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[quote author=Mynd_44]But I think Vampires are cool though[/quote]but, the truth is that she sucks blood, abi

Now, if this househelp turn out to maltreat this woman' child, we will all call it wickedness, but in actual fact, actions and reactions are equal and opposite.
I just hope justice is done, because this is gross wickedness............hot iron...........hawking while bleeding...................some human beings are highly terrible and inhuman..........haba!!!, to an helpless child.........
Okay o, karma will soon visit, and by then, she shouldnt think some people from the village are after her, she will definately reap what she had sown.





##Emi a jere ise owo mi o....... Amin.##

It has always been and it will continue to be, not new, even God loved Jacob and hated Esau, according to the bible.
It is natural.
So many factors could be responsible for this, for example...........
-btwn a child who easily and quickly obey your instructions and the one that is always heady and stubborn, which one will you naturally love more?
-btwn a very hardworking one and a very lazy one, which will you naturally love more?
-btwn the one that always help you to plan how your coast will be enlarged and the one who always plan to squander the little resources you've gotten, which one will you naturally love more?
-btwn the one who always care about you, always want to see you happy, always have mercy on you, can go any mile to defend you and always selfless and the one who doesnt even care whether you exist or not,and who is so selfish, which one will you love more?




However, prefering a child to another is not to be encouraged, therefore, all parents should endeavour to love their kids equally, encourage all of them, be there for all of them, teach them all in the way of God, instill the moral standard in them all and in a case where after you as a parent have done all that is expected of you, and one or more of them seems not to be preffered to you as a result of his/her negative attitude to life, then it is inevitable to prefer others to him/her, then, it should be done in a wise and matured manner, such that the preferred one will not really get what is happening, so that his/her head doesnt start to swell and probably start misbehaving because of the knowledge he has gotten as the most preferred child and at the same time, the less-preferred one should not be abandoned and treated in such a way thet he/she will see him/herself as the most hated, which can make him become more heady or even suicidal.......... all of them need encouragement, because if such behaviour is so obvious in a family, the parents are already planting the seed of discord among their children, which is cancerous to the family.

Widom is the principal thing and in all thy getting, get knowledge.

Parenting is not an easy task, but with wisdom and grace of God, we shall excel and our children shall turn out well.
May God help us all.

mysticgal: but i live in abuja,btw i encouraged her,though there was a little stutter,buh she sang beautifully.

then, she can make it, with continous encouragement and constant practice and love, she can overcome it.
May God help us all.

I think at this juncture, i will have to recommend that any family that cant do without househelps for one reason or the other, should have CCTV(close circuit TV) installed in their homes, because the rate at which these househelps seem to be wierld and wicked is becoming worrisome, it seems many of them are just wicked without any reason.
However, for those who cant do without them for one reason or the other, make sure they are well catered for, so that when they misbehave and you reacted accordingly, you will be justified.
May God help us all.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Vampires !!!!![/quote]you just said whats in my mind.............shes a vampire.

[quote author=Mynd_44]I am going to be sitting in my farm trying to sleep.[/quote]lol at sitting in your farm...............
Happy Easter to you and yours.
Ere le maa mubo lati oko o......... Amin.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Always spend mine with family and we have a fun filled weekend...egg hunting with the kiddies (I'm such an agbaya when it comes to that), BBQing, church service on Sunday and more partying.

One of brother's Birthday almost always falls a day before, on or a day after Easter (except this year...very weird) so we try to have a separate Happy BD whoo whoo for him...have to do that so he doesn't feel lost in the shuffle of Easter celebration.

Okay off topic a bit... was it just me or did anyone else think Easter (and Christmas) was like a month long (okay not a month long but longer than one day) event as a kid? I honestly used to think Easter longer than it really was because of the celebratory atmosphere that started around the fasting and all. With Christmas, I thought it started December 1st. Imagine my shock when it slowly dawned on me that it wasn't a whole month or weeks (for the Eid Holidays) affair.

You know what, I think that's what I miss most about holidays now as an adult...the. . .the...I don't know the word I wanna use....maybe that sense of the [i]neverendingness[/i]of things when we were kids. Sigh!

Ah well, it is still good!

Happy Easter all!!![/quote]lol @agbaya at egg hunting, its one of those things jare, we need it once in a while, abeg "nkan ti eye ba je lo ma gbefo"


as regards easter holiday being long, you know it all started from the 40days fasting, fastforward to maundy thursday and the holiday gangan starts on Good friday through Easter Monday, hence, its seemingly long holiday.
And as for Chrismas, the noise about it makes the season looks like holiday, santa claus visit usually starts in Naija on december 1st, and the new year saga also add to the feferity......lol.

Abeg, keep my part of your brother's bithday package which as you described should be in less than 2weeks now and my warmest wishes to him.

Happy Easter to you and your family.

jidegirl12: Sisi you cracked me up again in the middle of the night .... Yeah we are still in bed here( baby's tantrums) sighs

@Topic.... We are going to church tomorrow morning( I baked some killer pies for after church service snack and I'm getting some hot beverage on our way tomorrow.. Ah well I like to be all chaircoverish most times)

Then we invited 2 families
to gobble gobble our turkey&stuffing and ofcourse my annual Easter egg hunt.... I hope they brought their snow boots, I'm hiding those creme filled eggs in the snow this year, no mago mago, God save those kids from jedijedi.

Hopefully they leave on time so we can go see a movie( Identity Theft sounds like a good one ) , then work starts tomorrow, yes, no Easter Monday for them unlike other public schools in the city.

#okay I'm falling back under cover,I managed to rock her back to sleep...shhh

Greatgod Happy Easter to you and your entire family, may this season bring us more joy. Amen.

Happy Easter Family section members.

happy Easter to you and your too, by His grace, we shall all celebrate many more of it IJN.




Please o, e rora pelu jedijedi o, hope all these are not too much, well, its their time........let them enjoy themselves and to daddy........my regards!
Love you sis!

k2039: [color=crap] [size=13pt]I don't celebrate anything.
Every holiday is just like any other day.
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are you a Jehovah Witness member?

Long time.......miss you

aadetoyin: Am typing this in front of the church
So after church, its lunch n sleep. Hubby and I were invited to a birthday party so I guess we'll go there later in the day and will visit my second family on our way back home.
Easter monday, am wondering who I am gonna trick tomorrow mornin since its april fool after that I have to attend my friend's introduction. Am so hapi he is finally ready to tie the knot.

thanks for reminding me april fool, come and trick me pls.


And to your friend.......happy married life in advance!!!

Yes! Very many of them enjoy backing, even, my last baby that is 2 years old will go and bring wraper and be asked to be backed, so, many of them enjoy it, you cant compare the heat of the back to the harsh weather outside.

Happy Easter to all and sundry.

We are in Easter period and
knowing fully well that Easter period do not get much noise compared to Chrismas period, how do you intend to celebrate this Easter period in your family.


As for me, we are going to church this morning, after which we visit a family friend on invitation.
Tomorrow, being Easter Monday, a kind of picnic have been planned in our church and i guess its going to take a lot of hours, because so many activities have been lined up to take place, so, that is where we are going to celebrate our Easter Monday.
Work starts on Tuesday, which means, Easter is over.
Lets share and have fun, how are you going to celebrate Easter in your family.
God bless us all and make us to witness more of it in peace and joy IJN.

Once again............
HAPPY EASTER!!!!!!!!

Congratulations to all the new mothers, may the joy be permanent IJN.
@agiboma, congrats and take good care of youself, relax very well, the Lord is your strenght.

@all pregnant ladies here, wishing you safe pregnancy and successful/joyful deliveries.
Love ya all.

Happy Easter to all and sundry.

I have been observing this from my childhood that christmas celebration has always been merrier than Easter celebration.
During Chrismas, we all hear about new cloth line, new shoe lines, hampers, chrismas wishes here and there, children going for santa claus' visits, and other interesting and joyful activities. However, the Easter celebration is not as interesting as that of Chrismas, hardly do kids know what exact we are given break for at our place of work, its less celebrated and interesting in all sense of it, and im bothered on how and why this is so, because, i think Easter should be a very important holiday and festival in the lives of every christian..........so, please, educate me, why Easter is not really celebrated like Christmas.
Thanks you all and happy Easter once again.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

THIS JOY SHALL BE PERMANENT.

waleadex: @OP,I won't totally agree with you that men are envious of their kids.Some fathers are men and some are boys.Like in your case,I am very confident yours is a man...lol.I am sure he's not envious of the kids but perhaps he's the type who is very lively.But the age,especially of the male,is very important.At a certain age of a son a father should be able to decide wether to caution his boy playing with his mum's body parts or not,or admiring his mum's dress especially when the mum is curvaceous....winks!!! As for me,a father of four,my son(2yr+) is the last child and I don't complain when he fiddles with his mum's body but as soon as he attains say age 6/7 I will surely stop him so as not be become an habit for him.On the part of his mum buying stuffs for him,I am not envious but jealous cus I was nt 'born with silver spoon in my mouth'-know what I mean?Ok!
Besides,on the part of my daughters age 15yrs,12yrs(twins),I only appreciate them cus they are beautiful.On few occasions,I get jealous only when I see them all together with their mum discussing especially silently.I can just go on and on and on.
So,as a father,I am not envious but can be jealous as stated above.

oh yes! We are getting there, so, if i have o boy of 10+ of age, is it normal for the boy to admire the mum or not, just this afternoon, i got dressed for an owambe party, and my first son came and wispered in my ears........"mum, you are just too beautiful"..........is that bad?, though, hes just 6+, but im sure if dad was at home, he would have done as usual............leave my wife alone, when you have yours, admire her.......blah, blah, blah, i know its all joke, but is that type of joke normal?
Thanks.

jidegirl12: My sister oh

And because they're involved for 6 years secretly makes it possible in Nigeria.

I've seen ( with my korokoro eyes ) a pastor's wife declared lesbian after 25 years of marriage and currently married ( common law) her sister in law ofcourse she left the church voluntarily and No she wasn't ALUUed!

o.k then!
I concur!
Afi ki Olorun gba wa o.

Men and their funny acts sha.......

davidylan: My brother, even apostle peter was married. Dont tell me his wife wasnt playing his sax.

yes o, i have a pastor friend, who confided in me that his wife use to complain that he comes out too early and that he had to buy viagra(s..ex enhancemen drug), to make the act interesting for both of them,i encouraged him, in his case, his wife is more s...exually active than him, and he doesnt want to tempt his wife, hence his action.
Bottom line..............do not give room for each other's deprivation, no matter how spiritual one is, marriage is ordained by God, for many reasons, of which satisfaction in intimacy is part of, so, if its within marriage, anything is allowed..........including oral........so, op, tell your aunty to compromise, no cause for alarm, i was too naive when i got married, but now, i've been educated, and i don do graduation sef, no need to be ashamed there, sometimes, when my hubby say, "o ti gbona gan o, i usually reply him that, i got certificate to phuck and phuck, my parents even handed me over to you to phuck me well.......lol

I give 3 gbosas for the first wife.

The first wife is the only wife who married him, i mean Wasiu, other women married his money, not him, so, no big deal, my respect for that woman who has been with him when he was nobody.

Goodluck to the baby though.

This one na real mumu+dumb police officer.

OMG!!!
This man deserve an award!

JacobLouis: Even if u don't wanna imagine it,dese things happen all the time

for where Pls, definately not in Nigeria.........
And i even think, this looks like one of those unedited scripts of BOLLYWOOD..........

dayokanu: Some men feel once kids come, They become strangers in the house as the wife only minds the children and he is left out

so, this is one of your fears.........the fear of being neglected, okay o, we wont neglect you, we will try as much as possible to balance things up btwn dad and kids.
May Gd help us all.

@CC, of course, its jokingly, but sometimes......."ibi ere la ti ngbo otito oro", that my friend's hubby i talked about in the original post didnt seemed to be joking o, from the countenance on his face, and did you read k4kenny's post on this thread, does that look like a joke?..........some men can be funny, you know...........

k4kenny: Of course they are. Some men can't stand it when their wives are giving the kids so much attention. M̶̲̅ε̲̣ am so demonstrative in shwing affection for my kids, plenty of hugs nd kisses . Hubby doesn't really complains, he just stares with a funny expression like 'what's wron with this one sef?'
I was once at a family function where a 13month old boy was playing with his mum's b00bs (boys and b00bs sef ), the husband on seeing that, came over to them with such anger and slapped off the kid's hand saying ' how many times have I warned you not to play with my wife's b00bs ). He hit the baby so hard I was shocked, thought that was a bit over reactive. His wife clearly wasn't happy to see her lil boy spanked so hard but she just kept quiet.
I don't know the reason for their jealousy, maybe d daddys should come and explain from their own perspective.

yeah! Thank you, that bosom area is another area that men act so funny, reminds me of about 2 months ago, when i weaned my last baby, each time the little boy comes around and touch the bosoms, my hubby would jokingly be telling him........."what do you want there again, havent i tried enough, i borrow you this thing for 2 years and you are still coming to touch it after 2 years, dont you know its mine," blah,blah,blah......
These men, ehn, i dont know what to say, hardly can you see a wife(mother) complaining that her hubby is giving more attention to her kids than her, its these men that always find something to compain about as regards kids attention, well, as you have said, i think the men will have to come and defend themselves here or betterstill, come tell us why they are behaving as such.

Are Men(fathers) Envious/jealous Of Their Kids?


I hope to catch fun and at the same time learn from this thread.



From my observations, it seem many men(fathers) are envious/jealous of their kids, especially the male ones.
Any time im back from salon, or i put on a new cloth, or a new shoe, or whatever new, and one or all of my kids try to admire and appreciate my style b4 their dad, their dad jokingly and always complain that its not their duty to admire another man's wife, that, its the duty of the husband......lol.

Early this morning, i went to a friend's place, i went there to give her an ankara we bought and sew together, so, she decided to wear her own in my presence, in case there will be any adjustment, so that i could return it to the tailor for necessary adjustment, so she went inside the room to wear it, and as she was coming back to the living room to show me how fitted the dress is, her boy, screamed, WOW!, IT LOOKS GOOD ON YOU, but before the boy landed, his dad interrupted him and i quote............."how many times have i told you that it is a gross disrespect to my person to admire my wife before me, she is my wife and your own mother, so do not perfeorm the husband's duty, im still alive"
i opened my mouth in amazement and couldnt close it, and as i was just looking in amazement, the man faced me and asked......"abi, mi o right"(am i not right?) i quickly replied...."beeni sir(yes sir), but within me, i was like....WTF, is it a crime for a child to admire his mother's beauty b4 the father?
Another instance is when you buy stuffs for the children, without buying for the men, the next thing one will be hearing is....."you dont care for me again, its only your kids you now care for, but it wasnt like this b4 the kids started coming in".....blah, blah, blah, but when you buy something for them, and do not buy for the kids, you wont hear anything..... .......lol......men sometimes behave like babies.........

Actually, someone may tell me that its just a mere joke, but, "ibi ere laa ti ngbo ooto oro"..........
Why is this always so, do we say men are envious/jealous of their kids or what, and i have heard many women saying the same thing about their hubby.

So, wives, lets share, do you experience the same with your husbands.......and men, is it so?, if yes, why?
May God help us all.

OMG!!!
This is gross wickedness, even if the person that did this doesnt believe in God, what about respect for humanity

Human beings!!!
The heart of a man is desperately wicked, who can know it?


Olorun ku aibinu o.

All the above comments are all commendable, it shows that we ladies are now facing reality and that we are already wise up.
However, i think my own idea/opinion is quite different............i support my hubby, infact,, let me say, we do almost everything together, including building projects, cars,savings for kids,e.t.c, but, it is mandatory that on the receipt and other documents, both our names appear, its not just....Mr&Mrs.......anybody can be the Mrs, so, its my first name and his first name, with the surname.......ON EVERY DOCUMENTS AND PROPERTIES, with that, i think, if any unforseeable happens in the future, i have nothing or little to loose, and did i forget to say that the custody is not even with any of us, both of us will have to sign b4 getting any of the document.

I dont have any separate savings, i act on utmost good faith along with maximum wisdom.

The idea was from him and i agreed to it, because i think it wise for me to accept.

I dont pray for such and i wont experience such, but, i think i have already secured my future.
May God help us all.

@op, how can one use the leaves
Thanks.