Ahnie?

HumbledbYGrace:
Happy birthday to me.....God's grace has really kept me till this day. Its not by power nor might but by the Holy Spirit, ah, God I thank You for your wonderful hand at creation, I am proud to say I am Your child. When I look at my life all I see is You.

Libido issue lol, lemme just shy away from this one.
Greetings to all the mamas, thread cuties, supportive papas, happy new month in advance.

Happy birthday,Sweet. You're not just a year older but a year better.Wish you many more years of happiness and joy.

eigmaticme:
Hello mamas.

Had my cerclage done two weeks ago today.

It went well, no pain or bleeding.

14wks tomorrow.

This child has come to stay in Jesus name.

#teamseptember#

I say a big amen to that. You shall carry to term, deliver safely and be empowered with all you need to nuture your children.

@estyble, wow! Triplets. May God grant you the strength to carry to term and deliver safely. Is this your first missionary journey?

@ Iffffffy, God be praised! 16years! Congrats to your SIL.

Kimoni:
I feel you on this house help issue. I guess we've all had our share of bad and good helps but by God's grace, I think I have been blessed with more good ones than bad. I try to get them from the same agents year in year out and I could also be very picky in choosing. As for that your special prayer ehnn, I no dey miss that prayer every day o God help us all

[size=4pt]How did we get to talking about house helps when nurse @kaffybill clearly instructed us to discuss kpekusing Abeg, I no want nurse punishment o
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Back to topic!!!

Sweet Mamas abeg forgive us for derailing .One thing led to another. We won't do it again.

Kimoni:
Hahahhahaha see consolation oo

You cut your hair but you still dey do shakara. **yimu
You no dey baff for morning but you dey wear skimpy inside house **yimu

You go like short cut well well o zaynie

Yes o! she go really like sharp sharp tinz. I like your style Zaynie. In fact I always advice my young female newly married friends not to be in a hurry to TTC. Even if it's just for a few months. Those precious moments when it's just the couple. Cos one can't predict the extent to which pregnancy would show them pepper. When the baby comes nko? Whether you like it or not your attention would be divided.

I remember back then when me and DH were taking our time. I was willing and could go anywhere I wished with him. Even if it's just to buy fuel at the filling station by the corner. I didn't even need an invitation. I would jump into the car and go with him. We would travel to other states for the weekend to hang out with friends or family just for the sake of it. But when I chop beans, no matter how much he pleads, I would just wave 'see u later' cos pregnancy wasn't nice to me o. Of cos I couldn't gallivant like that too after baby came.

@cutienik
It is well with you. It takes a patient and understanding husband to minimize the psychological effect these thing have on some women. Some like you don't even know the nature or genesis of the problem and would continue to pretend not just to friends but to their partners too! How then would this parnter help solve it when he is given the impression that all is well?

It is actually not easy though to open up about such things. DH has been pressing me to see a specialist about my bruises. I just kept mum about it. How do I face the Dr? How would I even shape mouth sef when talking about it? I lack the courage.

I pray ur DH would continue to be supportive and understanding cos this thing has a way of making one feel like a failure. I feel 4 you. E-hugs.

*modified*

@ favoredgal
I'm already on one. Opted for the permanent one for which the procedure was carried out immediately after delivery via c-section. It hasn't been enough to allay my fears jor. Sometimes I have nightmares that the doctor either forgot to do it(despite constant reminders by me and the anesthesiologist) or didn't do it properly.

All through my marriage the onus has been on me to take precautions. I used calendar method to space the 1st 3kids. 2yrs betw 1st and 2nd and 3yrs betw 2nd and 3rd. Abstain when i'm not safe.Decided to close shop after the 3rd and suggested to DH that he should do the permanent method. He refused. I opted for pills as contraceptive but it failed me within the 1st month. Now i'm having fears that the tube-tying would fail. Warned DH not to come near me without condom. Sometimes I go as far as buying it myself.

I don't regret the 2 extra kids-love them to bits. My only regret is this libido thing. Imagine me dreading something I should be enjoying. I do hope it gets better with time.

@Kimoni, I was quite open to the option until certain events made me retrace my steps. After a 7yr old girl who's like a daughter to Me got sexually molested by a male domestic staff, I decided that I was done with maids(this was some months after my 3rd child). 'I am a pedophile' isn't written on their faces. I could manage without one. He went all the way o. Raped her the 1st time and threatened her so she wouldn't sing.then he continued until she got so used to it that she began to look forward to it. It was to me she eventually opened up to when her folks began to suspect something was fishy. The kind fear wey enter my body ehn. And to think my 3yr old daughter used to hang out with them a lot. It could have been her.

As God would have it, I took in again and required bed rest for a while and was forced to get a maid. She left 2 days before I had the babies. Just decided she was no longer interested. Had to get a replacement but cldnt get one till early feb. betw then and now I have replaced 2ce. Why would I agree to pay as much as 15k/m and have to correct/monitor something as minor as sweeping or doing dishes?

Lies were being told about the level of experience of these girls and despite the fact that I was willing to teach, they were either not willing to learn or take correction. On top my hard earned money they were adding to my stress,mbanu! Not that they had to tend to the kids o. Mainly housework. I do my shopping,cooking and tend to d babies myself.

I also put it in prayers that any maid who unprovoked wished me or my household ill,God would make my house hot for her and she would request to leave. One like that didn't even last 48hrs. She was so restless and began fabricate all sorts of lies about problems back home that she needed to attend to. Her people confirmed it was all lies but she wanted to leave so badly that she even refused to work. I let her go.

The one who left last week stole a tablet and snuck out of my house the moment she realized I was searching for it. Now her family whom I do not know claim I or DH have done something with her as she didn't return home. I have warned that should they come within an inch of my gate, I would have them arrested for setting me up. They probably know where she is. If they don't, I can understand their apprehension. I initially adviced them to be patient that when she gets tired of wherever she has gone to, she would return home.

She's an adult and had a destination in mind when she left my house. I would only see the agent who brought her to me as he was the one I did biz with and do not know them who claim to be her family. They may not even be actually related to her for all I care. It is this recent bruhaha that has strengthened my resolve again not to have a maid or nanny.

I've had my fair share of good ones back when I was under paid employment. But at some point in their lives they had to move on. It would have been wicked and selfish of me to wish for them to remain at that level forever. I also would not because of few nasty experiences label all of them bad. It's just that i'm no longer willing to take the risk.

MIL stays with SIL who lives a stone's throw away from my house. She comes once in a while to keep me company and help with the kids while I face house work. Sometimes she goes away with one of the twins and returns him/ her later in d evening. She is not always available though as she has other things she does and also helps with SIL's kids and home. I'm trusting God not to disappoint me concerning the case of this last maid. My hands are clean and she must show up at her people's place ASAP. The tablet is the least of my worries for now. I just pray she is safe.

The downside of my decision is that I can't resume biz fully as early as I had hoped to.‎

favoredgal:
Goldmine are you going to consider contraceptive? Just curious

double post

kaffy4bill:
I have been thinking about this topic all day and also discussed with a friend.
Does the libido of a woman decrease with child bearing or its individualized?
If its not individualized,then what are the possible causes?
Stress,home/kids' care or just change in priority from father to kids
Please kindly let's discuss this mamas
Are we being selfish or our men?

Cc
Zaynie
Modath
Tchiwinnie
Kimoni
Onegai
Favoredgal
Soonest
Proudmom
Goldmine
Sharon06
And every other mamas

Oya ooo,pls what has ur experience been like so far?
Thanks in advance

Pardon me Mamas, this might be long.
‎It's been a mixed experience for me. With 1st preg, libido was just there and got better after delivery. Resumed duties 4 wks post partum . With 2nd both preg. and after was so high I thought it was someone else in my own body. Resumed duties 5 days after delivery(covers face). It was that bad. Even DH sef was worried. With 3rd libido dropped when I conceived but returned to normal after delivery.

 But with the 4th?? I'm beginning to wonder if I wont destroy my marriage with this low level and the way I impulsively respond negatively on a regular basis. From conception to date, zero interest. Infact,if there's anything less than zero then that describes it.

I don't think we are being selfish Nurse Kaffy. We are just being human and responding to the additional stress of an increasing family. Unfortunately most men don't understand. They believe that catering for the family is a piece of cake.
‎‎

Iyabetajos:
did yday n dey admitted me immediately so am still at d hosp

It is well with you, Sister.

marylandcakes:
Wholemeal flour is pure and natural contains load of fibre, while the flour we use every day is highly processed. You can ge it from shop rite but you can used the plan flour if you can't get hold of it. You will just measure 750g of plain flour.

Okay. Thanks

marylandcakes:
Thanks for you lovely comments. I used to use the gelatin base fondant until I discovered this one with marshmallows. This holds better and I'm talking from experience, not hear say.

Wow! I'm definitely trying this. Thanks oce again.

marylandcakes:
Ingredients

250g wholemeal flour
500 plain flour
1Tbsp Olive oil (any vegetable oil)
2 Tbsp light brown sugar
1 tsp salt
250ml warm water
7g dried yeast

I intend to try this soon. Please tell, how's wholemeal flour different from plain and where can I get it?