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Morals:
It is not about religion but the same common sense you applied in your judgement. The World ain't Black and White. Take care.

Morals:
You still do not get the point. Try to be objective. It's very straight forward, this world is all about perspective. Different strokes for diffferent folks. Can you see the effort you have put forward in try to defend the impregnation of Marry despite her being an underage, a little child? . That's how it rolls. That's My point. A Christian will do everything to make it look as being moral based on his or are believe. The choice of a little girl becoming pregnant by GOD and off course against her wish is no offense. Is it okay for a little girl to be impregnated irrespective of how?
Were it being a Pagan doctrine, will you not see anything wrong in it? A little girl impregnated?
Mind you, the Jewish custom like most Asians which Arabs are a part marry out their daughters at an early age. May be the was why God choose a little Jewish girl marry too. I hope you get it.

To that lady that may the comment. As far as she is concern, the Christian God is a PEDOPHILE whom she doesn't find worthy. Just as your own view point with respect to Muhammad. My message is not difficult to understand. It's All about perspective.

Magnoliaa:
Can't y'all ever ever do without bringing women's woes into discussions at hand?? Can't you. Gosh. You concur. EOD. Or you say why?? What does women's unfaithfulness have to do with anything?? You will never take blames squarely, no.



So what if a man is womanizing with SINGLE carefree and unhinged girls, who is to blame?

Say all the women in the world are bad and corrupt and gold-diggers and emotional - if men had wisdom and discipline and logic and a good head and are superior, would they corrupted??

How in the universe did you guys conceive to place the burden of morality on the weaker sex?

Mtcheeewww. Created a topic to address men only to rope women in. Waste of internet space.

ImaIma1:
Their mothers were superwomen who could be in several locations at the same time. They were omnipresent

That is the scope they will use for the women they want to suffer with them. Their mothers did it.

Babe sometimes I have their time, plus the mindset is so mind boggling. Funny thing is that I have not met such people in the real world. They must be living under rocks.

Morals:
I totally agree with you hathor5 as regards to this subject matter of child marriage. Does this comment below justify a colourful approach to seeing our world and not as Black and White?

Is the comment below a double standard to your judgement of MORALITY?

BRATISLAVA:
As usual, the only sacrifices a man will point out are monetary ones and act as if that is his blood being shed for his family. And men are still surprised that their wives are remembered more than they are in their old age.

When will men realize that money isn't everything and that selling his watch to send his daughter to school is his responsibility and not a blood sharing sacrifice?

Without the money, what does the man bring to his family?

Proflere:
Which man will kick a hardworking lady out? Someone taking care of him and his five kids! Lol. The story get as e be. I never marry and I am currently with a lady I have never wanted to end up with, but I can't let her go cos the babe is everything a lazy person like me (house chores wise) desires. I will rather make it work with her than lose her. Madam need to tell us more about how a man chased you out after five kids.

Amumaigwe:
And you believe she is telling the truth? Why not ask her what led to his kicking her out suddenly after wooing her, marrying and kicking her into his life. Divorce looks fanciful to ladies, but they get wiser afterwards. The unconfessed regrets in that piece is deep and profound.

Grandmeister:
OK then. Atleast someone understands my point.

Grandmeister:
Men do too..they forego that fancy wrist watch or shoe to pay their daughter's school fees. Do you think the husband wasn't sacrificing certain comforts to cater for the family? Remember she never complained that he didn't provide, remember that very important part. She didn't also say he was cheating. But somehow she still managed to make him look like the bad guy in this story.

MMotimo:
A 15 year old, young enough to be her daughter has reduced her to a scandalous viral video. Pride cannot undo that but humility could have prevented it.

Grandmeister:
You're a woman so I understand you being unintentionally biased towards a fellow woman. But reading this story you could tell she wasn't saying the complete truth! She NEVER blamed herself for anything! I mean she didn't even own up to not being able to hold a job....this kind of people are fvcking manipulative. Everything was someone else's fault but hers!

Hemanwel:
I do not subscribe to this school of thought. Thing is: African women grow up with this notion that when they get married, the responsibility is on them to take care of their homes. And I believe they think they have to do it sacrificially. So, to the married African woman, she is sacrificing herself to ensure her home is in order; reason she puts her personal interests aside.
My observation though![/b]

olaniyiYAH:
Marriage is not a bondage how many divorce is happ when they divorce or living single mother life?

UjuJoan2:
Welcome to the life of a Nigerian woman. . . Even when she’s not wrong, she’s still to blame!

olamidefatoye:
Hmmm! It is actually unintentional. I think we are just naturally made that way except for those whose empathy part has been messed up by some kind of experiences. I am married, and I have two boys. I just see that when buy fruits, it's basically for them and if we have let's say three pieces of meat, I would rather serve them to the kids and hubby, just the same way I only pursue their own needs alone with the limited resources available, thinking they need it more, I can always manage and survive. Honestly, we do this with all sense of happiness and fulfilment.

NorthSerious:
Fair point. They are so many in the south though. The fact that you guys are more fixated with Northerners marrying off their teenage girls but see no qualms with your teenage girls sleeping with multiple older men makes you all come across as hypocrites to not be taken seriously.

Emmerlee:
You demand too much from him. He's incapable of thinking because he has no brain.

armyofone:
I mean in this age of tik tok, insta, youtube etc
Someone would have posted her verbal abuse - young people don't like that.

Now people are left pitying her after the star sparkling slap.

ImaIma1:
Very apt.

And people will view marriage differently. Some will see it as stress, some as an achievement, some as satisfaction, etc.

There are pessimist that will see only the stressful parts and fail to see the joy and fulfillment it gives.

As you said marrying the right person makes it all better.

NorthSerious:
The point is both societies have their ills and you lot should spend time addressing yours.

Davash222:
I can't waste my time to wait for her to finish. Women are naturally wicked to their fellow women.

Magnoliaa:
Food.

pocohantas:
Well, except we are talking of Nairaland guys.

I agree with everything you said.

Lol @ found love.

System202:
Good. It's better to marry them earlier than becoming prostitute. All the prostitutes in the north are from south. society with no morals or whatever people living like dogs from baby factories to father's nacking their own daughters

Mercychen:
To me, nothing really special about marriage because I've moved closely with married people and all i see is stress, stress and more stress!

Imagine the daily routine of a woman. Especially those who are not working.

Wake up early ( when youre not ready)
Prep the children for school.
Prepare their food breakfast.
If hubby is nice, he'll help drop them off otherwise, you do the school runs.

You get home and start putting the house in order. And attend to other chores staring you in the face. Time is ticking

Get ready to prepare lunch.
Then before you know it, it's time to go pick the kids.
Come back, freshen them up.
Serve them
Attend to their home work.

The you get set for dinner so hubby can have something to eat when he gets home. Before you know it, the day is gone and you're fagged out. Same thing continues tomorrow and on and on until....

Imagine if you're a working Mom and now have to combine all these with work...

Now tell me what will make a single viewing all these want to get married?

Truth be told, that's another thing I calculate and i relax and continue enjoying my single life.

Many married women are not happy. They are silently crying!!!
Forget all that fake smile they wear when they come out. They are not happy

Even the men are not 100% fulfilled. Responsibility wan break their neck.

Let's tell ourselves the truth. Even if you're rich, it's still not that easy.

I've seen a rich couple who both drove madly to school at the same time to pick their ward and were reigning heavy curses at each other at the gate because they both argued earlier on who's going to pick the son. So it's like non of them wanted to come and it was already evening and the boy was still in school.

I guess they called the house and the nanny who was babysitting their twin babies then, told them the boy was not home.

Omor.. see the speed they drove into the school compound with. Wify packed one side, hubby parked the other way and they both jumped out of their cars rushing Into the school and abusing each other.

Wife : " You shouldn't have come" useless man" As she stormed into the classroom

Man: ori e ko pe. why did you come? You should have remained at work"

Hmmm... So much hype about marriage. Abegi!

Dainy1:
Honestly, I don't understand this. Is this an act of hypocriacy or what truth are they really hiding from us?
They claimed marriage is not important, not for everyone, that you can stay single and be having children outside wedlock, so long as you can take care of them. Yet, they go about talking you down as soon as you're of age and have no wife/husband.

A girlfriend of mine in her late thirties just declared she's getting married and everyone is sharing her up, sending her congratulatory messages as if she has not been existing.

Does marriage really worth that hyping or what's so special about it that civilization is hiding from us?

CrazyforJesus:
I created this new account to hide my identity and seek for mature advise here. I am married to a loving man that always try his best to please me. But the problem is I love sex so much, don't get me wrong please. I am not a nympho and I don't cheat on my husband.

He's a type of man that can't go more than 1 round in a day and honestly I always wish we can do it more than 5 rounds.

Even after doing it, i will still be feeling so Hot and i don't want to cheat on my husband. I have prayed several times for God to reduce my libido but the thing is just increasing everyday

MMotimo:
First of all, I would not be having that conversation with a random child I do not know and I would not be losing my cool either because I am sensible enough to know that is one of the fastest ways to get in trouble with the law and/or find infamy on YouTube. It’s called self-discipline, self-restraint, self-preservation. I am as much African as you are but that doesn’t mean I would allow my pride to get me into trouble with the law. That is complete foolishness, no matter the provocation. Frankly, I have too much going for me to risk it on an incident like that.

To you, it’s an eyesore; in law, it is assault. The law does not care what you think or where you came from. When in Rome, you do like the Romans. If it’s okay in Naija, stay in Naija to practise it, do not attempt to export the behaviour abroad. In the highly unlikely event that any of my kids find themselves in a situation where they are mouthing off at someone and that person puts their hands on them, African or not, I would STOP AT NOTHING to make sure that person feels the full wrath of the law.

If you cannot conform to the laws of your intended destination abroad, I would strongly recommend you stay in Naija! Permit me to ignore any further mentions from you.