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armyofone:
Always remember the money and greener pastures that brought you and let that alone cool you down.

Their laws are better than Nigeria laws by the way.
It is possible the girl would have gotten into trouble if madam didn't assault her.

Cousin9999:
I'm also offended because a perfectly good serving of chicken and chips was wasted for no reason.

Jman06:
How is he coward.

Assuming you're in his shoes, and you discover along the way that a relationship isn't favourable to you, wouldn't you dump the guy Something y'all do to guys all the time but when the reverse is the case, the guy is bashed for it.

Mylordmygod1:
A beautiful afternoon to all nairalanders.

Firstly, my greatest fear when it comes to things of this world is 'women', That's why i don't want to break a womans heart in a way that i will be the one to recieve the blame.

I've been in a relationship with my girl for about 3years now, and each time my mum or friends ask me if i'm gonna marry her, my answer is always a capital letter NO.

Now, my mum is warning me to better let her go since i don't have the interest of marrying her. But the hard part is that i'v been promising this girl that i will marry her even when i'm 100% sure i won't marry her, and i don't no how to go about ending the friendship now.

Recently, i've been picking offences for minor isues, getting angry with her for no reasons, trying to give her signal, but none seems to be working, and its now like my anger is her source of happiness these days.

I really want to end the friendship now, but i want the blame to be on her side and not mine, how can i go about it?

ADVICE ME WELL

Thanks.

Mylordmygod1:
You people should'nt blame me, its not a must that all relationship leads to marriage. All i need is how i can end the relationship before it is too late.

Ishilove:
They look like grandfather and granddaughter

FutureIsFemale:
I did. But regretted.

Acidosis:
To be honest, there is no other way to earn my kids' respect than to treat their mother rightly, and that includes showing her all the love she deserves.

Acidosis:
Of course, but even if your mom told you that she loves her husband more than anyone else, you sure won't be disappointed.

debbydams:
abi, I remember when I had issues in school 2016 my dad still cuddle nd pet me

Acidosis:
My line of argument is that smart children can see beyond parental manipulations. Your grandmother obviously treated her husband (Grandpa) respectfully and gave her all the attention he deserved. Some wives want to be rude to their husband and manipulatively earn their children's love and respect.



This is the idea behind my response to that lady. She was simply making up stuff without evidence. There's no evidence anywhere that her man has maltreated her yet she wants to pay him less attention/love because of what other men do.


Absolutely



I love them in different ways but when it comes to family order. My wife comes first.

As for my mom, her husband comes first before anyone so it's simply madness to put her or her marriage ahead of mine.

FutureIsFemale:
Since men natural, cannot control their urge, I think 'for me ooo' they shouldn't be left alone with an opposite sex especially the teen girls.

cococandy:
Only in your delusional unreality

Acidosis:
Your children may grow to see you as a responsible mother but nothing you buy for them can make them see you as a responsible wife, if you spend your time maltreating or relegating the position or needs of their father. You can tour the world all you want, but as soon as those kids (especially the male among them) begin to get married, you're finished.

kramer:
The point I'm trying to make is that some women might think being a housewife means doing nothing.. however it's a lot of hard work like the OP has said.

kramer:
I suppose this is a lesson to all the women who think they can marry a man who brings in all the money and expect to do nothing.

Hathor5:
Nothing? Did you read the OP?

kramer:
Did you read my comment? Take your time and read again before foaming in the mouth

Saintmary:
Please be careful when dishing medical advice online. 12 hour labor is very serious and not the norm.

It does happen but it's not the norm even for first time moms.

kramer:
I suppose this is a lesson to all the women whose think they can marry a man who brings in all the money and expect to do nothing.

psucc:
Sometimes, greed and jealousy! We look at how "great others are doing" and wish we were the one. But the truth is that no relationship is perfect. We give and take.

psucc:
Nobody values what he has at hand until he losts it.

Regrets! Is all the get. Don't mind how some will form, they are really living in regrets.

Mercychen:
Marriage sometimes can be a bondage and limiting factor to improving ones self because the moment you get in, you lose YOURSELF to family demands and stress from duties at the home front by trying to be there for your husband and the entire family on all levels This, i call slavery and it's what is obtainable in most marriages these days.

Now when youre being selfless for others to be their best, how and when will you have the time to take care of yourself and look good. That is why, the moment they get out of that "cage" they are able to see clearly, realize the extent of neglect on themselves. And with enough time in their hands they are able to tend to themselves hence the transformation.

holocron:
I put it to you that this is a tissue of lies and fabrication. OP sounds like an ingrate. You are serving/working for your family and instead of appreciating the results of your good works, you are grumbling, complaining and whining. Your husband struggles to do his part in upkeeping the family, you do not appreciate his role but you complain of your own role. You purposely abandoned your family and children for a fake independence and shallow ambitions and now you are regretting. You lost your cherished family for phantom degrees, career and independence. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and then lose his soul?

Richy4:
Everyone is now a marriage counsellor and a relationship coach ....It looks like relationship is now a one way traffic.. if it doesn't work out for MR A, It is compulsory it will not work out for MR B.

Magnoliaa:
Lmaooooo. Haaa. Members of the Committee for the Preservation of Humanity's Morals would start arriving now. Lol. They are landing small small to come and feast on this.

Waiting for the big madams them. This'll be interesting.

zanshi:
I find it to be utterly despicable what a lot of younger women wear out today all in the name of fashion, i am talking about women particularly within the age of 18-28. I very much understand that a lot of women love fashion and like to dress to impress to every occassion, but there is a thin line between being excessive and being modest. I reside here in Lagos, and i see young girls the age of 15 wear skimpy body tight clothes and you being to ask yourself what has society come to.

You see in society, regardless of how crazy, rich, influential a man is there are certain people who will call out his behavior if he decides to step out of line, but watch in the case of a woman, even women are afraid to call out their fellow women who go out of line and would often look the other way, but you know what society as we have today didn't just morph into this liberalized do as you like mentality, society was bond by rules and moral consciousness whenever we err.

Just when you think societal norms is crumbling right at our feet, there is hope afterall. A lot of high end restaurants in Lagos wouldn't let you enter if you wear too revealing clothes or outfits that doesn't differentiate you between an escort or just a city girl. Whilst, it would be unfair of me to completely blame the women, it is imperative the designers of these outfits know that this is not casual dressing that is appropriate for your average teenage girl. Back when we i was growing up in Lagos in the early 2000's a lot of people frowned upon women who wore mini skirts, but the average girl wears it nowadays and because if she doesn't people would look at her as if she is not in vogue.


Would be great to hear the suggestion of other folks chime in on this topic.

mejai:
Explain joor

Mstick:
Very, very, very fake. Just a bunch of women scheming, and using one man and in his mind he thinks he's the "head of the family''

In a polygamous home the favorite wife is the head while the husband's her puppet, especially when he's older, her kids are more successful or she has more male children. The the other wives and their kids becomes rags.