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[quote author=Okiki_Oluwa]It's tragic o!
I don't think you wanna laugh after reading it.[/quote]really

tchidi: I know a woman that sleeps like mad!! It embarrases me sef! One time we were on a survey n went to see the chairman of one LG in kebbi state, few minutes into our talk, she had slept off..
She says every morning she leaves masaka for Central area (ABJ), she sleeps off, passes her office and wakes up at Berger last bustop, so she has to take a bus back to Central Area!

lmao

Btw, this topic is not family oriented, i think it belongs to general section.

Not all of them, not even many, but the few of them, whom i think suffers from inferiority complex, usually think because of their small stature, they might be cheated, therefore, they fight for their rights "aggressively".

[quote author=Okiki_Oluwa]Last Bullet: There's a tragic story of a lady who slept off while travelling from Ibadan to Lagos...But that's to be shared another time.[/quote]pls, share, so that we will all laugh and at the same time learn from it. Thanks.

This thread is becoming interesting.

Personally, i think at this age, they need a little fear, if not, they fit disgrace someone for public o, i remember the other time i said i use "egba tinrin" on my kids and aunti Jide said it shouldnt be, but believe me, shakara works faster for this kids, but by the time they start getting to 10years upward, then, they can understand better when you try to explain.

Presently, im away from home, to pay visit to my brother, on getting there, i met some 2 boys who are not part of their children, believe me, this boys(they should be around 7 and 9), i tell you, they are spoilt, even my brother's wife is just tired about the kids, they dont respect anybody, when i was eating, they just put hand in my food and started eating, i was receiving call and they were hyjacking phone from me, saying they wanted to play games, and they have never seen me before o, it was yesterday night that i got there that was the first time they would see me, imagine that, my brother's wife explained how her younger sister use to indulge the boys because she doesnt want the boys to be fearful, but is that the of respect/training we are talking about, i believe if their parent had been a little more strict, they wouldnt have probably be like that. The essence of this my story is that, at those little little age, they need more shakara, when they seems not to cooperate easily.
The only thing is that, after the shakara, embrace them again and explain to them that its not that you hate them, but only for them to turn out well.
Parenthood is not an easy job, may God give us the requires wisdom to administer properly and discipline appropriately and give us the grace to reap our effrt on them...... Amen.

May God continue to console the parents.

I always mix shea-butter with glycerine for use for all my kids and i have never seen any one of them with any skin or hair problem, its amazing, its one of the wonderful natural substance God bless us with. I recommend it for all mothers, infact, for all families.

zayhal: I love both! No preferences. Each should come at the right time. Inability to menstruate is a problem, not getting pregnant is trouble. If you encounter people who have problem with menstruation or can't get pregnant, they'll tell you they don't mind all the associated wahala! If others can cope, they can too. That's what they'll tell you.

I thank God for making me a woman, and giving me the strength and all it takes to LIVE a complete woman.

this is exactly what im talking about, if God give us strenght and grace to be though with all the associted problems, then there is no need to dodge any, and of course no need to regret being a woman, God who created us knows we will be better off being women and he knows men too will be better off being men, so, no cause for alarm, its just strength and grace that we need, and all those things we think are difficult becomes easier.
May God help us all.

tchidi: For sleeping during short journeys, u don't know what the person has been tru that day! Mutum ba jaki ba! ( Person no be horse)....fatigue is not a respecter of person oº°˚!

yeah! Thats true, but not in less than 15 minutes journey that is even within the same town......

[quote author=Okiki_Oluwa]It's understandable if it's a long distance journey of over 8hrs.
But if it's between a short distance of one state to another which is between 1-2hrs i.e: Plateau to Kaduna State, it's not good.
However, if you wanna sleep, carry dark shaded glasses for your face if you are the shy type & place your head where you ll not likely rest it on the shoulder of the passenger(s) beside you.
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Last Bullet: Some people can't even hold their sleep for 30minutes when they are in a commercial vehicle. Imagine a short journey in a BRT from Ketu Mile 12 to Ojota in Lagos which is not up to 15minutes if the road is traffic free. You ll see people dozing off like fowls wey get bird flu.
The most annoying are those that ll rest their heads on your shoulder, snore & even drop a litre of stinking saliva on your cloth. Damm it's just so irritating.[/quote]lol at stinking saliva.....

So, u mean some people can sleep off in a journey of less than 15 minutes?, if yes, then, e get as e be o...........

sexy glow: What of her parents,I mean her Mum & Dad?haven't heard anything about them or her relatives apart from her hubby Mr Andrew..why auction her things?

her mum is no more and her dad with her siblings are well comfortable, so, what do you want them to do with her properties

This is just to lay more emphasis on the vanity of everything, lets take it easy, because, as we can see it now, ALL IS VANITY UPON VANITY....says the word of God.


Continue to RIP, Goldie, another reminder/lesson learnt from your death.

slimyem: Yes o..and its nothing to be ashamed of especially when i'm travelling on roads i have travelled countless times.Its just boring watching trees go by.Infact,that's why i like sitting by the window so i can rest my side or head when sleep beckons,with dark shades on and my ears plugged with a earpiece too.

lol@ your black shade and your earpiece............so that other passengers will not know that you are no longer in this same place with them, they wont be able to know that you are already far away..........i love your style.

Freiburger: No, not even in an aircraft.

you must be a good observer then.
I have observed that when i travel, i observe everything i see along the journey, i even ask questions from those who sit beside me, i always want to know about every junction, every tree i see.......funny?, yes, i know but its kind of relieveing ones tension.

991: I didn't know if i slept or not, all i know is that i was woken up by the woman next to me just to inform me that we are now in Berger bus stop.

thank God for the good samaritan that sat beside you, if not so........na osodi straiiiiiiiiiight, you for know say, u don reach Lagos

You know what, i was discussing this issue with someone, and he said and i quote....."i use to sleep in public vehicles before, but i can never do it again, because, through sleeping, i have for once lost my bag and i have also missed dropping at the busstop i was supposed to stop, it cost me a lot of money and stress before i got back to my presupposed busstop"
on hearing this, i laugh so teeeh, i almost fell off a chair, but jokes apart, this is one of the adverse effects of sleeping while travelling with/through public transport system.

Sometimes, when i travel, i do travel through and with public transport system, since im not used to driving a long distance, what amazes me is the way people sleep during the journey. You see very handsome guys and very pretty babes all swaggling their heads inside the vehicles, some, even to the extent of snoring.....chai!sleeping in a commercial vehicle is what i have never done, so, it amazes me how and why people sleep in commercial vehicles that is always filled with people that are almost not known to us.
Its another thing, if its a private vehicle, at least few people and known people are the ones the person is going to be together with, but in a public car/buses, nay, i dont subscribe to it at all, but i know those who do it must have their reasons for it, so, lets share, this is weekend, lets relieve our tension and laugh/learn.
Also, the positive and negative effects of sleeping in public vehicles can also be discussed, which may serve as a kind of lesson to others.
Thanks and may God help us all.

Does coming from poor family means the person will also be poor, if not, then why not?? I, personally think character and prospect of the person is more important than his/her family background.

I married my man and hels from poor background, he was also still poor financially then, but very rich in character and prospect, 8+ years now and still counting, i've never regretted marrying him, because we've built outselves together, we've pooled our resources together, though we aint very wealthy, but now, we are comfortable to some extent, so, op, there is nothing wrong in someone marrying from a poor background, its the person involved that matters.
May God help us all.

First of all, set a target, plan how you are going to spend your income in percentage, like 30% for them, 35% for youself and the remaing 35% for saving, and let your siblings know that you also have to plan for your future.

Be wise, dont turn yourself into mumu, from what i read here, you should have less to do, because the one who is teaching in a secondary school should be able to take care of himself without bothering you, and the one serving should also be able to manage his/her allowance judiciously and prudently without bothering you as such, so, let them know that, they too can manage the little income they are earning for themselves without disturbing you, you can also advise them to find some other things doing, like petty trading, to attract additional income, so, you will only be left with the ones still in school, and even those ones should also learn to do something too to earn more little little income, that will help to reduce the rate at which they will depend on you..........look, my brother, "oun ti aye ba so eniyan da ni won ma fi bu", if you dont plan yourself and your future now, and you are spending all you have on them, God forbid, if any financially-related problem happens to you and you are unable to solve it, of course, people will ask you how come you dont have saving.
Yes, you have to be there for them, to help them, but be wise with it.


Marrying at 28, is not too early, but before you achieve that, you have to start planning for it now.
May God help you and give you the wisdom needed for you to take the right decision.

Not again, in this section, after all tgirl's warning on this section.........i tire o.


May God help us all.

ifyalways: My sweet coffee
You are blended and brewed just for me.
We were sealed and stuck from the first kpekus.
Its been fun unlimited in our world
You, the king, I, the queen.

Like 2 ogbe ara nwanyi asaba
We've seen and done it all.
Pointing, standing, dropping, sagging.
We're still on same chest
Love eternal.

ify, i gbadun you..........


You and this kpekus yii sha, well, its one of the important/essential things that hold marriages together.

That is how God designs it and i doubt if there is anything we can actually do about it, all we just need is grace and power to carry on.

Since you said the car was a wedding gift, dont sell it, because those who gave you the car might be wondering why you aint using the car or why you sold the car, so, i dont subscribe to you selling it, besides, your wiffy is preggy, you might need d car for so many run-arounds, including when your wife will fall into labour and also for post-natal visits(with your baby), its not easy to carry baby in commercial vehicles in lagos o.



Now, that been said, what actually brought down your income Did you stop your private lesson after your wedding or what Did you resign from where you were working and concentrate only on private lesson? because, you are a man, i dont really understand why your income dropped after getting married, if it had been a woman now, we would have said maybe, because of pregnancy or something, but here, you are a man and you need money, i will suggest you dont relent in your better job hunt and i pray that the good Lord will provide a better job for you, you can as well be conversant with vacancy/job section of this great forum, who knows, you might be lucky to get a better job there.
I wish you goodluck and your wife safe and joyful delivery.

jidegirl12: ^^I'm soo scared I will kill a cow that day(s )

what are you scared about?

And killing cow for what?

Anytime i read stories like this, i usually wonder how a man will see his own child(his blood) and his p*enis will erect, its absurd, its barbaric, its evil, its...................chronically sicknening.....chai!,

luvmijeje: She is very exuberant when it comes to greetings. One of the things we discussed was for her to limit the ways she greets i.e hugging and holding especially the male folks. Then she ask me including her dad? I no fit answer dat question o.

why cant you answer that, tell her she can hug, kiss, hold her dad, but the day dad start saying, "you are now a big girl o, and trying to touch your bwests or trying to do something funny with her, she should inform mum straightaway, before things go beyond imagination, so many wierld things are happening now, so, not keeping quiet is one of the preventive measures one can take, when her mum comes back, tell her what you told her daughter when she was away.
May God help us all.

luvmijeje: Am baby sitting two of my nieces whose parent travelled. One of them came to me an hour ago to showed me her stained pant, in frightened voice she ask me what's happenening. The first thing I did was to tell her to take her bath and then showed her how to use a pad.
It is now time for girls talk and I'm tempted to tell her the same thing her mother told me when I saw mine which is don't played with boys. Also she told me if anyboy touches me I would instantly be pregnant.
What should I tell her? Should I tell her the same thing?

i doubt, if at almost 12 yrs old, she doesnt have idea of what is happening to her body, at least, she must have been in secondary school now, and they must have been taught in their basic science and home economics subjects, so, i believe she was just pulling your legs.
Meanwhile, having been taught does not mean they dont need s. ex education at and from home, because she will be freer to ask any question at home than from any other place, including the school. Now to what you will tell her.........pls, when telling her, use the real words, dont try to be diplomatic about it at all, call every part its name...........tell her......
-shes now a lady, no more a girl.
-what happened to her is a sign that shes now a lady, and the sign will be coming every month, and its called monthly period.
-she shouldnt feel ashamed about it, all ladies and women pass thru the same thing.
-guys will want to be around her now, therefore, she should be careful and very observant with them, because they can lure her into s..ex now, which can lead to her getting pregnant when shes not ready for it, which may put an obstacle to her future dreams, and unfortunately, shes the only one who will suffer for it, because it doesnt affect the boys, they will continue their education, while you will be at home nurturing pregnancy and baby, and that only a few ladies get second chance and she might not be that fortunate then, therefore, she should be extra-careful with guys.
-her body will start to develop rapidly now, including her bwests, and she will start to have hair in some part of the body like armpit and v..agina, she should always take care of those places very well and shouldnt for any reason allow anyone to touch her in those places, be it man or woman.
-during the time of her periods, she might experience pain, she shouldnt be afraid, almost all women experience it, its called PMS(premenstrual syndrome).
-a lady carries herself with dignity, therefore, she should limit all the girls and boys play,because shes now a lady, she should carry herself well like a lady.
@op, very many points here, give her total sex education.
Its our duty to let these young ones be educated sexually, having been educated, they guard their lions with it.
May God help us all.

toofine765: I honestly understand what she is going through cos I am in the same shoes as she is. My hubby for one does not even like me going out once I come back from work but I try as much as possible to keep in touch, I call and jist as often as I can and also get my kids to writting sweet innocent letters which we send out at special occasions. My mum for one cherishes every gift and letter she receives from those little ones. The bottom line is that she should make them feel special by keeping in touch often and also encourage them to come visiting.

thanks for this, but the calling requires lot of money now, anyway, even, i myself will try that letter stuff......

@op, whether you agree or not, this is 2013, for goodness sake, yes, women do a lot to turn houses to homes, but that should not make a woman become financial liability, yes, for a man to be the only one who will be responsible for all the financial obligations can be frustrating, infact, can kill the man earlier than when responsibilities are shared, i cant ever feel comfortable asking for money for EVERYTHING i will need from an individual like myself........as in WTF Do i want to kill him

Like one of the posters above said, some women earn far more that what their hubbies earn, should one now allOw that to waste because of traditional roles oF women, which even turn some women in the olden days to a more or less slaves or helpless, what could they do.....nothing!, if complaints of the woman is too much, you will hear pple asking the woman what her problems are, they will even call her ingrate, that, upon all the man is doing, shes still complaining, afterall, she doesnt bring anything home......blah, blah, blah............

Biblically, the intention God had for creating the institution of marriage is for the couple to be helpmates, now, if emphasis is on women giving birth, is the man the only parent/owner of the child/ren(obinrin bimo funra e, loun bimo foko oun)....when the children turn out to be what we want them to be, and they start rewarding the parents, is it only the fathers they reward, so, its not a favour to the men, its mutual respnsibility.
As regards women advising men and praying for men, if its a normal marriage/family, it is mutual, i've seen several women in top places, due to their hubby's advice and prayers.........myself inclusive, so, not a favour, its mutual responsibility.
In conclusion, even in biblical times, when Solomon described the virtuos woman, diligency and business idea are part of the qualities he said about her, which means, she was not only comfortable with traditional roles of women, she was helping her hubby financially.


Now, it depends on individual marriage, whatever rocks your marriage boats, but, personally, i refuse to be a financial liability to my hubby.


May God help us all.

From experience, snoring has to do with tiredness and position of sleeping, anytime im so tired or i sleep lying with my back, i will definately snore, so, i will recomend what my hubby usually do when i snore..........the day i snore, he will wake me up and ask me to sleep and lie with my side, it has always worked, u toocan try it, love conquers all, apart from waking me up to ask me to change my sleeping position, he never complain about it, only when he want to crack jokes, e.g, when im being too busy, he can say, stop overworking yourself o,because when you are so tired, u snores.....blah blah blah.
May God help us all.
Btw, im not a heavy snorer o, let nobody shout on me o.
P. S........i dont think snorers know that they snore until they are told, like my own case, i dont know i snore until im told.




The above was my comment in a related thread sometimes ago................you can check the thread out, it might help.

https://www.nairaland.com/1138608/how-deal-snoring-bedmate