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zed7:
I think the Nigerian aim of advice is to pull people into their circle of suffering. Alot of married people are unhappy with their relationships and alot can barely feed their families but will be the first to put pressure on others to get married.

Marriage is a personal thing. I only give advice to people who come for advice and nothing more. Nobody will support you financially when you get married and start struggling to survive.

As for getting blessed when married, I will only assume that the married person makes more effort to make money and saves more because of the added responsibilities. That may explain the fact that he thinks he is getting 'blessed' because of marriage.

YourCoffin:
You won't understand if you have never cut out any source of distraction in order to focus on s/th, especially for IT guys. Even his mum' s call he won't pick sef. Anyway I am assuming that's the field he is into.

spiralwedge:
No you are wrong, because they are not dating. If she likes him that much or wants his attention, why cant she vocalise it to him? Ohhh, she is waiting for him to do that first? Really? In this age and time?

As it is, she is friendzoned and is bitter. It is not every opposite sex that a guy meets that he should date. Nobody has expressed their intentions, or expectations. Or your "feminism" no reach make you tell the guy you like am?

Acquaintances are not entitled to my response on SM. She's not worth it in the long run. She, prob like you, has low to average IQ.

spiralwedge:
You are not even dating and you are this entitled?

SMFH

It's something I can do, if from our few chats i see that you cannot hold an intelligent convo, have archaic mentality, or have low IQ. Or simply dont find you attractive.

If you are the type that feel entitled to my attention and to me replying me when you want, i will be like him.

He has the right to answer you at anytime. The guy seems intelligent to me and can decode you quick and from afar.

Akposy:
Happy Bread Day

Good morning all

YourCoffin:
If he is he might be using his weekend for studies or personal projects. You know when you tinker with IT devices all through the week, you choose not to use any during weekends. Also he might be used to the company wifi

Karleb:
At least somebody is avenging us.


Isn't this what you guys do when you are not interested in a guy?

GboyegaD:
Dinner:
Rice, Efo Riro, Greek Salad, Rohu and Titus Fish.

GboyegaD:
Parmesan on Pasta is bae.

InSanety:
This is what I have in mind.

If she can work out something like partial adoption.

Let it be that she still has access to the child, even if the child is with another family.

pocohantas:
It took a friend owning a cat for me to know this is not true. Just like you, I also do not look at cats. I don’t even like to see them. What I feel for cats is fear, not hate. Something about the way they walk and “hide”, creeps me out.

Reference:
I cannot possibly have a so called house wife. If for anything I desire high quality children because I believe in legacy.

Housewives just donot deliver high quality children I'm afraid. This is just one singular, practical deficiency out of so many.

prophetfire:
. It's okay to have an opinion on which side is better but totally rubbishing the other option or condemning those that roll with it destroys your claim to being pro-choice. Makes you a dictator.

abdullahi45:
It is quite hypocritical when all of a sudden even the prochoice see being a full house wife as being in a confinement...

prophetfire:
I wonder. What happened to the freedom to choose as it suits one which they advocate?

Mgtowmonk:
" because the ones with the earning power "

wtf does the above even mean?!!
Did any man stop you from earning your own money?
You're making it look like men prevent women from earning

mariahAngel:

Reference:
I asked for details not innuendos.
My private life is not up for discussion here but I will say this, there is no single woman in my life before and after, immediate and extended family who understands what the term housewife means.

It is just a ridiculous waste of humanity, human capacity and human resources. I will not bring up a girl child towards that at all. It is better she forgets about marraige completely than engage in that.

She either gets a man with such a humongous vision that will require her assistance or pursue one of her own. The efforts of any parent towards the girl child must not be wasted on any useless sentiment. We want to see our daughters, not just sons become something. Something God created them to be.

spiceadole:
Wisest decision I ever took.
I was just imagining..Not been able to take care of my financial needs without "begging" ..Having to wait for my husband to give me money before I could send funds to my parents and siblings, buy stuff for myself,etc.
Who goes to medical school for 8 years to become a full time housewife with no source of income except "husband gives me"? Definitely,not me.

I didnt even argue with him or try to negotiate.
I played dumb..Got home ,texted him I was no longer interested and we stopped seeing.

mariahAngel:
I own my own business

mariahAngel:
It's sad.

Blacckrod:
Aww, thanks Miss!

mariahAngel:
I swear, I wish.

I think we all should go through that process to better understand and appreciate women who sacrifice a lot for their families, instead of looking down on them for choosing to "work" for the family.

Blacckrod:
My special fried rice . Happy Sunday foodies ❤️.

mariahAngel:
Are you married with kids? If you are, switch roles with your wife in organizing the home for just one week, then we can have that discussion

Who no go, no know!

Lexusgs430:
If your husband was dangote.......... Your talents and education, would be naturally wasted........

Acidosis:
Well, I do not believe that taking up a job will solve marital issues that are related to disrespect, insults, and abuse of power.

The kind of men that insult women without a paid job will still insult you if you take up a job that takes all or most of your time.

If he insults you because you're jobless, he would still insult you for sleeping with your boss or spending little time with your kids.


You cannot help a bad man. If a man is bad, then he's bad.

Acidosis:
You're right my sister. I need to take it personal. I don't think the Bible gave any clear instruction as to whether a wife should earn money or not. There are many ways to support a man and many housewives are doing that so well.

This condescending idea about housewives has forced many women into modern day slavery. A lot of pregnant women and nursing mothers are going through high and severe levels of stress just to avoid being called a 'housewife' by these fake preachers.

theForth:
while not ruling out the fact that the wife is being degraded due to her dependency on her husband, how do you know she's being treated badly due to that, there could be numerous reasons why this is happening. And how does making money for a woman stop an abusive husband?

Lexusgs430:
If the husband is wealthy & reasonable ....... Then been a housewife, is an enjoyable position........

SSpeter:
I wouldn't want to quote you but you seem overtly elated so let me paint a real life scenario for you. Firstly from the way you sound, I can deduce that you are not yet married and you are not gainfully employed yet (if employed, not in a fast paced corporate organization). First, there are no jobs out there unless by God's grace you get a Federal or state Job. Secondly the good jobs in large corporations are strrrrrrreeeesful; imagine family pressure on a stressful job? Imagine having series of stressful meetings and unbelievable targets and you come home to look at kids home work? A colleague pay his nanny 50k per month with free lunch and dinner. How many working class women earn that? How can a wife be earning 45k teaching while the hubby is paying nanny 50k plus other pecks. I respect women especially the ones I work with but out there a lot of you ladies need reasoning....every step towards women emancipation, is a giant step towards women enslavement.