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Ayanwukoma:
The thing that upsets me more is when we start narrating our experiences of been dealt with toxic parenting from our fathers some people will be saying, we were products of manipulations of our mom. but that's a lie... they just don't know our pains.

Here are the attributes of my father, don't know if it's redpill or not.

1) My father swear for us at any slightest provocation (he uses word like, YOU GO DIE, YOU GO USE YOUR MOUTH RUB GROUND, WITCH and so much more) imagine as a kid growing up till this day and this man still uses same languages on us his children.

2) HE'S CUNNY IN NATURE TOWARDS US HIS FAMILY.

You don't dare have an issue with a neighbor in the presence of my dad which he's aware of, because the next morning he be sitting with that same neighbor and talk ill about you in your presence ( how many times my mom has quarrelled with people because of him...but before we know it, him and them have reconciled. my mom would be the bad person in the town)

3) IS WITCH A GOOD NAME TO CALL YOUR CHILD?

This man has called us witch to the extent the whole area is looking at us as one, he has literally made us look bad in the presence of people. compare us with other people.
he has spoiled us with his bad tongue. full area gossiping telling people their papa self dey call them witch...belike them don confess before.
just because of my father toxic tongue.

4) MY FATHER HOLDS HIS BROTHERS CHILDREN IN HIGHER REGARDS THAN US.

you need to see the way he's happy whenever they come around, especially when they give him money like 5k, 3k ... prayers uphon prayers on them.
as soon as they go he starts the curses on us.. I don't know he just don't want us to succeed or not.

DO I HATE MY FATHER? I hate him with every blood in my veins yes, how can I love someone that abuses us immediately he sees us eating his food, looking at us like we are wrecking him from day one.

Any small thing, COMOTH FOR MY HOUSE (you must hear that word)

honestly speaking I myself am in my mid 20s and with what I experience to this day it's affecting me in my life, you can never see me smile.
am always angry, even when am happy.
when I talk, my words are always hard.. except when I try to be nice sometimes.

I SWEAR ON MY LIFE, I REFUSED TO BE THE MAN MY FATHER IS, EVEN IN MY NEXT LIFE TO COME.

Ovamboland:
Show the documents and evidence that proves only SW candidates took part in the primaries of all the parties running in 1999 elections 4kU calabash nose nose

helinues:
Olushi abi Oloshi

GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.

louqas:
No its not .....its akin to censorship

Aren't yall always ranting about how PMB is supposedly gaging the press and harassing dissenting voices.....so we should now end up with the canceller and the likes that will do exactly the same things you condemn your predecessors for?

Amotolongbo:
“O to ge”

lexy2014:
since u have already drank from the "ogogoro talk", kindly answer the following questions:

"he gladly does" what? who is the he and what does he gladly do?

u didnt answer the question i asked: Are the positions u mentioned ministerial appointments?

like i said earlier, If u looking for argument, pls make sure u no what u are saying before u start an argument.

pls explain to me how appointments are made into the positions u mentioned and explain where the federal character is missing?
drink wetin, oga carry ya Ogogoro dey go, thank you very much

lexy2014:
Ministerial appointment is based on federal character

JaroMan:

Microzone ko microphone ni
The SE gets the power this type and its not by microzone or microphone; it's by merit. It like an emergency situation and South East is there to midwife a great country.

seunmsg:
Who are these people and where have you guys been meeting to discuss about me? Whatsapp group? So good to see that I’m giving you enemies of the south and in fact Nigeria, a sleepless night

Reality3080:
dangote


Any contrary opinion?

lexy2014:
"he gladly does" what? who is the he and what does he gladly do?

u didnt answer the question i asked: Are the positions u mentioned ministerial appointments?

like i said earlier, If u looking for argument, pls make sure u no what u are saying before u start an argument.

pls explain to me how appointments are made into the positions u mentioned and explain where the federal character is missing?

Terrence99:
Stop spamming this place with your father's picture.

seunmsg:
The problem with folks like you is that you react emotionally based on lies and half truth. See ehn, pragmatism is very key in politics. Calling people evil etc over political choices is petty, emotional and childish. You need to grow up.

Btw, please know that the south west made Jonathan. Obasanjo made him Vice President and the south west media and civil societies through the Save Nigeria Group made Jonathan acting president even when prominent Igbo leaders like the then PDP chairman and governors were against him. In 2011, the south west voted massively for him and he won the election. The agreement was that he would serve for just four years and allow power to return to the south after serving cumulatively for about 6 years.

Well, he broke the promise and the South west did the right thing on behalf of the south by supporting the North in 2015. We don’t play politics of emotion in the south west. It was a pragmatic decision in the overall best interest of the country.

Reality3080:
yes sir

Who is the richest man in Nigeria?

Terrence99:
This is why you never excel in national politics. You mix emotions with foolishness and expect others to toe your line of stupidity.

Last election, how many votes did you Igbos give Apc? You people have spent the last decade insulting Apc and insulting Apc leaders but you want Apc to give you ticket. You must be very stupid. Apc won't give you ticket, do your worst.

Better go and meet PDP for ticket and be ready to square up to the better South in the elections.

Zhirinovsky:
I 'm talking about '99 election and you are talking PDP paper primary which some candidates declared interest even a week to the primary election.

Obj was the pick from the onset, the primary was just organized because it was mandatory by law. I shouldn't be telling you this cos I shouldn't be in this discourse if you don't know this. Unless you are feigning ignorance to promote your agenda.

seunmsg:
They know they have absolutely no chance of producing the next president and out of jealousy they don’t want to support the part of the south with the brightest chance so they keep threatening to vote for the north if the south west refuse to back down.

We understand their shenanigans so we won’t give in to their threat. They can do their worst as far as we are concerned. Let them give Atiku or any northerner that PDP throws up their inconsequential 5% votes. It makes no difference in deciding who becomes the president.

seunmsg:
Power shift is between north and south. The presidency has never been microzoned and will never be microzoned.

If the SE like, let them come out and contest against the rest of the south for the presidential tickets of the two major parties or continue to issue useless threads up and down. The rest of the south will contest and do everything possible to ensure power is shifted to the south in 2023.

tillaman:
Make she come spray me na

louqas:
But you said the canceller guy is the kind of leaders we need....leaders that will be cancelling peoples comments because thats not what they want to hear.....this will not be allowed.
The canceller guy is just a fool who thinks he knows all and only his opinions and that of his likes matter.....such people are more dangerous to society than those he intends to shut up.

If you agree with what the canceller is doing then you are more dangerous than him

Reality3080:
dangote


Don't tell me it's one unknown billionaire in nnewi ooo

louqas:
So you want a country without dissenting voices

You want a country that only PDP will rule for 100 years....lets just jettision democracy and install Authocracy

You have a platform to air your own views but want to deny others the same platform to air their own views...

It wont work....people must be allowed to hold different views .
If the heat is too much for you to bear....get out

You cant impose your own views on others

Reality3080:
that's what u console yourself with n u are even d poverty capital of d south

No b igbo man b d richest in Nigeria n they aren't in top 5 either so what are u yapping

Esseite:
She had a show back in the days...

I honestly think dark skinned Nigerian ladies make better wives.. convince me

dedonfranco:
So lucky to have RMD as a husband.

Congratulations