₦airaland Forum

MufasaLion:
They are more than annoying. I see them as being gullible and unlearned.

Magnoliaa:
Hm. Well. There are actually love that comes with conditions and prerequisites and such. Like they'll only be their best selves with you if some things are being met. Plus, I guess with the way 'love' has Bern portrayed, given, shown and paired with so many things, the additional tag of 'unconditional' came up, just like 'true' in true love.

Lol. I'll say it's the same thing sha. If it's love, it's unconditional (or should be). Yeah. Maybe just semantics and nothing more.

What do you think?

Magnoliaa:
Is showing up the best we can and bringing out the best in our partners not a part of unconditional love? I believe it is a part of it, and one does not necessarily preclude the other.

Love is important. Yes, the feelings, tingly kind I believe. One that makes your heart race and feel good just thinking about them, I believe. No, that is not all there is to it.

But unconditional love has imbued in it the works, the efforts, the commitment and the blindness as well.

To the usefulness of such advice, I feel it paints a dreary picture of marriage that I don't want to look forward to. Sounds drudgery. Like I must do things for my partner, just because. Not cheerily. Are there likely going to be times I feel that way? Possibly. But haba, for the most of the time and my marriage life?

I don't want that kind of organic, fulfilling-a-duty or filling-in-a-space love, tenkio.

pocohantas:
Some people believe they should just be loved the way they are. With their good and bad. Even when they can make conscious efforts to change, they refuse to. They call it self-love. Some compromises are healthy. He is not asking you to go from dark skin to fair skin, he is only asking you reduce the salt you put in food. You na say the man that loves you would enjoy your food like that. You want to damage his liver?

Magnoliaa:
Ohhhh. I'm cackling like crazy right here.

Asinnn. So you're a single and bitter person or whatever because you decided to pursue education and see the world abi? Because you choose abstinence?

Agenda. Anyway, my dear, I quoted you to say I share same sentiment oh. Seems just too 'organic.'

Anyahuruagu:
I actually discussed this with my folks the other time.

The single lifestyle of our generation affects the female gender more than the male gender.

When you age you will understand that the most important aspect of marriage is actually companionship, sex is while you are younger but as you age.

You need a confidant, a partner no matter how hard it is you need someone.

To our single women out there, please use the opportunity now.

I have met plenty aged single women, i must confess that 85% of them aren't happy with their life.

duyox2004:
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.

I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.

I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��

When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.

Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �

I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �

Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! ��

MufasaLion:
It's a medical problem with some of the symptoms she's been showing. Seek medical help.

Whatever you decide to do with her, never be deceived it's spiritual.

myglodata:
Thank you all for the contributions

Magnoliaa:
Abii?

Magnoliaa:
Thanks for the compliment. I like to learn and I'm only trying to be better in hoeing after all.

MufasaLion:
Why?

Magnoliaa:
It's how they assume she wouldn't deal with it before he gets to hear it from the public for me.

Secondly, if he's raised well, I doubt he'd be friends with lowlifes who'd be disrespecting his mom.

No. Can you see how men are profiling themselves? Already predicting and projecting the BAD AND LASCIVIOUS AND LUSTY behaviours of young male boys who are yet to mature. Talking about how Jamil's friends will be bullying him and talking about how they want to fuk his mom.

In their minds, those young boys cannot grow up to be sensible and healthy men, abi?

Tomorrow, they'll start foaming at the mouth that we're labeling and judging them all in one category.

An ejiot that'll make fun of my mom for something she did in the past is definitely a dreg and an earthworm of the earth not fit to be in my space. And not a friend. So no. If Tiwa instills a good deal of self-esteem and discipline in the boy, he'll never have or be friends with those who'll bully him for this time of her life.

They'll only disrespect her if he allows it. They can only control their close and immediate circle and what they'll allow in.

Tonnyray:
The way this present generation of women paint it, you'd think women just started experiencing pregnancy in the last 10-15 years

Dottore:
A swear if not because of packaging and "paints" the looks of some women na Wao.

A female's bum, boobs and poocy looks great only when confined under nice tight fitting fancy clothings.

The bitter truth is that when u finish your round of sex and take a look at her Unclad body again, you'd have a rethink whether all the efforts u put in place are worth it.

Females know this that's why they are insecure and very conscious of their looks they'd try all manner of manipulative ideas on men to get what they want before sex. The competition amongst the female folks to outdo each other to garner men's attention is another topic. I don't want to talk about the disgust of flappy bums, folding skin at the back stomach region, stretch marks, sick poocy, bleeding poocy or smelly poocy.

Imagine getting having this "fine attractive and beautiful lady" only to discover that her poocy is a terrible 'odorant'. My brother only fingerling her will make u feel like a sinner. If u make the mistake of sexing her even with double shield c0ndom you'd still feel like not only a hopeless sinner but you'd still be doubting if condoms are actually good shields.

Imagine seeing a very fine lady, holding her in high esteem and spending a lot only to discover that her boobs are fallen irredeemably, her hole is like putting a bamboo in a well of water and she floods everywhere disproportionately with squirts, wets and cums, and creampies and moans you'd definitely demand for refund with interest of everything u spent including the fuelling of your car.

I don't blame Hausas that can kill for young girls. Evening papers are like worn out tires yet they make the loudest noise, seek attention the most yet very poor utility value.

Men pls lets turn things around. Stop dying in silence #DONTPAY4SEX

olabrinks:
Gosh I remember my pregnancy. My whole body and face.. black. It wasn’t even a shiny black..dirty and ashy black.. swollen face and feet, stretch marks everywhere. I couldn’t brush my teeth well because i couldn’t stand the smell of toothpaste I would always throw up. Plenty saliva in my mouth and my teeth were no longer bright like before. Honestly, pregnancy and childbirth is too traumatic. I might give birth to one more child to please my husband.. making two kids. After that I’m done, my 30s are for me to enjoy and live life.

kolnel:
lol

all of this na just to cover face, Im sure she's dying inside.
just a matter of time, one of Jamil's friend will show him the leaked video and then boom

femarse:
We can walk through the plain of West Africa, two things will be very obvious in the people..poverty and religion...

Did you see how this fine logical assertion quickly degenerate into a religious discussion about what God said ?
Can't we see that the mathusian population theory that failed in Europe and America got a 100% pass mark in Africa?
We are totally unable to reason scientifically without bringing the mystery of religion into the mix,
We are like 200m in Nigeria and 70% of this population are below the poverty line and your advice is this 170m people should double themselves to 320m because a Good said we should multiply without first thinking how to feed this many mouth ...yeah God will provide , even if he will, so what ? Manner should fall from heaven ?
When West Africa abolish religion of all types , our brain will start working

For those of us that has seen the problem because we refuse to be clouded by religion , we are tag weird by people who could not reason past the ordinary
And FYI those that have decided not to have offspring has made the biggest sacrifice for those that have offspring because it means in a difficult world tomorrow, your children will have Les mouth to compete with ...

GboyegaD:
What challenges? What is the use of cramming without understanding? The basis of asking kids to start school late is so that they can be matured to grasp what is been taught.

The challenge in Nigeria is we are unnecessarily competitive on things we have no understanding of how it works.

GboyegaD:
Still wondering what the competition is about in Nigeria. Why not put a child in a creche where they play with their mates, watch cartoons, take their normal walks, and sleep? I keep imagine how awkward it looks for a 13month toddler to put on uniforms.

pocohantas:
No, she didn’t lie. That was exactly how she narrated it from the onset. Na you no follow up well.

pocohantas:
-Because she wasn’t forced to make the tape.
-Because she defended the maker of the tape, calling him the person she is with.
-Because the tape wasn’t actually “leaked”. It was put out there by her so called boyfriend.

Because she is a brand and that is the sensible thing to do.

It wouldn’t be an apology in the full sense of it, but a good PR would know how to put it in writing.

I don’t know why people are saying Tiwa’s tape leaked. BankyW also made this kind of mistake in the past by putting Adesuwa’s bumbum on Snapchat. Bloggers got hold of it before he deleted it and posted it everywhere. I can’t remember anybody defending Banky/Adesuwa or sympathizing with them.

Whatever case it is, an OFFICIAL statement from Tiwa’s management would suffice.

Magnoliaa:
Welcome back, Hathorrrrrrrrr.

Where have you beeennn?

Mercychen:
Direct it to the parents who want their wards to be reading Cambridge at 2.

descarado:
She started out well by saying she was about to be blackmailed.
I had expected that as soon as the video popped out she will use the same energy to apologise to the public. Rather, she was busy fighting with bloggers, hailing herself while some people were calling her Queen.

She should have apologised, withdraw from the public and work behind scenes.

People are angry because of her arrogance. She is going about her business like nothing happened.

She has a very bad PR.

Adakintroy:
What do you mean. A adult women just got her pussy shown to the old world. Do you not know she has people who are telling her right now the consequences of that even to her yet to be adult child. Or you don't think she is thinking right now..forget the bold outward stance. Every one thinks in their spare hr.

MufasaLion:
Right. Now, she's got more streams and clout.

Adakintroy:
Not this kind of fame. I should have distinguish it earlier. Blessing of God do not come with sorrow