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MaxVee:
I Am Losing My Mind, Could This Be Love Or Foolishness?

Okay, I'd be quick and brief as well.

So about 6 months ago, I met my girl on facebook, And after months wooing her to date me, she finally agreed and we started dating..

Like everything was perfect and indeed I fell deeply in love with her even before I met her.

So along the line in our relationship she told she had a best friend who is a guy and they have know each other for like 4years..and that they talk very well (calls and chat) and that they tell each other they love themselves, but if I wasn't cool with it,I could break up she would understand.

As a guy I knew I had fallen for her and I embraced her telling me about the guy after a strong assurance from her that they were not into any sort of relationship with each other.

So my girl called me like let's say a month after we started dating that there was this her friend who she hadn't met and that wanted and she was going to see him, and I was like fine, she should just be fine.

P.S:- I hadn't met with my girl even till the point she went to meet the guy...I was in the west and she was in one of the states in the East..more like a long distance relationship.

Fast forward to days after they met I became uncomfortable with the relationship between my girl and the said new guy she met..I talked to her severally about it and she was at some point swearing not having anything to do with the new guy she just met.

Fast forward to the festive season I came back and I met my girl for the first time..indeed she was everything I imagined and we flowed amazingly well.

Long story cut short in the midst of one of our long conversations I discovered she have at some point had sex severally with her said best friend...so I was like since it was before we met I forgave her and we moved on..

yesterday I asked her if she has anything with the new guy and she swore again not having anything with him that the guy has been asking her out and she refused dating him.

She said plenty of things that convinced me into believing that nothing was going between them.

P.S:- before yesterday I told her to tell the new guy she has a boyfriend and she promised to..(from the actions of my girl I could tell she loves me.) She later told me that day that she told him and she had blocked him and stuff..and trust me I did believe her.

So this morning while she was sleeping I reaching out to her phone and went straight to her WhatsApp.. opened the chat with the guy and what I saw broke me..

She was reconciling with him over the break up she instigated of which was caused by something totally different not even because she told him she had a guy..what killed my spirit was a message she wrote to the guy saying "she left me for him even though I was far much a better option"..I confronted her and she has been pleading saying she loves me but she likes him and that they haven't had anything except kissing and caressing..that she loves me so much..that she started liking him when she started talking to him more frequently and I was far away. She hadn't know me..so she got fond of him and she likes him.

I love this babe so much, I told her I forgive her..but please I need your opinions..am I blinded by love or am being foolish..

How would you handle the situation. If it was you..
La La.. please help move this to front page
Am breaking every hour.

My guy, don't mind all these girl, i have experienced something similar with 2 different girl. It's why I still have this ex boyfriend phobia or should I call it EXPHOBIA. They claim their ex is a best friend. Whereas they are begging the dude and the dude is just fuckkkkkkking her steady. The last one was always fucccccking the dude when she was at school. I was really suspicious so I installed a bug on her phone. Then I discovered her lies. She claimed the dude was begging her whereas she was the one begging him. Fucccked her to an extent she contracted std. When I saw the photos std pills she sent him over WhatsApp claiming she hasn't done it with me for months that's he's the only one that she's done it with I told her she can go and die with her bf I'm done, I've been aware of her hidden agenda. It's a reason I don't cheat cuz std spreads. I go check myself even though we never did it raw. I still checked to be safe cuz the one thing that's more painful than a cheating Partner is getting an infection. And i dont have the energy to start running up and down for pills to treat and illness. So till date any girl i date I tell her I don't do male best friends and if i begin to suspect anything I begin my investigation. I told my friends I hate spying but they told me that's what saved me. Truth is girls find it hard to let go if they love u and u dumped em.

Admit it's ur fault in a way to make her guilty. Works everytime

passion007:
Even if he has a small carrot, and so what. He's the one with the dk, she's the one taking the dk, why the fck are you the one making a fuss You represent everything wrong with this country - people not minding their business when they really should.

..... People not minding their business when they should. Nice one. Too bad u don't follow what u say.

passion007:
All you took away from this post is that rubbish you typed there eh. What about love, connection, mutual respect and tolerance, intelligence, are these things to consider in choosing a life partner? Clearly its all fck fck fck with you lot. You'll tell us what your huge carrot has benefited modern society

OK give her love, connection, mutual respect and tolerance but don't give her s3x ok. You remind me of this dude

I pity the guy, most Chinese guys got short carrot and akwa ibom is as durable as toyota in bed. Well they have Chinese herbs that can function like viagra. He better go for bed training

Instead of commiting suicide, why not donate ur kidneys first then drink sniper

Well i diddn't use fare but I fuelled my vehicle. To lagos cost me 8000 to fill the tank from Delta, I drove cuz u wanted to pick a few things. Coming was 9700 to fill the tank.
Coming back was another experience. At ijebu ode, decening from a hill my vehicle started vibrating seriously. I thought it was my rear tyres so I checked the pressure they were 40psi and 36psi. So i got them inflated at a vulcaniser. The psycho charged me 500 for 1 tyre then I exploded. At the end we settled for 250. Barely 2km decending from another hill, the same happened vehicle vibration like an earthquake. I feared it was my universal Joint, so i parked my vehicle i went under. It was worse than I thought. One cap was out. So i too a previous one from my spares and worked it. It carried me past ore. Till I arrived benin just after uniben it began shaking like a quake. I took down the entire joint thinking I could take off the prop Shaft so I can drive my truck as back wheel only but the nuts were too tight. I managed to work it in about 40mins but i could not exceed 55km/h so I drove all the way to sapele delta. Wasn't speeding but I was moving. Soon as I arrived I purchased a replacement. And I've installed it. Vehicle moved just fine.

At 29 I experienced the same too. Jobless and even d girl I had left

458 italia one of favourites. Motor wen I don drive tire, even crashed it several times on ASPHALT 8. Good one burner b. That motor cost of maintenance na die not to mention high cost of parts

That's how it is bro. I used to do that. But now sex matters to me. If I don't sex, I back off. I can't have a girlfriend and jerking off while another dude is riding the underground rail road.

The light situation is bad some times I return from work and find the fridge and water heater cold. So annoying. Its a good thing I have inverter ooo.

pocohantas:
I don't need a key to open my car door, I only need my fingers. This is Dec, 2019 - stop driving 1992 cars...

Anyway, I use my spare as pendant

I use a 92 landcruiser and sometimes i forget it has an option for keys. If it's got electric locks keys. Keyless entry is the koko

It's why I hate push to start. My old car had this conversation that can make u start the car remotely but I refused to install

Mine was the biggest complainer in the world. I just couldn't take it. Left her just after almost 3¹/² months of dating

Funny thing is my elder brother's was born at the same jolad. See how they're disappointing his birth cert.

Hmmm, soon they'll start launching the app when they take ur phone and say u had maps running

17 year ago I wasn't even up to 15. That guy is a dullard abeg. 17 times. U no use past questions? U don't have to cheat or do runs. If u wrote waec 17 times then God help u with aptitude test for job cuz i wrote over 10 aptitude tests and in 3 years. I just thank God it paid off. Cuz jobs isn't just about passing tests its about been picked from many applicants. Wish u better success when u get to the favour market

Few days ago, I was on my way to warri from sapele, midway through the journey theres a major bad spot that results in long traffic along the highway. So i noticed this really bad section that swallows cars, i own a rugged 92 fj80 landcruiser so I had no fear passing the unpassable with ease. Yeah the mud was deep but i drove through like it was nothing while other commuter were staring still stuck in traffic queues. When I got to my destination I looked at my dirty truck baptized in mud, then I noticed my licence plate was missing. I felt bad knowing I cant get an exact copy not to mention police wahala on missing license plate. Though before it fell off it had signs that it may need to be refastened i started thinking in regret. I had to move my rear plate to the front to avoid police wahala. Returning to sapele I kept my eyes wide open if I could locate it but was never found. Barely 24hrs after I lost the plate I got a call from an individual that picked it up and i felt so relieved. Cuz both my plates has my phone number on them with permanent marker. I was so excited. Funny thing is that i picked up my plate at benin cuz that where this good samaritan resided 83km from where he picked it up. He even refused reward I gave him and he said i have shown him something that he would also put his phone number Behind his plates. So yes my plate has been reattached to my vehicle and I'm comfortable driving past check points again.

Just wanted to share with all yall the advantages or having your number Behind your plates. Also if you notice the bolts/screws holding your plates falling off, please don't ignore fix ASAP cuz once you lose em, it's a lot of paperwork

abdulkayus:
It is better u keep quiet and be assumed that you are foolish than for you to open your gutter mouth and remove all doubtful about your foolishness.
FYI, Abdul is never an Aboki but Islamic name.
U are even swerving away from the main point of discussion. U are a disgrace to whichever school you graduated from.

Aboki, aboki, aboki, aboki, aboki

Check out his boots. He's been ready for it

abdulkayus:
That man U are calling aboki is the governor of Plateau state, his name is Solomon Dalung.
To ur bigotry mind, every northerner is a Muslim or Aboki, u need more education dude and you need to travel out more. Stop hiding in that cubicle of yours

Mr Abdul lol ABOKI name. No use English emulator cover up. Besides what have we benefitted from the aboki we have as a president and he travels monthly. If u add up his number of flight hours its similar to 1 of your semesters. And again, MR solomon D cant handle such a vehicle with such a wide blind spot

Very nice. I know his next design would be better. That aboki hold steering like say he sabi drive motor. I wonder how he would handle a car with a large blind spot

I hope it won't be a case like local rice and foreign rice. For me im sticking to my VALVOLINE

biddostandard:
What's the craziest lie you believed because you were in love?.


Mine was my gf saved my number with ode i asked her and she lied that ode means only darling ever

That she left her ex, but it turned out to be the other way around. She was dying to be with him had to bug her phone , i was just a rebound guy, from my discovery her mom was aware and her sister encouraged her to jump back to her ex if the door was a bit ajar. Even after finding out, the girl still lied. Well its life girls lie, so i dont waste time cuz of that i always feel insecurity when i hear EX-BOYFRIEND. Its like a signal that raises my awareness. The biggest threat. Commitment phobia or maybe i should call it EX-PHOBIA

Writercruze:
If you are among the people asking the question “what does friends with benefits mean”, you will find this article helpful.

Friends with benefits (FWB) is a common type of relationship. It involves two people spending intimate time together without any form of commitment. In other words, it’s a relationship in which two people agree to have sex without commitment.

Even though the FWB relationship is fun, it’s not as easy as you think. It’s not always easy to continue this type of relationship without catching feelings.

One thing you should know about FWB is that someone will always get hurt. Sadly, only one party may see the relationship as a mere friend with benefits. And the other party may be hoping for something more, and that’s where the heartbreak comes in.

It’s natural; someone is always going to get hurt in an FWB relationship.

Challenges With Friends With Benefits Relationships

FWB relationships come with their complications. It always starts on a good note, and you guys will have fun. But as time goes on, the guy or the lady will start catching feelings. And this is the beginning of trouble.

Let me tell you a story. My friend had a terrible experience with FWB. He had an office romance with one of his colleagues at work. When the whole thing started, they agreed that there’s no string attached, to have fun. But over time, the lady started catching feelings.

She became very jealous and started fighting other girls. At some point, she was begging the guy to marry her. The guy ended things with her, though, and was heartbroken.

That’s the problem with FWB relationships. You and your partner will always have an agreement at the beginning, but someone will always get hurt.

So, I am answering the question, “what does friends with benefits mean” because I don’t want you to be the victim in the relationship.

The rules are simple; there are no strings attached. If both parties can adhere to this, nobody gets hurt. But it’s not always easy.

Rules To Make FWB Less Complicated

More often than none, friends with benefits relationships often end up in complications. But I’m going to give you some rules that will make your FWB relationships less complicated.

#1. Be Clear About It From The Start

Transparency is the first rule of Friends with benefits relationships. Ensure that both of you are on the same page. Never make the conversation one-sided, and be clear that your partner is comfortable with it.

With this understanding from the beginning, you will enjoy your FWB relationship because it will be less complicated.

#2. Don’t Expect Anything More

The greatest mistake people make in FWB relationships is that they often expect more. No matter how nice your time together seems, always keep to the original agreement.

Don’t forget that the essence of an FWB relationship is to have fun. And when you start expecting more than this, you may be living in a fool’s paradise. Do you know why? The answer is simple – most people in an FWB relationship has a serious partner somewhere.

#3. Try As Much as Possible To Check Your Feelings

It’s normal for you to catch feelings when you spend too much time with that person. There’s always a possibility of you having feelings with your FWB partner. Once you notice this, try to reevaluate the situation of things.

Remember, you are only in the relationship for fun, nothing else. So, the next time someone asks you, “what does friends with benefits mean,” tell the person that it’s a relationship when you are not allowed to fall in love with your partner.

#4. Ensure You Read Your Partner’s Feelings Always

Always ensure that you and your FWB partner are on the same page. It’s the easiest way to avoid being hurt. Try to occasionally ask your fun partner how things are going with you guys. It will help to make things less complicated for you guys.

However, once you discover that you and your partner are having feelings for each other, discuss with them and reevaluate if you guys still want FWB or something more serious.

#5. You Can Either Agree to Make It Public Or Secret

Depending on what you guys want, you can either make your affair secret or public. But it’s advisable to keep it under the wrap except you guys decide to have something more serious and committed.

During my undergraduate days, two of my hostel mates claimed to be relatives. They were always together, and nobody even thought that the boy and the girl are making out.

The affair was so secretive that nobody was able to suspect anything. Guess what happen? The girl got pregnant along the way, and they are happily married now.

So, most times, it’s better to keep your FWB relationships underwrap and see how things go. I have seen many FWB relationships that turn into a more lovely relationship. But never expect anything serious from FWB. Otherwise, you will suffer a severe heartbreak.

#6. Have Some Ground Rules

Yeah, you heard me right, ground rules is essential in every relationship. But if you are with someone for fun, you should lay more emphasis on it.

Is it cool to visit unannounced? If your partner sees you with another person, are you guys going to behave like strangers? These are some of the ground rules you should have in your FWB relationship.

#7. Know When To End Things

As beautiful and exciting, a Friend with benefits relationship seems it’s not real. Always have this in mind.

Your partner may be giving you multiple orgasms, but you guys aren’t dating. There will be no romantic communication, surprise dates, dinner together, and many more. The only call or text you receive from your FWB partner is when and where is the sex will take place.

So, always know when to end things. Otherwise, you will get carried away by the fun of the moment. And this could affect your love life significantly.

#8. Always Use Protection

Using protection is another way to make an FWB relationship less complicated. You know how complicated it will be when you missed your period. Unless you are willing to be a baby mama, always use protection.

Outside unwanted pregnancy, there’s always the possibility of having STDs and STIs. So, the use of condoms is a must in FWB relationships.

So, have I answered the question “what does friends with benefits mean”?

Final thoughts

Friends with benefits relationships are often fun. But someone is always hurt. Follow the rules in this article; you will not have issues with your FWB relationship.

Source: https://www.naijalovetips.com/the-truth-about-friends-with-benefits-nobody-will-tell-you/

Yeah, i used to have one but she never encouraged me to get into a relationship. Till she once told a friend "if ahe decides she wants to get married to me, if i was dating someone else, i would still choose her". That was when it pinged. This byatch could be dangerous. I looked for reasons to bail till one day she called me immature then i told her she's a barrier, she's not letting me focus on getting into a relationship. That was it. Till today no dices. Funny this is we've been pals for 8 years. Anytime a girl ditched me that's when she shows up and bangs off my sadness.

MGab25:
In a world where it’s believed that almost everyone above 18 is sexually active, but we are directing the spotlight on those who are standing against all odds, albeit environmental and peer pressure. Our mother confessor, Correct Bae on her WhatsApp channel threw open the question “Why are you a Virgin or Celibate? For God? or For Man?” We were sent different reactions to that question ranging from honest to sarcastic replies.

However, below are the responses that were sent in

Source: https://naija4u.me/60-people-gave-reasons-why-they-are-still-virgins-or-celibates-in-their-twenties/

Either she's ugly or has bad hygiene. Single and 23 and sad. Yep. Come on. I have seen a 27 thats cute and good in communication but she's married to the bible. She doesn't even hear words like nxgga, shyt or Bleep before she starts the bible shizzle on you and hers is so excessive that guys with interest quit. She's very ok though but her own is even after marriage we'll only have sex when we want a baby. That's sick

See wetin yahoo don do us, if u make money too fast you're engaged in fraud. Lol.

ikorodureporta:
Source: https://lifestyle.thecable.ng/identifying-kids-with-high-iq-an-age-by-age-guide-for-parents/

Ability to lie at age 5? U never see kpako kids wen dey lie before that age? Especially when the wanna buy chewing guy or steal from the pot. Also big head? Doctors dey press head swell up ooo. Some may be late bloomers.

No be by fine abeg. Na by finance. Owo ni koko. Get lots of cash then you'll know. If u feel say i dey lie, ask oshomole or ned

Sagelegend:
I no b female now...am a man

Even worse, it's ur butt then. And true. Iphones can be boring. Sometimes i sorry for isheeps. When my cheap and android don turn remote. I use it to control everything in my house na to use am lock my motor remain.

NigPatriot:
Mine isn't black, but it's already slipping, I have to accelerate high before it changes gear, and while changing it tends to jerk a bit. What could be the diagnosis?

Have u ever drained the fluid? And did u complete drain the fluid? Cuz most transmission problems start after fluid change especially if u own an old car. Also the kind of ATF u use matters. Seahorse and Abro is a NO-GO. If it's transmission u have to stick to specifics. Though if your fluid experiences shortage. Top that thing up cuz if it dries out you're fxcked.