GurlFriend: I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.
My Experience
I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'
My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.
That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.
So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.
I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.
He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?
Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.
I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.
After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.
Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?
That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.
Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.
Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.
What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.
I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.
greencard: Many people love the idea of marriage but the bad news they keep hearing is distancing them from the idea.
Some especially the redpillers may claim defiance ,but deep within they wish to settle down, but they just don't know with whom
I can't tell you who to marry, But I can advise you on whom not to marry
I- Never marry someone without the fear of God. It's dangerous. They may fear you at your presence,maybe because of your economic power as their benefactor or because you may get upset and do them dirty if they wrong you. But don't underestimate their quick change if they finally get that which you offer them from somewhere else , then the fear of you diminished and they do what they wish . Cheat on you , blackmail you and of course divorce you.
2 ...Never marry someone that find it hard to forgive simple fault
I had to add simple fault, because if I say just forgive, then you might take him/her for granted and be doing anyhow. , because you know they will forgive after all. But in this context, I mean , don't risk marriage with someone who hold grudges for long and don't see reason to let go , who don't forgive easily but hold on to fault. You will see this singns during courtship, but if you are blinded by love, money, figure 8 or 6 packs. Marriage go clear your eyes
3 Don't Risk marriage with some one with too many opposing beliefs to yours
By opposing beliefs, I don't mean APC Vs PDP, they are almost the same thing, I mean, don't risk marriage with an extremist of any kind, except you two are extremist. If you are pro life and they prefer abortion, don't go there. If they laugh at the death of another person who is simply not their tribe or religion but they feel happy at it. That person is not sympathetic, he/she will laugh at you one day and you will hate yourself. Only you can properly tell the contrast. Just don't risk marriage with some one with too much opposite beliefs to yours.
4 don't marry a liar Fooooool, you will see it o, but you will laugh and say but you can lie sha . Don't worry na, marry him/her . You go hear whin. You will always know where you stand with a womanizer, you will always know where you stand with a thief, but you can never know where to place yourself with a chronic LIAR. Don't say he doesn't lie to me sha, the breakfast go reach everybody one day and you will hate it that you were one of the many wise people he/she fooled
5. Don't marry a sadist There are some things smiling and laughter can àvert , there are some things dancing and playing can repair, there are some things , cuddling and chiding can fix , but if you end up with a sadist . There is nothing I have to say to you than the LORD is your strength
6.. don't marry a nyph if you can't cope At first you will think it's fun and you can match the game , but when e go over you , even the gods with their might and wisdom won't be able to settle the matter
7. don't marry out of pity She came from a poor background so she must me humble and needy , Bros that should not be the main reason you should marry her. If I don't marry her who will? Let me just pity him cos he has been disturbing me, the boy try self . Me I pity you o. She doesn't have a helper let me help her by marriage, no go marry witch o
8. if there have been several warning signs, don't be stubborn, don't marry o You may have noticed the signs , when they are with you, or in the dream or through your father or mother or friends or neighbor or strangers.. e get why o. Don't follow your mumu heart o. You self reason am
These points are underrated.
Major global and national brouhaha now stem from weakened family borne out of failed marriages.
Lamanii22: Now I can't use my toilet very well, I can't read in my toilet anymore... It's scary to go there, my mind is not at rest.... I told my husband about it and he said he doesn't envisage bad news ...
Your obsession with snake stories has created a real phobia in your mind, believe me.
There's a very thin line between fear and reality. Don't let that fear become ur reality.
Mylordmygod1: When the day come, Firstly, both of u should go together when it is time for offering. on your way, just fall like u just fainted and it will draw the attention of every body.. Keep calm till your pastor starts to pour holy water and speak in tongue for u, then open ur eyes like miracle just happened and then suprise everybody by going down on your kneels with the ring in your hands. Thank me later
Druss: You are being mischievous. He clearly stated that he prays Nigeria is there in 2023. He even hinted that people would use his statement in this way.
What he clearly meant was that you do not know what the future holds so be careful when planning for the future.
Don't mind them....lazy reports dishing out contents to gullible folks.
Q1. With the way this guy describe the situation, likely.....................
1. He is IPOB 2. He need some attention 3. He want to become another 'false Prophet' 4. He need some extra cash 5. He need to cash out by 2023 if elections weren't hold, He is a real Prophet then. 6. He is just another Reno 7. All of the above
Don't let the reporters misinform you...he was not talking from a political point of view.
AllahIsShit: Let me guess what will happen. Femi Adesina will come out and say that this is the reason why he stopped attending church, the MURIC baboon will say that it is a plan by CAN to destabilize Nigeria ahead of the 2023 elections, The Jánjâweed Cäbål that changes Bubu's nappies for him will see it as the perfect opportunity to sideline Osinbajo and poor Baba arugbo ojo Tinubu will be left with no other choice than to climb out of his wheelchair and start strategizing how will remain relevant in 2023 and whether he should adopt a Hausa Fulani jihadist as his running mate in order to convince them that he is still their favourite houseboy. 2022 is going to be more entertaining than BBN, Champions League, World Cup and Olympics jammed together.
He was not talking from a political point of view.
damilola4162: The general overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), Pastor E.A. Adeboye has expressed concerns over the 2023 general election, Newspremises reports.
While preaching on Sunday, November 7, Adeboye said, some people are already getting ready to kill over the 2023 election when they are not sure if there would even be 2023 or if Nigeria would still be in existence.
''Some people want fame, they want power, political power. This is 2021 some people are already getting ready to kill themselves over 2023. They don’t even know whether there will be 2023. If there is 2023, whether there will still be around.
"There is nobody who can say for sure that they will still be around tomorrow. It is God who determines who will be around by 2023.
"Someone said to me who do you think is going to be President in 2023 and I said President of where? He said Nigeria. I said how are you sure there will be Nigeria in 2023. Can you swear? I pray there will be, so don’t misquote me but are you are sure?''
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Àsejù ni borrowing from Loan shark, discussing money lent to family and friends ti wà ok.
Truly, many are just wicked and really lack self control. Though life out there is hard, it doesn't warrant making insincere fantasised, fake promises with no plan to repay when soliciting for money. Think ahead and borrow what you can afford to pay back. That's where most people get it wrong.
Most loan defaulters have created a bad tag for people who honestly borrow for good intents. These same people have taught don't who wish to lend money out a big lesson.
It's just not hard to do. Repay the money you borrowed with the same ENERGY & PASSION you used when collecting it.
Christianity Etc › Re: Best Man Chased Out Of Wedding Ceremony At RCCG Aba For Having Full Beard by Hahjascho(m): 6:55pm On Jan 10, 2022
, because you know they will forgive after all. But in this context, I mean , don't risk marriage with someone who hold grudges for long and don't see reason to let go , who don't forgive easily but hold on to fault. You will see this singns during courtship, but if you are blinded by love, money, figure 8 or 6 packs. Marriage go clear your eyes
