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temi4fash: Sowi ma bad....

just wondering y a guy wuld b chasing a 16 year old...

May God help us all....

temi4fash: how old r u....

may be you will have to read the post again, hes 19 and the girl is 16.

What can you do?

What you can do is to make your parents be happy and proud of you by focusing on your education and planning to become somebody people will be proud of, if you and this girl are meant to be together as husband and wife, nature has a way of doing that, but now, advise and allow the little girl to face her studies and you also face your studies. Dont you know that your parents did a very wonderful job by training you up to this stage, do you want to add to their problem by impregnating and having a baby you cant by yourself take care of wholly, abi, are you ready to be a father now
May God guide you and give you the required wisdom to know how to do the right thing at the time......... Amen.

Nowhere is safe again, not even churches/orphanage homes.

Chai! These days, its so difficult to trust anyone again, not even clerics, na wa o................... Oh Lord, let your kingdom come, so that its only your will that will always be done.
Sincerely, im sick and tired of all these types of news and i hope justice prevails.
May God help us all.

@K2039, i just hope you've learnt one or more things on this thread, that will help you in your marriage later on.
May God guide you into getting married to the right partner and also give you the power and grace to be a right partner yourself.

k2039: So, what happens if you are also in the mood.
Will you deprive yourself of gratifying you urge because you trying to punish her (I forgot, there are other alternatives, other ladies)

that to him is how to resolve issues with his wiffy, which to me, is wrong, why cant he address the whole thing and get it over just there.
Marriage requires selflessness and seex shouldnt be used as weapon of punishment by any of the spouse.
May God help us all.

Before any comment, How old is this your nephew?

@jidegirl, im here to plead for e-peace, pls.
@Jidegirl, This is d first time i'll be involved in this type of e-war here, pls, i beg you in the name of the Holy God you serve,,,,,e don do.


@baby, pls, e don do, pls, i beg, words are capable of building and pulling down, and i know that you know that, pls, enough of this, i beg you in the name of God.

@Jenny, pls, e don do,im sure you must have been back from church, so, for the sake of God whom you have gone to worship, its o.k.


@all the aggrieved parties, pls, e don do, make nobody come back here again to put petrol for fire, pls, lets all accept one another the way we are, no one is perfect, pls, its o.k, lets give peace a chance.

@ all, may God help us.

gallantbabe2013: Well my people, am a uk based lady looking for uk based male wanting to settle down . All my friends are married and the most annoying things is that when i call them they always tell me " oh please i will call you back later am chilling with my hubby" . Now how rude is that? anyway is time for me to be Mrs Somebody lol. Am looking for the right man and i need to start saying " oh i will call you back later am chilling with my husband and kids . Please get in touch any male from any part of nigeria is welcomed but please i would prefer a Christian so Muslims don't need to apply i hope i get some responds soon . thanks and God bless you all

if the reason you typed up there is the reason for your getting married, then, my sister.......you are so so wrong, and getting married for the wrong reason can be frustrating, i tell you.
May God help you.

k2039: FAINTS!!!!!

pls, wake up, its reality.

RIP.........Madam!

As if i knew what will come out of this thread, seeing that username made me not to open the thread at all until this time, to just read about the next lie that the op has for us, and as usual, im not dissapointed, well, @op, i just hope you are sincerely a counsellor, because, if you continue with these your stories(lies) here like this, you may scare serious-minded posters away, which may not be good enough, because, you may likely hinder those who sincerely need advice.
May God help you

I dont like selfish people at all, to me, personally, when a lady thinks during courtship, its only the man that should be doing the giving, then, the lady should know that, after marriage, roles must to rotate/reverse, so, if a lady wants to be treated like a queen she is, why cant she also make his man the king he is, so that, even after marriage, the legacy continues, if doing all the receiving is equal to being made a queen, then, selfishness has set in, which i dont subscibe to at all.
For example, if the man calls to say "hi" in the morning, why cant the lady call in the noon also to say "hi"............., if the guy invite the lady for a dinner night, why cant the lady invite the guy at other time.


Relatinships should be "give and take", btwn the parties involved, not one sided.

As for me, i dont even feel comfortable when im always at the receiving end, i must to reciprocate, thats my life and thats how i think it supposed to be.
May God help us all.

May God help you to really discipline yourself and give you the grace and strenght to reduce your obsessions.


In Jesus name i pray.......... Amen.

Baba Oyo: My family-landers......i want to share some experience with you and would like you to discuss how you feel about it.
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Tunde and Wumi were very good friends back from the hood. they later fell in love and became inseparable. Prior to them falling in love, Wumi was a carefree and playful girl.....she will say anything and do whatever she wants with Tunde and he doesn't make her feel "anyhow" about it. she was quite free with him.
As their friendship transformed into love, Tunde noticed some changes over time with her behaviour. Wumi became mellow.......not so daring anymore and a bit cold.
He noticed he had to do "everything" to keep the relationship fun and lively. She was not bringing all her "swags" and aura into the relationship. He had to suggest everything, had to be the one buying the gifts, the only one trying to make her happy, doing most of the calling, initiating the visits and all other fun things. He was surprised Wumi had gotten so laid back and he felt angry after a while. he believed she was being emotionally selfish. Had he not known her prior to them dating he could excuse her as just been a melancholy.
Now, my thoughts, do most women believe the man has to do it all in a relationship while they receive it all? Now we are not talking about money here but emotions. Is it the man that must make you happy, take you out all the time, give you great se.x, buy you gifts, throw you birthday bash, and still remain faithful? Will it be too much to give your man something to keep running back home ro? will making him feel like a king diminish ur feminity?
Why will alk the weight of rhe relationship be on the man? Is that not being selfish? Lemme have ur opinion folks!!!!

@opnot all women are emotionally selfish.
@post, may be they should have continued to maintained their platonic friendship,

Moral of the whole thing...................adults do not need egg yolks, egg yolks are not healthy for adults consumption.

I wish you happy and blissful married life and as for those who messed up on the D-day, thank God it wasnt beyond redemption, and remember that, if it didnt happen that way, you wont learn.
Im sure that the next time you will have any party to hold in Nigeria, you will easily remember your wedding experience, which will eventually help you to plan better.



Once again, happy married life!!!

Not a fan of tattoo and can never be a fan, i just dont like it on anyone's skin.

mysticgal: Train up a child in the way he should go,and when he is old,he would not depart from it,prov 22:6,feel free to contribute.

the first moral training is i give them is contentment, others follow.

herseys01: Once you are turned on, the blood does not flow as much. Also it is medically proven that when you are on your period, the insides of the vagi na are more sensitive, for all women who have not reached the big O (Orgasm), this is the best time to try it. Also your boobs are very tender, if he handles them well and with care, na heaven o

omo se lecture..........you people dey try, but i no fit o

What shall i say than to cross my legs and be watching, anyway, i wish them all well, and i pray that, everyone will reap what is sowed.

tessybaby: Why on earth should she beg her husband. Please let's be realistic when giving advice, we are all human.
OP I would advice you follow CC's advise and if your hubby finally says u did something wrong to make him behave that way, then apologise if you are truely sorry.

oh!, my dear, did you read my post well, where in my post did i ask her to beg if her hubby didnt tell her what she did wrong?
Pls, always read posts well b4 attacking, i wouldnt have replied you if you didnt quote me, pls, read all over and modify accordingly. Thanks.

jeffizy: Madam ....."onikaluku pelu iwa ti e".
Do you know there are some spouses who are so arllegic to corrections?
They misinterpret correction as criticism.

isu atenumo, kii jona


you keep on telling them until they themselves will know the likely reaction.

Invite him/her for a serious discussion........"perfect love cast out fear".
If you truly love your spouse and it seems he/she is misbehaving in one way or the other, the best thing the other party can do is to tell the person, let the person know that you know what he/she is doing and that you dont like it, say it in a loving way and the likely reppercussions of such behaviours and the negative effect such behaviours will have on your marriage and family at large.
May God help us all.

@op, every marriage has its ups and downs, so calm down, its a phase, it will soon pass.
However, i assume you are only assuming, you cant really say what exactly is making him behave the way hes doing until you ask him, what is happening in your marriage is simply known as "communication break-down" ...........so, ny dear sister..........initiate communication, if hes not communicating with you, you communicate with him, initiate it, you dont have to wait for him to start talking with you like b4, you start the way you were doing when you were still dating, prepare delicious food and serve your meals together, while eating, open up a topic with him , but dont let it be about money or care of the child, save part of the money he gives you and buy movie ticket for two pple and invite him along, read books and narrate it to him, watch movie and tell him, just make sure you find something to discuss with him,......as you start all these, you will find avenues to ask what you did wrong all along, and dont be too big to beg him, after telling you what is wrong, from there, discuss with how you will like to start doing something to avoid idleness.
Note of warning...........if he has not started complaing about your weight, do not shed it until you ask him, he might like you the way you are, size 12 isnt much weight, so, do not work on assumption, work on certainty.
I wish you well, your marriage is still young, enjoy it, embrace him, invite him for hot sex, prepare the bed in such a way that he cant just resist you, dress smartly and dont forget to show love to his folks, it goes a long way for men to appreciate.
Above all, involve God in your marriage, always pray for him, d devil might want to deal with him and hes distracting him from what can make him happy, so, pray for his happiness, pray for everything that has to do with him, i will recommend the book....."the power of a praying wife" to you, it will help you to know the areas you will pray for about him.
May God help us all.

Never!
It cant be genetic, its a choice.

What was his reason for relocating to the village? what about his job here in the town? does he want you to join him in the village? did he accept the pregnancy? is the wedding cancelled because of finance or because of the pregnancy? Are you ready to move in with him in the village, if that is what he want?

LesbianBoy: so you wash cloth finish and you are telling ur boyfriend to spread it for u? What is there if u Rest and spread it later, afterall is not as if u are wearing the cloth u washed that same day! Why tell to do that for u? Btw he said he was tired after standing in the office yet YOU DONT BELIEVE HIM but u want him to believe u were tired?


As for the 2nd highlighted part. Pls why should u be sending ur boyfriend errands in the first place? What NANSENSE!!! It seems gehs of nowadays dont have RESPECT again!

are you the guy in question

Im not a medical personnel, but i will suggest you go for medical check-up, that will enable you to know what is really wrong with you, it might be a symptom of an ailment, so, its better that way than self medication.
May God help you and all of us.

@op, why wont he treat you like that, when you havent got married to him and you have already turn yourself to his slave, at this time of your relationship, what you really need to be doing is discussing, discussing and discussing about your dos and donts and he also discuss his too. And by this, you must have discussed your opinion on your present concern. Doing what you are doing for him now portrays that you are desperate to have him, which i guess is his thought, hence, his attitude.
However, its never too late, you can quit all these your slavery activities and each time you are with him, engage him in meaningful discussion, that will have direct impact on your future, if you both ended up marrying each other.
P.S.......let his also be paying you visit, not only you that should be paying him visit, with that, he would appreciate your visits more.

Igba ara la nbura, enikan kii bu sango nigba eerun.