₦airaland Forum

darkenedrebel:
The same way one witless imbécile ignorantly claimed that homosexuality was invented by the Whites and that it is related with feminism.

Lolz

bukatyne:
Feminism gives some people heart attack. .

I know Muslim wives are not to change their surnames to their husbands after marriage.

LMAO


Yeah, it is not recommended for a Muslim woman to change her name after marriage. Everyone is to be identified with his or her father's name.
The name is (so so so, daughter of Idris or whatever her father's name is) not wife of whatever her husband's name is.
And it makes perfect sense, anything can happen, a divorce can happen or the husband may die, is she supposed to keep changing her surname rather than keep the one that relates to her blood ties which can't change?
It's been debated whether it's haram or not to adopt the husband's name. I guess adopting the husband's name after marriage is just for identification.
Down here due to our Society, Muslim women change their surnames, some make it compound name. For a couple where both have adequate knowledge and understanding about it , she can decide to have her father's name..

mrwonlasewonie:
no she totally deserved it.who asked her for advice And what is her buisness with his marital life.Nigerians and always throwing marriage shades

Good for her

Lolz. Oga Jim press P sharp sharp

speciallymade:
you too go and marry.. Don't slam shame me mi o ri ara gba ebu si

Lolz, come and marry me na. Na you I dey wait for

That was too harsh

How does wanting to keep one's father's name relate to feminism

Anything some guys don't like these days must be tagged feminism and in negative light. People have various reasons for whatever they do, your points a, b, c might have nothing to do with it. Is it your name or theirs?

LMAO

Lolz. Ion believe this

Try and discuss with her, it could be due to stress especially if she has young children she is taking care of plus work, chores and all, sex would be the last thing on her mind after a rough day. But the idea of having sex time table is just not it.

They were so many then. I love second chance, quite different from the usual. Silva navvaro

bitchcrafts:
See someone's pikin life for outside!! Should we call this some youthful exuberance or what?

You are same too for generalizing and insulting a large group of people cos of an idiot with no self respect.

That Dp is highly insultive, childish and mean and your Sis comes off as someone with strong head so will most likely not take it lightly.
Just talk to your sis to take things calmly, she has spoken her mind already, let her continue like nothing happened, cook and do other stuffs she does on a normal day.

Lolz, I can totally relate.

Hmmm. For you to be this worried you probably don't really trust him. I don't know what to advice

mrintellectual:
Yes, the real problem was SELF MEDICATION

You just reminded me.

Yeah, it is. What he thought was wrong with him that made him seek out that drug (since he claims it usually works for him) might not have been what was truly wrong and the drug might or might not have exacerbated it. We don't know the drugs he bought so can't say. It might have been a situation of different brand names.

Who knows sha.

From the story, he probably was given a brand different from the one he asked for. I trust these people once they don't have the brand you want they tell you another brand is better.
And why was he self-medicating when he had Drs around?

There is a woman there if you look closely at the parrot, the beak is an hand slung over her head, one leg is folded while the other is the tail

Who said it's love. Come and break my back on top expensive shoe kwa. Abeg carry your shoe and cross the something. But I think they are just being playful though.
Unless the woman is bigger and has more weight than him.

Lovely. The guy looks very young tho

Nice one searchng4love. Really educative. All the bed hoppers, and male Oloshos that chase everything in skirt, prevention is better than cure, the condom you think is your absolute guard is not 100% safe.
That fine babe or clean dude, you don't know what disease he or she is carrying about.

Disgusting. Even a man with these kind of builds look disgusting to me not to talk of women.

About you sending a message to your dad that it might happen again, it's better you don't try it. Try and be as neutral as possible. Let them handle their issues themselves but since they have called you in rather be the peace mediator, cos if their fall should have your hand in it you won't find it funny.
Since you have a good rapport with your mum, call her and talk to her. She is an adult and knows the implication of what she is doing, but further repeat it to her o. You can beg your Dad on her behalf too. At the end of the day they will work out their issues themselves, don't put your head in more than necessary.

So you think he married you just cos you had sex with him on the first date?

I feel for her sha. Too much of everything isn't good, it's her cross though, she might not feel it much now

If this story ain't fabricated like I suspect then that wife no try, even if the guy is financially down (since you don't know how bouyant he is at that moment), she shouldn't have jumped in to say 'No money'. It's not her business, cos some relatives even if she knows nothing about it, anytime there is no show, they naturally assume it's the wife and keep malice with her, not caring if the family had been soaking garri and using boiled egg as meat for days. I know this, cos I witnessed it.
We don't know what sort of relationship you had with your brother before he married. We don't know how much he earns, he has his own family + more responsibilities, so it can't always be like before. I find that part you eavesdropped hard to believe, though it might be true.

OP if true, talk to your brother whenever she is not around, and discuss whatever you need with him, hopefully if he has he'll give.
And thank God you have an handiwork, create time for it

Fashion


She has enemies surrounding her sha or she is the type that is just mad enough not to care. Looks like a bit of photoshop was added, I refuse to believe someone can be this amoeba-like

Werin consign us. Her husband loves her that way. She is actually pretty though, just the spots. Lovely make up

Never knew he is her son

Nice write up

crackhaus:
Lol...
The sentence I put in bold is the answer to your question.

That some men can cheat on their wives even if she's all goody two-shoes is exactly the same way some women can decide to divorce their husbands even if he's all goody two-shoes.

You agree?

Not really, I added 'normal' anyway. Juts finding it hard to believe someone will just develop contempt for another person over nothing, unless the person has psycho. I strongly believe something is wrong he doesn't take important. Let's take for example another thread about a woman who finds sex painful with her husband cos his own version of sex is penetrate and ejaculate then sleep, even when the woman isn't wet enough nor satisfied, but otherwise good husband don't know if you saw that thread. So something he is not mindful of might be wrong since he claims not to know why.


Who knows though, humans can be weird.

crackhaus:
Do you also think that a normal man will just wake up one day and start cheating on his wife when she didn't do anything to push him into infidelity?

Cheating has to do with free will, not like anyone was coerced into doing it. Anyone that cheats cheats cos they choose to.
Some men would cheat on their wives no matter what, even if she is all goody two shoes , so I'm not in for the 'let's blame the woman' game, not saying some women can't be precipitating factor.


So tell me how this relates with what I said?

They claim to be Muslims yet they do things contrary to Islam and kill Muslims.

RIP to the dead, I pray we'll see the end of all these soon.

This OP isn't saying anything. I don't think any normal woman will just wake up one day and start asking for divorce. She must have seen or been through something she can't cope with anymore.
Anyway, call in your in laws, especially her mum, let her talk to her and ask for whatever is behind that wish.