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meshacha1:
Not too far from the truth

Yes. True. They must be so many in your family.

daretodiffer:
The bolded must be false

Lolz, it's true.

darkenedrebel:
...eleha are those fanatic moslem women, right?...the ones that veil their faces with purdah & wear "stockings"? ....lolololol

Lolz, they ain't fanatics some might be tho, but it's mostly just about the choice to do so. It isn't compulsory but encouraged,
so anyone who feels like going a step further can. Who knows, I might decide to join the niqabi train tomorrow .

Seriously why do people expect one to join in a talk that neither interests nor adds value to one? And see u as weird for not joining in. I would rather have my own corner where I can have my peace not stupid chit-chats up and down. As long as the work efficiency is not compromised.

OP don't mind that boss, just work on improving your relation with people but don't make it excessive to the extent of inconveniencing urself so one talkative won't call you weird. Make contributions in conversations , build up conversations, smile and joke with people, etc. But still be principled about it. My co-tenants where I lived in school called me eleha, see me as snobbish, but I don't care, I would rather sleep than start gossiping and making meaningless conversations with all sorts of people.


All the best.

I really don't blame this Dr for his stand. So many annoying things happen.
The one that irritates me most are those that'll have hundreds of relatives following the pt and another hundred coming to disturb the pt regularly, ask them to drop just 2k for some materials and drugs needed to treat and you'll start hearing stories. If u ain't at alert you'll just find out the stabilized pt has escaped or they could come with their family head to start begging, what do you do? U sha can't tie them down, they are allowed to go while the hospital is already running at a loss. It's a business for God's sake, not Charity.

Some would have gone to quacks and herbalists and when the situation is almost out of control they'll come rushing to the hospital without a dime expecting miracle.

Some people will come for antenatal care visits in expensive clothes and all, you would think they are going for a party, let the time for delivery come ordinary pin they won't buy, I don't know if they expect Dr to buy the needed materials for them too, or pack baby wt hand. Later they'll also come out to say Drs and nurses are wicked.

Our mentality in this Country from the leaders to the common man has to change o.

Ifebazz:
Why should they be granted even maternity leave? I thought they are fighting for 'gender equality'? After all men don't get non of these let everyone be equal nau.

Why don't you do your wife a favour, and carry all the pregnancies and go through labour for all your children, huh?

LuveU2:
HaneefahRN

Thank you for your contribution. Everything you have said is true. And we all know. But they problem we are having is that we dont want to stress ourselves. We just want the easy way out of our troubles. In this case, we lighten up and encourage others to do so

Unfortunately, we are taking the deadly path. And the end is complete hatred for ourselves. We can see it, but we dont want to admit it.

Many people would run away now when they see discussions like this because they are guilty one way or the other, but time will not fail in its course.

There are many out there who are still indifferent or maybe unaware, these should be our main target. Let us becareful with what we say around them. Our compliments should be clear and honest.

We may have lost many to media conditioning but guess what more and more people prefer coming on social media platforms for information these days. This is where we should not fail in passing the message

And the good thing is...people are coming around of recent I e they are beginning to get educated about these things.

Once more, thanks for posting.

Peace

U're welcome sis.

daretodiffer:
I know that some cramps require staying in but for most women, I don't think so

Sure. Don't know how someone cld even think that up

daretodiffer:
It is relatively painless. There are few jabs here and there but in most cases, they aren't serious enough to abandon life for bedroom

Some menstrual cramps can be crazy, talking from experience. Lots of women have dysmennorhea while some are fortunate not to. But with analgesics and antispasmodics and your warm drinks you should be good to go, but some people have it bad. I know someone who'll be crying rolling on the floor when she menstruates and nothing is supposedly wrong with her reproductive organs.

I don't see a need for such leave though. This thread almost made me speechless.

Seriously?!

Thanks for this piece OP.


Unfortunately there is so much self hate going on in Africa not just Nigeria. The hatred for the black skin. The hatred for their skin tone. Even the black Americans feel the heat. Women have been conditioned sort of to want compliments. But then we wonder why women especially Nigerian women bleach. Cos we have all been conditioned one way or the other to see dark skin as ugly. The media's standard for beauty is being white or fair. Everyone sees that white woman on screen, or she is beautiful, or a fair actress she is beautiful, a black artiste would attract she is dark but beautiful or she wld have looked better if she fair.
No one notices the black girl in a group of fair women. And when they do probably to comment about her she was probably forgotten in an oven or how she would have looked more beautiful if fair, or oh, she is too dark. This affects the person's psych. The oh, I'll marry a white person or fair person so my children can be beautiful. Blacks hate their skin because white supremacy runs deep.They see their own skin as unattractive

I read the diary of a black American girl from girlhood to adulthood, there was so much self loathing, so much hate for her skin, so much inferiority complex. She tried bleaching to feel better and beautiful but fortunately met a friend in College even darker than she is who was so confident of her skin tone who eventually taught her to love herself just the way she is. But most girls don't have that, they only have friends who'll tell them they are too dark and 'tone' - bleach to look beautiful.

Black celebs from Beyonce to Rihanna down to our own celebs here are actively whitening their skins. Most music videos use fair or white women in their videos so how do we want to tell the young minds, the feeble minds, those wt affected psychs that beauty comes in different skin tones, and their black is beauty? Why do we keep complaining when they bleach when we all have to change our orientations and outlook. A beautiful dark celeb once said she bleached to stop being ugly, can you imagine such mentality? That is how many people feel, cos we are being conditioned to see our skin tone as ugly and unattractive, and that is how it'll keep growing till, what?

OP where are the graphic pictures >:

Please don't blame her, female cloths are very expensive so she cld only afford to dress reasonably for the boy

And so? Mtcheww