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I will pray against it, because i believe that when i pray, God answers.
Btw, the child is a gift from God to me, so, its not possible, because, God is not wicked, and as a man thinks, so is he, therefore, i will always think positive.

greatgod2012: As a matter of fact, all though my primary school, na rubbish i dey sing, for, the Lord's prayer, i got that around pry4-5, but national anthem, not until i got to J. S. S 3, when one of our "sisters(went to catholis school), dealt with us and gave it as an assignment for all of of us, since then, i've mastered it, but, it wasnt easy o.

nikkypearl: [quot author=greatgod2012]This topic will be very interesting if it gets to the FP.


honestly!av bin begging d mods 2take it! Share yo own sis abi u dey form ni?

i have already done that, sis......and this is it.

chaircover: the devil is in trouble again cos he is going to get the blame for this

. . . .after the devil comes the wife for not sexuallly satisfying her husband

sounds like he has been doing this for a while and its really sad because the end result of this is for people to be wary of putting their kids up for adoption thus causing some people to choose abortions or baby abandonment.

well said ma, the devil will have to defend himself that judgement day sef.........so depressing!

This topic will be very interesting if it gets to the FP.

slimyem: ...as it was in the beginning.....remember?

biolabee: True that .........sodom n gomorhha

thanks, its true.

If you know his full name, which i believe you must, then, type his name on google search, the google will link you to all areas where his name can be found.


Wishing you best of luck in your search.

nat138: why don't they visit her as well since they love her so much, we are only human and we all have only 24 hours in a day. She can't divide herself into segments o. The best thing to do is to arrange a picnic once in a while, that is assuming most of these loved ones live in the city. At least everyone coming together once in a while will not leave others feeling left out.

Mayflowa: One can really live for others and put yourself under pressure. Effective time schedule and honesty about her work and childcare should solve the problem. If they so love her, they should pay her visit too.

thanks, but, my question is that, are they going to be expecting visitors every now and then, plus the fact that, they arent really financially bouyant enough for frequent visits(she didnt tell me this, i assume) and also, the grandmas are too old to be travelling up and down.

Nice write-up, though, i dont agree with some points.



No two marriage can ever be the same, s, i will say, you continue that which your spouse love about you.
Conclusively............do unto your spouse that which you want him/her do unto you.


May God help us all.

thatchick: Am 26,working and d next step right now for me is marriage.
I just feel like moving on but age is not on my side anymore..

this is the aspect i will like to address...............DONT BE DESPERATE TO DO CRAZY THING because YOU THINK AGE IS NOT BY YOUR SIDE.

So many ladies have committed this avoidable mistake, because they think they are age constraint, sit down and evaluate that your relationship, put aside your age, and if it worth going into marriage for, then, goodluck, if not, drop it and move forward, you are an adult and i believe you should know what you want, especially in a life-time committment like marriage, but if your reason of wanting to marry soon is because of your age, you are on your own, dont come back here and scream again after the marriage.
I wish you goodluck.

Nice thread!

Now, this is where i think having some gadgets can be challenging, e.g dishwasher, vacuumcleaner, washing machine, but with discipline one can get there.

First thing first, i dont do pets and i doubt if i can introduce it to them, maybe, when they are older, they will decide that.

Now to the koko..............keeping and cleaning their rooms tidy, including laying their beds, yes, very appropriate.

Dishwasher...............this is one of the challenging gadgets, let each of them(except the youngest) wash their plates each time they are thru with their meals.

Sweeping.................if the eldest is around 8 or above, then, its appropriate to sweep, at least the corridor, garage, and other places where vaccum cleaner cant be used.

Washing of cloth, thanks to Damiso, for talking about sorting, but i normally dont allow washing machine prevent me from asking them to wash..........so, while i stay with them to supervise, each of them (except the youngest who is just 2)washes their inners(pants, boxers&inner wears), and socks.

As per my only girl, i always want her around when in the kitchen to learn and keep my company, she is the one that always help me to unwrap my seasonings........lol, helps to pick beans, helps to remove skin from my palamu/agbodo .........lol.

Picking and washing their toys, after messing them up all around the whole place.

Yes, i also ask them to mop when and after laundry.

Those are the one i can remember for now, i hope i make sense sha.

A friend of mine ran to me asking for advice, which i couldnt say much, because, im almost also affected by the same problem.
She said her problem is that everyone (her loved one) always want her to be around them, not minding her marital status, for example, her hubby is the type that always want her to be around to welcome him each time hes back from work.
Also, when her mother calls, its "its been a while and you dont even mind visiting me again, pls, bring my grandkids to come and play with me" (that while might just be 2 weeks o).
What about MIL, she too always want her to be with her, even with the kids.......lol.
Her sisters and brothers are also the same, always complaining that she has abandonned them because shes now married.

SIL&BIL nko, always claiming (although jokingly)that, its not only their brother that shes married to, they are also inclusive, so, she must have a time to visit them(in their different individual homes o).

And friends, those ones are just too crazy about the whole thing.


Now about her..........
Shes a working class mother and wife.
She wasnt and isnt the outgoing type.
Shes the type that will not like to offend anyone, hence, her worry on how she can cope.
She has 2 little ones that shes taking care of.



Its quite understandable that shes loved by them all and also obvious that shes a nice lady that they all want to have around, but, how does she cope? Can she tell them straightaway that, she doesnt have time or what?

I have thought about it for about 4 days now, but i couldnt really say much, because im also almost in the same shoe with her, hence, my coming to NL.
So, peeps, help me to advise this friend of mine and im optimistic that i will also learn from it as well, and some other people.
Thanks for your anticipated responses.

But, sincerely, @ op, there is an iota of doubt in this your post, because, all the women i have known never play with taking care of themselves, infact, hardly can you see a woman who will not have her bath at least twice a day.

But, if its true sha, my first post is still there.
Thanks.

If your brother really love her, then, love suffers all things. Therefore, your brother should tell her with and in love, he can get a book on the advantages and positive effects of neatness and give it to her as gift, or he can goggle the effect of dirtiness on ones health, homes and family and send it to her e-mail or her facebook account page, so that, she get to read it.
No one is perfect, it might be as a result of her upbringing by whoever it might be.
Wishing her goodluck.

Hope this thread helps.......



https://www.nairaland.com/992047/what-age-should-children-left

This is our way of life too. Its the foundation that both of them have laid for themselves, ever b4 getting married, its called respect for each other and its the best way for couples to live and i really admire her.

How can i be in a place and my hubby wont authoritatively say where i am and vice-versa.

So,@op, it is respect and her opinion has to be repected by her friends who think shes getting it wrong.

It would have been tagged fear if what she use to say is........"if i go now and my hubby find out or come home b4 me and find out, im in serious problem", then, its fear, but in this case now, the hubby cant even know what she doing or where she is, but still deem it fit to carry him along, its respect, and from your post, that is what her hubby also do to her.


If all couples are like this, there would be more sanity, trust and respect for each other in marriage, which can go a long way in reducing rate of divorce.
May God help us all

I love everything about my mother.............though, she might have her inadequacies, we are all humans, i also have greater inadequacies.
God, pls, continue to bless and keep her for me, i cant afford to miss her now, shes an inestimable jewel.

Its not bad, but the friend has to be known and accepted by the two of us, infact, such friend becomes a family friend, the same way my hubby's female friends/colleague friends have to be known and accepted by us.
Why will i deny my male friends because of marriage, any man infuriated by such is suffering from INSECURITY and insecurity is one of the cankerworms eating up marital trust.
May God help us all.






P. S......this topic has been trashed many times, @op, you can use local search to get more reply if you arent satisfied with the ones you get here.
Shalom!!!

biolabee: Brah it's a mata of time

abi o...........no be this naija pple, wey no dey carry last for anything bad.



Chai!battery low!

taryour: I completely agree with u madam. And as for their father I will make sure he dosnt set his eyes on those kids until he is ready to take the actions he ought to have taken.

and do you know, my sister, that there are some fathers who are just "father figure" in the house? such is the father in this case.
May God never let us end up with such a man as hubby/father.

Being too simple is not good as a parent, but being too harsh can be more than deadlier to the kids. So, parents, lets all try to balance this.
May God help us all.




Btw, God forbid!, if this happens in my family, i wont mind going to jail for the sake of my kids, because, i must to kill that evil dude and i mean it.................but.........GOD FORBID!!!

k2039: Just wondering, if their dad was dead long before now, wouldn't they have survived.

irumi to njo lori omi, onilu re wa nisale omi.


I dont want to believe that someone else is not the masterplanner, the person i dont authoritatively say, but, most likely their mother, because, she might be feeling cheated.

Let us all parent start to explain this concept to our children and the evil attached to it, in addition to prayers for them, so that, none of our children will go towards that direction, because, i personally see it as evil, be it in secret or openly.
May God help us all.

[quote author=Brand_new]Thank God this did not happen in Nigeria.[/quote]and who told you that it wont still happen in Nigeria? Abi no be Nigerians wey good at immitating, abeg, you go soon hear weeeehn.

I hate to say this, but its apparently the truth that, lesbianism and gayism are both evil and its one of the signs of the end time.


May God help us all o.

Im afraid, because as it has been made opened and legal in S/A now, those gays in Nigeria are already empowered, we will soon hear notice of gay weddings here as well, no more hiding, no more fear of being harrassed/arrested, some pple don front.
Okay, i cross my legs dey look o.

May God help us in Africa.

Effect of separated parents/family.


I woudnt be surprised if their mother is the masterplanner of the whole thing.


May God help us all.

As a matter of fact, all though my primary school, na rubbish i dey sing, for, the Lord's prayer, i got that around pry4-5, but national anthem, not until i got to J. S. S 3, when one of our "sisters(went to catholis school), dealt with us and gave it as an assignment for all of of us, since then, i've mastered it, but, it wasnt easy o.

Such is life.
But this pple should remember that, one day too, they will be no more and its what they do that pple will say about them.


May the dead rest in peace and may God sennd helpers to their children.

OMG!!!
Is this greed or poverty?.........i think its both.
May God always protect us and our loved ones from greedy poor people.

If these pple can sell their own children at such ridiculous prices, what more can we say about strangers, pple who are not known to them.


Lord, thy kingdom come!

It is well!