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Yes, i did and i can encourage my kids to join if they are interested, its one of the ways in which our kids could get acquainted with part of our culture.

jeffizy: To all saying NO.
Do you know that most times, the family tricks the woman away from the house when such act wants to go down?

believe me, any family that try that will all be arrested, and i dont care how they are going to do it, i just dont want to see any "i fight lion" marks on my child....shikena!

I think this will help.....
2. By the friends they keep.
By the type of books they read(sometimes).
3. By the type of musics they listen to.
4. By the type of posters pasted in their rooms.
5. By their change of attitude, in the house and towards religion.

Instead of locking her indoor, which seems like hatred to the lady, why didnt they take her to a psychariatis home.



Very pathetic!
May their souls rest in peace..

In this age...........
Hell No!

The striking thought of Jesus that is always on my mind is how selfless this Jesus Christ is..........dying a very painful death for our salvation, not minding the pains.......hhhhmmm, Jesus, i thank you o.

May the death of Christ Jesus never be in vain on us.

Happy Good Friday to You all.

Bi tenikan o baje, telomiran o le da.

dayokanu: You no be omo oko jor, you wey dey do An@l you sef don jasi well well. Shey you like am? Some ppl prefer it to the front sef.

Do you allow oga sef to go down and chop igbin?

me i no dey do anal o, i thought na from behind style, abeg, no corrupt me.

dayokanu: ^^ Great god would you do Backdoor entrance if your hubby wants it?

What of whips, Handcuffs and B-D--S-M?

yeah! That backdoor entrance, i understand and i dey do am weli-weli, but others
whips
handcuffs
BDS-M
I no understand o, i be confirmed omo oko, too naive, abeg.

dayokanu: the Oraal dey cause wahala like this

even me self never knew, thats why i decided not to post any comment.

@post, i will advise d wife and hubby to sit down and talk about it, and if it seems one of them is adamant, then, i think, one of them will have to compromise to give room for peace.
May God help them.


@coogar, you don kolo.
May God help you.

This is one of the reasons why decency can never be over-emphasized.

Any opposite s e.x friend each party keeps should be known and approved by both parties, otherwise, cheating has set in.

In marriage, any of the spouse can wake up dead communication, it doesnt have to be limited to a particular gender.
May God help us all.

Yes, its one of the agony of women, prepare youself for childbirth, that is another agony of women.
It is well, my sister, you both should get lubricant made for that purpose, you can get it in phamaceutical stores and take it easy with yourselves.
May God help us all.

@ jidegirl, "ela loro"


my sister, always be specific with your requests.
May God grant you and all of us the desires of our heart..... Amen.

jeffizy: Best is not to inform the mum.
H.I.D: Oluwole nko?
family: won lo eko.

i know an elderly man whom they did this to, for over 14 years that this old man's son died, its one lie after the other till the old man finally kicked the bucket.


@post, some old age get as e be, i dont want to sound offensive or inhuman but im always an advocate of "ka ku lomode ko yeni, o san ju ka dagba ka ma ladiye irana"

may the dead rest in peace and may God comfort the family, especially the mama.

Normally, the love of wife should be greater than that of the mother to the child, because they have known and been together b4 child(ren) came, but it depends on the relationship btwn both of them.
Do you expect a woman to love a husband whose responsilities are all borne by the wife?or a husband who seems to love his own siblings and mother more than his wife? So, it depends on how the man placed the wife, it goes a long way for wife to be choosy in this scenario.
As for me, presntly, the vote goes to my hubby, because, that is how he also place me, next to God in his life, and i think, one good turn deserves another.
May God help us all.

@op, this question is not brain-tasking at all, because we all know the answer to the question, no need to think or guess, the pure truth is that WE NIGERIANS ARE PURELY AND FULLY RELIGIOUS AND NOT GOD FEARING.............but the question is so important because it calls for self-reflection.
Let us all reflect within ourselves the ways in which we have been just religious and not godly and make attempt to turn it around.
May God help us all.


P.S.....im not in the mood to write epistles, if not so, i would have written a book on this thread.

BB is a great distraction to students.

If this story is true, then, all the parties involved are just church-goers and not real christian, abi, what is the impact of sermons they have been listening to all this while, may God have mercy on us all o.

demelza: ^^ oh no! You forgot your signature.
Anyway May God Help Us All.
P.S I am a fan

thanks.
May God help us all.

biolabee: LOL .. a lot of us are fans

Dear OP, this is a very powerful allegation and needs to be handled wisely


Is this coming out of the blue or has he hinted or made subtle jests abbout one or two people/friends (both male or females)
The reason why i saw this is because some females may be seen as sensual and thus could be a bad influence etc

If you are definite in your heart it is not true, talk to him first and plead your case
Dont onvolve 3rd party o.. such things have a way of escaping and some will see him as too soft when they arre condoning worse in their homes while some women can even use as an opportunity to swoop in

Do all the RIGHT things conscenciously, come home early, cook, s.ex etc bla bla bla and hopefully his stony heart may budge

Watch the FIREPROOF MOVIE too.. it may help

if after six months no change from the man or at least an explanation of how the allegations came by, then you can involve a suitable 3rd party (counsellor, pastor etc)as he may have a stony heart

May God Help Us All

ish

thanks sir.
May God help us all.

We cant all be the same, that is how she chose to live her life and she has the right to live her life the way she want. God will help her.

Go and see your doctor for check up.

Since you know you are not guilty, do not try to be defensive, by being nagging or disrespectful or bitter, time and action will tell and hes the one that will come and apologise to you, because, no matter how long a lie may go, truth will overtake it in a day.
However, continue to be open, faithful respectful and dutiful as a good wife that you are, its a phase and it will definately pass and you will be celebrated again.
Wishing you best of luck.

biolabee: Dear Ma, I will also not do such as fornication is also wrong

may God help you!

toofine765: Put her in a crech, guess she is a first child, she will get to be more social when she begin to mingle with other kids her mate. Nothing to worry about. One of my kids was like that but changed tremendously when she started sch.

exactly! thats how my first kid was, but now....wow! He has really changed, my hubby now described him as "born-again extrovert".......lol.....so, @op, no problem, she will definately change when she start to mingle, and if she doesnt, once she is well and healthy, nothing to worry yourself about that may be her personality.

@op, i wish you all the best as you take this brave step.

I think im going to be different here, wedding ring on or not, happiness in marriage is the koko.



Does putting on wedding ring guarantee faithfulness in marriage? No!.......... I have seen and known several married men/women with their wedding rings on, who are chronic infidels.

Does putting on wedding rings always signifies happiness in marriage? No!?.......i have seen so many married men/women who are always with their rings, but are not happy in their marriages.

Does putting on wedding rings rule out abuses in marriages?......No!.......i have seen married men with his wedding ring on who beats his spouse blue black, even with the rings on and i've seen a woman who asked her hubby..."abi nitori ring osi yii lo se nrope o ti niyawo?"(is it because of this useless ring that is making you think you have a wife).


I can go on and on, but personally, i think putting on wedding ring is a personal interest, it does not change the person who is wearing it, to me, its just an indication that one is married, so, im not addicted to it, if i forget to wear it when going somewhere, i dont think about it for once b4 i get home, my happiness and success in marriage is what is paramount to me.

As for my hubby, he hate rings, he only used it for just 6months, b4 he told me that, even that 6months, its because of the respect he has for me, he thought i would be annoyed if he didnt use it, but that does not make him an infidel, or an abuser, hes the type of man i can marry over and over and over again, hes better than a man who put on the wedding ring always and still do things that are morally and maritally unacceptable.
Meanwhile, not all who put on wedding rings are unfaithful or abusers, i just shared my own opinions about it, those who are upright or happy or succesful in their marriage are not so because they are either putting on their wedding rings on or not, its their personal decision, which rings do not play any part on.
May God help us all.

biolabee: dude, if na joke stop am

I will not welcome curses in my life by dating a married woman
i dont want the wrath of the vengeful husband

but, you can as a married man date a single lady?

@ baba oyo, this your thread, ehn, i promise you, will soon turn to another thing, ti owo awon boyz ba te tread yii, hhhmmm, ile a kun o, the way our people look at the endowed people, ko easy o.

My female best friend is highly endowed, both in the front and at the back, the hips ehn, eru ni, God really bless her, serious endowment o, no be small thing..........the way people always look/stare at her is always embarrassing, and its no fault of her, if we go out together, i will almost challenge some guys with the way they stare at her, but, there is actually nothing one can do about it, she is now used to the looks/embarrassment.
It reminds me of one day we went out together and the car got fault, we had no choice than to take okada back home, so, she took one okada, while i also took another okada, i got to our destination before her, so, i waited for her, by the time they will get to where i was, i was just hearing......."eyin baba agbaaya yii(d okada man was an elderly man), se ee ni iyawo nile ni, ee ni itiju sa, so, i walked close and asked what the heck was, in his presence, my friend was saying, "ore, abi o ri baba agbaaya yi, he said, nse ni gbogbo itan yin tutu mo mi lara, oko yin ngbadun o, e joo, e ma ti bole, e je kingbadun die si," and all sorts of things, then i said, ore, just lets go and leave this man alone, the man was still saying all the jagons, hhhmmmm, orisirisi, iroyin o to afojuba, that day, we were highly embarrassed, but thank God for the spirt of God.

As for my friend's hubby, he loves her like that, he can kill anyone who tries to look at his wife too much, initially, when my friend is embarrased like that, she used to tell her hubby, but, the way the man use to react had made me tell her not to be telling him everything again, so, that the man wont develop high blood pressure.


But, sincerely o, why are some people like that, they cant look small and move on, they must look/stare to the extent of embarrassing the other person, its not fair o.
May God help us all.

Get a cheaper accommodation for your parents first, may be a room and a parlour, and then get cheaper accommdation for yourselves.
From experience, i've discovered that whoever takes care of his/her parents are miraculously and mysteriously blessed, so, inform and educate your wife-to-be and go on with the plan, you will see how things will work out miraculously, afterall, if you truly love your parents as claimed, you wont like to see them embarrsed because of accommodation problem, fix that first and believe in God.


We can make ourselves a little bit uncomfortable because of our parents, because, they had done more than that for us earlier. In order for us to be what we are, so, may God help you, the reward that follows such an act will not elude you in Jesus name.

great063: The stats of women and ladies who have been abused keep growing. This abuse usually takes the shape of battery and sexual assault. When it involves a husband and his wife,you find husbands pointing fingers at the woman as being the source of provocation. Other times,the wife accuses her husband of beating her up with little or no provocation. Violence and abuse against ladies transcends married women,girls are also involved. Tradition and religious bodies seem to lend little or no voice to curbing this situation. What is the way out?

the way out is for everyone to treat others the way one would like to be treated, which is....all of us to sincerely love one another.........when there is genuine love for one another, wives will not provcoke her hubby, husbands will tolerate their wives more, children will be obedient to their parents, parents will not provoke their children, friends will not provoke one another, neighbours will live in peace with one another, masters will treat their househelps with love, househelps will honour their masters accordingly, everybody will be at peace with one another, everybody will be happy with one another, and violence becomes non-existent, peace reigns and no one will have cause to be violent.
May God help us all.