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chaircover: I must be a very bad wife then because on the very odd occasion when I am very very tired, I will cuddle up to my man and say to him not tonight dear, I will make it up tomorrow and we end up having a better time the next day rather than me doing it half asleep. I personally prefer quality over quantity . . .but that is something that works for us and its not for everyone.

no! Never! Tiredness differs, there are some that d man wont even dare make attempt......lol

dvdon: Nothing wrong with it but d question is can ur boyfriend or girlfriend be a next of kin?

hmmm, bf/gf are based on uncertainty, while wife/hubby loooks more certain, except in some exceptional cases, which no one ever pray for.
As for your question, it depends on how certain you are as regards eventually becoming couple, but i wont advise my sister(if i have) to be involved in such, i would rather advise that you use one of your younger siblings, and later change it to your spouse after getting married.
May God help us all.

chaircover: Its been proved oooooo!!!!! . . . sex does cure some illness and am speaking from experience

http://www.steadyhealth.com/articles/Sex_as_cure_a608.html

im really learning here, sometimes, when im very tired, my hubby will say, "let me shake out tiredness out of your body thru great s..ex, i often think its because he's in d mood, but, to be sincere, i do feel relaxed after d heavenly feelings, as slimyem said, i usually think its more of what im conditioned to believe, i never knew its proved...........time to start asking for more, i guess....lol......olomi lo ma re....
May God help me.
may God help us all.

Get shearbutter, mix a small portion of sivoderm, it works like magic......sivoderm is more mild on baby's skin than nixoderm.
Beware of these elewe-omos, you never know d composition of what they will give you to give you baby to drink, if its only cream they give you, its better, but once "agbo" is involved, you need to be more careful, its baby we are talking about here.
May God help us all.

biolabee: ** Takes a chair, popcorn, zobo and chills

dont just sit and be eating and drinking, tell us yours, abi,you never marry?........abeg share with us joor!

My hubby and im his too




anything wrong with this?

aadetoyin: 1. If he is cheating
2. If am ill. Abi he wants to kill me for my mother.
3. If he turned me down the last time I was in the mood its payback time

Anyways its wrong to turn ur partner down sha. Cos I can't imagine been turned down

yes, i agree with cheating.
Concerning illness, i believe since he will know about it, he wont even make attempt, abi, what do you think?
Lol @ killing you for your mother, that is another area........being abusive......that will be a total turn off for me too, if it happens, thank Gd, it hasnt happened to me and i pray it never happen.
As regards paying back mood, your temprament must be melancholy, thats one of our weaknesses.........being revengeful.....hhhmmmm, well, its not advisable in marriage, its cankerworm that eats up the love btwn couples, but the most important thing is that one of the parties shouldnt just start it, its hard to live with.
May God help us all.

byvan: If he is cheating,then I ll consider him a disease vector,therefore I can't be intimate with him.I don't see how one can be intimate with a man who physically or emotionally abuses her.On the grounds of serious ill health,I ll pass.Apart from these,I can't deny him for any other reason.

yes, thanks, i never thought of this b4, of course, i will turn him down, if i discover that he cheats.........that d essence of this thread, to educate ourselves, to learn from each other. Thanks.
May God help us all.

Good day all and sundry, im just thinking about what can make one turn his/her partner's intimacy approach down.........
As for me, im yet to give a reason for that, i would have said, may be when im having my monthly flow, but alas, he already know when im on, so, he doesnt even make any attempt during the period, apart from that, i dont think there is any other reason for me to turn him down when he feels like and he has not for once turn my own down.
Now over to you peeps........wives, what can make you turn your hubby down when he asks for lovemaking/intimacy?
Husbands, what can make you turn your wives' intimacy approach down, lets share and learn from one another.
May God help us all.

Excellnt post, at least for those of us who have phobia for sme things............i have phobia for swimming, how can i conquer the fear?
May God help us all.
Thanks.

Nice tips.....op, thanks.

Ijawboi: . YANWs ...

and you have to quote all this long article to write this your meaningless 5letter words, na wa for you o....

Yeske!
My kids taught me and in order not to discourage them, i make sure i know it offhand and offheart.
But e no easy o, it took me a while b4 i could master it.
May God help us all.

agiboma: Well until recently i was for turning but since dominique shared her expereince, i cannot support it any further it seems to be too dangerous and life threatening. I would say dont try it baby might still turn on their own thats possible, but prepare for a csection if need be. Im having my section in 2 weeks and their is nothing wrong in delivering your children this way, better safe than sorry.

God will surely be with you and others, we are waiting here to rejoice with you when your bundle of joy arrives. Cheers!!!

Happy Married life to you!
May you never regret d day you get married in Jesus name.




However, you've heard it all from our chairperson, the pre-requisites for becoming a full member...... ............otherwise,, you will be a floating member.........i dont talk my own........welcome on board!
May God help us all.

Happy birthday....Tmama.......wishing you all d good things you wish yourself.......... Hip! Hip!! Hip!!!..... Hurrah!!!!!!!

As for me.......in no particular order, one or more of these is/are what i do when im depressed/moody.................
1. I think about the good things that had happened or is happening to me.
2. I think about those im presently better than, that makes me to be thankful to God from within, thus making me happy unconciously from within.
3. I listen to good, melodious and thanksgiving music/songs, sometimes, i sing along, it makes my heart/mind merry from within.
4. I visit positive oriented people, i mean, people who have one time or the other impacted into my life positively.
5. I seek for counselling, when and where necessary, depending on the cause of the depression
6. I read my bible and motivational books.
May God help us all.

byvan: "Initially,anytime me and hubby are playing and hugging, my kids start crying, we have to do everything to convince them that its just playing and not fighting, now, they are used to it, whenever we are playing now, they also join us".


@GreatGod,this got me laughing.The difference is that my kids will actually attack their dad,punching with their little fists and yelling.It took time for them to understand that its just play,now they join in,no more punching their dad.What baffles me is the fact they actually know that is the lady that need to be defended,if am hitting their dad and he calls on them for rescue,they will just burst out laughing.They are just toddlers but kids of these days.......

actually, that is exactly how it is with us here, but now, when we start, its my first kid that will first say....."dad and mum have started again"......lol....sometimes, they may join us, sometimes, he will tell his younger ones to live us alone and that they should continue to enjoy their whatever they are doing at that time.....lol, kids of nowadays seem to be more mature than their ages, my sister, and that is one of d reasons why we have to be more careful when these kids are around us.
May God help us all.

Fussbot: ha!ha once??k u are her only child right??

no, im actually d last born, but im always well behaved........lol, even d one time beating, she begged me later, because it was consipracy from my elder ones, which she got to know later.
May God help us all.

firetrap: with English as bad as yours, your far from saved

check out your own English!... ..its............"you are far from being saved", not d nonsense you typed up there.
May God help you.

Uchenna42: ˚°ºU̶̲̥̅̊º°˚ arε̲̣̣̣̥ wetin....Gbagaun of †ђξ year!...pls who is U̶̲̅я english teacher??

see somene wey dey ask for another person's English teacher....... I tire for you pple o.

harbibi: Omg what a hug ! This goes to show how beautiful paradise will be when we all dwell in peace and harmony with fellow humans and all wild animals.

you must be a Jehovah witness member.

This is cool but not new again, i've seen this more than 100 times, but for those who are just seeing it for d first time, its true that your attitude determines your altitude.
May God help us all.

Its not even sane for any parents to be fighting in d presence of the children, its not good for their psychology at all, it leads to kids asking unanswerable questions, it makes kids unhappy. Initially,anytime me and hubby are playing and hugging, my kids start crying, we have to do everything to convince them that its just playing and not fighting, now, they are used to it, whenever we are playing now, they also join us.
It reminds me of a kid i heard of, he was just enrolled in primary school and whend teachers ask for his mother's name, he said...."oloriburuku" and for father's name, he said....."were", and d teacher asked why he mentioned those names, he said that is what they use to call each other, d parents were later called and counselled by d school authority and toldthem how they have negatively affected the kid's psychology......... I just hope parent know that our children are our mirror, our attitudes have a long way to reflect d type of attitude our kids will develop, most of d time, our kids grow up to be like us. Let us always be our children's good role models, by laying good examples for them to emulate always.
May God help us all.

When he/she start having his/her own personal regular source of income.
May God help us all.

Prepare delicious food for your self, sit down and enjoy it while watching your favorite video, put on your sunday best and make yourself happy......we are in the same shoe, that is what i usually did for myself.....when i wake up, i sing praises to God(b4 i got married), take my bath, put on my best clothe, prepare my best dish and enjoy myself with it, i can even prepare 4 different type of foods for myself on that day, eat and eat and watch my favorite video....lol......, but now that im married, all that don change o........lol....


Happy birthday to you, wishing you all d good things you wish yourself.

Yes, once!

Its not even sane for any parents to be fighting in d presence of the children, its not good for their psychology at all, it leads to kids asking unanswerable questions, it makes kids unhappy. Initially,anytime me and hubby are playing and hugging, my kids start crying, we have to do everything to convince them that its just playing and not fighting, now, they are used to it, whenever we are playing now, they also join us.
It reminds me of a kid i heard of, he was just enrolled in primary school and when d teachers ask for his mother's name, he said...."oloriburuku" and for father's name, he said....."were", and d teacher asked why he mentioned those names, he said that is what they use to call each other, d parents were later called and counselled by d school authority and told them how they have negatively affected the kid's psychology......... I just hope parent know that our children are our mirror, our attitudes have a long way to reflect d type of attitude our kids will develop, most of d time, our kids grow up to be like us. Let us always be our children's good role models, by laying good examples for them to emulate always.
May God help us all.

Is all these really necessary?


Thank God for my own life sha, i dont really see any sense in all these surgeries she subjects herself into.............well.......its her choice.
May God help us all.

[quote author=190-the-clown]
mzdark you sabi say i love you
now bring that your ikebe over here lemme check sometin [/quote]you this guy.........are you a comedian? I found out that you usually turn almost all the threads in this section to jokes, because, i dont believe all you usually type here.
May God help you.

Informative thread.....thank op, i quite agree with almost all your points here.
May God help us all.

Eeya!! Sorry o, make up with her, that will enable you to be closer to her and be able to tell her your mind, as for your aunties, by d time they discover that you and your mum are now closer, they will definately back off.
There are two instances you may likely regret in d future if you dont make up with her now...........
1. When you start having kids, i tell you, you will shed tears for not being close with her after realising what she had gone thru for you to live.
2. If she dies, without yuo duo reconciling, im telling you, you will as well cry and shed tears for not making up with her b4 her demise, and since nobody knows when d time is, its better to make up with her now to avoid unnecessary and avoidable regret in d future.

How to go about it.........
She is your mother, go to her and kneel down, ask her to pls forgive you all what you did that made her to be angry with you, then tell her you are ready to be a good child to her.......start from there, i know she will be happy to see you coming back to her and will embrace and welcome you back, as you are back together, ensure you are closer with her than b4, so that you will be able to convince her that you know what you want for yourself, that she should always allow you to take decision, and that what you need from her now is her words of encouragement and her prayers, tell her what you dont really like about d guy that caused your misunderstanding, she will definately reason with you.


And as for d guy, find a way of getting in contact with him and let him know that he's not settling down with your mum, and that you have your reasons for not getting married to him, he should leave you alone and leave your mum alone as well as your family members.
May God help you.